hello hello I'm going live in a couple streams oh hello hello this is John
Ruman thank you for taking the opportunity to say hello to me this
evening I want to if we have not in met each other my name is John Durham and
I'm an international business coach and consultant and I'm actually having a
course on stress management and what I'm talking about that I are five steps to
help you reduce your stress and to help yourself first I reference the idea of
having a oxygen mask if you've been on the airplane and I'd like to give you
these five pointers and then a few minutes in I actually have a handful of
people who have been so amazing and have helped me in coming up with other
amazing ways that you can help and love yourself and I will use what they say in
this talk as well so those who did participate in that I really want to
thank you for that and one of these lucky amazing people will win ironic
John will win the the free pass for the actual workshop that is happening on
Saturday so so let me tell you the five steps first and onion and then I'm going
to jump into the other five that I have made and then I'm going to jump into
what a handful the people that contributed made and then we're gonna
take our lucky winner so Ronnie you're on Fuego by the way good to see you
again okay so these are five steps that I feel
will help people to be taking care of themselves first a lot of people a lot
of women to be honest because they're so loving and nurturing and caring will
often take care of others before they take care of themselves and the
challenge with that many of you out there women watching is you don't give
yourself the love and attention you need unfortunately here's what also happens
be at the same time men who have responsibility for the family will wear
themselves down as well they'll literally work themselves sick and the
women will too don't get me wrong so what I would like and encourage all of
you do is to listen very closely to let's say listen very closely to what
I'm asking and offering because I would highly encourage and actually suggest
and truly advise that you find things that you can do such as these or others
that help you to take care of yourself first because once you take care of
yourself and you're strong you're powerful and you're confident and all
those things are working out well for you at that point you can be a best
service to the world so I'll tell you a personal goal of mine my objective is to
help 1 billion with the beat people across the planet feel that they can
literally be do have anything that is John's vision for his life if I get sick
every day and if I don't exercise and if I don't eat well and all those things I
will not be in my greatest capacity to give to this world and I love doing this
so I'm not working right now I'm happily Jenner
truly serving one and when I do this this is a lot of fun ok so let me tell
you my five first of all you need to know what area or areas and I would
encourage you to pick one that you feel highly insecure inadequate in it could
be finances it could be exercise it could be diet I don't know what it is
what do you have is a common science security or high weakness or what is the
big problem and in for ease for just the sake of argument I would encourage you
to pick one of these and the reason why it's good to pick one is it's not
overwhelming and then you can kick butt move forward feel better and then you
can conquer the other ones later so what is the first thing that comes to
your mind when it comes to what's my big problem you know and if you're alone
please blurt it out and I want to tell you whoever you are and whatever you
blurt it out in your head or out out to the world
most people many people have exactly the same problem so it's great is you're not
alone so with that in mind this is still part one I want you to ask yourself and
say what can I do with what this is to create victory victory victory mindset a
lot of people become a victim in whatever the big problem is in their
life so I'll take a common one I hear daily when I coach people and that is
finances so what I would say is what can you learn do change like what behavior
are you doing that's making you not where you want to be what are the things
that you could learn that you could become better at that would make you
more financially sound maybe talk to a financial advisor maybe stop spending so
crazily maybe save a little first before you spend any money because there's
something called Parkinson's law which has nothing to do with the the physical
illness but it has to do with the the fact that you'll spend whatever is
available so if you shorten the amount of what is available you'll deal with
whatever it is that is left and make best do with that so what I would
encourage you to do is take one step forward now so whatever your problem is
and say I'm going to do this that's part one and once you take that step that one
thing may truly break you out of that existence that is the old you to become
this amazing awesome version of you okay number two I'm gonna move five minutes
that's it not I wanna run a marathon not
I'm gonna run a mile five minutes of movement
I would encourage a walk if you don't live in someplace that's safe do
something in the house that moves for five minutes it doesn't have to be
crazily high-intensity it really doesn't the important thing is is you feel more
out of breath than norm you normally do you will naturally with a five-minute
regular practice of this literally I promise you you will because five
minutes is so easy you will actually do this easier in using user as time goes
on so what that means is next time it's cake and the beauty of that is once it's
cake like I'm doing this let's say it's walking you may take a slide job or you
may double it ten minutes it doesn't really matter
start super small super easy and then take those steps and that's it say
that's my commitment I'm gonna walk for five minutes and if you can't do that
then what I would do is actually go to like the YouTube channel that does
fitness for five minutes nothing too hardcore because trust me you can kick
your butt in five minutes do not make that the five minutes so do that
movement increases the way you feel it strengthens your brain it increases your
body and how you feel in yourself it really will change that but a lot of
people live in high stress and they don't know how to change the way they
feel okay three ask for help from someone else or a hey it's Remax what's
up guys it's probably Gabby or it could be Roger
what's up with that I would ask you to ask someone to help you support you in
return you'll support them with whatever their issue is it's actually not the
hardest thing people love helping others so all you have to do is say hey here's
my problem I've committed to five minutes of whatever it is this has
nothing you have five minutes X that's by the way this could be hey Chris this
could be quite simply you committing to focusing on your finances for five
minutes a day just knowing in your mind where the numbers are or as I said maybe
putting aside 10% for yourself before you spend it all whatever it is so so
take a step commit yourself to take that action find someone who will support you
if you don't have someone reach out to me this is what I do all day and
coaching okay so make sure you add return the favor though if it's not
someone like me with me you exchange the money but for them you can exchange the
time to say hey I'm going to call you everyday and we can do it across
accountability partner system okay number four I want you to leverage the
idea of two concepts in one what is Law of Attraction I'm sure everyone here has
heard a lot traction the secret all that and it's a universal law that the divine
that the cosmos the universe really will conspire to help you but we are also as
a human structure designed for it and there's something I'll often teach a
class called the amygdala which is part of our old old old deep-rooted part of
our brainstem and what it does is it helps us to filter what we see and
experience so the reason I bring this up I want you to appreciate what's working
well so please take a moment as you're working through this big challenge you
have the number the part one of what we talked about and take a few minutes to
write 10 to 20 I would encourage 20 things that you appreciate that happened
that day that moved in the direction of where you want to be and what this will
do is will slowly program your mind to believe it's possible and then you'll
actually begin to get momentum last but not least time for you why is this
important and and a lot of people just say I don't have time for me listen the
five minute walk I did gave you or five minute exercise routine could be time
for you maybe even asking for help may be a time for you but I want you to
really truly do something that you want to do for you on a regular and
consistent basis of you some examples dance paint meditate go for a walk write
read a lot of people only don't need give themselves time to read a book cook
if you're a cook person any of these or more so and with that what I will do is
I will go to what people who actually answered for them what was something
they would do to make themselves feel a sense of well-being and stress relief so
and then I'll actually summarize and then we'll pick our winner for
Saturday's workshop so let me briefly go into this so Amanda said taking deep
breaths in and out which has a wonderful calming effect in the body Thank You
Amanda for that nirisha said enjoying the wonderful colors of evening sunsets
sunsets and sunrises are truly a blessing and if you have the ability to
be easily seeing them I would strongly encourage you do this because it's
something that people don't take in very often many people and it really can be
very very even spiritual but I would say just highly moving movement or moment
for people very powerful okay listening to music says Jesse perfect
hey Nadia Nadia excuse me so listening to music music is a very
very popular way to make you feel good and reduce stress so I think that's
perfect sitting on the beach and watching the
waves crash says Jose Ann Joanne's excuse me
very very very wonderful soothing thing and the great thing about the beach too
it has all the free ions which will which will actually calm you which is
the grounding thing if you saw my grounding video before I go into that in
depth and I'll do two more so doing yoga or meditate to relieve stress
very nice watching birds flying from my porch that's a nice one I lied I'm gonna
do one more and Sean said I love to dance and I paint so I think that's
wonderful so I'm gonna rehash these so the first
find something that you have a big problem with now and actively take one
action on the regular consistent basis that will help that progress out of that
so you're not I'm in this state to move your body when your vital moving your
body you will feel more alive and vital ask for help and support this could also
be viewed as an accountability partner find an accountability partner so when
you do these things you feel more alive write down what is working this you can
call an appreciation or gratitude journal take whatever it is you're
trying to go towards and write 20 things that work towards it trust me it's magic
do not type this do not voice dictate this physically write down with your
hands there is a connection that happens trust me I've tried them all
and there's no nothing that compares to writing them down it connects with some
part of your brain and it's very magical very powerful and last but not least
make sure you have actual time for you so these are five things that you can do
now that will reframe and shape the way you feel that yourself and it's you
putting the axe oxygen mask on you so you're not giving it away and you're not
letting the beautiful gem and amazing person and spirit that you are be
stifled because of things getting in the way so again those of you who did
contribute to this drawing I want to take a moment again to appreciate you so
I have the sheets here oops they are not in any particular order they're all
folded because a few these people I know well and I can't give any preferential
treatment okay so they're holding right here we go the winner is for the stress
relief workshop this person gets a free tickets value of 125 175 depending if
they were going to pay early or not Candice
to sont or to st. i'm not really sure how to say it
congratulations Candice thank you so much Candice for participating for those
who unfortunately didn't win I still honor and appreciate you taking the time
to do that you made today's live and talk that much more vibrant and honestly
it's nice to think what am i doing to make my life feel that stressful so I
would still love to have each and every one of you at the workshop on Saturday
so let me give the details and we can go over that and and let you know if you
forgot all the details so it's Saturday this Saturday the 30th it is in Santa
Cruz Green Market starting at 11 a.m. and I actually have some stuff here
starts at 11 a.m. and it ends at 12:30 p.m. and there's two costs if you pay
before the actual date it is one two five one twenty five tt if you come in
day out whatever you want you're welcome to do that it's 175 TT I do start on
time if you do not know where you're going and you think you are going to
come please save my mobile number seven four four eighty five fifty five it's
all over the place whether you're watching me on Instagram or Facebook and
shoot me a whatsapp text call whatever I will be there or someone will be there
to help you if I am NOT and it's gonna discuss three primary things so we will
discuss two techniques that one is for really really high stress like oh my god
I'm freaking out like you feel it and you feel major physical reactions to it
that's called EFT or emotional freedom technique they also call tapping which
is kind of based off of Chinese medicine acupuncture acupressure points it's
something that people look at my say what the heck is that anyway that when
they do it it kind of blows their mind because it's really really effective and
then the other one is called coherence which is a
heart centering technique which has been scientifically proven in study after
study to reduce the effects of stress people who have had the oppression
they've reversed it PTSD people who are veterans of wars have actually stopped
the physical impact of PTSD it's very powerful the effect that a client had
his description of it he probably is the highest dressed person I've met and and
his description is very simply it was John it's just like the start of a two
week vacation go into pigeon point pigeon points and tobago for those that
aren't in Trinidad or don't even know it if you're in Trinidad I'm Tobago and to
a vacation in Pigeon Point my wallet is full all all expenses paid vacation the
sandals must be built in his imagination and all as well and and that's the level
of and this is a guy who just he feels stress he's exceptionally stressful job
so that's that and then the third aspect we do is we have an actual workshop so
I'll actually take you through various aspects of your life and we'll discuss
well you actually personally brainstorm ways to minimize mitigate or eliminate
this or that stress and from there some people are open to discussing it if
you don't want to it's fine it's totally designed for you for you but it kind of
goes through all the primary areas of life to find out what is bugging you and
then what you can do to actually do it so you leave them you leave the workshop
with two powerful things two techniques that you can use you can actually teach
anyone they're really simple which is great highly effective and you actually
have a written plan for what to do with other parts of your life so it is an
active workshop now I was just John talking to you I don't do those it
doesn't entertain me I want to give you so much value that you tell all your
friends so please tell your friends share this live let me know if you guys
have any questions Margaret Ginsu men and I would love to see you there so
again Saturday 11:00 and 12:30 Santa Cruz green market and I do start
on time I don't start at any time the prepay cost 125 day I've 175 message me
if you need directions if you are coming please do and if you have any questions
I'd love to see you let me reach out to me send me whatsapp send me a direct
message I also love to hear your thoughts on my putting the mask on your
face first how do you feel about the how do people out those five ways to reduce
stress and the weight and improve the way you feel and kind of make you self
empowered and give yourself more self-love and Candace I don't know how
it's gonna look on the screen but congratulations Candace you're amazing
so everyone else have an awesome day I appreciate you and I hope you have a
blessed day I'll see oppa I'll see a lot of you on Saturday
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