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</form> It was just meant to be a nice gift for her daughter.  But a second-hand book about Disney princesses has turned into a whole lot more for a mum from Melbourne

 Natalie Coleman, of St Kilda, recently purchased a copy of Five Minute Princess Stories for her daughter Leni from a second-hand book store

 However when she sat down to read a story to her daughter, the pair discovered a tragic message written inside the cover

 The handwritten dedication was left by a father for his daughter, Alexis.  It reads:  "Dear Alexis, if you're getting this without me, it's because unfortunately my circumstances got too grim for me to give it to you yourself

 "You need to know I always loved you with all my heart. You were the first thing I thought about when I work up in the morning and the last thing I thought about at night

 "Love Dad (Barry)."  Natalie instantly knew that this book must have meant a lot to someone and became determined to return it to its rightful owner

 In a post shared on a Facebook group called St Kilda Stories and Images, she posted images of the book

 Alongside the pictures she wrote: "I recently picked up this book from a St Kilda Op-shop for my daughter

 "The message just breaks my heart. if you know Alexis (Dad named Barry) I would love to return your book

"  Her post has been shared numerous times, with many leaving messages of support

  According to the Herald Sun , Natalie has since returned to the store where she purchased the book, but staff were unable to help her trace the original owner

 She told them: "As much as we love the book, we'd like to see it returned to the girl whose dad wrote the letter

 "Any young person would treasure these words from their father."

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England vs Belgium: Sol Campbell demands Harry Kane decision for Group G clash - Duration: 4:36.

 That's the opinion of former Three Lions international Sol Campbell.  Gareth Southgate could make a handful of changes to his starting line-up with England's last-16 progression already confirmed

 Belgium boss Roberto Martinez has meanwhile declared that he could make widespread chances, as many as 10, with Romelu Lukaku out injured and the likes of Eden Hazard and Kevin De Bruyne likely to start on the bench

 Southgate has a decision to make over his star man, Tottenham striker Kane, who has scored five goals in two matches and is the leader for the Golden Boot

 The England captain's desire to beat the likes of Lukaku and Cristiano Ronaldo to the tournament award is no secret and it is thought the 24-year-old wants to play in Kaliningrad this evening to further aid his cause

 But 73-cap Campbell, who played at the 1998, 2002 and 2006 World Cups for his country, believes that Kane should not be risked against the Red Devils

 "I would rather him on the bench and then coming on for the last 20 minutes, half an hour," Campbell said to Sky Sports News

 "He'll be desperate to play but I think you have got to look at the bigger picture

Yes, he wants to win the Golden Boot but then you have got to save the legs. "You don't realise, you can be buzzing, everybody can be happy and confidence is high but it is draining you

 "The mental drain on the body and the mind from these big games takes a lot out of your system so to have a little rest and then go again is all good

  "From your legs to your mental approach, I think it all factors in."   Finishing second in the group, which England would do with defeat, would likely provide an easier run to the latter stages - on paper - with the group winners potentially facing Brazil in the quarter-finals by contrast

 England boss Southgate has said that maintaining winning momentum is his first priority and former Arsenal and Spurs defender Campbell agrees with that approach

 "You can't change the team too much because then it really gets disjointed and the team hasn't really played together," he continued

  "You need a couple of players who have been playing on a regular basis and then put some new players in if you're going to change it a little bit

 "You can't have a whole new team - I think that's the wrong way to go about it - but it's all about winning and keeping that momentum going

  "That's what Gareth has to balance out." England and Belgium are on the exact same points and goal difference, meaning that yellow cards could potentially decide who finishes first if the two teams draw

 Southgate's side have currently accumulated one less than Belgium.

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Lesson 14 part A - Duration: 1:54.

Hello everyone and welcome to lesson 14

of Speaking and Speech with Kiki.

Today, the long waited for lesson on humor.

I'm wearing my funny shirt.

Hopefully I can get you laughing.

Just kidding I'm not trying to get you laughing.

Before we start [laughter] doing that

let's just go over last class' reading

and that is some active listening cues.

From the reading - signs of active listening

included nonverbal signs of attentive or active listening.

What were they?

They were smiling, eye contact, posture.

Mirroring -

"I was present while you were unconscious..

From the ice."

"You know it's really, it's just a huge honor to have you.."

"I hope I am the right man for the job."

"Oh you are. Absolutely."

doing what the other person is doing

and not being distracted.

Before you start this lesson,

you're going to have to watch

another video by another person.

They're called the nerdwriter.

This is a video made for natives,

so watch it more than one time.

It's about seven minutes long *(7:50).

The explanation and the video

go together extremely well

so I don't want to redo it.

I think that person did a great job.

The link is

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Lesson 1 part B - Duration: 12:49.

The point is starting at the beginning

is not necessarily a bad thing.

When you're talking about public speaking for example,

there's also a beginning point to it.

It's almost like saying

forget everything everybody taught you

In public speaking, the very first step

you need to take is to ask yourself

who is your audience?

If you don't know who your audience is, then you talk to

people who are investing in your company

like their small children

and that's not good.

The first question we always have to ask ourself is

who's our audience? Why are they listening to us?

Why should they listen to us?

and so on. So you make an introduction video,

which I did. Check.

One of the most important things

about learning English and

these kinds of readings that I'm giving you (is),

they're not the average reading

you would get as an ESL student.

I'm using things from the internet

that anybody in the 20 to 40 age range group

would have access to, find easy to read

and I mean it's called 'pop psychology,'

but it's still interesting enough.

It should have something for everybody.

What I'm going to point to is

you should find reading topics

that you read because you love them.

Some students want

modern communication between natives.

So for example you can go to something like reddit

let me write that out for you.

Reddit. There are thousands of topics and

you just click on something.

If it's interesting you read it.

If it's not you move on.

There is so much to read.

It is not possible that you have

not yet found something that's interesting to you

and if you're interested

then you're reading and if you're reading

you're improving your English.

Do it because of love.

That was the homework for the reading part.

When it comes to the speaking part,

everyone should be able to say things like

'What's your name?

What do you do?

What are your hobbies?'

Those are easy.

Be sure to be able to answer those questions.

You can make a video and send it to me.

My information will be linked at the bottom

or you can try Hellotalk or

language exchange with other natives.

Also very important and invaluable.

When it comes to the grammar,

I'll post the answers in another link.

First of all, I would like you to make

a similar chart on a piece of paper

and write down two or three strengths,

two or three weaknesses, specifically about language,

language related problems.

For example some things that

I've heard over the years have been

'I can't understand nonnative speakers.

I have problems with other non-native speakers.'

That's one problem, one weakness.

Listening comprehension, in general,

scared of speaking in public

or just to other people.

All those things

Strengths.

People have a harder time with strengths.

If I was there teaching you I could tell you,

'Oh you you're really good at prepositions.

Oh your grammar is really good.'

Whatever it is, try to write two things

that you think you're good at in English.

Once you've finished your strengths and weakness chart

post it somewhere you can see it

and try to focus your effort to improving your weaknesses.

One thing I've learned is if you have goals

that are small but achievable,

step by step. Then you can really see

the progress that you're making.

For example, if you wrote listening comprehension

on the weakness side -

then set yourself a listening comprehension goal.

For example, listen to this lesson.

As you're listening to this lesson,

write down three questions about the lesson

that you're not so clear about.

The next day, a month from now,

listen one more time to the same video.

Try to answer your own question.

Three questions for one video.

Next,

how can you focus on your strengths

to improve your English speaking skills?

Look at your strength sides one more time.

If your strengths are reading,

the question is how can you become a reader -

not because you have to

but because you want to?

Whenever I research great people,

as in people of note like, Steve Jobs -

people who have changed the world,

Einstein - All those people.

One of the things that I've noticed, is they're all readers.

They love reading and they do a lot of it.

How can you become more interested

in the world in general?

If you hate reading, then don't read.

You know, I'm a teacher.

I'm always pushing for reading, but if you --

let's say you really you hate reading,

it's the worst thing in the world,...

First of all, you should ask yourself,

why do you hate reading?

I mean in your own language, why do you hate reading?

Second of all, is why you hate reading in English?

Those two things may not be the same

Let's say your answer is

I love reading in my native language,

I hate reading in English.

Here's the thing, the better you are

at reading in English,

I mean technically,

less of a chore or less of a challenge,

it is the more you're likely to do it.

The more you will love read and

basically the better your English will be.

Take a 30 day challenge.

Here's my 30-day challenge to you -

every day, for the next 30 days, you will read the titles.

Let's say you're a business person.

You can go to a website like Forbes or Inc I-N-C.

Go to a website like inc.com

on the side, on the top side

there are three lines. If you click the three lines

it has a drop box and

it has all kinds of different topics:

startups, grow, lead, innovative, technology

money, special reports, videos etc.

You can also try TED Talks.

Ted.com, now again there's three lines at the top

and if you click it, there's a drop box.

I'm not asking you to watch TED talk videos.

I'm asking you to read headlines.

Let's say, set yourself a goal.

Read 10 TED talk titles

10 titles for 30 days.

If you see a title that sounds really interesting,

click on the title. You'll get a video page.

Under the video page is the title of the talk,

then there's a few boxes.

Up next, details, transcripts,

reading lists, footnotes, comments.

Check out details. It's one paragraph.

If you're really into it,

you can't stop yourself, you can read the transcript

or you can watch the video.

My point is read ten titles -

TED Talks, Inc, business page, Forbes anything - ten titles.

If one title seems really interesting

click on it and read one paragraph.

It's fine, whatever. Read as much as you want.

Point being, you read ten title for 30 days.

Ten titles for 30 days.

If you can read one, opening paragraph, great.

Ten sentences for 30 days, that's great.

That's top-notch.

Short goals for the short-term.

30 days 10 titles. that's all I ask.

See if you can change the way you think

about reading in English.

Negative talk is one of those things that

stops people from doing their best.

When I say negative talk, I mean the kind of talk

not other people tell you, but the kind you tell yourself.

For example, I'm just not good enough.

I'm not good enough at English to talk to a stranger.

Part of my seminar idea was

if you're telling yourself that

you're going to fail and you believe it,

then you aren't going to do it, whatever it is.

It doesn't matter. You're not going to sell the product,

you're not going to get the investment and

you're not going to get on stage.

If possible, you will avoid it.

I'm here to talk to you and

to give you this lecture, this pep talk.

My job is to build you up

and make sure that you feel like you have

all the tools you need to move past

your own negative talk.

Some things that are helpful is

are something called a mantra.

A mantra is something you tell yourself,

repeat to yourself,

whatever you are feeling like you can't do it

or it's too challenging to overcome

To get you feeling great and get you to overcome your fears.

Make a list for yourself.

Decide what you need to

start talking in English to a foreigner. That's one.

Ask yourself do I need to do this?

We're talking about studying English.

We're talking about public speaking.

We're talking about personal stuff -

so we're talking about journaling.

I know, I know. Every teacher is like,

'Oh write me a journal, blah, blah, blah.'

When I talk about writing a journal

l I'm talking about writing a journal for you.

You can write it in English,

you can write it in your native language.

Whatever you want.

Journal.

I'm just saying take the negative

put it on the piece of paper.

It will look a lot smaller and less intimidating.

Use that paper and watch yourself grow.

So there's homework.

There's a homework link.

There'll be a link to the answer sheet

for previous week's homework

and today we talked about -

Don't worry.

It can only get better from here.

All right. Until next time!

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You Are The Reason (Piano Version) - Calum Scott | KARAOKE - Duration: 3:37.

YOU ARE THE REASON (PIANO KARAOKE VERSION)

A SONG MADE FAMOUS BY CALUM SCOTT

READY TO SING-ALONG?

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Lesson 2 part A - Duration: 7:51.

Hello again and welcome to Speaking and Speech.

This is the second lesson.

Today I'm going to start

with a bit of a review for the last lesson.

We talked about

mantras.

Do you remember what a mantra is?

Of course teacher, a mantra is

something you tell yourself to help you

overcome something difficult or center yourself before

getting on a stage and talking to a roomful of people.

We also talked about set goals that

are small but achievable.

Give yourself a 30 day challenge.

I hope you gave some thought to your own strengths,

your own weaknesses,

and made a decision about what you wanted to change.

It's not about what I think you should change.

It's only about what you want to change.

If there's no desire,

if there's no will, there is no way.

You know the saying?

I'm sure in your own language,

there's a similar saying:

where there's a will there's a way to do it.

The 30-day challenge idea is very popular these days.

It's basically saying, if you do something small like-

my personal goal is 10,000 steps.

I said to myself, 'The minimum you can do

is 10,000 steps. You sit all day. Stop it!

So for 30 days I'm making sure I hit

my minimum goal of 10,000 steps.

My challenge to you was to read ten titles for 30 days.

Hopefully you'll leave a comment,

let me know was it a good challenge?

Could you think of a better challenge?

Today we're going to keep talking about

focusing on strengths, guarding against negative talk.

Last time, we talked about

being down or depressed about your abilities

because of your weaknesses.

This isn't a small thing.

This changes people's lives.

It's not unachievable*.

You can overcome difficulties.

We all do it.

When it comes to strengths and weaknesses

one of the things that we mentioned before was

make a list of strengths and weaknesses

and try to set small goals to changing

your weaknesses over a period of time.

That's a good way to move forward.

Moving forward is all you can do.

Maybe you can't solve some of these problems.

Some of these problems are unsolvable.

And maybe they're not your responsibility.

For example, if your in-laws

are giving you some difficulty,

you may not have the power to change that

but you have the power to deal with how you react.

Do what you can.

That's all we can ask of you, right?

Do what you can.

To guard against negative talk

I mentioned writing in a journal

because I noticed that when I see what I'm afraid of

or what's bothering me on paper

it looks much smaller - it looks like

something I can deal with...

whereas when it's just in my mind

and it's repeating again and again,

I tend to believe it.

'Oh yeah I'm the total loser.

I can't make a lecture class.

Who am I?

What am I going to talk about for 20 minutes?

I can't do it. I can't.'

But hey guys! Here I am doing it.

I'm doing it for me just as much as I'm doing it for you.

I'm proving to myself that I can do it.

Remember, you have to try - I'm doing it. I'm trying.

You have to make mistakes -

don't worry I'm making lots of mistakes.

And you have to keep going - so I'm going to keep going.

I'm going to make my 15 lessons

and I'm going to be proud of myself when I'm through.

Let me know what you think.

Today we're going to talk about warm and cold,

when it comes to the way other people see you.

Before we do that I did want to go over

the four secrets that will make you happy.

Minimize regret and maximize happiness.

The article talked about exploring and exploiting.

When you're exploring -

every time you say

hey let's order chicken and beer.

Do you order from the same place?

Hopefully you try a few different places

and then decide which one you like the best.

So that's 'exploring.'

Then the 'exploiting' is

choosing the one you liked the best.

The next one was cleanliness versus messiness.

I actually thought that was interesting.

Taking the time to keep everything in order,

just takes a lot of time.

You don't need everything all the time.

But they also said you should declutter.

Take for example something that you think is useful

and say to yourself, 'Well?

Really how often do I use it?'

Don't overthink things, that was the third point.

Don't overthink things.

Give yourself a certain amount of time.

There's always information missing

or that I didn't know at the time of the decision.

Having a lot of time isn't always --

it's usually not --

you never have enough time

and usually when you make a decision

it may seem like the wrong decision

but later turn out to be great

or seem like the right decision

and later turn out to be a bad choice.

Give yourself a set amount of time

to do the research.

When they talked about buying your dream house

they said if you have a month,

give yourself 37% - 11 days -

to look around and choose the best.

And then don't buy it and don't sign anything.

Then after the 11th day,

the next best is the one you go for.

Basically using mathematics

to make a decision.

If you have a set ABC and

you say A is the best and then you go

and you look at ten more things

and then you say which one is better than A?

If A was the best

than which one is better than A?

That's the one that's going to be a good fit for you.

Excellent advice. I'm good with that advice.

I'm ready to be happy.

Are you ready to be happy?

One of the things that I do want to mention

about homework is, the speaking section

is meant to be done, so that you get

questions or sentences that are

useful for you when you're talking to another person

on an app like Hellotalk or

where you're talking person-to-person.

There's a section that says

make a list of ten things that make you happy.

Under it are a lot of questions

that are there to help you make that list

but also our good conversation starters.

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Lesson 12 - Duration: 8:46.

Hello everyone and welcome to Speaking and Speech with Kiki.

Last class we talked about visuals.

We talked about how using them

can organize your information

and it can generate interest.

Today we're going to talk about anecdotes

An anecdote is a short personal story

that's supposed to get a message to the listener.

Anecdotes are not told about famous people

or people you're not connected to.

You have to have a personal connection

to be able to tell this anecdote.

Otherwise it's a story,

a story you made up.

The difference between an anecdote and a story

is that an anecdote happened

and it happened, usually, to you.

And a story is more elaborate and flowery.

When you're watching this,

if you're not in business, this is about telling a story.

Your anecdote that will bring you closer

to the person you're talking to.

If you are in business, you should learn

how to tell an anecdote because it's a great way

to personalize your presentation.

You go on the stage to get information

across to your audience.

And being able to tell a personal story

is a great way to get

that information across to the audience.

The audience is sitting there going,

'Why should I care about what you're saying?'

I mean, they're there because they have to be there,

but in general we're all sitting there thinking to ourselves

why should I be paying attention to what you're saying?

I'm a busy person. I've got things to do.

So the same thing is true for anyone telling a story.

We have to have a reason for telling it.

When you are telling an anecdote,

you're in a conversation with someone

or it's part of your presentation.

And you're trying to give a message

that's personalized to you.

An anecdote is not interesting

if it has everything to do with your very fast car

and how great your life is.

An anecdote is interesting to people

when it's about struggle.

There was a conflict,

there was a challenge you had to overcome

because we all struggle and we all have challenges.

We're all interested in learning about

how to overcome those things.

Think about the TED Talks.

TED talks have thousands and thousands of people

standing up there and telling their experience.

It can be a success story, but it always entails,

it always gives the details,

of how the struggle and the journey was

to get to that point.

Your anecdote has to have a clear ending.

It can't just go on and on forever.

Let me give you a visual of all of that.

There it is.

Why should the listener care.

A personal connection.

A struggle and a clear ending.

You can use anecdotes to introduce your topic.

For example if you tell a story

about how you woke up one day

and found yourself with zero money

in your bank account, it's a great introduction

to a presentation about how we need

to save money at our company.

The reason to learn how to do this and

practice doing this, is because

a personal story, a struggle, a decision,

things that impact your life.

Those are the things that change the way you speak.

From not confident and non-native

to a much higher level.

If you're able to tell a story, an anecdote,

something that happened to you, in an emotional way

and be open about that information

that is not that easy to talk about,

it's embarrassing or it's a little private,

then you're able to connect with your audience

in a way that other people aren't.

That's a huge benefit.

To be able to connect to your audience

on a personal level gives them access to you because

you've given them something personal

but it also gives you access to them.

They are now listening.

If you're in the business world then

you also have to learn

the storytelling art - not just anecdotes.

Anecdotes are great for introducing a subject.

If you're in the advertisement business

then you talk about an experience

you've had with advertisement,

where you were actually surprised,

like actually surprised by

an advertisement you saw,

then you go on to explain that's why

we should do this and this and this.

From my personal experience to my opinion

as to what we should do.

To be able to make a great presentation

and a great story, you should really build

both in a similar fashion.

This chart here and that is the five acts.

When you think about all the movies you've watched,

all the books that you've read,

you can really break down anything

into these five acts.

The same thing should be true

for your presentation, in general,

you should have an introduction.

That introduction should be stimulating because

let's face it -

the beginning and the end is what people remember.

Let's just put it out there.

Have a great beginning.

Have a great closing,

because those are the things

that really stand out in people's minds.

The reason to make act 2, act 3 and act 4 is

because they're the drama.

That drama can really inspire people

to change the way they think.

Most people will remember the beginning in the end,

but if your presentation is really good, like a story,

it's gonna blow their minds.

In the homework section,

I'm going have an anecdote sheet.

I would love you to tell me an anecdote.

If you don't want to practice an anecdote,

just tell the story, a childhood story.

I want you to tell the story in a video like this one.

Think about your own culture,

think about stories that your grandparents told you.

Little Red Riding Hood.

Snow White.

Any one of those stories.

When you tell the childhood story,

try to break it up into

an introduction of the characters-

that's gonna be your Act 1.

What was the first complication? (Act 2)

What was the turning point?(Act 3)

What was the reversal? (Act 4)

And what was the closing act? (Act 5)

Usually they live happily ever after.

You can even add something to the story.

You can add details, you can practice your vocabulary,

practice speaking for a longer period of time.

Give yourself five minutes.

You can do it it's five acts - five minutes.

If it's not enough make it longer.

I'm listening.

In the comment section below,

please make a video.

You can tell an anecdote,

tell a story, folklore, children's story.

Just make sure you have five acts or

alternatively you can practice a presentation

that you've already given

or that you need to give in the future.

Try to use an anecdote in your introduction.

I'm here for you.

I can give you comments.

If you don't want comments,

just send the link and say no comments needed.

That's fine too- I will watch it, just to watch it.

Keep trying! Make mistakes and keep going.

I'll see you next time!

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Lesson 4 part B - Duration: 7:32.

use your hands to underscore

the importance of an issue.

This isn't to say, when you're having a conversation

you should use your hands a lot.

Not related.

This is only about presentations.

One way to emphasize an issue

is to show with your hands -

so for example, something small.

Small issue, a small problem.

It gives the word an emphasis.

Something very big - moving your hands

to show something very big.

A big problem.

A big opportunity.

Gives it more value, more meaning.

Emphasizing emotions.

You can do it by placing your hand on your heart.

I think that one's a little too showy.

This is something that you practice using a video.

You practice doing it because

there's a certain quality of acting

that gives your speech,

your meeting, presentation,

more feeling if you are able

to use your hands to emphasize things

that you want to emphasize.

You don't have to use your hands.

When you're actually giving your speech,

it's whatever feels comfortable to you,

but having the tool is better

than not having the tool.

That's my point.

Help others keep track of

your explanation of two different groups

by representing one group with each hand.

When you're talking about those two groups

the doctors and the artists

it's easier for people to see the visual

if it's represented with your hands.

Show two things being brought together

by bringing your hands together.

This one is like the heart one.

It's kind of cheesy but it's not bad.

It brings up an emotional response in people.

It's true. It's effective.

So consider practicing it here with me

and not doing it,

if you don't feel comfortable doing it.

Well, the other things that

I wanted to talk to you about hands is

what should you do with your hands

when you're not using in Ted toss

The most popular TED Talks

hand gestures are very high

and the less popular TED Talks,

the hand gestures are very low.

Let's just say scientifically,

people do respond to hand gestures.

I think it's like tones in your voice.

if you're using monotone

people get tired of it and bored easily.

If you change the tone of your voice a lot.

Sound very interested and very excited

about what you're saying.

Same thing with hands or acting.

You and me. We're doing...

That being said, I want it to feel natural to you.

Open palms is open.

I'm open to suggestions.

I'm open to you.

You can trust me.

As opposed to being closed and closed off.

I'm not really listening.

Open.

There's a strike zone.

They call this area - this is where

you want to keep your hand gestures in this area.

Keeping your hand gestures is good.

Out here, not that good.

Even when we're talking about big.

A big problem as post beep this one

is so big that it feels unnatural - too showy.

and not as authentic.

Speaking of so I do this a lot.

To me it's like a wand.

Like *bling*

I don't know why.

But pointing -

this is not appropriate.

You don't want to do this.

This is calling attention

to certain parts of your body

that you don't want to call attention to.

Don't put your hands here.

This area for women and for men.

If you put your hands there,

people's eyes will go to your hands.

Another thing they say is don't hold things.

It's distracting.

You know the word crutch?

When you break your legs,

have this thing under your arm.

It's called a crutch.

It helps support you.

Having something in your hands

is like a crutch.

It's to keep you busy.

It's to keep your hands from doing something.

On the other hand, if you are really really nervous

and you're a nail-biter or smoker,

moving your hands around a lot...

it's better than this.

This is the worst.

The work for no reason

is much worse than holding something.

If it's helpful to hold something,

then do that.

In general, the rule is don't hold things.

Use your hands as tool

to help explain what you're trying to say.

Don't move them around too fast.

That's distracting and annoying.

Use the tool right for you,

to help you get your message across.

If you're standing behind a podium,

make your hands visible.

Don't put your hands behind your back.

Avoid spider hands.

Spider hands... unless you're using this as

maybe a little joke or something.

This is the steeple.

The worst is not controlling your hands.

This is better than that.

This is not the best.

The best is using your hands,

but this is better than this.

We've talked about ten gestures.

As communication we've talked about

hand gestures, as in where to put your hands

when you're publicly speaking

and we've talked about not fidgeting.

Not doing certain things.

Again please leave me a comment.

I asked for about men and women

and gender choices.

It can be very short, just make a few points.

The fashion one, I said five or six points.

This one just - one or two points is fine.

Just a short one to show me that you're committed to doing it.

That is the end for my hand gestures lesson.

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Until next time - try! Make mistakes and keep going!

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Lesson 8 - Duration: 10:25.

Hello and welcome to Speaking and Speech, with Kiki.

This is lesson eight.

Last class we talked about filler words.

How to figure out what your filler words are

and how to try and change that

because it is a habit and it is changeable.

Completely up to you.

If you're not doing

professional presentations, that's fine.

If you own your own company

and you're giving a presentation

and you have filler words.

You don't care, that's fine.

It's up to you.

I personally think that if you're on a stage,

it's very easy to use filler words,

when you should be using pauses.

Just let your mind think for a minute.

They seem longer than they are

and they make you seem like you are preparing

but at the same time filler words,

they don't make you sound smart.

They don't make you sound stupid,

but they don't make you sound smart.

Better to stop and restart your whole sentence

than to mutter....

Better than that.

Today we're going to talk about rhetorical questions.

You may decide by the end

that you do not want to use rhetorical questions

because they sound so difficult.

That's fine. You should know what they are.

Learn how to use the tool

and then it's in your tool box.

You can later choose when to use it,

if you want to use it .

When you're giving a presentation to other professionals,

even though they know

that you are not a native speaker,

you can't help but expect the same level

from a presentation than you would

from a native speaker.

That's why I don't want you to just say

this is too hard,

I'm not going to do it.

I want you to say I'm going to practice it.

Then if I want to use it, I can use it.

You are talking to natives and

you've given them already one presentation

and it didn't go that great.

Then on the second presentation,

you should pull out the rhetorical question.

Have it in the tool box.

First, let's answer the question

'What is a rhetorical question?'

A rhetorical question was a question

that no answer is actually expected.

When people say, 'Hi, how are you?

and you say, 'Oh, well, you know I'm not doing...'

and you keep talking

and they're not listening

and you say, 'They're so rude.

They asked me how I was.'

It's when Americans ask you

'How are you?'

That's the same as their way of saying

'Good morning,' basically.

One kind of rhetorical question

that you may see on a day to day basis.

But we're talking about

rhetorical questions in presentations.

Think about it have you ever heard

a persuasive advertisement where they said

'Are you suffering from lack of sleep?

Bad digestion and insomnia?

This is the medicine for you.

The way that the advertisement goes,

it's not about a question and you're supposed to answer

you're supposed to imagine the list of symptoms.

You're supposed to check which ones you have

and then say, 'Oh, I've got to try this new product.'

In the movies you'll see:

Do you see any cameras here?

No.

We have 144 cameras in place here and

it took us just a day to do it

and they're virtually invisible.

They come in every color.

So camouflaging is essential.

This is my favorite.

Oh! Nice catch! Sign her up.

So now the entire world is watching.

You know I agree with a H.E.Y,

with the human rights activists all over the world.

There needs to be accountability.

Tyrants and terrorists can no longer hide.

We will see them.

We will hear them.

We will hear and see everything.

If it happens, we'll know.

We're calling it sea change.

Oh we'll know the good things too.

We will see it all,

because knowing is good

but knowing everything is better.

Think about it.

It's actually really effective.

What's the reason for using the question form?

The reason to use a question,

especially a rhetorical question is

because telling people the information

isn't always the most effective way

to get people to listen to you.

We said why.

Why use a rhetorical question

because you can't just tell your audience

all the information, all the time.

You engage the audience and active listening.

When you're asking them a question,

even one that they don't need to answer.

The things that rhetorical questions

can do is they can be very emotional.

We, as presenters,

may not feel emotional about the situation

but rhetorical questions can actually be emotional.

They can stir emotion.

How? Let me give you an example.

Instead of saying, 'The government has never done anything for us.'

That's a statement and I may be alone in that feeling,

but what if I said,

'What has the government ever done for you?'

And then, when you have to think about it,

you say, 'well, maybe they haven't done everything

that they should have done.'

The question places the listener

in a position where now they're ready

to listen to something and they feel like the information

they're about to receive is more important.

Ten of our children have died in gun related crimes.

How many will it take, before we act?

You're saying - bad things have happened

how much more has to happen

before we decide to do something.

It's starting to get more effective.

You're starting to see that

there is a reason to use rhetorical questions.

You can't think of a rhetorical question

as a question that stands alone.

The rhetorical question changes the way

the listener hears the information

because they are now trying to answer

the question for themselves.

But then it sets you up

to be able to give the audience an answer.

I'll give you an example.

Why is it important to exercise our right to vote?

Voting is a duty of active citizenship.

I gave you the question. 'Why should we vote?'

And give you the answer as well.

Rhetorical questions can be emotional.

I set up something that's a challenge to the listener.

Rhetorical questions can be a setup

for the answer I want to give you, a specific answer.

I give you a rhetorical question.

Rhetorical questions activate the listener.

They're paying more attention because

they're thinking to themselves,

'Oh what is the answer to that?'

That gets them thinking

about your message more clearly.

Rhetorical questions are difficult

because you have to think about

the way you're setting them up.

Instead of a statement, you have to

change it to a kind of question.

Instead of saying,

'The government hasn't done anything for us.'

You're changing it to a question,

'What has the government done for us?'

Another reason to use rhetorical questions

is because it's a good way to show

that you are thinking about what the audience

might want to ask you.

Think about what the audience,

what their questions might be.

You ask a rhetorical question

and you answer the question in your presentation

to answer questions that other people might have.

You do it as part of your presentation.

Makes it more effective.

I'm going to give you some examples in the homework

for how people used rhetorical questions

and I will set up the speaking part so

that it has a few situations,

in which you can make a presentation

to record and send a link in the comment section.

But for now, just know that

rhetorical questions are a tool,

that you should be using in your presentations.

When you want to engage the audience.

When you want to be persuasive,

they are much more effective than statements.

When you want to make people feel something.

It's a little manipulative,

but we need that emotion

because things that matter to us,

don't matter to other people

until we can change their minds.

And it can be used to emphasize what you're saying.

The point is you have to try

and when you try, you will make mistakes,

but then you have to keep going.

Wow those are my three rules.

Oh perfect.

All right, guys.

Have a great week and I'll see you next time.