Waching daily Sep 26 2018

In this video, we're going to talk about how to build trust in relationships.

Trust can be a controversial issue and it's one that I hope in this video we're

approaching with some thought and some reflection. So, let's get into the details.

Hello there and welcome back friends. If this is the first time that you're

tuning into Communication Coach, this channel is here to help people that are

probably like you, rising leaders, emerging leaders in professional

settings and all the videos here are to help you improve your leadership skills

so that you can help bring out the best in the people around you. And today, we're

talking about how to build trust in relationships. Trust is really important.

When you have good positive trusting relationships, it makes everything else

easier. It's really important to take this concept seriously. Now I want to get

a few qualifications out of the way right away. The first one is that nobody

owes you trust. They don't, in the first place when they meet you, you should not

assume that they need to trust you in some way because they owe it to you.

That's just not the way trust works. Trust is earned over time and with

patience and with effort. It's not automatic and for that reason I also

want to say and just get this right out of the way, you're not going to learn any

tricks in this video. I don't believe that trust is something that you should

try to quickly get people to do for you because to me there's a warning sign

there. In fact, I don't recommend ever saying things like you have to trust me

or what's the matter why don't you trust me or well you got to believe me what's

the problem here. Sometimes, it'll come out authentically and I get it. But you

should not use those as a way to get people to trust you because to me it

sounds like manipulation. It sounds like a way to control the situation and use

guilt to get what you want. And that's just not the kind of

leadership or even personal development kind of advice that I would ever give to

anybody. Having said all those things, let's get into the actual advice that I

would like to give. The first is that you have to have a good character. In other

words, if you want people to trust you, you have to be trustworthy. Good

character means that you are an honest person. You tell the truth. You're looking

out for other people's interests, not just your own.

The famous coach John Wooden said the truest test of a man's character is what

he does when no one is watching. So you are who you are when no one is watching.

That's a paraphrase of that sentiment. Do you try to get away with little things

when no one's watching? Do you gossip a little bit here and there when you think

you can get away with it? Do you stretch the truth a little bit? In fact, I want to

do a gut check here in terms of your character. Two tests for me personally

that I do on myself. Two gut check test do I have good character in this situation?

And the first one is, do I exaggerate to try to get what I want?

Do I make something seem a little bit better or even a little bit worse

depending upon what I'm looking for, to get what I want? Do I exaggerate? And

another gut check for me, and I'd like you to do these gut checks for yourself,

is, do I take responsibility for the little errors and mistakes that I make? I

think that's another good indication if something little goes wrong, do I accept

responsibility that I was the one who caused that and then I tried to fix it

the best I can? Or do I try to smooth it over and make

it seem like it wasn't my fault, point the finger, blame. If we can't be

responsible with the small things, then why should we expect people to trust us,

especially trust us with the big things? So character, having good trustworthy

character is a number-one principle on the road to building trust in

relationships. Number two. Consistency. People like it when they can predict

other people's behavior to some degree. Now I'm not talking about, awe, your so

predictable. You always take me to the same restaurant every week. I'm not

talking about that kind of predictability. In other words, are you

consistent in that you say you're gonna do something and then you follow through?

Are you a reliable person so that you show up on time when people need you

there? How is your consistency? There's it's a really big

issue because as you develop consistency as a habit, other people will learn that

they can count on you. So let's do a little gut check on this. Do you show up

on time when you say you're gonna be there? Do you make your deadlines when

you commit to a deadline. I think showing up on time and deadlines are a huge

indicator over your broader ability to show consistency. those are really two

important ways to gut check it. Principle number three, authenticity.

Are you relatively open about who you are in the workplace, let's say, with

other people? I'm not saying, by the way, that you have to tell people

everything about you and all your dirty secrets. In fact, I don't recommend that

because you have to get to know other people around you as well you don't want

to get too personal too quickly but do they get a sense for who you are and

what you're all about because if we're only in a role if we're

only playing a professional role for example then people don't feel like they

know us. And if they don't feel like they know us, they're not going to really

trust us over time. People want to get to know a well-rounded version of who we

are and that requires a bit of transparency. Another way to be open is

the issue on the issue of transparency is that when you're in an interaction

and the meeting talking to people, for example, are you being open about what

you're trying to accomplish or you do or do you have a lot of weird hidden

agendas that are simultaneously functioning like are you playing lots of

politics to play some strategy game in the room when you're talking? If you

do people will begin to sense that you've got a few goals in mind that

maybe you're not being open with and there's a hidden agenda. And you want to

be open and transparent about that so on two counts. You want to be open

transparent as a person, relatively speaking. And you certainly want to be open and

transparent about what you're trying to accomplish in the moment. So that's tip

number three. Moving on to tip number four. Be a giver, not a taker. When you

go into a situation, is your first tendency to think about how you can add

value to the people that you're interacting

with? Or, is your first tendency to try to get something from them? That's a little

gut check. When I walk into a situation, ask yourself this question. Do I look to

give something and be a blessing to those people or am I looking for what I

get out of the situation? I know somebody, for example, and you probably know people

like this too, who every time they talk to me, I can tell they're trying to get

something from me. They want something and they're looking for a way to get me

to commit to something that benefits them. I don't think I've ever been in a

situation that I can remember with this person [where they have] looked for a way to help

me and give me something, so to speak. Now, I'm not talking about material objects

but it even in the friendship and what they're giving to the interaction. Are they

trying to get something from you or they trying to give something to you. You want

to make sure you're a giver, not a taker. And if you follow these four principles

or four tips, if you will, you will begin to develop trust in your relationships.

And on that subject, I would like to ask you which of these four principles

resonates with you the most? Which one do you think helps you move forward in your

thinking and how you're relating to other people the most? I would love to

hear your comments in that section below the video. And while we're on this topic

of building relationships, I would like to invite you to download a free PDF

resource that I have created it covers the five essential professional

[communication] skills that I believe that all professionals should be putting into

practice. They focus almost entirely on communication and that's completely free.

I will put that in the description below video and I'll also pin it in the first

comment in the comments section below the video. So as you're making your own

comments below there, notice that there's that free resource that you can download

and you enter your email and then I email you that resource. So thanks for

tuning in. God bless and I will see you in the next video.

For more infomation >> How to Build Trust in Relationships - Duration: 8:34.

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3 reasons you should buy a cheap Android phone this October - Duration: 5:28.

hey everyone welcome back to android confidential where this week we are

talking about the upcoming android premium phones talking about the google

pixel three the LGV 40 and the huawei mate 20 all of which are going to cost a

bundle and you probably want one but wait what if it doesn't have to be that

way what if you don't need to spend 800 or $900 on a phone just to get the phone

that you want so before you spend all that money consider these three things

first so if there's one thing all the new phones coming out have in common is

that they're going to be the fastest and they're gonna have the most storage we

already see this with the Samsung Note 9 we got up to 512 gigabytes of space

inside the phone which is crazy and we have a snapdragon 845 processor which we

know is the fastest out there the pixel 3 is gonna use that as well the LGB 40

is gonna use that and Huawei is gonna use its own Kirin 980 processor which

will be just as fast probably a little bit faster if you measure it in

benchmarks that's awesome you know the kind of speed that we're able to put in

there in our pockets is just it's just mind-boggling but what are we really

using it for we text we use social networking we surf the web we email

those are the main things we use our phones for that's what we use them for

10 years ago we're not editing podcasts and video and

we're not you know working with with with giant images that we need all this

space that we need all this power if you get a cheaper Android phone you're gonna

give up you know you won't get a snapdragon a 45 i've got a snapdragon

600 or snapdragon 400 chip it'll be slower you'll still be able to

serve you'll still be able to use email you'll still be able to do things you

want to do maybe it'll take you a couple seconds less or more to do it it's okay

we don't need that kind of speed to get a good experience out of our phone and

Android phones have expandable storage if you have 32 gigs or 64 gigs and you

need more throwing an SD card it costs just 16 dollars so whether you buy the

pixel 3 or the pixel 3 XL or one of the other phones they're going to be getting

a big giant screen we're talking five and a half inches six inches six point

seven she's six point nine inches on the

huawei mate 20 that's crazy two years ago a phablet a giant phablet

was like five and a half and that was like the upper end of the spectrum and

now that's the small size do we need six point four inches the iPhone max X

whatever it is is six and a half and like I said huawei's is gonna be almost

seven seven I mean we're pushing the boundaries of what can fit in our pocket

what can fit in our hands and what we really need to use in our phones

what you know the text is is only gonna get so big and the things are going to

see so much on our phones we don't need to carry around small tablets in our

pockets anymore and resolution so if you buy a cheaper Android phone you're going

to get full HD maybe less 720p guess what it's not gonna look good

retina as Apple says when they introduced his whole term retina day it

was back then it was 300 pixels per inch for a phone that's held you know maybe a

foot foot and a half from your face so you wouldn't see visible pixels that's

the whole idea of retina you look at a screen and it looks like it you're

looking at on a piece of paper there's no visible pixels it doesn't have those

jagged edges 300 pixels per inch versus 600 pixels per inch is gonna look the

same to your eye you don't need 4 K 3 K even 2 K to have

a really nice-looking screen that shows great photos and looks it you can read

text and books and and comics and you know have it looked really good and the

last thing I'm going to talk about is how expensive these things are to fix

and to drop and the bigger they get the harder they are to hold I don't care how

big your hands are they're slippery you know why cuz they're made of glass

they're made of glass because we get wireless charging which is awesome and

you know we can throw them on those pads and or whatever and they charge without

having to plug them in which is a great feature but the the drawback is they're

increasingly more more fragile and listen I don't care if it's Gorilla

Glass 5 a girl got 6 or whatever the next one is its glass it's fragile if it

drops on concrete it's gonna break I don't care what it's wrapped in and

guess what you're gonna have to pay a few hundred dollars to get it fixed

companies are selling protection plans now Apple has an insurance policy

against theft and law for 300 bucks you know so now we're

having charges on top of charges on top of expensive phones it's crazy

consider a plastic cheap phone guess what if you lose it you can buy another

one and you're still paying less than you would have paid for you know pixel 3

or or aura or a V 40 or whatever what have you all right look I get it if you

spending another $900 $1,000 on a new Android phone you're gonna love it it's

gonna be great it's gonna be the Cadillac of phones walk down the street

and people are gonna look at you and want one but if you have a Honda maybe

you won't turn as many heads but it'll still get you where you need to go

you're still having you still enjoyed you still love it and guess what you're

not gonna need a protection plan and if you drop it you won't have a heart

attack so thanks for watching be sure to subscribe to our PC world youtube

channel where you'll find the rest of our videos in series and if you love you

tune your dollar phone if you hate your dad and dollar phone if you're somewhere

in the middle hit me up in the comments and I'll see you next time

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