Thứ Sáu, 28 tháng 9, 2018

Waching daily Sep 28 2018

hey guys we're Evan and Katelyn and today we're gonna cut aluminum on our Carvey

for the first time all I need to do is press this button

so instead of just carving anything we wanted to try carving something useful

and something where accuracy is important so we're gonna make this

little square right here it's gonna be really tiny but we'll be able to test

the accuracy which is important I just have a gut feeling that it's not gonna work the

first time but we've done enough research and talked with enough really

smart people to know that something will happen and it's possible it's totally

possible I faith it is possible

not gonna work the first time

something will happen

so that didn't really go as planned noooo it seemed like it was trying to go

too deep too fast yep and that downward force combined with the rotation of the

bit caused it to walk all over the place luckily the Carvey shut it down yeah so

I might have had the settings a little bit too aggressive really I increased the

amount of plunge I reduced the wait we increased the plunge yeah so the plunge is how much

it slowly leads in so I increased plunge I decreased speeds and just made

everything a little bit more gentle let's try this again

you can do it little guy I believe in you

I dunno that didn't seem right it seemed to kick back a little bit

yeah still a little kick I'll tweak a few more things

one of the things that's gonna allow us to carve

aluminum pretty fast and get a really accurate finish are the advanced tool paths

that you have access to in fusion 360 we are going to be doing an adaptive pass

which takes away of the majority of the material the 2d pocket hole which is

going to allow us to remove material that's inside of our part and we're

gonna do two contour passes one to clean up an edge and one that'll cut the whole part out

is it supposed to be on air yeah because it already cut out that

it is less rattly the googly eye is not rattling this time

yay that was terrible

in general you can cut faster with adaptive clearing because it cuts with a

fraction of the bit instead of plowing straight through the material with 50%

of the bit loaded with the cut

adaptive clearing success

it took three tries but the great thing about the carvey is everything was

enclosed it was a little bit scary but I wasn't that scared so now that we have

this you know what I'm gonna open this up vacuum this up and show you what we

have so far the surface finish it's pretty good it looks like there's ridges

but here feel that that's very subtle it looks like it's way more than it is so

the adaptive clearing pass is done and that gave us this little ridge right

here now we're gonna put some holes in there just so I can test pocket holing

Yay it's going!

little rough on that

I think we should maybe stop it

yep yep I think you're right think it was just too aggressive to aggressive seems to ne a theme

have my finger on the pause button just in case

it's ok I think it's ok

that's weird that it's a trouble spot right there in the middle

right there I think it's when it's plunging oh I mean

it's a little loud it's a little shaky but it seems like it's okay

should we keep running it

last little bit

there it goes again pocket number two

alrighty so the first one okay how confident are you about the second one

I'm pretty confident about the second one ok cool

one more operation just gotta cut out the outside it's so shiny shiny haha shiny

since this 3d adaptive tool path created the surface in a series of nibbled

passes this was never fully straightened and cleaned up so before we do the

outside contour path we're gonna do a few skim passes along an edge to

straighten things out bring them in line

there's a little bit of cleaning that's pretty conservative

hey do you blame me at this point no

this is just what I want it was okay edge now I'm just

making it like clean this is actually just what I wanted

what were you saying

it's just what I wanted hahaha

so it went a little bit deeper than I expected oops

it actually worked out ok though in the end

we're not to the end yet

okay so now now we're gonna do the final outline yeah and I have two ideas on

this one we can leave tabs yes I mean we'll have to clean them up later or we

can use these pockets that we milled out and screw them into the waste board with

those pockets oh we're gonna have to be careful though because this hole in

particular is really close to this edge and if there's any jitter we don't want

it banging that end of the screw

there it goes there it goes

moment of truth this is when it's plunging in

think it's ok yeah it's ok

or do I need to slow it down no it needs to be slowed down

too much bring it down a little bit you can see um where it started skipping there especially

so this is the finishing pass

still doing ok

gonna be a little bit rough coming in here

I have good news and I have bad news

good news is check out check out the CNC

look at that it's so beautiful

yeah what's the bad news

I didn't catch it on the camera cutting through the end

you kinda worried me I know that's why I wanted to worry you so me not

capturing this will be okay are you ready

oh my gosh that is awesome so cute and so sharp

yeah careful with those we'll de-burr it time to clean it up

actually it's also midnight time to go to bed

and tomorrow we will clean this up inspect it closely

and put it to the test

you might ask finishing the piece

alrighty everything's filed and cleaned up now it's time to test our homemade

square against a machinist square the most accurate one that we own see how

they compare what do you think I think it is gonna be really really square yet

are a little imperfections in here so that's a long way of saying yes I'm

very confident what about you I think there's gonna be little gaps and

imperfections where it's not fully butted up against the material but I

think overall it will be a right angle and it will be straight shall we test it

oh wow what there's not even any gaps that's better than I thought

I thought we tore it up more than that that's actually really good

okay so now that we've tested the outside let's test the inside

I don't see any gap okay let's use it to like check things I just like having a tiny square

in general good use for this is checking to see if your tools are still square such

as this chisel and oh man that's interesting there's a dent in the chisel

and I didn't see it until I put it up against here the dent is right there

yeah that's crazy that's crazy so our square is awesome but our chisels are

crap no that's on us too we were probably abusing them a little bit but guys I'm just so excited

that we can machine aluminum in our garage accurately I can make so many

parts how to make machines gears build our own robots thank you guys for tuning in and

watching another one of her videos and look forward to seeing you next time bye

Supervisor approval

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Interpreting dreams and what it really means when you dream about your ex [RIG 28] - Duration: 30:55.

Hey there, this is Clay with www.ModernLove.Life and this is the relationship inner game experience.

And today we're gonna be talking about what it means when you dream about your ex.

There are a lot of resources out there for interpreting dreams, you know, they say if

you dream about, I don't know, a crow that it's a bad omen or something like that and

I don't really adhere to a lot of this stuff specifically because when I was in Grad school

I had a professor who was a clinical psychologist and somehow somebody in the class asked him

about the topic of dreams and he said that all of that stuff is pretty much not, something

that you need to be paying attention to any way because each of our subconsciouses is

structured in a unique way.

It's not as if one thing universally symbolizes the same thing for all of us, right?

Because we all have our own different interpretations of things and we all have our different associations

with things.

And one thing that he told me is that in dreams you are essentially every, every person and

every major object in the dream is actually a representation of a part of you, a part

of your own consciousness, of your personality, of you essentially throughout your dreams.

It is your unconscious mind trying to express or come to some sort of sense of understanding

and balance in your sense of self.

Right?

So in other words, when you dream about your ex, you are trying to reconcile certain things

within yourself to help you, to integrate your experiences into your life, to help you,

to redefine your identity as the person that you are.

So it depends on what your ex represents to you.

So for example, if maybe you had a poor relationship with your ex and maybe your ex is somebody

that you believe betrayed you, lied to, you, cheated on you or something like that.

And you dream about your ex will, It obviously depends on what is happening in the dream.

But that person, your ex in your dream could represent a part of you that doesn't feel

100 percent in integrity with what you say you're going to do, and so depending on how

the dream plays out, it's you wrestling with the fact that there are these dualistic parts

of you and your personality.

There's the part of you that are obviously wants to do the right thing and be a good

person, and then there's this other part of you that you know is also human and sometimes

make mistakes, sometimes you know, stretches the truth a little bit, sometimes does things

that you're less than proud of.

And so in that context, if you are dreaming about your ext is trying to integrate these

two sides of you to sort of help it make sense to you emotionally so that you can still move

forward as a full, complete person without having to carry around perhaps guilt or shame

or something like that, or things that you did in the past.

If your ex represents a, someone that, that you really loved, someone that you had a strong

emotional connection with, then the dream about your ex could also represent you, struggling

to define your relationship with the part of you that you actually love, that you actually

are proud of, that you actually are most proud of in yourself, but you're maybe not able

to admit it to yourself and you're struggling to define that relationship in the context

of your own unconscious mind.

Okay?

So you're trying to, really determine what your relationship is with the parts of you

that you really love, you know, are you willing to accept them and love them and take them

into yourself or you going to deny them and push them away and try to say, Oh yeah, I'm

not that great, or something like that.

Right?

And so this is how you can interpret the dreams that you have about your ex.

I think it's much more effective than saying like, Oh, if you dream about your ex, it means

Martians are coming next week or whatever the, the dream interpretation, encyclopedias

and all that stuff.

Say I'm anyway, this is the interpretation that I got from a clinical psychologist, so

I'm probably gonna put a little bit more weight in that than maybe some other sources, but

with that being said, let's go ahead and get over into our questions and answers for this

week from modern love association members.

Let's see what people are talking about.

Let's see what sorts of questions they have this week.

Our first question is from Ryan.

Ryan says, hi, clay and Mika.

I came into my relationship with my ex a few years after a blind side divorce.

My life has been a whirlwind during and since my divorce until a few weeks ago when I graduated

from a very rigorous graduate program and suddenly had nothing to do.

My girlfriend now, my ex and I had done passive, no contact for a month in June, but she contacted

me and I immediately started trying to fix the relationship.

It was too much, too fast and she backed way off.

She was between test drive and riding the Dragon.

When I found your ESP program and the last message she sent to me before I went, no contact

was quote, I enjoy talking to you and hanging out, but as far as relationship status, I

feel we're more friends than lovers.

Right now.

My emotions have shut off and I don't know how to turn them back on end quote.

Her emotions weren't always shut off.

It happened after a long stretch where I was emotionally unavailable.

One thing she would often tell me that I never realized until now was that I must love myself

in order to fully be able to love her.

I have harbored a lot of hurt from my divorce that has led me to have subconscious feelings

of not being worthy of love.

I never realized how much those emotions can bleed over and affect others.

I have been doing the 10 minutes of affirmations in the mirror, but I still feel the deep seated

doubt and lack of confidence when it comes to romantic relationships.

Can you please share some other mental practices or exercises we can do to build self esteem

and truly learn to love ourselves?

Thank you for everything.

I deeply appreciate your program.

Warm regards, Ryan.

Okay, Ryan, so first of all, I'm sorry that you had such a difficult experience with your

divorce and I'm sorry that it left you feeling so poorly about yourself emotionally and in

regards to your own self love.

When it comes to self love and self esteem.

This really is a very important part of having a great relationship with another person and

this is something that a lot of people often overlook because they're focused more on thinking

that you know if you send the right text message or if you have the right body language or

if you pretend like you're cool and confident and fake it till you make it, that somehow

that will compensate for really not giving a damn about your own self and that's not

really how things work.

As you start to hold yourself in higher esteem, you'll start to have higher standards for

yourself and you start to have higher standards for yourself.

You'll start to interact with people in a different way and that will really spill over

into giving you better results in your love life.

And also in other areas of life as well too, but this is really more of a dating and relationship

podcast.

So we'll talk primarily about that.

I'm glad that you found some of the exercises in the course to be helpful.

In addition to that, we do have a book that I wrote called the self esteem solution.

You can go ahead and check that out on Amazon.

I think.

I don't know.

I think it's like $5 or something like that.

and you can go ahead and read through that.

It has a lot of information on what you can do to help you in regards to your self esteem.

But just some basic things that I would recommend to you are to practice pushing yourself out

of your comfort zone in ways that move you towards what you want.

So oftentimes there are things that we want in our life that we don't give ourselves permission

to go after because we don't think that we're worthy of them.

We don't think that we're worth the bother or whatever it might be.

And so we just don't do it.

And we choose to stay in our comfort zone, which might be, you know, just, Oh, you know,

I'm not, I'm nothing special.

I'm just going to have a microwaveable dinner tonight, or something like that.

I'm not worth the effort of cooking a nice healthy meal for myself or whatever it might

be.

And so as you start to move towards treating yourself like you actually gave a damn about

yourself, you will probably encounter some resistance that could take the form of anxiety,

that could take the form of fear that could take the form of laziness, that could take

the form of complacency, that could take the form of anything.

And if you recognize this, if you recognize that, hey, there's something that you want,

you want something nice, but you're not willing to put in the effort for it because it's just

you or something like that, then that is an opportunity to dig down deep and push yourself

out of your comfort zone and go for whatever that is.

Again, I don't know what that might be for you.

I don't know if that's treating yourself to a nice dinner.

I don't know if that's a doing something nice for yourself, like I don't know, getting a

massage or getting some sort of Nice thing for yourself or whatever, but maybe you might

consider doing something like that.

Okay.

And that is a great way to build the habit of treating yourself well and build the habit

of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, especially towards outcomes that you actually

want in your life.

Okay, Ryan.

So I hope that helps you out.

And if you want any more additional advice for this, please check out the self esteem

solution over on Amazon.

It's written by me.

It's available currently only in kindle form, but once things settle down a little bit with

our business, I'm going to hopefully look into getting that published as a physical

book.

You know, the past couple of months have been really tough just because we've had the baby

come.

And uh, right now I'm getting back into working full time, but uh, you know, there's a lot

of repair work, a lot of catching up.

I have to do with things before it can actually start to seriously tackle some other projects

that I have wanted to do for a long time and one of those is to get the self esteem solution

and be loved for who you are published as physical books, so that's something that's

going to becoming hopefully sooner rather than later as I start to get my bearings again.

But yeah, go ahead and check out that book if you want some more advice and keep us updated

on how things go moving forward from here.

Our next question is from C, c says my ex and I were together for about a year and a

half and since the breakup we have talked almost everyday and I really do want to get

her back.

I need to start ANC, but we have planned on doing things together in the upcoming future

two weeks from now.

Should I tell her that I just need to take a break from talking to her for awhile?

How do I go from talking every day with her to just not at all for awhile.

Thank you.

It depends on what these events are with, with your ex, you know, if it's really something

important for both of you, like I don't know, the, the wedding of a mutual friend or something,

I would probably just a grin and bear it and go through with it.

If it's something kind of trivial, like, oh yeah, you want to see a movie together that

you've both had been looking forward to or something like that.

Then maybe you might consider delaying that or canceling that plan or something like that.

But really what you want to do is to check in with yourself and say, okay, do I really

need to take some time away from being in contact with this person to improve my relationship

with myself, to improve my ability to connect with other people and all that stuff.

I mean, because to be completely honest with you, a lot of times people will just go directly

to no contact as like a default thing.

It's like whenever something happens, I need to go into no contract.

Whenever I have a bad situation happened between me and my ex, I need to go to no contact whenever

my ex doesn't text me back and you need to go to no contact.

Whenever I find out that my ex has a rebound partner, I need to go to no contact.

Right?

So make sure that you're not just going to no contact as your one tool because again,

if you only have one tool and that's no contact, then you're going to be in for a tough ride.

That's why we have the entire arsenal of advanced relational skills at your disposal because

there are times when no contact is great, but there's also times when you might need

something else to help you create a positive emotional connection with your ex.

If you do look at your situation and you say, yeah, I actually do need to take a break from

being in contact with my ex, then go ahead and, and, and asked for that.

Right?

Go ahead and just contact your ex and say, Hey, I know we made some plans, but if I'm

being honest with myself, I think I really need some time on my own to really kind of

collect myself after our breakup.

I've noticed that my emotions have been kind of all over the place and I'm not bringing

the best of myself to our interactions together.

So I think I just need a little bit of a time out from being in touch with you.

So much so that I can pull myself together and then of course take that time and actually

pull yourself together.

A lot of times people will say they're doing active, no contact, but we talk about in the

course when in fact they're actually just doing passive, no contact.

They're just kind of hanging out, waiting around and hoping that something changes.

But again, remember active, no context.

It's about actively cultivating the advanced relational skills so that you can actually

have a meaningful difference in your interactions.

Okay.

So work up some sort of approach or strategy or follow the strategy that we talk about

inside the ESP course.

And actually do no contact active, no contact in the structured way that we talk about,

and that's probably a great way to go ahead and get started with that.

Okay, so I hope that helps you out.

See Our next question is from faithful in love.

Faithful in lab says hello clay.

I have a question about handling jealousy and passing painful little tests.

I'm wondering what the best way to respond is.

When we see our exes connecting with another person.

My Ex seems to be in love with someone new is communicating this through social media,

but never directly talking about it with me.

Only mentioned that girl to me once as a friend.

He'll meet soon again.

We were reconnecting really well, but now I watch him lose interest in interacting with

me.

Instead he is talking to her more and more.

She has potentially a new rebound.

He is posting stuff about her on platforms.

He knows I will definitely see it and I sometimes think he even wants me to see it and react.

So far I completely ignored all of these signs in our communication.

My Ex seems to put me through a lot of tests lately, which hurt because I'm still in love.

I'm trying to stay playful and laugh it off, which I think is the best solution, but it

is not easy for me.

My question is what is the best way to handle such situations and to not go back into reaction

mode.

Thanks.

Faithful in love.

All right?

So, I'm guessing by reaction mode, you're, you're talking about damage control mode and

when it comes to damage control mode, just understand that this is a relationship that

you have with yourself more so than it is a relationship with what is happening outside

of you.

Okay?

So it's not as if your life is going to be perfect and you're not going to be in damage

control mode.

And then suddenly something bad happens and you are in damage control mode.

That, that just implies that there is more of an inner weakness in regards to your own

emotional fortitude.

Rather than, you know, great things happening outside of your bad things happening outside

of you.

If you were truly emotionally strong than you could handle most bad things that happen

to you or most things that you perceive as bad without starting to go into that sort

of panic, that sort of damage control mode way of being, so the best way that you can

handle these sorts of situations without going into damage control mode is to understand

that your reaction to things, your response to things is 100 percent within your control.

Okay, so that has to say something happens and you have a response.

If you notice there is something that happens in between those two events.

There's something that happens.

So there's an event, right?

So maybe you log into, I don't know, facebook or something like that, and you see your ex

post something about some new person that they are attracted to and then it's not like

you suddenly just panic.

There's a certain chain reaction that's happening unconsciously and automatically below your

awareness that's causing you to have that panic.

Right?

So what is that?

What are the thoughts, emotions, and feelings that are happening below your conscious awareness

that are causing you to slip into that panic mode?

What stories are you telling yourself?

Right?

So maybe your ex is posting an image of them together with this new person, right?

Is your mind rushing in to fill in the blanks and saying, oh look, they're falling in love.

Oh look, this is a perfect relationship.

I look, there's so much happier then than they were with me.

We're drifting apart.

We're never going to talk again.

I'm losing my chance.

My window of opportunity is closing and stuff like that.

You know, if you have thoughts like that, yeah, you're going to panic, right?

If I had thoughts like that, I would panic too, because as we talk about in our compatibility

code course, your thoughts create your emotions and if you're feeling an emotional response

to something such as panic, so just fear such as anxiety, that's because you're having certain

thoughts that are causing you to feel that way and if you just take a step back and look

at those thoughts and examine them and run them through the thought challenging exercise

that we talk about in the compatibility code, you can start to untangle these thoughts and

turn down the volume on them because when it comes to most of our thoughts that cause

us to panic, they're very extreme, right?

There's no like kind of middle ground.

There's no really being realistic with our thoughts.

It's always just these like doomsday, extreme worst case scenario kind of thoughts and yeah,

if you're gonna go through life with doomsday.

Worst case scenario, extreme thoughts.

It's no surprise that you're gonna end up panicked.

It's no surprise you're gonna be anxious.

It's no surprise that you're going to go through life being afraid.

So what if you took a step back and instead of trying to control the externals, you know

what to say to your ex, how to pass the test, how to destroy the rebound partner and all

that stuff.

What if you looked at your thought process that was causing you to feel bad in the first

place?

What if you looked at how you were thinking about these situations?

That's not to say that you don't act on them one way or the other.

It's not to say that you don't do anything, but if you want to really handle your mindset

when it comes to this, you have to start untangling these thoughts.

You have to start untangling these catastrophe predictions that you're running through your

own mind.

So I'd really strongly recommend the exercises in the compatibility code, specifically the

ones on thought challenging and beliefs.

Okay?

So I hope this helps you out and please keep us updated on how things go moving forward

from here.

Our next question is from Daniel.

Daniel says, clay, what is an example of bad vulnerability and good vulnerability?

Say if my ex or myself inadvertently brings up the topic of the breakup or it just happens

so that we're beginning to have a good conversation that's about to get deeply emotional.

That would be a bad vulnerability example.

Is that right?

Would a bad example be like me admitting that I had a pornography problem when she asks

what's going on with me or would that be a good example?

Okay, so when it comes to bad vulnerability versus good vulnerability, vulnerability has

the potential to bring people closer together.

It has the potential to create an emotional connection as we are honest with one another,

as we reveal ourselves to one another and as we really trust one another and start to

exhibit trust in another person.

Some people will take this and they'll say, okay, you know, I want to get back together

with my ex or I have a first date with somebody and I want that person to be my girlfriend.

Right?

If you were to go into that situation and just start, you know, confessing like, Hey,

I really want to get back together with you.

Hey, I really want you to be my girlfriend.

I'm on like the first date or or right when you're getting back in contact with your ex.

That would be an example of bad vulnerability and the reason why is because it feels bad

on an emotional level and the reason that it feels bad on an emotional level is because

you're not taking the other person's emotional state into consideration.

You are.

I'm essentially using that person as a means to an end to get what you want.

So for example, if you wanted to get back together with your ex and you told them so

much without really considering their emotional state where they're at, how they feel, what

their hesitations, what their resistances, what their reservations about wanting to contact

you, be back in a relationship with you, et Cetera.

Then they're going to see you saying, Hey, I want to get back together with you as basically

like, hey, I don't care how you feel.

I want to be in a relationship again.

I want to be in a relationship with you again and I want to make that happen.

How you feel is not important to me.

How you feel is not something that I'm concerned with.

I'm more interested in getting my agenda met, which is to be back in a relationship with

you, right?

We all know that if you're on a first date with somebody, you don't confess that you

want to marry them.

You don't plan out the names of your children that you want to have together.

You don't propose to them, you don't typically ask them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend

on the very first date, and the reason why is because you don't even know that person.

You haven't built an emotional connection with them and asking for such things is being

more attached to your agenda, your agenda of being in a relationship, your agenda of

being married, your agenda of having children more attached to that agenda than it is to

actually getting to know that person.

Actually getting to know if that person would actually be a good fit for you.

Right?

You're using that person as a means to an end to get your agenda met.

So when it comes to your example about having a pornography addiction, it really depends

on how you present it.

If it's just like, hey, how are you doing?

And you just say, oh, I found out I have a pornography addiction.

You know, that could be something that feels a little weird.

It could something be something that feels a little strange.

It's not necessarily bad.

Vulnerability is just not landing in way that's thoughtful and considerate of the other person's

emotional place.

So, again, I don't know exactly what your relationship is with your ex or whoever you're

considering confessing this too.

But, you know, you might say something like, Hey, I have, I recently had a realization,

I'm realizing there it's had an effect on my life and I want to tell you about it.

Looking back on our relationship that we had together in the past, I think it might've

even affected our ability to connect and it's, you know, it's something that's not easy to

talk about.

But if I'm being honest, I actually have a problem with pornography and I think it's

affecting my ability to connect with people.

In my ability to have a romantic relationships and uh, you know, if you, if you frame it

like that, where your, where, where, where you're simply just considering how it's landing

for the other person and you're also being vulnerable and honest and you're not having

a hidden agenda.

Then I think it absolutely could be a very positive form of vulnerability that could

potentially bring the two of you closer together.

Okay, Daniel.

So I hope that helps you out and let us know if you decide to have this conversation and

how it all goes.

Okay.

So thanks and keep us updated.

Our next question is from JP.

JP says, during the day, I'm happy with how my life is and I'm optimistic about the future.

However, at night I've been experiencing sleep disturbances.

I will have a dream about my ex and wake up feeling anxious.

My therapist thought that my subconscious may be trying to work through some unresolved

emotions.

When she probed further, I was shocked to discover that I was still really sad and missing

my ex.

My therapist suggested taking 10 minutes to write in a journal a few times a week about

my thoughts and memories of my ex.

I plan on doing this.

I was just wondering, do you have any additional suggestions or advice on how to deal with

unresolved emotions?

Thanks JP.

The topic of the intro portion of this relationship, inner game experience episode is actually

on the topic of dreaming about your Ex.

So, I would definitely go and, and review that if needed be.

But, it sounds like the dream portion is really you trying to resolve your own relationship

with yourself and how that connects with your external experience of life.

Okay.

So, again, this is, this can be very complicated and this is not something that I pretend to

be an expert on by any stretch of the imagination.

This is just what a clinical psychologist told me about dreams when I was in graduate

school.

So I'm just going to go ahead and defer to their expertise, but in terms of how to deal

with unresolved emotions, what you need to do is you need to start by being real with

yourself.

Start by being real with how you feel about things.

So, when you say during the day you're happy with your life and you're optimistic about

the future, is that genuine happiness?

Is that genuine optimism or is it sort of more of a postured kind of happiness, a postured

optimism?

We talk about posturing as, as like the cliche example of like the Macho Jerk and the Nice

Guy, right?

But the macho jerk isn't really the only of manifestation that posturing can take.

Posturing is really just when you're trying to suppress how you're actually feeling and

present a appearance of something else.

Whether that is, you know.

Yeah, I'm such a bad ass.

Nothing can hurt me with Dylan, you know, the macho kind of attitude or another common

way that people often do it is I'm always happy.

My life is perfect and life is great.

Things are wonderful.

Um, I'm so happy.

Things are great.

Uh, everything is looking rosy and wonderful, right?

When in fact they are, they're actually not feeling that way.

Uh, you know, if you genuinely do feel that way, more power to you, but if you're not

actually feeling that way and you're putting out an image that that is how you feel, then

that's actually a form of posturing.

So what you might consider doing is getting real with yourself, getting real about how

you actually feel, you know, so.

So maybe talk a take, take a look about how you're actually feeling at night.

Take a look at how you actually feel when you are having these dreams about your asked

or, or even just a, you know, if you're feeling down at night without being asleep, without

dreaming, you know, if it's just like at night and you're by yourself and suddenly you start

to feel sad, you might start to think about whole, how is it I actually feel, how is it

I actually am thinking that's causing me to feel this way?

What thoughts am I having that are causing me to feel this way?

And start to explore those.

And if you're starting to realize that, you know, yeah, maybe I actually am sad, then

maybe it's because you need to fully feel your emotions of loss maybe from your ex or

something along those lines.

And as you start to genuinely feel those emotions rather than suppress them or stuff them down,

you'll notice that you start to open up a little bit more when it comes to your emotional

experience and you'll notice that you'll start to let go of some of those feelings.

And as you start to let go of those feelings, you'll have a more spaciousness within you

that allows you to have a greater emotional capacity for a whole lot of other things.

Okay?

So as you can start to let go of some of these suppressed feelings, you will really start

to welcome new emotional experiences into your life.

A really emotions.

They don't have to hang around forever.

They only hang around forever.

The longer we stuffed them down, the longer we ignore them, the longer we try to resist

them.

As soon as you stop resisting them and allow that emotion to come to completion in your

experience, that's when you can finally let it go.

So I hope that helps you out, JP, and I hope that gives you some advice on dealing with

what you're experiencing right now.

So thank you.

And please keep us updated on how things go moving forward from here.

Okay.

So those have been our questions for this week.

I just want to follow up with everybody and let you know that since we have streamlined

the Q and A process and limited it to just five questions and it has made the production

of the relationship inner game experience a whole lot easier for me and the people on

team.

I don't know if you're aware of this, but it is actually quite a lot of work to put

together these episodes and it can sometimes be difficult to make sure we get this out

every week.

and also I've noticed that the quality of the questions that people are asking has also

increased as well too.

you know, before it was like, hey, here's some ridiculously specific thing that I'm

experiencing that nobody else in the world can relate to, you know, what do you think

I should do next?

And now it's, it's, it's generally questions that are a little bit more relatable to to

more people out there.

So I think that we're also improving the value and quality of the relationship inner game

experiences as well too.

So thank you so much for helping me do this and thank you so much for helping me dial

this in.

I, once again, this is clay with www.ModernLove.Life.

If you like the relationship inner game experience, please go ahead and give us a thumbs up, leave

a comment down below, go ahead and subscribe to the channel.

consider supporting us by signing up for one of our courses over @ www.ModernLove.Life

And of course, feel free to subscribe on itunes or youtube as well too.

Once again, this has been clay and I hope this has helped you improve your relationship

inner game.

Talk to you next week.

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10 TIPS TO BETTER VIDEOS - Duration: 10:01.

Want to make better quality videos -here are my 10 tips to better vids -

Hi, my name is Sue Ferreira, Founder of Wisdom To Wealth Mastery, where I show you how to

take your wisdom to the world with video and the other cutting edge web tools, so you can

grow your reach, influence, impact and income and become known, liked and trusted.

Subscribe to my youtube channel to learn more about how to take your message to a wide audience.

Click the Subscribe Button below and then click the Bell icon to receive a message each

time I upload a new video.

So back to my video tips - Tip #1.

Lens Position Have you watched a video where camera is way

below the speaker, who is looking down at you?

It makes you feel feel inferior, intimidated, right?

The correct position for the camera lens is to

place it level with the Bindi Spot, the red dot ladies from India have between just above

the bridge of the nose.

Unless you are looking for special angle shots, having your camera lens at eye level is a

ideal, whether you are videoing inside or outdoors.

2.

Lighting Lighting can be a challenge, but aim to make

it evenly distributed across your face, whilst not washing out all your features with over

bright light.

When outdoors, face the sun.

Having the sun behind you will put your face in shadow, but when filming outdoors, be aware

that there is often a lot of extraneous noise, that our brains filter out, that will be a

distraction on video.

Indoors, the simplest and easiest way to light your video is to use natural light by facing

a window, but the background may not be ideal, when facing the window.

You may prefer a different background, so you face may be unevenly lit.

To equalize the light on your face, use a table lamp or better, a

photographic LED Light with a dimmable control, to brighten the darker

side of your face.

A link to an inexpensive, dimmable LED light is at the Addendum of this pdf.

Lighting is very important to a producing a good video and you may have to try various

options, move things around a little, until you find the best position.

3.

Your Stance Should you standing or sit to deliver your

message?

Either works, but when beginning to make videos, it is preferable to stand, as you gain greater

freedom of movement and expression.

Once you are more practised with video, you will find you can sit and still create engagement,

but often beginners feel more comfortable standing.

Whether you are standing or sitting, don't bring your hands towards and close to the

camera, as they appear huge and never point at the lens, as it is very accusatory.

Avoid crossing your arms, as this is a defensive and passive aggressive position projecting

anxiety or insecurity or it can be the "bully" pose, of intimidation.

4.

Speak With Enthusiasm At first, you will feel awkward or inauthentic,

but ham up your speaking a little - be animated.

If you use your regular speaking voice, the audio on your video will sound very flat.

Practice making a video with your normal voice and then second video with your "enthusiastic

voice" and see the difference.

5.

Maintain Eye Contact How many videos have you watched, where the

speaker is not looking at the lens?

Maintaining eye contact is so important in engaging your viewer.

Looking into the lens of a camera or camcorder lens is simple, however, the one drawback

of using a smartphone to create video is the lens is off to the side.

When using the front camera, you can see yourself and stay within the field of view, but your

psychological need to make eye contact is so strong, you will feel the need move your

eyes to the smartphone screen to make eye contact with yourself.

With practice, you will be able to look at the small smartphone lens and avoid looking

at yourself.

6.

Aspect Ratio - Landscape v Portrait This topic - Landscape v Portrait is an ongoing

discussion in the video world.

The decision is yours but for me, Landscape view with an aspect ratio of 16:9 is the most

professional.

This is Aspect Ratio of YouTube Videos and is the most commonly used aspect ratio today.

For me, the Portrait aspect, where a smartphone records vertically with bars at the sides

is amateur.

It's acceptable for a quick video, but for anything lasting, any permanent video that

matters in your business, Portrait view is a good choice.

7.

Be Professional As the first step of any application to work

with him, a friend of mine requests a video application be posted.

This saves him time, as he immediately eliminates the candidates, who wear their pjs in their

application video.

Yes, I happens regularly!

Always project the your brand, your image on your videos.

8.

Dress Code Wear colourful clothes, solid strong colours.

Often videos have a white or beige background.

Wearing white or beige clothing merges you into the backdrop.

Some jazzy patterns will be difficult on the eyes on video playback, so if you plan on

wearing a strong pattern, with say stripes, make a test video first to ensure the pattern

stands up well to video processing.

Make Up Video lighting can wash out your facial features,

so wear a heavier make up than usual.

When recording video, earrings, necklace or bangles, which make a noise are the death

knell to good audio and good audio quality is more important that good video.

Any microphone, but especially the head microphones worn by TED speakers will pick up earring

or necklace sounds.

If you are to use a lapel or lavalier microphone, the little clip-on microphone most broadcasters

wear, make sure you have a neckline or lapel that will accommodate a clip-on microphone

well away from your chin or larynx.

A high neck line or a turtle neck won't work, so you will also need to wear a jacket

with a lapel, which will take the clip.

9.

Stand Away From The Backdrop.

Do you want your video to look as though you are having a Mug Shot in the felon line up

at the Cop Shop?

Many beginner videos are recorded with the subject far too close to the backdrop.

Sometimes it is a challenge to be a decent distance from the wall, but do your best not

to be flat against it.

10 Rule Of Thirds or Rule Of Nines When recording a video for an application

or similar reason, placing yourself or the subject of the video in the centre of the

screen works well, but for some reason, our brains feel "happiest" when the subject

is set on one of the many Thirds or Nines on a screen.

If you want to add text or images to your videos, again setting yourself on one of the

vertical Thirds gives you the space to add your text or images to the remaining two thirds

of the video.

And lastly a Bonus Tip Smile!

This is not as easy as it looks when you are thinking hard about what you are saying, but

again, practice makes perfect.

Place a note somewhere close to lens with the word "smile" on it to remind you.

There are many more tips, but I hope these 10 tips are helpful and as always, have fun

pushing the red record button!

If you like this video, hit the Like button below, please share it with your friends.

They need this information too.

Leave a comment and be sure to subscribe to my channel.

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- My name's Adara.

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I really like reading books and I notice a lot of people

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More Than A Book Club has just give me like,

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