Hey Dan here, it's my last day around in Spain and I thought I would take
advantage of the finally good weather and do a little more filming here. You
might remember last month I published a video on five essential skills for any
ENFP and I asked which skill would you most like to see a follow up video on
and it was pretty unanimous that storytelling was something everyone
wants to get better at, so I'm planning to perhaps do an even longer guide to
storytelling, something where I break it down step by step by step, but in this
video I want to share three tips to tell a better story, three tips to captivate
your audience and have people hanging on your every word. I don't know if you've
ever done this, you probably haven't, I'm sure you're an amazing storyteller, but
maybe you've been out with someone where they're telling you a story and they're
laughing, they're laughing their ass off about how funny it is
and they're looking around and no one else is really laughing and they say:
Well, maybe you had to be there, that's your job as the storyteller and that's
gonna be the theme around these tips if your job is to help people feel like
they were there to feel the same emotions and have that same level of
laughter that you did, so tip number one: you've got to give the background
information. If you jump into a story right at the climax of it give away the
punchline at the beginning people don't know why it's funny,
you have to give the background, the build up. If you were at a party and
something really funny happened when you're telling the story, start at whose
party was it, why were you there, you know, who are these people around, you know
them from high school and so you have this backstory with everyone or the new
friends from work and that makes it awkward and kind of uncomfortable that
something happened, tell the backstory, get into the background, so by time you
get to the climax of the story people should know almost everything you know
about that environment, that situation, why you were there it's really important
so give all the background information, right, if you're telling a trip and the
trip is about this awkward romantic encounter you had and maybe you were on
the trip because you just recently broke up with someone and you were
going through kind of an emotional time so you were doing things a little new,
maybe being a little more wild than you usually are, work that into the story,
right, tell people: yeah well, I was going to Thailand because me and my ex were
just broken up and I was feeling like I needed a change and that's why I went
there, so I was being a little crazier than usual, build that background
information and it's so, so important to having other people understand where you
were coming from. Tip number two: Go a little longer than you feel is
comfortable. Usually with storytelling most people rush through things now
there are some people who did the opposite and they take way way too long
to get to the point but that's usually not the case usually people rush through
things because they're uncomfortable with attention being on them so you're
in a group of people you're telling a story and this is a story that could go
5, 10, 15 minutes but you'd like jump to the punchline 30 seconds in, that's
because you don't feel comfortable with that attention and so what you want to
do is really slow things down, be comfortable taking a while getting into
the background, getting into the important part of the story, same thing
actually applies for public speaking and of course telling stories well, public
speaking, right? Be comfortable with tension being on you and just take your
time and this is new to you, just remind yourself: Hey, take my time, breathe, tell
the whole story, half people hang on to every word when you do that you give
yourself the opportunity to get into those details I mentioned and that's
going to make for a much, much better story and the third tip is: You've got to
give perspective on where you're coming from. Don't try to tell the story from
this omniscient, you know, you see everything you're just telling exact
what happened, tell the story from your point of view get into what you were
feeling, get into what you were expecting, you know, hey so I said this and I
thought she would say something totally different, but then I was so surprised
because she said buh-buh-buh-buh-buh right? Get into your perspective if the
situation was really funny for you, it was sexy for you, it was emotional for
you, then tell it from your point of view so other people can experience those
exact same emotions. Now if you are an ENFP, there's a pretty good chance that
you're much better at telling emotion stories, talking about feelings and
expectations, then you are about descriptive storytelling, this is true
for me and it's been true for a lot of ENFP writers I work with. We're really
good at capturing a feeling we're not amazing at description in terms of like
what something looked like, the colors and the visuals so if you try to tell a
story based on the visuals and getting into that side of things like painting a
picture it probably won't be as powerful for you as if you paint an emotional
picture about how you're feeling what your expectations were what you thought
was gonna happen and then what really happened.
So give people the chance to see things through your eyes by getting into your
expectations your feelings and well, yeah, actually it's just those two your
expectations and your feelings and give people a chance to see it through your
eyes and they're gonna be hooked and they're gonna follow with you all along
the story and it will be like they were there with you, so at the end of your
story you won't have this awkward silence where you say hey maybe you had
to be there because everyone will feel like they were already there with you.
Thank you for watching, if you found this video helpful and you want to make sure
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