after making my Danielle Cohn video yesterday I got a really interesting
message about the potential of abuse and this is a really important topic
especially since I know so many of you have seen Ilya nations videos so in this
video we're gonna discuss some of those topics what is up everybody this is
Chris full of rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
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on Instagram so a lot of you know I'm trying to grow my Instagram to 10,000
followers so I can get that dang swipe up feature but I want to do announce
that I am going to start doing Instagram giveaways all right this will help me
grow it'll help you get some stuff so I'm gonna be giving away we wanted so
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so yeah this is a DM I got over on Instagram yesterday I know I get a ton a
ton of damns from all of you I try to apply with at least a couple of them a
day but I'm super busy obviously making videos being on the discord server the
Facebook group my son my girlfriend and all of that but anyways this one really
stuck out to me and it says this I'm watching your Danielle Cohn vid right now
and I find it kind of really interesting because that's how I acted and how I was
a lot of ways when I was that age but I also know I had been through a lot of
trauma by that point I'm wondering if something may have happened to her or
someone else in influencing her to act this way because I definitely needed to
be coached to know how to act that way kids don't just know how to do that
naturally anyways really good video I liked it a lot this
is an important subject it's when they said that I'm like you
right now we should discuss it this is a mental health Channel a lot of you have
come here from my elimination videos abuse and trauma childhood trauma is a
big deal so I will say this I will say this right now this is my big huge
disclaimer in no way shape or form am I suggesting that Danielle Cohn has been
through some sort of AA you know like physical abuse okay in no way at all is
it possible absolutely it's possible for everybody right but I would never make a
claim like that unless there was some evidence maybe a case opened up against
somebody but it's definitely possible like this young woman who messaged me
she had a lot of the same behaviors but when I was talking to this young woman
who messaged me on Instagram I talked about some other things that we should
we should definitely talk about it is important for anybody who has been
through abuse or trauma or even if your childhood was a little messed up even
because this can change the way that we act and it can explain some of the ways
that we act alright so I'm gonna give a few possible explanations obviously I
don't know Danielle I'm not diagnosing here but from my experience my knowledge
of mental health there's a few things that might be going on so one of the
first things I want to talk about is the possibility of neglect right emotional
neglect physical neglect whatever it is so as children we crave attention right
we meet attention we need to build a bond with our parents or with our
caregivers or with other people so what can happen to a lot of people is is that
when they don't get the attention from their parents or their caregivers or
their family even they start seeking attention in other ways right so with
someone like Danielle Cohn that can manifest into seeking attention online
seeking validation the way that happens is our brain says okay well if they're
not giving us that love and attention I need to seek it elsewhere so my mom and
I actually talked about this in a video I'm about to release over on her channel
about dysfunctional families but we could start seeking attention elsewhere
like for me for example I grew up with an alcoholic mom she did not give me
that attention so the way that manifest for me was I was always seeking the
attention of women okay and that's something that happens on this
subconscious level we don't know that we're doing it but this can also be the
reason why people dress you know provocatively and try to get attention
that way so what I want you to do do me a favor down in the comments let me know
let me know if you can relate to any of these things from your childhood like
were you neglected as a child so you seek attention in other ways maybe it's
from you know potential partners maybe it's at work maybe it's for friend do
you have attention seeking behaviors this is really important too because I
see a lot of children get misdiagnosed with ADHD for the way they act out in
school but a lot of them are being neglected at home so they're acting out
in school you see what I mean like this is why it's so important to get proper
diagnosis because some people just have attention-seeking behaviors and they
don't have an actual mental disorder the next topic I want to talk about is
there's a possibility that Danielle cone is trying to make her parents happy or
her family happy all right like you guys like I said in my last Danielle cone
video this isn't new this is not new at all there are so many shows out there
like what is it like Dance Moms like those little childhood pageant shows and
all of that like there are so many parents out there who are trying to have
their kid be successful because they weren't successful right there's so many
parents out there with in it and it breaks my heart um like like they try to
get their kid to pursue a career that their kid might not be interested in
maybe that sports maybe that's or it maybe that's music
maybe that's becoming a doctor maybe that's becoming a lawyer or whatever it
is and what can happen is kids do that just to appease their parents even
though it's not making them happy right like it seems like Danielle likes what
she's doing but I know a lot of you might be able to relate to this you're
doing things you're pursuing a career path just to make your parents happy
right and this is very important because we need to realize that our happiness
cannot be based on what other people want us to do like can you imagine being
30 40 years old being a doctor a lawyer an athlete or something and you've never
had a passion for it like think about that you guys time is our most valuable
asset and I know these are conversations to have with your family
or your parents or whoever it is but if they're pressuring you into a career
path that you are not passionate about you need to start setting up boundaries
all right like my parents never thought that I was gonna be doing what I'm doing
but they're so proud of me and one of the reasons they're proud of me is
because I'm happy like I have a son I have a son and I do not care what he
does with his life I don't care how much money he makes I
don't need to go brag to anybody about what career path my child took all I
want my son to do is be happy with whatever he's doing whatever that is and
I will fully support him no matter what like I I had to catch myself a few times
because I used to be in like professional video games and stuff like
that so sometimes I like pressure him into like Chris dial back down back
that's what you want you got to make sure that's what they want you know what
I mean so as parents we really just kind of support our kids but if you if you're
like I don't care if you're a teenager I don't care if you're in your 20s okay
for thirteen fourteen years old like you got plenty of time to figure out what
you want to do and you need to do this you you have to take control of your
life you cannot live your life for other people because I swear to you I swear to
you it will make you miserable it will make you resent your parents or people
in your life so make sure you're doing what you you want to do but someone like
Danielle pone can feel obligated to do something like this because she's
bringing in a lot of money she's bringing in a lot of money like somebody
commented on my video yesterday and said she's not a celebrity she just has a lot
of followers and I'm like Danielle Cohn is making more money than me and you
combined right like and her parents are probably relying on that her family
might be relying on that and you guys something that has come up too is when I
say money can't make you happy like you guys money might make you less stress
but it can't guarantee your happiness right like I see people say well if I
could pay my family's bills did I be happy no because you pay the family's
bills and you have no guarantee that that will even make them happy you have
a false unrealistic expectation that you buying something for somebody else is
going to make you happy because they have less stress in their life too I
hope that makes sense the last thing I want to talk about is how the message
said like you know young people don't do these
types of like you know provocative photos or sexy photos or whatever it is
without being coaching and I was talking to her about on Instagram is like I open
a much different time like if it was somebody who grew up in my time and like
I'm not super old I'm only 33 but like in the 90s before social media and stuff
yeah it would make sense that somebody would have to be posting this but you
guys like this is why we need to have conversations with our children about
value systems because Danielle code doesn't need to be coached by her
parents she doesn't need to be coached by you know a predator if you will like
look at social media look at look at what our kids are learning like look at
people like kit the Kardashian family right look at people like Tana mojo you
know what I mean young people are seeing and they're
making these connections like oh if that could just be beautiful or maybe if I
posed like this person and stick my butt out or do the duck lips or whatever it
is then people will like me then I will get attention then I will be popular
then I will be famous started out a down right so this is why we need to talk to
our children about their value systems because so many kids are growing up
thinking and I know a lot of you do too and you can leave comments on this as
well so many of us think if I could get this many followers then I'll be happy
if I could make this much money then I could be happy right and what we're
doing is some of us are sacrificing our morals and values and then we're
confused right then we get older and we're confused why oh my god people only
want me for my body not for my body my body ain't that great I like let me let
me make it perfectly clear to there's nothing wrong with this like love your
body appreciate your body if you got it flaunt it girl do yo thing alright but
we just need to check in with our value systems and we need to recognize like is
this healthy or unhealthy behaviors but we also need to realize too that our
children don't even need to be coached by us anymore
because they're being coached by social media they're being coached by YouTube
they're being coached by magazines does anybody read magazines they're being
coached by all these other things we as parents need to coach them right like
it's good to be fit it's good to be healthy if you want to be you know a
bodybuilder or you know get physically fit or whatever the heck it is go ahead
and do it okay but just realize that we are setting our kids up
for failure if we're making them think you need to look a certain way in order
to be successful or you need to take these types of pictures in order for
people to notice you because that's not the way the things should be alright
anyways let me know down in the comments below if you can relate to any of the
topics that I went over growing up whether you were neglected whether you
were doing things to appease your family or whether you were coached by like what
you see on social media or the news or magazines or whatever it is alright
anyways again just a reminder I'm going to be doing a lot of giveaways over on
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