What's up guys Gavin here and in this video we're gonna talk about one of the
biggest reasons why people get held back and are not able to achieve what they
want stay tuned let's go
alright guys so I learned this concept from why it would small who is probably
one of the best teachers of neuro linguistic programming on the planet one
of the best teachers of teaching you how to learn how to learn or what he also
calls learn how to learn how to learn which is called generative learning
which means you can generate your own ability to learn faster and process
information and become wise which is almost mind-blowing when you really
think about the concept because the school we were never taught that we were
taught one of the lowest levels which he talks about which is rote learning which
is memorization and regurgitation in and of itself and that's what most of the
education system teaches but he talked about this one concept which is what he
believes is holding most people back from achieving the things they want so
he's talking to one of his friends and his friends like Wyatt you do all this
NLP why don't you help me with some of the problems in my life why don't you
help me achieve what I want in my life and he says okay great what do you want
and they'd be like Oh awesome you're gonna help me
he said no what do you want and they would say well I want this this and this
and he's like oh great no problem all you have to do is this this and this if
you want to achieve those things just do this this and this and they'd say but
Wyatt I can't do that and he'd say well why not and they'd say because that
wouldn't be me and he said of course of course that wouldn't be you that's what
change is about becoming not you if you want your life to change you're gonna
have to do things that you've never done you're gonna have to become somebody who
doesn't currently get the things that you have right the person that you
currently are the actions you're taking the behaviors all of the things have
accumulated into getting you to where you are now that's not gonna get you to
the things that you want most likely because the reason why you're at where
you are at right now is because of who you currently are and who you have been
in the past and there's a lot of talking know these days about you'll be your
authentic self and just be you and yeah I believe that right live live through
who you think you are in your gut and what your heart says and go after the
things that you want but that doesn't mean don't do things different to get
different results so a lot of times people will get stuck in their past
identity and think living authentically is just being their past and being their
present self that's not necessarily what it is if you have a dream of what you
want in the future you actually have to become a different version of you now
here's the biggest problem here's where it gets a little bit deeper so the
biggest reason why people get stuck in you know the same position in life and
have a hard time evolving and moving forward is because of who they believe
their identity to be but even more insidious is they get stuck there
because of what everyone around them thinks their identity is and that causes
them to every time they try to step outside and try something new or try to
start a business everyone around them starts going hey you that's a kind of
crazy idea are you sure you can do that are you sure you're gonna be able to do
the business I don't know if that's gonna be possible I don't know if that's
for you and they're gonna start thinking you're a bit crazy because you're
stepping outside of the identity of who they believe you are and if you have
enough people around you your friends your family all those people who are
trying to keep you in your identity you're gonna have a really hard time
evolving and becoming not you so you're gonna be actually trapped in that
identity even worse if you start to gain some success in these areas or if you're
like moving into that and they see you evolving and growing they're actually
gonna unconsciously try to kind of tear you down to bring you back because just
like the crabs in a bucket if a crabs tries to climb out of the bucket the
other one grabs it and pulls it back in if the other one tries to climb up the
other one grabs it back in human beings are very similar if you have a bunch of
friends and if there's like five friends and one of them starts to like you know
succeed and break out of the crowd they're gonna try to figure out like oh
we got to get him out to come drink more with us we got to get him to party more
oh he's teach changing man he's changing what's wrong Bubba and they're gonna
start to try to tear him down to bring him back so he stays in the group not
because they don't want him to succeed but because they feel less when you are
succeeding so that's one piece of a your identity is keeping your trap so
how I've been able to break free from this over the years is what Y it would
small says becoming systematically outrageous and you're gonna have to
start to do this kind of one thing at a time to the point where you are free and
your identity is free how do you do this well to become systematically outrageous
you have to start to do some things are a little bit outside of your comfort
zone that are a little bit outside of you so I started doing yoga then I would
start to do some weird ecstatic dance and then I would start to do travel here
and do this and do that and people eventually got to a point where they
think my identity is someone who's always doing a bunch of crazy different
things so now nobody ever like questions when I'm doing something weird or out of
the ordinary because everything is out of the ordinary everything is different
so I've been able to free my identity so people can see that that's Who I am I am
just someone who does whatever the heck they want whenever they want to do it
with who I want to do it with however much I want to do it that is my identity
but if your identity is everyday going and doing the same routine hanging out
with the same people bla bla bla bla bla then you get to the
point where if you step outside of that they're gonna ask you why you've been a
little weird today what's going on you should probably come back to the dark
side come back you know they're gonna be scared and then they're gonna start to
say I don't know if you should go after that business idea I don't know if you
should travel there I don't know if you that's not really you man
if you're stuck there it's gonna be really hard to break free and become
more than you currently are but you have to ask yourself are your dreams and that
movie and that vision of what you truly want your life to look like is it worth
it is it worth stepping stepping outside of these comfort zones to achieve that
life is it worth sacrificing going out with your friends as much is it worth
trying something new and testing out some new things is it worth getting
outside your comfort zone along the way is are all those things worth it is your
dream big enough or is it easier to just stay comfortable and stay who you are I
really believe in becoming not you becoming systematically outrageous
becoming a little bit crazy so you can actually achieve anything you want you
can do anything you want you can be whoever you want that's
to me a much more exciting adventurous way to live in this world so guys if you
like this video like comment subscribe hit that Bell notification gonna be
dropping a lot more of these I'm gonna try to get like 4 videos out a week if I
can and I'm gonna keep bringing this content to you guys that's helped me so
much over my life every piece of content that I share with you at one point was
like a lightbulb epiphany moment like wow that makes so much sense
if I start to apply this in my life I'm gonna be able to live in these crazy
Bali villas with amazing people having awesome businesses traveling around the
world doing all these cool stuff I saw that vision before even though my
identity wasn't that I slowly one step at a time started breaking free and now
I can do do what I want when I want with who I want however much I want and
contribute to the world and give as much value as I possibly can and that's where
I wanted to be and that's where I am I want you to be there too and come along
for the journey that's it for the video guys we'll talk soon peace
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