Part A, Concept
All living organisms communicate.
Out of all the organisms,
it is safe to say that human species conduct most complex form of communication.
Humans, either verbally or not, communicate restless for 24 hours a day.
Humans communicate 24 hours using mouth, eyes, or gestures.
A conversation can be engaged by anyone whenever.
Every person has their own way of making a conversation.
Most people believe their way of making a conversation is 'appropriate' most of the time
and apparently, they have been successful using their own conversation techniques.
To wrap it up.
A conversation is conducted by anyone.
Anyone will assume their conversation technique is right.
Usually, people don't need significant conversation techniques.
In that case, when do people feel that they need a certain technique?
It's simple.
For instance, if you are in a situation where the 'dialogue' can be very important,
you feel the need for a certain conversation technique.
You will feel that you need conversation techniques
when a conversation didn't get you the desired result.
Tomorrow, you might have an important meeting with a VIP client.
Tomorrow, you might have a job interview for a company you wanted to work for.
Tomorrow, you might have an important presentation.
Tomorrow, you might have a sales meeting for a big deal.
Tomorrow, there might be a social party you have been waiting for.
Of course, you would do well. You have been wise in handling situations until now.
However, whether you've been handling situations well or not,
when a conversation is at stake, you probably will need a certain conversation technique.
Because,
If you lack confidence in having a conversation,
then you would be insecure about having one.
Even if you are confident in having conversation,
you have the desire and room for improvement.
For these reasons, we search for conversation techniques.
We obtain information about conversation techniques via internet sources
such as Youtube, Facebook and google.
We buy e-books and books about conversation techniques.
We attend seminars and listen to podcasts about conversations.
In fact, all these activities are appropriate.
I respect your urge to improve
and the many mentors all over the world who've revealed the conversation techniques.
However, please listen to my story if you feel that your learning curve isn't moving up.
Why did you choose 'Unlimited Conversation'?
Is it because your conversation techniques haven't been useful in important situations?
If yes, what is the reason?
You haven't used the conversation technique very well.
If you have been attaining such conversation techniques
as referencing from scripts or storytelling, your improvement could be limited by them.
A conversation takes place real-time.
Moreover, there are unlimited ways and patterns a conversation takes place.
So, the dialogue and script you've prepared beforehand
cannot respond to various unexpected turnouts.
And using script, fundamentally discourages the way you've been talking all your life.
You head may accept the technique, but your mind will not be able to accept it.
Also, when you run into a situation which is not in the script,
you will be easily discouraged and feel frustrated.
So, you would need more searching for other scripts.
In the end, you become a simple collector of conversation techniques.
There are limits to memorizing.
It is not easy to recall the script or what the technique has taught you to do from memory
while you are engaged in a conversation with another person.
Unless the situation requires only few minutes of conversation,
few dialogues or a one-sided presentation,
you will soon run out of things to say using such technique.
You are believing in an unrealistic technique.
You will start looking for other methods
when there is trouble responding to various situations
and your memory starts to fail you.
Such would include general conversation advices.
Some examples are to have confidence,
use sense of humor and pay attention to the other person.
I believe these advices are correct.
You do need to have confidence, have sense of humor and listen to the other person.
But, I think there are limitations fundamentally apparent in these advices.
How do you show confidence in a conversation?
How do you put funny elements in conversations?
How do you pay attention to the other person?
I believe, following these advices are realistically very difficult.
These advices seem easy and simple,
but actually, they are very difficult to absorb and make an output.
What do you think? 'Unlimited Conversation' is going to suggest something else.
There is no direct relation to a conversation.
Out of advices you hear frequently, there is one saying to use 'your sincerity'.
I believe you already have sincerity.
Anyone in a conversation, have somewhat of a desire to pay attention and be truthful.
Even a con artist, use sincerity to fool other people.
Someone who dislikes you will pay attention to you to criticize what you have to say.
The core of conversation technique is not about being truthful.
People are not bad in having conversations because they don't have sincerity.
It is because of lack of conversation techniques that you can't deliver your sincerity.
What is your opinion on the necessity of humor in a conversation?
Or, the importance of pronunciation and body-language in a conversation?
You are probably well aware of the rightful situations which needs some sense of humor
or otherwise.
Being funny at the wrong timing can bring negative results.
Sense of humor can be a supplementary aspect in a conversation
but it is not an essential factor.
If humor was essential in a conversation,
every eloquent speaker in the world would be comedians.
Pronunciation and body-language helps in a conversation.
But they are not the core factors in a conversation.
A person who is good at having conversations can become an eloquent speaker
if he possesses appropriate body language and pronunciation.
But is a person with good body-language and pronunciation
is not good at having a conversation, then that person is not an eloquent speaker.
Dr. Stephen Hawking does not have good pronunciation or body-language
but, he is making astounding conversations.
Ultimately, a conversation technique has to be the conversation itself.
Humor, pronunciation and body-language
are all supplementary parts of a good conversation
but they alone can't be a conversation technique.
To sum it up,
what are the reasons why conversation techniques weren't able to improve you?
You weren't able to fully utilize conversation techniques.
You have limitations in memorizing.
You are believing in an unrealizable technique.
It is not directly related to the conversation.
For these reasons, you weren't able to learn the conversation technique.
Rather, you became a collector of conversation techniques.
If so, what is the reason for 'unsatisfactory conversation'?
That is because you have no idea on 'what is needed to be said'.
In other words, there is no 'Topic'.
When you are about to write something, what is the reason to draft an outline first?
It can be said that it is done to choose a 'Topic'.
It's very simple.
The reason for lack of conversation is because there is no topic.
I believe the core conversation technique is the ability to make topics.
A car is needed to drive.
Baseball equipment are needed to play baseball.
Money is needed to buy things.
And a topic is needed to make a conversation.
If you have a car, you can drive it around yourself to learn the maneuvers.
If you have plenty of topics to talk about,
you can practice yourself to learn your own style of conversation technique.
I've produced "Unlimited Conversation"
because I've reached a conclusion that core factor in a conversation is the 'topic'.
Conversations are made up with infinite number of ways and patterns of words.
What would you need to freely use all of the patterns?
Whether having a conversation anywhere, any situation to whoever,
the ability to come up with 'topics' will strengthen the basics of conducting a conversation.
All you need to do is to utilize the numerous topics
you come up through 'Unlimited Conversation' exercises
in to your daily life conversations.
This is the solution I'm providing you.
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