Waching daily Jul 2 2017

The myth of the rich foreigner from Australia

The rich foreigner!

An important topic to both overseas Filipinos and to their Australian spouses In short,

most of your relatives in the Philippines think you and your Australian husband are

rich and have an endless supply of money.

They also think it's OK to share in this wealth freely.

And if you're part of an Australian Filipina relationship you need

to learn to deal with it.

All foreigners are rich There is a concept going around that everyone

who lives in Australia is rich.

The same myth applies to America and other foreign countries.

Anyone who lives overseas has a money tree growing in the yard,

and nothing is ever too much for them.

They have everything, and of course they will share it with you.

It's only fair after all.

There is no understanding of the cost of living in Australia.

No one could imagine you having to pay $300.00 or more per week in rent, or the cost

of owning and running a car.

A cappuccino costs you $4.00 to $5.00.

A beer could cost you $7.00.

Steak costs you $20.00 a kg at the supermarket.

There are no cheap tricycle or jeepney rides.

Yes, maybe you earn $1,000.00 a week, but it disappears fairly quickly.

No one realizes that.

And there is this concept of being entitled to share in the good fortune of a relative.

What's mine is yours.

They would and have always shared what they had with you, and given that you have more

to share then of course the ball is in your court

to be more generous.

Fortune smiled on you, therefore it's up to you to help out the family members and

to spread that wealth.

Pasalubong Pasalubong is a Tagalog word which describes

gifts and handouts that a returning balikbayan (returning

countryman) is expected to bring with them.

And relatives will often descend on the house of the

balikbayan relative expecting this.

Children are sometimes encouraged to ask "Where is my gift?"

I know!

Gets on my nerves too!

But if you get annoyed, you will end up with a room full of confused

people.

This is one of those cultural differences.

As an Australian it never occurs to you that you have an

obligation to purchase gifts for everyone when you travel, but here it most certainly

is.

Even taking a trip to another town in the Philippines means purchasing

things to distribute on your return.

Snack foods such as pili nut candies, dried mangos, buku

pie, chicharon, etc as well as caps, tshirts, ornaments, etc

are the usual.

And it doesn't end there.

I've heard of cases of relatives going through the suitcase and just helping

themselves, and of saying "I like that shirt.

Can I have it?"

And of course expecting to be taken to resorts, restaurants, etc during a visit and

to have the bill taken care of.

How to deal with the pasalubong mentality?

Like always, this isn't meant to be a criticism of Filipino culture, or a "Aussies know best"

rant.

This is purely cultural, and cultural differences

can be confusing and can cause misunderstanding when

interpreted according to our own cultural conditioning.

If you grow up having been taught to never ask

someone for a gift, and you hear a kid literally demanding one?

It makes the hairs on the back of your neck stand up.

And if you grew up fiercely independent like most Aussies did, you find the concept of

someone wanting to share in the wealth of others a bit of a shock.

Aussies are proudly independent, and generally have a don't-take-handouts mentality.

My wife sees her elderly parents.

They won't ever ask for anything, however they appreciate it when

they're given a couple of thousand Pesos.

Mila gives as a sign of love, and they take it as just that.

We used to visit my mum when she was still alive,

and Mila would always try to indirectly stock her pantry

without her noticing because she knew she would have said "No thanks, I'm fine!" if

she had offered money or anything at all really.

So Mila would place new bottles of shampoo in the bathroom, and

"forget" when we left.

She did the same thing in the food cupboard too.

Well, my mother DID notice and no she didn't like it.

To an Aussie it means saying she can't cope, and an Aussie would rather do-without

than to take charity.

But as I've covered before, the Philippines is an interdependent country.

People depend on each other, and they see no indignity in letting

those who care about them take care of them when they

need.

And even if they have less need, the fact that someone remembers them means everything.

Sadly though, greed exists and money can corrupt.

And poverty combined with jealousy can bring out the worst in people.

Again, how to manage it?

Try to see the difference between those who just enjoy that family-

thing and those who are parasites and opportunists.

Because yes there are those greedy users and abusers around, and every family seems to

have a few.

The more they get, the more they want.

And try to educate them about the realities of your life and let them know that you also

need to budget and live within your means just like

they do.

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Letting Go of the Past - Duration: 3:39.

[Intro Music plays: Calm by Silent Partner] Hey guys, it's Katelyn!

Welcome or welcome back to my channel.

Today's video is just going to be an update on my progress towards positivity and just

a change that I've noticed in my attitude overall.

That change is that I no longer dwell on my past, or at least I haven't done it in two

or three weeks.

I made this realization like a week ago, or maybe a little bit over then, and I was really

happy at first.

I wish I could be as energetic as I was then in this video.

I used to be such a huge dweller.

I was so obsessed over the past and things I thought were mistakes: things I did say,

what I did in general, people who are no longer part of my life, and even things I didn't

say, what I didn't do.

Whatever it was, I would relive the same memories, the same thoughts over and over and over again.

It would consume me.

It would prevent me from enjoying the present and looking forward to the future.

I think that a huge I've noticed since I realized that I haven't been thinking about the past

as much is now that I've been reflecting on it more recently because of this realization,

it's a lot healthier.

It's a lot more sensible of an approach.

I can look at the things that have happened and the things that I used to feel so bad

about, so guilty about, things I thought were mistakes and instead of saying "Oh yeah that

was a mistake.

I feel terrible about that," and just leaving it there and sitting in that mood of "I feel

terrible.

I feel guilty," I'm just letting go of the emotional attachment I have for certain memories

and certain events that have happened and taking it more as a learning experience.

If I really felt like something I did wasn't right or [if there is]something I didn't do

that I really need to start doing in the future, I'm going to apply that to future events.

I'm going to enhance my life from this moment on instead of worrying about it.

Outside of learning from my mistakes, I've also viewed my past more positively in that

it's a part of me.

I would not be the person that I am today had I not gone through certain things, lost

certain people, made all those things that I consider mistakes, I don't think I could

appreciate the same things.

I don't think I would enjoy certain things as much as I do because I understand what

it's like not to have certain aspects of my life.

I can appreciate that certain people were at least part of my life at some point and

that we enjoyed each other's company at some point.

Either we've grown apart or something happened where we're no longer friends.

I don't have to focus on the negative things about my past.

I can just appreciate certain parts of my life as being parts of my life.

Alright guys!

That's really all so have to say in what I'm calling an update on my personal progress/my

progress with positivity.

I hope you guys enjoyed this little chat and I'll talk to you again soon.

Bye!

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What doesn't kill you makes you stronger - Duration: 3:00.

hey guys it's PC so today I have another short video for you on another cold that

I just wanna talk to you guys a little bit about so the cold

basically goes like if you never try you'll never know so it could mean with

anything so like say for instance maybe maybe you're a chick and you like a guy

um maybe you should you should maybe go talk to him go say hi to him or

something because if if you don't try if you don't say hi to him then you'll

never know if maybe he likes you too or something you never know you have to try

these things or like let's say another example maybe you're good at playing

basketball and in school the they're about to start the round ups for the

basketball team like to get their players to get their teams or whatever

if you don't try if you don't go out and try out for the team then you'll never

know if you were gonna make it or not they're gonna choose you for the team or

not so yeah guys um for that poll if you never try you'll never know it goes with

anything so if there's something that you want but you're afraid to get it

like just take that chance don't be afraid go ahead and try it and

yeah like if you don't try it then like that cool says you'll never know I know

that sometimes swimming to these videos I repeat myself a lot of times

sometimes right for me Princeton sometimes I need someone to repeat

something to me more than once so that I could understand it really understand it

and really comprehend it and take it in here and have it all tight just by just

all the information inside of me so that I could be able to comprehend it well

and understand it I hope that you guys like this video if you did then go ahead

and give it a thumbs up and go ahead and subscribe yourselves if you guys want to

keep seeing videos like this or other stuff I take recommendations I'll go

ahead and comment down what you want to see in the comment section box below um

I'll talk to you guys later

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Just World. Do you believe? - Duration: 5:04.

What exactly is Belief in a Just World?

It's the conviction that people get what they deserve and deserve what they get.

Very much like Karma.

So when do we start believing in Belief in a Just World?

Well, according to Lerner's 1980 just-world theory,

it typically happens when kids stop looking for quick rewards and

start respecting moral rules and conventions in return for longer-term rewards.

You know the old saying, "You reap what you sow".

Well, thats much like it.

Well Lerner wanted answers to why cruel regimes

maintained popular support and why people accept

the norms and laws that bring suffering.

Time went on and he noticed a few things like,

his students belittling the poor,

who were apparently oblivious to the social structures that caused it, and

good doctors blaming mentally ill patients for their own suffering.

In 1966, he used shock paradigms to see how observers reacted to victimization.

At the University of Kansas, 72 females

were chosen to watch a confederate be shocked.

Initially they felt sympathy as they watched.

But, after watching with no chance of helping, they started to degrade him.

Its also worth noting, the greater the suffering,

the greater the degradation.

This changed when they were told the confederate

was receiving compensation for his suffering.

So, why in the world did they act that way?

Well Lerner theorized that a just world is a functional one,

that is, its the idea that one can influence the world in a predictable way.

This means that it's important for people to

believe in this to maintain their own well-being.

Since of course, we know the world isn't always

kind, even to the deserving.

And of course we being who we are,

we've developed strategies to help us sort through the threats to this belief.

For instance, by using rational strategies:

accepting the reality of injustice,

trying to stop it,

being open to our limitations.

Versus the irrational:

denial,

withdrawal from society,

or a reinterpretation of events,

commonly, victim blaming.

From the 1970's to the present day, research has still been ongoing.

Let's take Illnesses for example.

A different set of researchers found that observers

see sick people as responsible for their own illness, regardless of how they became sick.

In one experiment, they found the more attractive

you were the less likely you were to be degraded.

Interestingly enough, severe illnesses were met with degradation

unless you were a cancer patient, in which you were not degraded.

We can even see it with poverty.

The unfortunate thing about this is that no matter

what external causes that surround a persons life

that led to poverty, people will not only blame the

poor for their own misfortune.

But they'll ignore the

external factors like the economic systems, war or even exploitation.

As another example, we can talk about violence.

I have to note the next example concerns violence against a fictional woman,

short and vague as it may be, you may want to skip it

if you believe it'll bring you personal pain.

Click on the link at the bottom of the screen to skip past it.

Now research done by Linda Carli and colleagues took two

groups of subjects, and told them a story of a man

and a woman.

keeping both stories the same, but changing the ending.

Group A received a neutral ending,

think of how a normal meeting would end.

Group B on the other hand received the ending where the man raped the woman.

The rape ending was deemed unavoidable and the

woman was blamed in the story based on her behaviour,

instead of her characteristics, like strength instance.

This study was repeated and found to produce similar results,

even when changing the neutral ending to a marriage proposal.

Its a shame that some blame themselves for traumatic events that are uncontrollable.

A paper by Dr. Ronnie Janoff-Bulman found rape victims blamed themselves,

based on their own behaviour instead of their own characteristics,

the same answer as the observers gave in Linda Carli's study.

Now it's because of the consistency of the studies that have led just-world theory

to be widely accepted around the globe.

Now this doesn't mean the entire world shares the same level of belief.

The level of belief has found that right-wing authoritarianism,

protestant work ethic,

and aspects of religiousness have a strong positive correlation.

But, the biggest differences may be found through cross-cultural studies.

One study suggests that in countries where the citizens are powerless,

the belief system is much weaker than in those where citizens have more power.

Its supposed that its because these people have had experiences that

solidify the understanding that the world isn't just and predictable.

With this we can understand why crime tends to be high in these regions.

So Belief in a Just World, terrible right?

Well yes..

and no.

Current research suggests that Belief in a Just World

may be necessary for our mental health.

It acts as a coping mechanism by giving us a sense

of control over things that stress us out or with traumatic events.

Its acts as our positive illusion in a sense.

More research is definitely needed to fully understand this phenomenon.

With work mainly being done in the U.S., Europe, Australia and Asia.

Well that's it, I hope you enjoyed this video and

if your in the mood to learn more in 5 minutes or so

come back in two weeks for the next one.

Bye for now.