Have you ever had something in your life that you really really wanted but you
couldn't get yourself to stick to the actions that you know you need to take
in order to make it happen
The common reason we give ourselves on these
repeatedly failed goals is that we do not have enough motivation. Now anytime
you think that you don't have motivation or any time you find yourself waiting
till you have motivation you are stuck in a trap
And it's a trap for two reasons
The first is that anytime you are in that place motivation sounds like
this magical thing that once you have it you're going to be all energized
enthusiastic and hyped up to go ahead and do something that you're actually
fearful of doing
Now the second reason it's a trap is because we have far more
control of our actions than we have of our feelings and when you wait till you
feel motivated you are relying more on your feelings than you are relying on
your actions
And I could prove this to you that you have more control over your
actions than of your feelings suppose that you are scared of heights and I
hold a gun to your head and tell you that if you do not go skydiving right
now I'm going to shoot you are you going to go skydiving? of course you are. Now
what happens if I tell you that I don't let you to be scared and if you feel
scared when you skydive i'm gonna shoot you do you have any way to stop being scared?
absolutely not because our emotions are just doing their thing. Now if you take
that story and apply it to something that you currently feel unmotivated
about if you think about it you have a lot of negative thoughts, fears, negative
feelings and even past traumas that are stopping you from doing whatever you
want to do in the first place and you are trying to wait till that moment that
all of these fears and all of these negative thoughts are going to disappear
and you're going to feel all hyped and energized but that time is not going to
come because all of these negative thoughts and fears are way stronger than
the hype that you are so wishing for
So what is motivation? Motivation is the
desire to do something. In general we have two types of desires that run our
life all the time. The desire to avoid discomfort and the desire to act on our
values. These two desires are in a constant battle with each other and
anytime that you have a something that you want to do you're going to have the
option to pick between the desire to avoid discomfort or the desire to act on
your values now most of the time we get used to acting on the desire of avoiding
discomfort just because that's our initial reaction and a lot of times you
don't even know that we could choose differently and act on our values
instead now we can't really eliminate our initial reaction of avoiding
discomfort that's why whenever you feel that all you should do is just accept it
as a fact that that's what it is and then go ahead and choose to act on
your values. And to do that you change the mindset in your head for motivation
to the mindset of commitment. commitment is whenever you act despite what you're
feeling despite what you're experiencing at that
moment and if you think about it any really long term goal that you had you
were on the commitment mindset and not on the motivation mindset because we all
have ups and downs when we do something we all have times when we feel less empowered
where you feel less energetic and yet we go ahead and do it anyway because we
understand that commitment is more important
So how do you apply this
whenever you have something that you are unmotivated about whenever you have that
moment that you feel unmotivated but yet you know you need
to go ahead and act on your values
So number one is, try to identify what desire is driving you at
that specific moment is it the desire to avoid discomfort or is it the desire to
act on your values Now the second thing is to understand that also if it is the
desire to avoid discomfort that it's normal and this is important because a
lot of times we try to resist that or we try to think that something's wrong with
us when in fact nothing is wrong with us and it's perfectly normal as
long as we understand that that's our initial reaction and it's okay that
that's our initial reaction we could decide and choose to do differently and
to act on our values instead
Now the third thing is to ask yourself how would
this affect me if I allow this specific desire dictate my actions? Would this
create a more fulfilling life? Would this help my life go in the direction that I
want it to go? If the answer is yes then awesome if not then you might have
to reconsider acting on that desire
At the end of the day any time we go out of
our comfort zone any time we do something that
we feel scared about we're not going to feel all energized and hyped up and it's
important to learn to ask these questions to yourself every time you
feel it that way you learn to act on your values and not act on your initial
reaction which is to avoid discomfort.
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