RTM planning is a way to maximize the results of your life and maximize your
sense of fulfillment and joy It's both in order to do that we got to change
what we focus on from the question of what do I have to do - what's my outcome
what do I want what's most important to me what's the result I'm committed to
getting that one change will change completely how you respond on your life
because it will change you from focusing where everyone's demanding your
attention or what you're afraid of or what might give you pleasure in the
moment to what's most important to you and those by the way are the three
things to get our focus if we don't discipline ourselves what keeps our
focus something we're afraid of something to give us pain what's the
second thing - gets our focus we don't pay attention some will give us pleasure
I can't wait I'm so stressed out oh that chocolates looking good oh that you know
I'm gonna go over to have my little coffee you know it's my smoke a mocha
don't go to clean this thing and that thing and I'm going to escape for view
Lomas because the focus is how to feel good how to not feel bad how to feel
good what's the third thing gets your focus other people's demands where do
they come from today where do you get other people's demands only face to face
so you used to have that one handle right okay well I know they're coming
down the elevator I'll go over here you know I know they're going to lunch at
this time I'll come back at that time how many ever plays this game at one
time in your life was like I don't want to deal with this right now so you just
put yourself in a different location to avoid the stimulus of someone else's
demand I'm going to used to do that say I
does it work anymore no they're instant messaging you they're emailing you right
there or they're everywhere I just triggers in every way for this to occur
pick up the phone and call you and where's the phone nail in your pocket
and by the way if you're not there they left your voicemail you got another job
answering your voicemail think about it so today it's pretty hard to avoid the
demands it's not necessarily there are more demands it's just that were
accessible to more demands and if you don't know what you want you
don't know why it's a must for you to achieve it and you don't have a plan I
could promise you something you're gonna fit in everybody else's plan and you're
gonna wonder why you're stressed you're gonna wonder why I'm not fulfilled what
is causing how do you know when it's a long time how do you know when it's a
short time it's not because of ten minutes or ten hours how many been in
ten hours and time flew because you loved what you're doing didn't have any
sense of time whatsoever how many got that experience say I how many had ten
minutes feel like ten years you want to kill somebody to get out of the
situation so what is time time is emotion got to remember that time is
emotion what you're really managing is emotion in other words that would be
meaning or fulfillment focus is power but you're going to take it take it back
take back that power and you got to know when you do that that focus how to chunk
it how to group it so you're not overwhelmed let me show you how to make
it simpler when mass information is coming at you you get overwhelmed most
of us are great deletion creatures we delete most of life right now there are
millions and things around you you could be focusing on think about getting
meanings to making decisions about what they do millions right now you can be
focusing on the blood rushing through your left eardrum or the ceiling of your
skin against your body but most of you delete that you don't even think about
clothing against your skin until I mention it or your heartbeat most of the
universe you've deleted because you'd go crazy if you try to think about it all
because human beings have a limited amount they can focus on at one time and
most your stress is because you're thinking about too many things at once
in fact when people don't do things it's not because they can't it's not even
because they don't want to it's because of the way they are focusing or what I
call chunking and things when people don't follow through here's what they do
give an example who here believes exercise is very important but you don't
exercise regularly let me see your hands raise your hand
more hands than most of us punch great Cheyenne right now who here really
focuses I should say exercises regularly raise your hand regularly okay great
who here does not exercise regularly even though you believe it's important
just because okay great so let's see what the differences here a person who
does not exercise regularly at once you raise your hand and I want you to tell
me why you don't exercise regular be truthful okay
yes sir I don't have to talk that is that true even though that's not sure
he's gonna answer your verse no but it feels like he doesn't at a time because
time is emotion and he's got so many other things he is focused on getting
results in the adding this to the list seems like a lot Friday and the other
things are very important to him like his business I don't have a time he has
the time what's the real reason he hasn't do it because of the way he
thinks about exercise when he focuses on what it would take to exercise he does
it very differently than someone who follows through when you think about
exercising what's involved okay he starts thinking about I got to get to
mile 14 of the London Marathon and that even the thought of trying to get to the
14th mile much less the 25th mile is like beyond my imagination right now so
he is what I call over chunk he's not thinking about what he wants he's
thinking about what's painful he's just our perfect example he's not even
thinking about victory or succeeding so the chance of him following through on
something that he associates major pain to when he can do something else right
now he can feel confident or successful at his chances of falling to our very
limited how many with all that say I his focus is on failure his focus is on pain
that's why I he wasn't following through okay he's also focused on the 14th mile
of a marathon rather than today's workout which one seems more daunting to
you so when you think of what here's also be
thinking about he's thinking about the process not the outcome or result he
wants when you think about what it's going to take to do something usually it
takes a lot and you're not going to want to do it so he's over drunk himself he's
trying to eat the whale whole without taking any smaller bites
it seems too big for him so he says we'll all do it win later my Australian
friends will say later right of course the problem with doing it tomorrow is
when you get to tomorrow tomorrow is today tomorrow another cones so and you
keep promising yourself by the way what is the studio emotionally when you keep
breaking your own promises with yourself or you keep failing to do things that
you know are important does it increase your length some of certainty and
confidence know what it does is it wrote that when you wrote confidence in one
area believe it or not it affects the other areas too
do you believe on that don't believe me what about your own life experience
maybe not one area but it starts to be multiple areas it sure does
another reason why somebody has an exercise or do anything is because they
don't just chunk it too big they tuck it into many details I give you for example
so I asked somebody one time I said okay how important these exercises all
exercise is extremely important really okay good and tell me why don't you
exercise regulate well I just don't have time okay everybody does that answer
that sounds wonderful so tell me though don't tell me about how much time you
don't have tell me this when you think about exercising what do you think about
which is the way of saying what do you focus on and so this woman says to me
well my gosh you know I mean I know what do you mean what I think about well
let's say I said to you you've got to start exercising and I'm gonna put a gun
to the head of your children and I will do very horrible things and hurt them
badly if you and exercise could you do it oh yeah I could do it you know if you
if some mafia person came here I'm going to kill your children you don't exercise
every day how many think you can find a way to exercise every day no matter what
your time constraints may be so remember this commitment this
change is never a matter of ability it's always a matter of motivation I'll say
that again change is never a matter of ability it's always a matter of
motivation or Drive having strong enough reasons if you got a strong reason you
can figure out the time couldn't you so the biggest part of life and time
management is knowing what you want and having enough reasons to follow through
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