Just ask the 'bloke' who is in love know, "Hey, why do you love him sooo much!?"
""Whatte personality., Whatte charm.., whatteyjob.."
"She will gush non-stop..
and follow it up with cinematic dialogues like.,"My love isn't human., it's divine...
DIVINE!!
that non-sense is certainly not divine!
You were actually a no-nonsense person until then!
doing all the clueless shit that students usually do...
Untill then you had no thoughts about all this'divine' stuff..
But then your brain chooses to squirt some hormones...
Let's say exactly then... the most useless goonk in your college crosses your field of vision ...
now your brain takes a snapshot of this bloke under the hormonal influence..
much like a 'Portrait'option in a DSLR.,know?
where everything else blurs and and that face alone stands out? like that!
For next two days your brain is on a replay mode...Whatever Job you do.. "Pachaak!"
The same face... You go to Bathroom.. "Pachaak!..."... You eat Idli.. Pachaak!
You turn this side., "Pachaak!!"
And in just 2 days your mind voice will be your previous favourite dialogue..
"Mere humans will not understand my divine love!"
The three useless girls around you? They will echo your inner voice..."Divine love.. divine love... divine love!!!"
And tell you...This is super love., I am a great friend...
And the purpose of my entire life is to help you succeed in this love!"
They will go on scratching this divine itch of yours..
And you will trust them..
If that boy also gets hooked on to you..
then the next two years will be such a sweet passing of time!
You will be singing duet in la la land..
Physics ma'am will be taking class and you will be playing ball in inner Goa..
Sigh., if only this feeling stayed for your entire life..You would have no problem at all ...
You could sing duet in your dreams forever! But your body..,Its such an intelligent thing..
All these hormone mechanisms are not recent add ons...They happened when we lived in caves.
It still functions as though its in 50000 BC.....When we lived in caves...
You needed to birth a child as early as 13... because We lived in extreme fear of wild animals..nature...
and the only chance of survival was in our numbers..
But today the world has changed..
What will happen if you squirt out babies at 13, tell me?
But your brain hasn't woken up from 50000 BC Yet.. It still believes it's in a bloody cave...
It doesn't realise yet that you don't need to reproduce at 13...
So what happens...it just doesn't question if your body is mature yet.....or the structure of society..
or if your love is divine... it just switches off the hormones. just like how it switched it on,
whether or not you give birth to a child.
because who will care for the baby if you are still singing duets in dream lands...
So when the hormone goes... the euphoric feelings also go!!
If the whole switching off business happens in him
before it happens for you..
and he looks at your face and delivers this dialogue:"What did I ever see in your shitty face!?"....
If you leave it free and take it light... Trust me, you will be just fine!!...
When the hormones go ...your feelings will also change..
But... Er., we don't like simple lives, no?especially when it disturbs our vanity?
Our mega idols 'Dhanush' and 'Simbhu' have taught us a 1000 love scriptures no?
So you will be like, "I will hang myself!"..
"I can't live without him..
Can't live... can't live...
Instead of letting yourself heal in peace., You will canstantly scratch the wound and make it big...
By endlessly criticising yourself, your appearance or blaming him..Non-sense like "never trust men.."
Because you are a girl., you are a bit safer.. No friend will incite you to drink...
"Friend uu.. love matter feeling.. needs quarter brandy.. for mind cooling"
You don't have that danger., but for the next 4 years,
constantly hearing these sad shitty love songs... you will throw away your precious life ...
These utterly uselss songs.
tell me one such song?
Its a long time since I listened to these movie songs..You tell me a song sir?
"Poooo.. nee poo...(Gooo you gooo!)"(crowd laughs)
You will lsten to them a 1000 times each day..
Your mind will be wasted, your life will be wasted.,
And for you to recover from these songs it will be like another 7 years..
By then the damage to you will become permanent!
Keep in mind., nobody damaged you.. you damaged yourself..
Nobody is ever a victim.
I don't want to go into this subject any further because this is a short workshop..
If there is someone among you who is still obsessing on this divine love stuff.."I will
only marry him!"
"Go ahead... let's just call it your fate... marry him!"
But... just keep this in mind..
No man ever is worth your entire future.
Marriage is just a part of human life.
If you think the essence of a woman's life is marriage..
then you are just falling to society's brainwash.
Just go out... open your eyes and look around.. look at a lady who is 40..
What joy do you see in her life?
except that she have given birth to a child, and she sees the sweet face?
what other joy do you see?
Even that is only for the first year.. until the baby babbles cute..
after that?isn't it one of never ending complaints..doesn't eat., doeasn't study?
Think.. the nature of pleasure is that we get adapted to them..
You eat an ice cream.. the first mouthful is so tasty..
by the end though, .. you are struggling through to finish the final mouthful?
You craved for it so much know?
Why was the pleasure in the last scoop much lesser than the first scoop?
Your father purchased a two wheeler for you.
The pleasure when you raised that accelerator for the first time..
"Vrooom, vroom."
Why doesn't it rush now through you after an year?
"why?"
Doesn't matter what other great pleasure of life..
An ordinary mind adapts itself to the current one and craves for more..
So what does an ordinary man do..
He aches for something he doesn't have yet.., gets it.. 10 days pleasure..
Then another pleasure ... 10 days kick..
another pleasure ..10 days... gets used to it..
another pleasure..10 days .. gets used to it..
The whole process repeats and he dies without ever truly enjoying the things
he struggled so much for..
That's the same that will happen to you also.. in this 'divine love' of yours too..
It will provide its 'high' for 60 days..
After that your mind will get used to that 'divinity' too..
How ever divine it is you will get used to it.
So.. if you will define your entire life within the context of a single relationship..
If you will attribute the entire meaning of life to relationships..
then when that meaning dissolves..
It will be a brutal blow to your head.. like someone just snatched the crapet from
underneath..and you fell flat back..
You will feel empty.. and people get used to even that emptyness..
If you come to chennai.. and see around our stinky river coovam..
to you that stench will be unbearable.. but you will see someone there ..
happily listening to song in a relaxed peace.. just like that..
That nose has got used to the stench..
Open your eyes and see... the people you see around you are all people like that..
The society around you, your father, mother, uncle aunt, grandpa grandma, everyone..
They are all people who have got used to the stench of suffering and misery..
not used to joy and bliss and never ending growth..
Minds that have got used to blaming and criticising..to focus on their lacks..
Please don't think like them..
That you will get the joy and love from things/people outside of you is a myth..
If you truly want to experience these sublime feelings..
Focus on your growth! Focus on things you control..your skill sets.. Everyday
Today I am at this step..Tomorrow I climb to this step..
And as you climb up.. two steps.. you will climb properly..
But the third step you will have a bloody fall..
And when you fall... that fall is what is exactly "life!!"
The society lies to you in telling you safety is life..
You have to study., get married, buy own house and live without troubles!!
Nooo!That's not life. Life will beat you to a pulp!
People will laugh at you..
You will offer your love... but that bloke might cheat you..
You should get stuck in none of these steps..
That's just a step.. you had a fall..
Just mutter, "Oh shit!"
And get up..reach the next step.. "scream 'yoo hoo!'..
If you have to live such a life where you go up.. and ..up.. and UP!!...
Look the graph of a good life is not this... its this!
You climb... you fall.. climb... fall... climb fall..
The people who are losers in life.. .they just stop with here... or here..
But the ones, who think I must get up.. everytime I fall...
Ultimately they reach here..
This is life..
And if you want this kind of a life..
Then you need a few fundamental beliefs to empower you..
The first belief...
The love that I am searching for, the happiness, the fame, the claps..
None of it will come to me external sources..
Not from the people in my life..
Who should it come from?
not able to hear you..
From you!
Have you seen a shiva temple?
Have you seen the beggars who sit at its door steps?
Who should a beggar beg from?
From the people who will come out of the temple, no?
Does it make sense if he begs from the beggar sitting next to him?
"Bro, give me some alms?
Would the other beggar give him?Because he also is a beggar!!!
The love you that beg for will not be given by another beggar!
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