I just did a podcast on habits right how
to be able to adopt new habits and also
delete and get rid of you know break bad
habits right and so a lot of people
always want to make it usually make a
change on behavior they want to get
themselves to workout they want to get
them doesn't meditate they want to get
themselves to read more each day and
they want to give themselves to X right
or they want to stop some behavior they
want to stop smoking they want to stop
eating this food they want to stop I
always tell people stop checking your
phone the first hour of the day I love
and I and I just that's like sacred time
for me you know because I for me that's
for I think that if you want to be an
elite mental performer or you know
real-life superhero you don't want to
start off by checking the phone we
talked about this in the past because
you're training yourself to be reactive
right you're getting your dopamine or
you're frying your nervous system with
all these lights shares comments and
everything else like that that you've
said if I'm not mistaken you sell your
sovereignty if you start by checking
your phone I love that so much because
you're reacting and firefighting to
everyone's like well I've been seeing
everyone one wants so you're not really
setting you're not living you know that
it's you've heard this many times right
if you want to you in the first hour of
the day to win the rest of the money
with room in the day right and so
anything you want to stop so I say you
might stop checking your phone right in
the morning then there's certain like
that's a behavior right but there's so
many other elements to be able to change
because some most behaviors don't stick
right and so like what I'm thinking
about when I want to transform or
transcend or make a real positive change
I'm looking all the other areas of
ourselves so I'm looking at for example
our environment are you are people
setting up their environment to win and
no social change doesn't just happen at
this level of behavior but what you have
to change the environment so for example
if you want to stop eating a certain
food it helps to be able to have not
that not have that food in your home
right so you change the environment if
you want to read more it helps to help
set up your environment where you have
the books readily available where your
gonna read it cuz they perform you know
how I how I approach habit changes this
area of motivation and this trigger ray
you want to trigger to help remind you
to do the behavior right so are you
setting up the environment in a way that
triggers the behavior that you want
that's why you know people like Mark
Zuckerberg or Tony Hsieh
we're the same t-shirts and and
sweatshirts all the time because they
don't want to spend you know use up one
of their decisions thinking aw what am I
gonna wear today everyone someone's
watching this they have a thing that
something they want to change and it's
not it's not sticking then maybe it's
not it's the environment maybe you check
about your habits but maybe it's your
beliefs in your values some people will
not get themselves to read every day
because they don't value reading every
single day right some people won't say
the behavior they want change is you
know we did a podcast on how to remember
names I could teach them step by step on
how to remember the name but most people
that they meet yet they won't do it
because they don't value it or because
that's not important to them or they
don't believe that they can write just
like we talked about earlier saying your
brain is like a supercomputer and you
know your self-talk as a programmer runs
to tell yourself not go to memory names
you will not really person to me because
you program your super duper you're not
- they don't have a belief that enables
that when I say all behaviors believe
driven if you want to do this behavior
whatever it is journal whatever it is
and you need a belief that allows that
to happen because you mean that's the
program that allows so how do you get
that belief because you're gonna feel
like you're faking it right that's where
most people stop right they they think
okay I get it I hear what you were
saying that if I am able to shift my
belief then I can get a different
behavior but I don't believe it
so now I'm just sort of faking it how do
you help people overcome it right and so
you mean so some people approach it like
they know this quote where they fake it
till they make it right um so my thing
with belief is like when I do trainings
and groups are online
my favorite way of changing the belief
is getting them to do something they
never thought they could do because it
opens up another possibility right so so
for example in 1954 Roger Bannister he
broke the four-minute mile right and so
which is amazing right throughout human
history nobody can run a mile less than
four minutes now if you if you look into
it how he was able to do it is he would
visualize himself crossing the finish
line looking at the clock and it says
359 because he knew that success is an
inside out process that first it had to
happen in here in order prepped and out
there right um
dr. Wayne Dyer has the famous phrase
where it's not oh I'll believe it when I
see
it's like I'll see it when I believe it
because it's the opposite right and so I
always like modeling the outliers where
most people kind of just like kind of
dismiss them I was like well what's
what's going on there that loves this
person to get this kind of result right
and so with Roger Bannister he saw it in
here be able to produce it outside just
like any innovator or inventor right or
any creator right but what's interesting
is after that would happen nobody could
do it from the beginning of humanity all
of a sudden one person does it what
happens after that everybody yeah
everyone starts doing it and so that's
the thing now what what happened was
there big change that year and you know
training methodology and nutrition or
know who was a change of belief right
because the belief back then was if you
ran a mile less than four minutes not
only would you die it was your heart
would explode in your chest and like
think about like that would and I'm a
runner right that would keep me not just
running that won't keep me from running
form it that would keep me from running
period right right and so my thing is
like that was a change of a reference I
was just shook up a belief so my goal
with people and when it comes to
learning is get themselves to do
something they never thought they could
do and then it opens up another
possibility it literally opens up their
their nervous system for something what
else could be possible now I would also
say that it all plays together where
it's not easy to say just to change a
belief overnight now that could be a
belief it's like a meta belief about
what beliefs are but people there's
there's technologies like Inception
right like a dream of a dream your dream
but I do believe that we have more we
have more power to influence our
thoughts and our beliefs so my goal is
to streamline my
put the routines the first hour day and
the last hour today I really micromanage
it's at a point where it's vitual I
don't even have to think about it and
then because those are the times a day
where I can really have the most impact
because later on it all day you know
team members need this there's
firefighting this client needs that but
the first hour the last hour I really
want to control so all this really
helped develop grit and resilience you
know in my body so I could have the
ability to persevere you know so I have
stand guard to my brain all the time
what goes in and I don't watch like a
lot of the negative news and all the
market I really focus like you know I
watch and I listen to your show and
maybe a handful of little of things I
read each day because I need to keep it
positive
I want hope and I'm looking for help I'm
looking for inspiration and also his
instruction motive matters right and
what drives us I always tell people that
there's a success formula I subscribe to
it I call it h-cubed that he goes from
your head to your heart to your hands
especially in the personal development
space or what they teach about goal said
you could affirm things in your head or
think things in your head or visualize
things in your head but if you're not
acting with your hands there's there's
something that's missing right there's
an incongruence there and I but I tell
people is like you know check in with
the second age which is your heart which
is the symbol of like emotion the energy
of motion and so I feel like that's the
fuel that fuels the car that gets you to
take action for something and I do
believe what got me through it is
figuring out what my why was
I think some of the most successful
people live at the edge of their limits
you know and they they play there also
as well and so whenever I feel in my
nervous system I feel like I can't do it
then I feel like I really must do it
because I feel like how we do anything
is how we do everything your brain is
like a super computer and your self-talk
is a program that will run so you tell
yourself you're not good at remembering
names you will not remember the name the
next person to me because you program
your supercomputer not to yourself talk
is important and it is the program that
we would run and I always tell people to
keep it positive keep it empowering
because your mind is always
eavesdropping on your self-talk right
and you have to be careful what you say
to yourself because it's this
unconscious command I just did a podcast
on habits right how to be able to adopt
new habits and also delete you get rid
of you know break bad habits right and
so a lot of people always want to make
it usually make a change on behavior
they want to get themselves to workout
they want to get them hose and meditate
they want to get themselves to read more
each day and they want to get themselves
to X right or they want to stop some
behavior they want to stop smoking they
want to stop eating this food they want
to stop I always tell people stop
checking your phone in the first hour of
the day that's like sacred time for me
you know because I for me that's for I
think that if you want to be an elite
mental performer or in a real-life
superhero you don't want to start off by
checking the phone we talked about this
in the past of it because you're
training yourself to be reactive right
you're getting your dopamine or you're
frying your nervous system with all
these likes shares comments and
everything else like that that you've
said if I'm not mistaken you sell your
sovereignty weed if you start by
checking your phone I love that so much
because you're reacting and firefighting
to everyone's like well everything
everyone wants so you're not really
setting you're not living you know that
it's you've heard this many times right
if you want to you in the first hour of
the day to win the rest you know the
million win
right and so anything you want to stop
so I say you want to stop checking your
phone right in the morning then there's
certain like that's a behavior right but
there's so many other elements to be
able to change because some most
behaviors don't stick right and so like
what I'm thinking about when I want to
transform or transcend or make a real
positive change I'm looking all the
other areas of ourself so I'm looking at
for example our environment are you are
people setting up their environment to
win at no social change doesn't just
happen at this level of behavior but
what you have to change the environment
so for example if you want to stop
eating a certain food it helps to be
able to have not that not have that food
in your home right so you change the
environment if you want to read more it
helps to help set up your environment
where you have the books readily
available where you're gonna read it
because they perform you know how I how
I approach habit change is this area of
motivation and this trigger where you
want to trigger to help remind you to do
the behavior right so are you setting up
the environment in a way that triggers
the behavior that you want another level
of change that we need to address let's
say everyone someone's watching this
they have thing that something they want
to change and it's not it's not sticking
and maybe it's not it's the environment
maybe you could check about your habits
but maybe it's your beliefs and your
values some people will not get
themselves to read every day because
they don't value reading every single
day right some people won't work they
say the behavior they won't change is
you know we did a podcast of how to
remember names I could teach them step
by step on how to remember the name of
most people that they meet yet they
won't do it because they don't value it
or because that's not important to them
or they don't believe that they can
write just like we talked about earlier
saying your brain is like a
supercomputer and you know your
self-talk as a programmer runs if you
tell yourself and I'll go to memory
names you will not remember the name the
next person you meet because your
program your super gonna be or not to
they don't have a belief that enables
that so when I say all behaviors belief
driven if you want to do this behavior
whatever it is journal whatever it is
then you need a belief that allows that
to happen
my favorite way of changing a belief is
getting them to do something they never
thought they could do because it opens
up another possibility for example in
1954 Roger Bannister he broke the form
in a mile right and so which is amazing
right throughout human history nobody
can run a mile in less than four minutes
a few if you look into it how he was
able to do it is he would visualize
himself crossing the finish line looking
at the clock and it says 359 because he
knew that success is an inside out
process that first it had to happen in
here in order for apt an out there right
um dr. Wayne Dyer has the famous phrase
where it's not
oh I'll believe it when I see it it's
like I'll see it when I believe it
because it's the opposite right and so
yeah I always like modeling the outliers
where most people kind of just like kind
of dismissed them I was like well what's
what's going on there that loves this
person to get this kind of results right
and so with Roger Bannister he saw it in
here and be able to produce it outside
just like any innovator or inventor
right or any creator right but was
interesting is after that would happen
nobody could do it from the beginning of
humanity all of a sudden one person does
it what happens after that was a change
of belief right because the belief back
then was if you ran a mile list the four
minutes not only would you die it was
your heart would explode in your chest
and like think about like that would and
I'm a runner right that would keep me
not just running that won't keep me from
running form without keep me from
running period right right and so my
thing is like that was a change of a
reference I was just shook up a belief
so my goal with people and when it comes
to learnings get themselves to do
something they never thought they could
do and then it opens up another
possibility it literally opens up their
their nervous system for something what
else could be possible now I would also
say that it all plays together where
it's not easy necessary just a change
leaf overnight
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it's not about resources right because
we know a lot of people who who didn't
have any resources that were able to
impact the world
it's about our internal resources and
what I'm saying is optimizing our
environment optimizing our behaviors or
capabilities of our beliefs and our
values and our identity right that at
the highest level our identity because
you can't just change your belief or
your values or your behavior even if you
don't believe you're that kind of person
we're not waiting for Superman or Batman
or Wonder Woman it's like you are Wonder
Woman you are Batman you are Superman
it's just we we have to commit ourselves
to be able to tell me she
[Music]
they call it the two smallest world
words in the English language but there
there are two most powerful words in
English language it's I am
I am because whatever you put after that
determines your destination or your your
destiny right and I think your identity
is who you believe you are and I feel
like when we're talking about playing to
the edge of our limits and really
playing there and living in that place
where we're stretching but you don't
have to fight it because you can't
imagine yourself not doing that
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if we don't believe that we our public
speaker or were a great parent or we're
a great learner or a genius then we'll
never be able to reach our full
potential because that will always be
the ceiling that we bump up against
think that genius leaves clues and I
believe that can be replicated if you're
willing to put in the the work and the
learning and the discipline to be able
to do that I teach people how to read
one book a week
I really think leaders or readers that
in order to stay competitive in today's
day and age if somebody has decades of
experience and they put it into a book
and you can sit down and read then in a
few days
download decades in the days I mean I'm
preaching to choir for that's watching
but that that's that's a superpower
right that's a huge advantage
I think geniuses set themselves up so
for example they have their laptop but
they only use a laptop for work and it's
anchored that's part of their
environment it's anchored to get them in
the flow States to be able to write or
be productive they don't use their
laptop to watch binge on Netflix right
they have a very they have an iPad that
they use when they do that because
that's the state that they want to
anchor for that and they don't use that
iPad to do work you know setting up your
environment like your bedroom like we
just did a whole episode on sleep acts
and how to optimize your sleep because
that's a big you know personal challenge
for me for many years because I had
suffered from sleep apnea it was a
breathing disorder I stopped breathing
200 times a night for at least 10
seconds which is the equivalent of
somebody coming in and just choking
suffocating you 200 times a night and so
I would actually reason why I'm so
adamant about productivity and learning
hacks is because for the longest time
for literally five years straight and
you know this I've slept about 90
minutes to two hours a night total and
you know how you feel when you get like
one bad night's sleep and how like where
your focus is your energy level and your
how do I get these horrible migraines
and it's forced me to double down in my
practices you know in terms of like I
have a limited amount of time I have to
focus on the things that really matter
resources and stuff but anyway going
back to like my bedroom is sacred space
right it's I don't do work in there I
keep it because that's my trigger to be
able to rest on the parasympathetic
space I set up my environments off my
blackout curtains on my my crowning pad
so it's optimize my restful sleep that I
do get so environment so genius leaves
clues they set up genius environments
for themselves and then the behaviors
most people who know if they're
intuitive you know these people are
investing themselves there's they're
investing in self care I always tell
people that self love and self care is
not selfish a lot of people you know
they're there for their friends and
there
their clients everybody else but they're
not refilling their their cup so I think
that we have to be you know grow givers
I mean we have to we grow sway more to
give to other people so we have more
impact with other individuals so the
behaviors are reading each day and
putting together your to-do lists and
your I think having your not to-do list
is so important having being
sleep-deprived for so many years yeah I
think a lot of people I'm super
sensitized to it but I think one of the
success rituals people had should have
is just going through and keeping a
consistent not to-do list and I think
the most successful genius-level
individuals one of the clues that they
leave is there not to-do list is bigger
than their to-do list right they don't
check their phone in the morning they
don't take and you know everything is
hell yes or it's hell no all right
that's their filter system they don't
you know they say no to good so yes yes
degree right I'm talking about an
incredible you know artist I'm talking
about an athlete I'm talking to have a
kid you know in some area is they
haven't they're they're clear about
their identity about who they are and
whoever they are to the world and so but
I know what they what they do commit is
they do the work and they're committed
to lifelong learning
knowledge is power and learning is your
superpower and I think it's a superpower
that we all have it's just not word not
taught my thing when it comes to success
rituals and high performance and making
an impact is that we all have that
sovereignty we all have that power and
whenever we put it out there and give it
out to somebody else like we're a
thermometer great the metaphor I always
talk about it's like we're either
thermometers or were thermostats and a
thermometer you think about the
functionality of it it just reflects
what the environment is giving it right
it just reflects the temperature and
stuff but a thermostat is different it
sets a standard it sets a goal it sets a
vision and the environment changes along
with it I feel like our happiness our
joy our level fulfillment our success is
all dependent on where we put the locus
of control we have more power than we
realize in these cases and it's hard
because we have to fight media with the
fight marketing that's always telling us
about all the things that are going on
in the world but we live in an abundant
universe right I mean we talk about the
matrix you know which pillow people are
going to take and that determines
everything and every single morning you
know you determine what color till
you're gonna take and I would say what
keeps me going is I have a belief that
everything to get better
like that's my self-talk when when it
comes down to what my primary belief is
is I feel that that things can get
better because otherwise I didn't then I
would just give up right and I have too
many examples of friends and family and
just people I don't know which are just
friends of my mind that have superseded
much more difficult situations than I
have
the other thing it's helped me to do is
really focus on the rituals and the
routines the habits the abilities that
really matter
you know the 80/20 rule because when I
have a certain amount of energy I can
only do a certain amount of things and I
want I need to get more back and I'm
still doing the job growing quota most
you know three or four people you know
going on stage and traveling too but you
know like the kind of things that we do
but it forces me to focus on the things
that's gonna get me maximum return and
we know and I think we do teach the
things that we need to learn the most I
think the best teachers are the best
students I'm not very perfection because
I don't think that the standard exists
I'm just looking to make incremental
progress you know when I wake up in the
morning I have my daily routine and it's
so fine tuned because I think a lot of
people suffer from decision making
fatigue right that misses very strong
research saying that you can only make a
certain amount of good decisions a day
and after that is spent you can anymore
and that's really been fine-tuned in the
medical field with surgeons and such in
terms of seeing their you know where
they're making their errors and stuff
with with early on in the day or later
in their days and stuff like that but we
also as entrepreneurs or her as
employees and executives are as parents
we all can make concerned about
decisions and that's why you know people
like Mark Zuckerberg or Tony Hsieh they
wear the same t-shirts and and
sweatshirts all the time because they
don't want to spend you know use up one
of their decisions thinking oh what am I
gonna wear today right so my goal is to
streamline my life put the routines the
first hour today and the last hour today
I really micromanage it's at a point
where it's habitual I don't even have to
think about it and then because those
are the times a day where I can really
have the most impact because later on in
the middle of the day you know team
members need this there's firefighting
this client needs that but the first
hour in the last hour I really want to
control so all this really helped
develop grit and resilience
you know in my body so I could have the
ability to persevere you know so I stand
guard to my brain all the time what goes
in and I don't watch like a lot of the
negative news and all the young market I
really focus like you know I watch and I
listen to your show and maybe a handful
of little of things I read each day
because I need to keep it positive
I want hope and I'm looking for help I'm
looking for inspiration and also his
instruction
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