Cathy: So do you ever wanted to run a workshop and facilitate something and just didn't know
what to do?
We're going to give you some really good tips here.
I'm Cathy Vartuli from the intimacy Dojo.com and I'm here with Monique Darling and Peter
Petersen from EverydayTantra.com.
Cathy: Thanks so much for being here.
Monique: Thanks for having us.
And we're super excited to invite you to a weekend intensive getting to dive into the
basically how we lived our life for the past 10 years and really getting to dive into what
makes an amazing facilitated events.
Cathy: Yeah, I know that when I would go to events when I was new into the community or
watch, ah...
I really wish I could do that.
That looks so cool.
And you know, when you're sitting in the audience you don't know all the work that's going on
behind the scenes, but I know I did this the hard way for a lot of time.
Cathy: Like the first classes I taught it was just like brute strength and fear and
nervous.
Am I doing the right thing?
So we have between all of us, I think, thousands of workshops that leaves experience in different
varieties.
From QiGong and dance as well, play parties, cuddle parties, energy sex, pujas.
I teach marketing as well.
So we have this breadth of different experiences and one thing we found is there's a commonality
to it.
So there's an actual toolbox that we use over and over again to generate workshops and facilitate
them in a way that's really easy.
In fact, Monique and I had never taught a workshop before, a particular workshop.
We posted it, we knew that we could teach on it.
We had the topic...
Monique: Either of us could have taught by ourselves.
Cathy: Yes, yes.
But we had never taught together and we didn't actually have a plan for it and everything
was kind of running a little late that day.
We sat down in 10 minutes using these very tools and generated a really powerful workshop.
I was so proud of that workshop.
It was so good.
People were like, "Oh my God, I never thought of it that way."
Cathy: So we're going to show you those tools so that you can have a framework.
We're calling it the Facilitator Toolbox Intensive.
Where you actually leave with these toolboxes that you can build the things you want to
create really easily without all the fear and worry as you go forward in your career.
Peter: Can I ask you a question?
What was the difference between this workshop you facilitated the other day and one you
did early in your career...
Where you said, this was really hard, a big struggle?
Can you explain the dichotomy between the two different types of workshops that you've
done?
Monique: Perfectionism!
Cathy: There was a whole bunch of perfectionism, but I also didn't know what people needed.
So well, like I was guessing and part of it's experience you learn it, but we're going to
distill our experience so you can walk in with that.
I didn't know how to warm up the room back then.
I didn't know how to anchor the ideas.
I didn't know when to give them a break and how to get them back from breaks.
I didn't know how to mix intellectual thoughts and experiential things that you're so amazing
at, Monique.
Cathy: I didn't know how to blend that with like some physical movement like you do so
well because that really helps the body calm down.
I was really smart on how trauma works and how the brain can be afraid, but I didn't
know how to integrate that in a way so that whether I was teaching an hour event or a
five day event to keep people engaged, inspired and flowing along that versus like, here's
all the information.
Cathy: I would get so nervous.
I would over-prepare I'd have five times too much information.
And I would throw it all out as hard as I could.
And then they would leave drained and stun.
Monique: They're blown out.
Cathy: Yeah, some of them left and, I feel so bad about it, but I'm sure some of the
people left my earlier workshops going, oh, I'm really bad at this.
There's too much information.
I don't know and I can't get it all.
It's going too fast.
And maybe more than some of the more advanced people were fine, but the new people, the
people who are shyer, a little intimidated by the topic, were probably just overwhelmed.
Peter: I think when you're a beginning facilitator you tend to think that logic is the way to
get that information out and and we're very logic based and we're like, "OK, I'm just
going to get all this information," where when you become more of an experienced facilitator,
you start listening to more of your intuition and realize that there are certain little
nuances to how to keep the audience compelled and interested on every single word that's
coming out of your mouth.
Cathy: Get them to embody the information.
I can give you a checklist right now, but you have the checklist.
It's not in your body and your not going to use it very well.
And that's one of the things we're going to do for the facilitator weekend.
We're going to invite you to two events that we're running and let you participate a little
bit so you get a taste of what's actually happening.
So you can experience it even if you're afraid and we promise to make a gentle and easy.
But so you can embody that and try it out.
Get a taste of it and be like, oh, I would like to do it a little bit this way.
Monique: When I started, I didn't trust my intuition at all.
And so I started with Cuddle Parties because it was a way I can sit and hold the script
and you read something, but it was so scary still.
At least it helped me be able to get up there in front of people and I'd practice every
single night whether I had one person or 30 people in the room.
And so it really started helping me acclimate to what does it feel like, what does it feel
like when I'm offering this?
And so I would sit and write a whole outline like Cathy's talking about and have 30 exercises
and have all this information and make sure I need to give this to you.
And as you start facilitating more and more then you realize the rooms giving you way
more than you could give the room.
Monique: So I set this intention and I'm like, OK, here's what I'm wanting to bring to the
table.
And then in whatever is alive in the room, than I allow that aliveness and that energy
and what's coming up to be able to help teach the intention that I brought.
Peter: The more facilitation that you do... you do start to realize or certain cues in
the audience of who's listening, who's checking out, and how to augment your delivery so that
everybody is really more encapsulated with the information that's coming from who you
are.
People want to listen to compelling stories.
They want to listen to people that have some vim and vigor and passion and desire for what
they're doing.
If you're just kind of drab sitting there spewing out all this logical information,
you're going to lose people in the first few minutes.
Cathy: If you can't engage their brain and their heart, you're not going to teach them..
You're throwing information like little sticks versus like, I'm going to feed it to you and
help you integrate it.
Monique: You want to create this container where people feel like it's OK to get it wrong.
It's OK to experiment.
It's OK to test new waters and see what's available to you because that's the majority
of people that are coming to the workshops or wanting to try something new or they're
wanting to integrate something that they've been called to.
So if you're throwing stuff at them, that's not going to make them feel safe to want to
experiment because it's just another to do list that they can't do.
Peter: So have a guideline, have an agenda, but be willing to throw the agenda out the
window if there's certain people in the room that are not understanding what's happening.
So we're going to help you learn how to trust yourself to be able to hold a room with people
and offering what it is that you have experience on, that you love, and helping them co-create
with you.
Cathy: Yeah, and if some of you are like...intuition, reading the room?
I'm a very analytical person.
I'm somewhere I more on the right of woo.
I'm a PhD.
Monique: Cathy's a pragmatist.
Cathy: We're going to actually walk you through the steps.
We're going to talk about how you get prepared before, how you build up anticipation in the
audience.
How you build relationships with the venue, the people at the venue that you're going
to work with.
Monique: Your hosts, if you're traveling around the world, but that networking with others.
Cathy: You're so good at that.
Yeah.
And then just bringing people in and like how do you get them in the room so that they
feel comfortable.
How do you start the event?
How do you give them breaks so they actually come back.
We'll walk you through all the steps including self-care afterwards and how you can follow
up so you can engage more deeply.
Peter: Even engineers and scientists have intuition.
Cathy: I absolutely agree, but I know some people that want to facilitate may actually
use their intuition and notice energy, but that's not their focus.
And that's one thing I love about how we teach together as we have that balance.
We all speak the language of pragmatic, and intuition and experiential and logical.
Peter: it's a blend.
It's a balance.
Monique: You get to come play in your spectrum.
And here's the pieces.
So many people do workshops.
And for me, I, and Peter and Cathy, we love doing play shops.
Because if you're not loving it, if you're not enjoying it, if you're not diving in to
the places that feel good to you, then you're not going to want to continue doing it.
And so the whole idea of this weekend is to help you succeed and offering what your gifts
are and then giving you this toolbox, and the set of plans like this whole container.
Cathy: A recipe.
Yeah, recipe can make a difference.
You can make it enough for 10 people or 30 people or a thousand people.
You can make different varieties, oh, you're vegetarian, OK, I'll leave that part out.
So you have like, flexibility.
You can mix the flavors and change up what you're delivering.
Monique: We hope that you'll come join us.
Cathy: Yeah, it's in May and it's going to be in San Jose, California.
Monique: So thanks for listening.
And if any of this calling to your soul or your heart or you're just like, wow, I'm really
curious and intrigued, then please click on the link below and find out more.
Cathy: And if you're feeling like you're too shy, too big, too old, too young, please realize
that your audience has those same fears.
The peoples whose lives you want to touch had those same fears and you can help them
past that just by modeling that very thing.
I used to think I was too much, too shy, too old, whatever.
I used to think it was too big.
I can still make a difference for people.
You can make a difference for people and they are calling for you.
There are people at three in the morning praying they will come forward and share your information.
Monique: Yeah,
Cathy: Thanks guys.
Have to see you there!
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