"What up? I'm back!"
Hi, I'm Shanice.
Hi, I'm John.
Hi, I'm Nic.
Hi, I'm Leah.
And this is ZULA ChickChats!
So today we are going to be talking about,
whether guys like 'wild' or 'nice' girls.
So for you guys, what would you define as,
typically 'wild' or typically 'nice'?
People always assume that a not 'wild' is like,
"guai guai" (obedient). Maybe a bit more mellow,
versus like the 'wild' kind right,
"I just discovered the clubs. I will go club every day".
The 'nice' girl would be like,
you know, girl next door.
She does sports.
She eats dinner with family and everything.
'Wild' girl would be like,
if you need guest list then...
This is a stereotype.
That is not our personal belief.
cI feel that the definition of a 'wild' girl also,
don't really know what she wants.
What kind of partner she is looking for.
There are a lot of people like that.
You be wild, stay wild.
Ok to me I think, it would just be like,
sleep around, go club every day, get drunk every day.
'Wild' guys, 'wild' girls are the same kind of thing.
Ok, then I am going to ask you all,
classify Shanice and I into one category.
Shanice is 'nice', you are 'wild'.
Ok, based off what?
Based off our understanding.
So when Leah laughs, she's like "ha, ha, ha".
Shanice laughs, she's like... *giggles*.
Right?
Shanice looks like she would go for brunch,
then you look like you would just go for supper.
Like Eggs Benedict, then...
Prata - one egg, one plain.
My take is just society's very stereotypical standards.
A 'wild' girl clubs, drinks.
Then girl next door, "prim and proper".
The 'wild' girl is probably someone who,
completely lets go.
She has no fear,
which means consequences don't matter to her.
She just does what she wants.
Or maybe like, the 'nice' girl is a bit more conservative.
Follow by rules, that kind of thing.
No right and wrong.
Anyway the next question is,
any past relationship examples of "wild' versus 'nice'?
Ok, tell me about your relationship now.
Nice lor.
This is ChickChats, not one word answer.
Can cook, can cook good.
Can cook, can cook good.
Responsible, dinner with the family.
Will remind me to have dinner with my family.
We all just like... Help.
Committed, stable and reliable.
See, all these things are regardless of whether 'wild' or 'nice'.
Take that, society.
I think most people have both sides to them, right?
Ok, I had dealings with... Dealings!
Dealings.
What is this?
I'm just going to leave it as "I had dealings" ok?
I had dealings with a really, really 'wild' girl.
Ok, you put a spectrum of like..
Almost check all the stereotype boxes.
She bring around the drip machine, then inside is alcohol.
Something like that.
(I dated someone else who) almost checked all the stereotypical 'nice' girls' boxes also.
Wow, so experienced, tell us all.
Based on these two experiences,
I understand where people are coming from when they encounter,
people who fit the stereotypes like that.
At the same time, I am grateful for it.
An extreme end of each right,
sometimes is very detrimental when it comes to relationships.
Because if, let's say a person is super, super nice,
sometimes there are things that I find unrelatable.
Our lifestyles may be different.
Then you will feel guilty sometimes,
when you're not able to participate in certain things with your partner.
And then other end of the spectrum,
you sometimes feel very miserable because you don't understand,
whether this person is even your partner.
You don't understand what this person is up to.
So finding that middle ground is the best.
Then Shanice, has anybody found it a problem you are too much of a 'nice' girl?
No, even if so, they probably wouldn't say it to my face.
That is true, they probably wouldn't have said it to her, at all.
So like Leah said, she is a little more associated with the 'wilder' side of the spectrum.
I have a friend who is the opposite end of the spectrum...
So far, we cannot see her anymore?
She's a lovely, sweet girl.
Like no sex before marriage, no drinking.
Like the chastity belt, that type of thing?
Check off all the boxes kind.
would I be I wouldn't impress my lifestyle all my
values on to her but all I need is her to be involved in my life
it only becomes a issue if we're dating and then you refuse to be a part of I
want to just make sure you don't make that was a few bed yeah so it's always
only fair if you all respect each other people getting overcomes you when the
guys aside the we like by teaching me once ago to be another way yeah exactly
then that's the only point where I do it's very abrupt comes back to this
point on what people do one you okay there for you guys right what type of
girls do you like well you I do that Wow I would say that
like I would prefer someone who is a bit more context or nice love but at the
same time must have potential to yeah I think there needs to be a better angel
on the streets something in the Chi yeah you go google bet if I want do like when
you brunch brunch by the same time I'm like you're go for drinks I do go for me
right just to be a good mix up offline knows how to carry ourselves in the
right setting so like I say we ever like a let's try this a bus place you know no
fine dining or whatever after that go for some
yeah some beers things I do but not any kind of partner you look for so you
wanted right mix right when you want to let loose you can let go to them when
you want to our tasks if I with them Yosuke are toxified I think the most
important thing is need to be able to provide some stability by resume you
need to have that yeah I have this theory right there my friend see they
will want to take vocals but they only wanna maybe yeah so how true is this
caddy this is something that everybody says me be like oh I wanna have fun
after that like the girl that I bring home has to be the one that is a you
know the branch I'll get to a certain extent but right who's to say this is
not to see ya personally I disagree with that statement I'm gonna date someone
well but then you want to marry someone nice but for me it's more of like a
prospective partner that I would consider dating right someone that I can
see that eventually so now you want to marry both good side and her wild side
yeah as yeah I wouldn't be like oh I want to have fun with this cargo and
then I want what a nice guy me by my friend series to me and they don't mean
it 100% my daily automatically classified goes into certain categories
right funny wouldn't even give oh why did want to have his workers in a pod is
because they want go to bring out a good she must be good so that they can be
good video right I think this is wrong to lie pacify someone is like undateable
because of depression I mean you know I Authority how people should be here
saying someone is not at this point I'm I would date you because you do what are
you doing it's a turn-on yeah I think it's very important that you also know
what you want out of yourself yeah for you yeah you want people do what you
obviously guys do that like when you're meeting go for the first time right away
you get grace' it's either oh I thought consciously do it even though I do it
right it does not affect my decision whether or they get to know her maybe I
could steer our topics there was something that's a bit more relatable so
if let's say I'm you know who's a little bit more wild right maybe we can talk
more about a music festival I have you meet someone who is not so
wild right you don't have to open with like when was the last time you got
pissed off you know because the guy be like ah
don't stuff like that I think we can't write the basis of this hotel all night
it's not based on values yeah which is something that is very important when it
comes to learning things about someone for me right if people just leave a
rapper but this person doesn't even know me they just met me for one minute just
judge it based on how I do interests I guess this is what jumps out at people a
slice a stereotype I think it wasn't poison Polly all right it is just the
way she carries herself and she got a wall go bye-bye she or she does it's
just I stay and watch people improve that my values are all of a sudden we
anything just judge me based on my looks but at maximum issue and like whether I
sort of left all right because my current brush yeah but it shouldn't be
oh I want to do good I be I do bring toys all right you don't even know that
person you know all right how do you know if is not being recognized okay yes
I see why you need to spend a bit more time to really fully get direct someone
because if they are faking it right after it extended period I also think
that people assume that goes I feel that I'm very like timid to a guy in terms of
how people always have this impression that while goes settle down with one and
that's why I like people always you know the wall go is very difficult to date to
the point whereby if you're 70 not super high on your feet stuff like oh she's so
ugly because the way she hears I cannot keep they are unfortunately even though
they take yeah think so like I said no the more you understand yourself your
type watching I don't think that they would ever be like a fixed type because
I really believe in a specific time line is just someone that need to have
chemistry with there was this theory right where I was like super into the
wall goes because I feel that like I can keep up with the nonsense they I'm up to
and after that there was this face where I went for a really really like my
circles there is a change having grown from this experience do that the
question was should ask when you wanna do go right it's not whether what you
are to well for me or whether they are too good for me you should be like any
another person first I think everybody's up because it's kind
of a theory that we are younger you did Wow okay I mean find some nice gold this
is still very prevalent in Singapore I'll give an example
good entry chart will be from before and s2 before you could yes correct so other
order unique is together of I being together right then that's the fact that
usually the people try to deal with it but after you do all right
and then you mature little bit more right then you stop to look at what's
the other direction you find a nice girl I mean kind of settle down so it's true
laughs but people should add more people the little boxes they should get to know
each other first why are you doing so changes or whatever
right so I think any advice on finding a right person to didn't get to know that
person well first rather than just like oh nice I was like wow I do i but
basically like what don't see if y'all didn't know or like any dating every the
nice thing is just for you to write on so many options yeah I feel that advice
right I think people should focus on the most part thing and that's being a good
person yourself dating is a two-way street accessory when you're lying to
find a long-term panella you and other people I mean people want you focusing
on whether it goes to nice whether a girl is to well for my current station
life is a very selfish thing to do and it's a very unnecessary impression
judgment forming thing map so focus on being a good guys - grow yourself
y'all will find each other use the same time if the heavies are the things I
mean you go into accepting on each other's habits maybe that you can tone
down on some to accommodate each other's community I think it's just more like
you both of you gotta compliment each other there should be a balance in
everything if you know both of you enjoy club' then it works if you enjoy just
being at home and then you know watching Netflix so today we talked about nice
girls and Wow girls and what you like and I think the summary is yeah if
you're gonna date someone doesn't mean you want to get you right so be a good
person yeah and who people will find you do you same guys have any stories here
feel free to leave in the comments and also that's not what else to talk about
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