Okay, kids, another one for you if your parents are listening in, I guess
that's okay but I'm going to help you know how to convince your parents to get a dog.
Hey, guys. Got another video just for you. Now if your parents are listening in,
that's probably okay but this one's for you, okay. Because I know that you really
want to get a dog. Now you might want something else and this will apply to
that too but here's how you can convince your parents to get you a dog. You need
to understand how parents think because how they're thinking determines their
behavior, you got it? So here's how parents think. Now remember we talked
about this in another video so if you want a review of that, just go right up
there, click on that one and it'll queue it up so that you can watch that next
and you'll remember what we talked about, here's the quick version. There are three
stages of maturity. Now maturity is one of those words that just means how
grown up you are, right? How grown up you are determines how much control you get
to have so when you're on this stage one, you don't get to have very much control.
This part down here under the line is how much control you get to have, that
part over the line is how much control your parents get to have. Now your
parents get most of the control if you're in stage one, that's just how it
is. Stage two, it's more balanced. Stage three,
you get to have a whole lot more control than you do at stage 1 or stage 2. Now
let's get another take on this because control also means how likely is it that
you're going to get what you want so if you want a new dog which would be
so awesome, I love dogs, it would be awesome, right? That's what you want. If
you're on stage one, how likely is it that you're going to get what you want? Not
very likely. If you're on stage two, how likely is it that you're going to get what
you want? Oh, more likely. This is looking good.
What if you're on stage three? That's when it's the most likely that you're
going to get what you want. Now you don't always get what you want,
welcome to earth but this is the way you have the best chance, okay. Trust me, I've
worked with parents a lot, I know a whole lot about parent psychology. Now let's
review really quickly what those three stages look like. Stage one is where you
are selfish and it's all about me me me and you whine and you beg and you plead
and you manipulate and you try to get what you want in inappropriate ways, okay.
Does it work? Sometimes, huh? Yeah, sometimes it works and that's some times
why we do it but most of the time it doesn't, it just takes your parents off
and they get all control freakish on you. Notice that this is true. Okay, stage two
is where you stop fighting and you start cooperating, okay. So like when your mom
asks you to do something, you're like, okay and you do it or if your dad tells
you that he needs to have something done, you're like, "Okay, dad. I'll do that." and
you cooperate, right? Now this isn't convenient, it's kind of hard and
immature kids can't do this so I'm trusting you to be mature enough to give
it a try, alright? You're cooperating, you don't want any trouble, you want to keep
the peace so you're going to go along with things. Now stage three, this is where it
gets really exciting, you guys, okay. This is where you're
mature and responsible, there's a word called initiative, that's all about what
stage 3 is like. You can read all about it in this book, it's called The Dog Poop
Initiative. I'll put a little link down below so that you can find that if you
want to, okay. Initiative is where you see what
needs to be done and you do it, nobody has to ask you. Okay, so what if
what if mom asks you to help out with the dishes, okay. If you're on stage one,
what are you going to say? "No, why is it always me? What am I, your slave? Nobody
else ever has to do anything around here, it's always me!" I hope that's not you
but you've seen it before, haven't you? And when your parents see it, how mature
do they think you are? Oh incidentally, I got to tell you this,
okay, you've got to be mature to have a dog. Now I know your parents have
probably told you that too but I'm just I'm on your side, remember? You got to be
mature to have a dog but here's the kicker, it's not so much about how mature
you are. Sure, that's important and I want you to be mature, be over here on stage
three but the kicker is this, how mature do your parents think you are? Yeah,
that's why we got to know some parents psychology. See, knowledge is power so
when you understand how your parents are thinking then it's going to make a whole
lot more sense how you're going to convince them to give you a dog because it's not
about fighting and arguing and manipulating and whining, that's just
going to irritate them and they'll get all control freakish on you again. It's about
how mature they think you are, right? So if you're doing all of this "No, I
don't want to. I'm your slave and get out of my hair." And whining
and belly aching about everything, they're going to think that you're not very
mature even though you might
really be mature enough to have a dog. Do you see what I'm talking about? It's not
so much how mature you are, that's important, but it's more about how mature
do your parents think you are because that's going to determine their behavior,
got it? What if mom asks you to do the dishes and you're like okay or you're
not even happy about it, fine and you're all put out you know but you
cooperate, you're just not happy about it, how mature is mom going to think you are?
Yeah, she'd say, well not one because you're cooperating but probably maybe a
two, certainly not a three because you still got an attitude and remember, it's
not about how mature you are, that's important but it's not as important as
how mature do your parents think you are and most parents are not pushovers, they
can totally tell if you're faking it. Have you noticed this? And that's kind of
irritating and annoying but they do think, it's like they got this sixth
sense or something and they can figure out if you're faking it, if you're faking
it or if they think you're faking it, how much or do they think you are, right? See
that just takes, even if you're faking stage three, they think you're less
mature, they get all control freakish on you and you don't get your dog so you
really got to do it. Now let's look at stage three, mom asks you to do the
dishes, I know, right now you're probably thinking, what the heck does doing the
dishes happen to do with getting a dog? Stay with me, it's important. Mom asks you
to do the dishes and you say, "Oh sure mom. I'd love to help." Okay, that's going to shock
her. This is even better.. "Oh mom." Now you can't lie about this, okay.
"Oh mom, I already did the dishes. Is there anything else though that I could help
you out with?" Okay, meanwhile, she's like losing consciousness because she's like
who are you and what did you do with my kid? This is good because if you're doing
things and taking initiative, how mature does mom think you are? You see and how
likely are you to get what you want? Follow? Yeah, this is brilliant okay cause
you know parent psychology now. This is going to help you get the dog that you want.
Now here's a couple of other quick pointers, it's hard, okay, I didn't warn
you about that but I need to, it's hard to do this stage
three thing, only mature people even really try it, okay. Those less mature
kids and stuff, they can't even pull it off yet, maybe you can, alright. But it's
hard, it's going to take some effort and you might need to practice some things so
here's a couple of tips for you. Alright, now remember, this is a way we're going to
help mom or dad to think that you're more mature but we can't fake it, it has
to be real so you're going to volunteer to take care of something that requires
a little responsibility, you're going to volunteer, got it? So you might volunteer
for example to take out the garbage when it needs to go out. Okay, you with me? Do
you know what day your garbage goes out? If you don't, figure it out because
you're not going to wait for dad to ask you, you're going to know when it goes out,
you're going to know how it needs to be done and you're going to take care of it
without being asked. You do this a couple of weeks in a row, something's going to
change in your parents mind, that's what we're going for,
okay. So volunteer to do something. Now what if you're afraid you're going to
forget it? Gere's where the tips come in. Number one,
find a way to remind yourself. If you wait for your parents to remind you, how
mature are they going to think you are? And how likely is it that you're going to get
what you want, right? Who's going to remind you? You know what, I
went on a scout camp too long ago and as I was leaving this
group of scouts, we had one of them that volunteered to
be the bugler, you know the guy who wakes up early in the morning, plays his little
trumpet to wake everybody up, he came to me the night before and he said, "Will you
wake me up in time to blow the bugle?" I asked him, "Who wakes up the bugler?" Think
about it, he's got to find a way to get himself up, doesn't he? Cause he's in charge
of waking everybody else up. This is what I'm talking about. So you find a way to
remind yourself for example, what if you volunteered, not the garbage cause
that's only once a week, but what if you volunteered to take care of some chore
in the house every day? Okay like wiping down the sink or making sure that
everything's put away in the kitchen before you go to bed, something like that,
take a rock, find a rock about the size that would fit in your hand like this
and put it in your bed. Now why would you do that? Because when you hop into bed
after your days all done, you know, and you hop in there, oh, you're going to hit
this rock, right? And then you're going to be like, why is there rock in my bed? Cause
usually there's not and then your mind is going to remember, oh yeah, there was that
thing that I volunteered to do and I'm going to remind myself, the rock just
reminded you. Do you see what I'm talking about? Another thing that's really easy,
just write a note like on one of those post-it notes you know, that sticks to
things? Put it somewhere you're going to be sure to see it, like on your shoes, what
if it's something you volunteered to do every morning, like make your bed, clean
up your room? I know, doesn't sound like it's about a dog but it is in mom's mind,
got it? Yeah, so you put a note on your shoes and before you put your shoes on,
you're like, well there's a note on my shoes, I can't get my foot in there. Oh
yeah, I volunteered to take care of something. This is so important because
parents are thinking ,when you want a dog they're thinking, yeah, who's going to take
care of this dog, it's probably going to be me
cause I have to take care of everything because my kid's not mature enough. Do you
see? This thing you're volunteering to do has everything to do with you getting a
job because you're convincing mom or dad that you are mature enough to actually
handle it and it's not going to happen fast, you got to do this consistently for a
while, okay. And do it a little longer than you think
you want to, it might be weeks, okay, but check it out, what if you don't do it?
Then you're no better off in a month than you are right now. Give it a try,
practice it, establish some good habits, be mature and convince your parents that
you're mature and then you have a better likelihood of getting what you want.
Wow, parents psychology. it's a good thing to know, isn't it?
Your parent, I hope you got something from this too. If you like this video, please share.
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