ANXIETY : HOW TO NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU
Anxiety take root into our life it is simply because we give too much importance of what
other think of us than what we think of ourselves We are anxious about what people will say
if we put these trousers or dress? Did our make up look like the one in the advert?
What my mate will think of my girlfriend? What will people think if I come out?
Are these people talking behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and
family think of me? What if I fail the exam what they will say.
Flipping the middle finger at others and screams "I don't give a f*ck what you think of me!" It
is not the way forward. It is only give importance to what others
think. Today is the last day we live a life waiting
for other people seal of approval. Today, we're going to get to the bottom of
the problem. Today is the day we stop giving a F@$% about
what others think of us. Today is the day we take control of our lives.
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SO TIPS 1 LOOK FOR THE LESSON TO BE LEARNED.
Be a student and always look for the lessons to be learned.
There is a difference between caring what other's think and allowing it to shape your
life, your decisions, your thinking, your feelings.
Your friends and family laughing at you, at your dreams. That is one experience almost
everyone go through it but the difference is How that make you feel?
Belittled, angry, ashamed and embarrassed? So what could you learn from it. Feeling offended
is OK, but you can still move on. Sometime people are threatened by your successes
and happiness and victories and as a copying mechanism they mock you, they will to try
make themselves feel superior. Sometimes other people are genuinely trying
to help you. For instance: You're ready to go to an important meeting or a job interview.
Your mother comments like this how inappropriate your dress looks. While this comment may feel
harsh, it come from a good place your mum doesn't want you to mess up a great opportunity.
Maybe she is just concern that other people will judge you from your appearance not what
is in your head. What people think about you, can be also a reflection
of them. So pay close attention. Look for the lesson.
TIPS 2 PEOPLE ARE SO BUSY THINKING ABOUT THEMSELVES
THAN THEY ARE WITH YOU. Are you constantly thinking about yourself?
So does everyone else's. It's quite simple: people don't care about you as much as you think they
do! Some people just take their curiosity little
bit far to be honest. This could be an opportunity for you to be proud of yourself. You must
be doing something unique for other people to take notice. Remember anything that does
not fit the norm is criticise nowadays. I prefer to think of it as a positive because
it reminds me of the tremendous freedom I have.
You got a degree? Good job. Nobody cares. A part from your loved ones.
You're getting engaged? How exciting! Nobody cares. A part from your other half.
You are beggar? Nobody cares. People walk pass you and look in the other direction.
That is the reality. It's rare for a person to be more interested in you than they are
in themselves. Our egos love to think that we are the most important being in this universe.
But in reality we aren't. This is at the very root of our anxiety.
TIPS 3 WHAT'S THE WORST THAT CAN POSSIBLY HAPPEN?
Let say someone has not got important things to do but talking behind your back or makes
nasty comments, so what? What's the worst that can possible happen? I know bullying
fall under this type of comment. Even if you do feel terribly self-conscious and ashamed,
not caring about is the smartest present you can give to yourself because the feeling will
pass as quickly as it came if you just be patient enough to see the storm out. And you
will come away proud that you have been true to yourself.
TIPS 4 YOU CANNOT CONTROL WHAT OTHERS THINK : LET
GO One of the biggest mistake we do is to believe
that we can control what others think. People will judge you good or bad. People will talk
behind your back. People will hate you. And your powerless about that and you can do nothing
about it. If you care and show emotion well they will give you more of that but IF you
don't THEN they go looking for someone else. Yes, you can try to please each and every
person who comes into your life, but do you really think you can avoid judgement?
It is like every single person on the face of the planet has a degree in law and think
they are a judge sitting on the court dock and have the right to judge you. Ask the billion
of people who ever walk this life if they have not been judged by another.
So you are no special or different from the rest. Just don't let it affecting you.
Living a life by waiting for other people approval is a terrible way to live to say
the least. It makes you weak, a spectator, a follower.
Worst of all, it makes you become someone with no integrity.
Your actions, appearances, and life are shaped by how you think other people see you.
Letting go of the illusion of control takes conscious effort as often this habit is unconscious.
Therefore whenever you're in a difficult situation, you may like to repeat as a motto,
"I can only control my emotion. I love who I am."
TIPS 5 HOW TO RESPOND TO YOUR HATTERS.
Learning how to respond to your hatter it is an art. I remember that a major source
of anxiety for me in the past was that I didn't know how to respond to my critics. It is only
push me to withdraw and isolate myself. How do you keep your cool in the face of derogatory
critic and reactions? It took me a while to realise that the best way to respond was acknowledging
the other person's thoughts, but stubbornly standing my ground because I know my life
better than anyone else. Being assertive in the face of your hatters
also requires sometimes to challenge them not just always walk away as most people advice
but put them in their place too and then walk away. You will be surprise how vulnerable
they are too inside of that bullish facade they portrait.
TIPS 6 YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING : MAKE MISTAKES AND
LEARN. Only God doesn't make mistake. as human
we came with this label of not being perfect and we are allow to make mistake. If you are
anxious about what others think, you'll likely be a perfectionist.
You are probably like those people who have extremely high expectations of yourself and
you are likely to find it hard to forgive yourself. Please show me one single person
in this planet who at some point in their lives not obsesses over how others see them.
Accept this reality without beating yourself up. You're allowed to make mistakes: you're
human. You set the rules in life remember. So next time you're anxious about what people
think, be kind with yourself. None of us are perfect, nor can we ever be.
TIPS 7 YOUR OWN VOICE MATTER.
The importance we put in the voices of others often cover our own. Do you know what would
your authentic voice, personality and life look like? Spend time exploring this question
and aspire to fulfil your potential. The world is already full of people who obey
the norm. But the people who don't give a F@$% are the ones that change the world. Be
a game changer. Start living life the way you want, be fearless like you once were as
a child, and always, always stand up for the truth. Someone has to.
TIPS 8 LIFE IS FOR LIVING AND TOO SHORT.
Finally, look at life from the 360 degree perspective it will help massively with caring
too much about what other's think. You know next minute or next day or year is not guarantee
we could die any day, any time… do you really want to spend your life chasing to please
others? On your deathbed, will people's opinions really matter? No, they won't.
Aim to live life to the fullest so you have no regrets. Remember we get more flowers in
our grave than while we are alive.
Care about what other people think and you will be their slave.
Thankfully, we can escape that slavery with enough focused effort.
Be gentle with yourself, respect others, but also honour your own voice. Picture what your
life will be like when you don't allow other's thoughts to dominate you. It's nice isn't
it? Work towards that. You can do it.
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