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Hey Dan here and in this video you are going to learn five essential skills
every single ENFP should master. Now if you're new here my name is Dan and this
is Dreams Around The World where I help you become the best version of yourself
all while creating an awesome life for you and those you love. If you are an
ENFP, you have unlimited potential - I'm talking some serious ability to become a
badass but along the way you're gonna have to develop some skills to allow you
to do that and these five skills here are some of the most important and there
are also skills that well important to just about anyone to develop on some
level if you develop them as an ENFP you can become truly unstoppable now I'm
gonna go through all five here and what I'd like you to do is watch to the end
and then let me know in the comments which of these skills you'd like me to
make individual videos on getting into the details on how to actually develop
that skill set first up is storytelling have you ever been out with someone who
can just tell a captivating story the whole table is sitting around listening
to them for five 10 20 minutes as they recant some experience years ago and
some faraway exotic land or even just how they went to the grocery store the
day before and somehow everyone is paying attention to them the ability to
tell a great story is a essential skill as an ENFP because one we're pretty good
at it naturally so if you fine-tune it hone in that skill you can be incredible
at it the other thing is sometimes in our minds we're going a little too fast
for ourselves we're thinking out loud and so there are enfps i've met where
when they're attempting to tell a story it kind of more sounds like mmmmm and
everyone's like okay some ritalin for this guy let's sound let's get back
telling a great story is an amazing way to bring people into your world to build
rapport to build connection and its really good if you're out with someone
who's perhaps a little more shy or you're with a group that isn't the most
conversational if you're able to tell a good story you're able to open
and connect with those people and keep those people entertained rather than
turning to them and asking them a bunch of questions and they're like hey I'm
introverted I don't want to answer these questions right now I don't even know
you telling stories is awesome now one part of being a great storyteller is the
second skill that ENFP should really work on developing which is social
acuity the ability to read the people around you and just get a sense of a
room now I've told you in other videos that social acuity is one of the ENFP
superpowers and it is we can naturally read a room better than most people but
developing this even further is where the superpower aspect really comes in
right naturally we're pretty good but we're still not fine-tuned it's like
you've got a gun so well we are naturally pretty good at reading people
and reading the room by default we can definitely miss some details sometimes
maybe we talk a little too much or we overcrowd this situation so those that
are a little more shy or sitting back kind of observing we don't bring them
into the conversation in that and this ties back to storytelling because
telling a really good story if you're with a small group of people
part of that is observing the people and noticing kind of who's reacting and
bringing people into the story and all that as you go so just learning to pick
up on those little details just practicing that particularly around
people who perhaps are a little more shy or reserved and noticing where they're
at when you're communicating with them and not overwhelming them with our
awesome enf penis but maybe sitting back and being able to bring them into the
fold as well now number three is discipline and I know what you might be
saying enfps we can never be disciplined and that is a lot of hogwash I think
that's a word I don't know I'm not from the UK but it sounds like something they
would say in England you know what I've actually found that when an ENFP commits
to something we can be some of the most disciplined people when we turn
something we want to do into part of our code part of us and say I am NOT going
to do X Y or Z something a bit extreme we do it very well where other people
tend to falter and go back if we make an extreme decision I have found
that enfps follow through and make it happen so we can be extremely
disciplined when we develop that ability and when we use our discipline in a way
that really jives with our personality and so we're actually committing to be
disciplined in a way that's going to work for us rather than trying to follow
some ISTJ discipline system which is never going to work out very well next
up number four is self-awareness by default we are not people who reflect
too much on the past we look to the future we like to create we like to
connect we like to have a good time but sometimes this means that we forget
about ourselves and it also means that we have a tendency to repeat patterns
more than some other types might now this is something that as we develop as
we mature we can definitely overcome we get better at looking at our past
mistakes and not repeating them but it's something I would really encourage you
just to work on as well as your general self-awareness if you catch yourself
feeling really off one day pay attention to that maybe don't try to force
something that you would otherwise do because oh hey I am NOT in the spot now
or maybe you catch yourself repeating patterns where you step back and you say
wait a minute didn't I do the same thing in my last relationship and my
relationship before that and the seven before that and then maybe you want to
analyze yourself a little bit differently and make some changes so
developing yourself awareness as I said let me know in the comments about which
of these you'd like me to make more videos on maybe all of them for that
matter and I will develop separate videos on each of these skills but
overall just pay attention to self-awareness reflecting on your past
reflecting on your behavior and building a bit better of a radar to notice your
own patterns last but certainly not least is follow-through and
communications and yes this is tied in with discipline but it's quite a
different thing what I mean by this is when you're dealing with other people
and you commit - something following through or
communicating with them that you won't be following through or when you will be
following through is so so important I learned this the hard way like three
dozen times remember number four if self awareness I did not have that and I
repeated this pattern to so many times my old boss about I don't know a decade
ago now would hammer it in to me and I'm sure was the most frustrated man on the
planet at the time because something would come up I'd be dealing with our
company clients and I'd get behind on something and what I would do is I'd go
in my head and I think like okay I'm gonna get this done
tomorrow I'll just get up early and then I'll email them and they won't mind that
I said I would get it to them today and you know maybe come up with some kind of
excuse of course everyone can tell their excuses but when you're 24 you don't
realize that and you know that was my plan and the reality is when you don't
communicate with someone when you say you were going to it looks really really
bad and why I know this is a problem for more enfps than just myself is I email
with hundreds of you guys and of all the types that I work with enfps are by far
the most likely to say hey I want to work together let's do this or hey I'm
gonna send you this tomorrow and then I don't hear from them and then I don't
hear from them but what I've learned is to see normally I would just you know
stop communicating with that person but what I've learned is that ENFP is on the
other side and now they're like oh no I said I would communicate I said I would
be in contact but I haven't been in context and I was more awkward so now
what I do is I just ignore the fact that they didn't communicate when they said
they would and kind of keep in touch but my point is those enfps tend to come
back a week a month later and be like hey sorry I wasn't in touch blah blah
blah blah blah and all that sort of stuff what I do for this is if I am
going to be able to follow through and do what I said I would I do it and
that's where the discipline comes back in so number one is if you can just do
the thing you said you were gonna do that is the best but if you can't then
just send a quick note hey sorry not gonna have this to you today I'm a bit
behind I'll get it to you by Tuesday that sort of thing what I found some
enfps do is they over as a way to like put pressure on
themselves to get it done but then they don't do it and it becomes this habitual
pattern don't do that it destroys your credibility with people so
follow-through when you say you will or if not just communicate one sentence to
people hey sorry I said I was gonna do this I'm not sorry
boom all done so now let me know in the comment below which of these skills then
number one perhaps include a second if you really want that you would like me
to make a separate training video on diving into how to develop that if you
have not yet subscribe to the channel I publish new videos three times a week
all about creating an awesome life for yourself so do subscribe to the channel
and I will catch you in the next video soon
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