Today we are talking about how to be confident if there is one character
trait that you would love to have in your life
wouldn't it be confidence how is it we can do some amazing and sometimes
unexplainable things like heal our own bodies by the power of our thought
mother's intuition the law of attraction can we really tap into our subconscious
mind can we really create our own realities it begs the question are we
novice gods hey good to see it thank you so much for joining we are talking today
about confidence how to be confident now you got to tell you this is hugely funny
that I would even even dream of teaching confidence especially where I started
and I share this with you so that you can think about where you're at right
now and kind of what you're going through and realize you don't have to
stay where you're at if you can challenge your belief system
if you can any-any limiting beliefs that you have about yourself if you can burst
the shackles from that and become who you were meant to be wow you can do that
and you get you do that by challenging your current belief system so let me
just tell you a little story about where I started and it's not really where I
started but it was one of the low points where where I was at okay so this is
only about five in fact he was five years ago this month five years ago this
month I went to a conference in Las Vegas it was called CEO space had all
these super successful CEOs there and I was sort of the CEO of my film company
and was growing into some other things but I certainly didn't feel confident or
comfortable being there felt very nervous in fact I went there I brought
three sport jackets and it was a week-long conference and I was so
nervous being there so much of it was about personal development and I knew
that that was something that I needed that I wanted in my life and that I
wanted to be a part of but I didn't know how to do it and I went and I saw all
these amazing speakers up on stage and there were something
cited me that said you need to be doing this and it scared me terrified me
terrified me so much that just being in the room with these ultra-successful
ultra-confident ultra competent people I sweat and I was I was like he was like
Niagara Falls and I sweat through my t-shirt through my my dress shirt I
sweat through my sport coat all three of them I was just so nervous being in the
same room with these tremendous people and feeling this gap between where I was
and where I want it to be okay so fast-forward five years here we are
I'm talking to you about confidence isn't that funny I think it's funny okay
so I want to share with you three three tips for how to build confidence in your
life and the first thing actually before we even get to these things I got to
talk about your belief your belief is everything and if you start out with
this belief that it's an all or nothing or that you either have it or you don't
those are beliefs that we kind of get ingrained in us in society and they are
not true beliefs they certainly don't serve us well and I say that they're not
true beliefs because I used to believe that and Here I am on camera talking
about confidence so anyway something has changed so
obviously there are there's room for for this to be different so wherever you are
in your life if you believe that you either have confidence or you don't or
that you've born with it or you're not and that you may be on the negative end
of that to where you don't have confidence you were not gifted with it I
want you to take those negative false beliefs aside and just throw them in the
trash and say no we're gonna start out with something new today and I want you
to change your beliefs and allow new ideas to kind of percolate in and you
know try them on like you know like a sweatshirt or something like that if it
feels good hold on to it and stick with that but but that's the first thing is
to believe that it's possible for you to change that you know you you don't
either have to have it or you're not but that you can actually grow and increase
your confidence okay so anyway that's just kind of a foundational thing but it
ties into the first skill which is or the first idea which is to believe
believe that confidence is a skill now if you can embrace this idea with any
skill you can improve on it whether it's cooking whether it's dribbling a
basketball between your legs whether it's playing the violin or the guitar or
the piano these skills get better as you practice them so if you can believe that
confidence is a skill that means that there are exercises that you could do
there are things that you can do to increase your confidence so anyway
kind of try that belief on and feel how that feels
now another thing that I want to share with it I just want to share a little
story that happens happen to my daughter years ago she was she was actually back
there on that piano and she had a recital to do that day and she had not
done very well with her practicing okay and anyway she and then that night she
needed to perform in front of all these people who are coming to the recital and
it's not a ton of people but when you're a little kid it feels like the whole
world is there watching you and she was nervous and she was scared and she was
crying because now it's cram time and she wasn't getting the song right and
she couldn't she couldn't even play through it once without just tons of
mistakes she couldn't make it through because she would stop and she had
freeze up and she was just falling apart well I thought I'm gonna you know I'm
gonna take some of the stuff that I've learned in positive psychology and I'm
gonna see if it works for her and so I sat down with her and I asked her about
her accomplishments I asked her what she was good at she was good at soccer and
she could catch any anything that was thrown at her and you know we just went
through all of these things that she was good at and as she started to think
about that her confidence level grew we weren't even talking about the piano
we weren't even in the neighborhood of the piano we're talking sports but as we
did that her confidence level grew and then I said do you mind playing through
that song for me one more time and I sat there on the bench with her and she
played through the entire song beautifully what was different what was
different was that she spent time to boost her confidence and to think about
the successes that she had in life and when she was focused on that when she
believed in herself in those respects she could believe in new respects
believed that she could get good at the piano and anyway just I share that with
you because I want you to know that that confidence is not a fixed thing and it's
not a universal thing you can have confidence in one area and not in
another but you can also grow it because confidence is a skill now the next thing
to share with you is that as with any skill the more you practice the better
you get good at it so here are some things that you can do to practice your
confidence I contact make sure you keep your eyes really big and just stare them
down okay I'm kidding about that but eye contact is this beautiful thing because
it connects us it connects souls together and you have the opportunity to
have great eye contact with people and you can practice it again you know you
don't want to stare at them you don't want to you want to look away enough so
that they don't become nervous but the but generally people don't look at other
people enough you know and if you pay attention to what kind of color their
eye is eyes are then you know you can do different things like that but you can
really start to to really kind of be there and that's kind of the next thing
is to be fully present when you're with somebody if you will practice being
fully present and not thinking about all the homework that you have to do or the
you know the assignment or the you mowing the lawn or shoveling the walk or
you know other things that are going on in your life and you're not focused on
where you're at right now and who you're with right now those can be distractions
but if you can focus and be fully present that's going to boost your
confidence because what's going on is you are feeling congruent with who you
are you're feeling in alignment with yourself and it makes a huge difference
posture is a great thing you know to stand up straight or sit up straight
kind of feel like there's a string right from the top of your of your head
pulling you up when you have good posture it increases your confidence
these are things that you can do to practice you can smile you don't have to
wait for something good to happen to you you can smile right now not only will it
boost your confidence but your brain can't tell what's causing the happy
feelings and so it actually releases a lot of the chemicals that help us feel
happy anyway these are just some great things you can you can have good body
language you could show that you are genuinely interested in people when you
start doing these things and practice them repeatedly over and over again with
whoever you're with you can boost your confidence and when you boost your
confidence in small ways then you can boost them in medium ways and eventually
in large ways so anyway I just wanted to share that with you that that's that
boosted your confidence is definitely a skill and something that you could do
now the third thing is to live as though now you you can call this fake it till
you make it you know but it is really living with an eye of faith that you you
know who you want to become who you are looking to be you can believe that you
are that person now it's it's not so much fake it till you make it but fake
it until you become it and there are things that you can do to live as though
through your thoughts through your actions through your posture through
your practice through your demeanor and the more you do that the more you become
in alignment with who you are you're true to yourself you're true to those
that you're around and your confidence will
will grow and skyrocket and eventually you will be able to get over a lot of
those limitations that you feel that have been holding you back so I wanted
to share those things with you today yes you can be confident yes it is possible
for you because you have this divine DNA you have such potential within you and
it just takes a little bit of effort and I know you can do it what are your
thoughts you've had time to think now it's time for you to share in the
comments section below share your thoughts ideas and questions
especially any insights that inspired you to take action of course the best
place to take action is that Scott will hike calm because if you join me for a
free web class I will reward you with a purpose planner so you can start each
day with confidence clarity and conviction what if you are a God in the
making that would mean there's purpose to your life meaning to your challenges
you have a great work to do may you have the courage faith and power to become
who you were truly meant to be see you next time
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