Hello my internet friends.
My fellow achievers.
It's Bryan here.
Now, I know you might have a bit of a hard time
paying attention to anything I say while I'm wearing this
awesome Irish cowboy hat.
They have cows in Ireland, right?
Well, Happy St. Patrick's Day.
One thing I'm really excited to share with you today is,
I recently made the declaration
to be the world's leading expert on good living.
If you're like me, you might be asking,
"What does that mean?"
I'm interested to know what that means to you.
A little bit later, I want you to share with me
what's the single best piece of advice
that you've received about living?
What does it mean to you to
live a good life or to live well?
I want to share with you an idea.
I want to start by sharing with you an experience that
I had this morning.
I had a phone call with my mentor, Marshall Goldsmith.
The purpose of the call was to
seek his advice about writing a book.
I've written a book about my father.
You might know Behind the Drive.
It was an awesome privilege to spend about two years
collecting stories from people
how my dad made a contribution to them.
This book is a little different.
I want to share things with leaders, achievers
and seekers that help them to live a great life.
To life the good life.
Whatever that means.
I've been working on this book for a couple years.
I felt pretty stuck to be honest.
As I talked with Marshall one of the first things he said,
this is a guy who has written
three New York Times bestsellers.
He's coached some of the top CEOs in the world.
He has an incredible array of experience
and insight, even wisdom I dare say.
One of the first things that he said at the beginning
of our call was, "The deepest learning
I've had about life over the last few
years is that we all need help."
I thought that was interesting.
A very humble perspective.
As I've explored why, like why has this not come easy,
why haven't I done this yet?
You might have something similar in your life.
Something you've intended to do.
You've wanted to do.
You've tried to do.
For a long time, for whatever reason it hasn't
happened yet. You haven't mastered it.
You haven't achieved that thing,
acquired that thing, become that thing.
I've been reading this book called The Shadow Effect.
Written by some extraordinary authors.
One of them is Debbie Ford.
Debbie writes that, "We all have at least one place
where we secretly desire to be more,
to have more, to experience more."
Sound true for you?
I know it does for me.
Debbie goes on to say, "It is here that our
shadow is waiting patiently for us to come
retrieve our power from the dark recesses
of our unconscious mind."
Wow.
Talk about the shadow self.
That sounds deep.
That sounds dark. That sounds mystical.
Not so much.
It's an idea that Carl Jung, the Swiss psychologist
introduced about 70 years ago now.
The basic idea is that there's aspects of
ourselves that we don't look at very often.
We don't like to admit they exist.
We don't like to acknowledge.
We suppress them.
It's there that in the in the act of not really
accepting that, we diminish our own power.
I want to talk with you about the duality of all things,
including the divided part of our self.
I have studied a bit of Chinese.
I did take a semester.
I was an Asian Studies major.
I thought it was interesting to see
that in the Chinese language duality when combined
would represent a certain word. I'll give you an example.
If you take the word good and not good
you get the word quality.
If you take the words for long and short
and you put them together you get the word for
length.
If you take the words buy and sell and you
put them together you get the word
for trade or commerce.
We know that everything in this existence
has its opposite.
Hot and cold. Up and down.
Life and death. Happy sad.
You don't have to look very hard to see
all of that.
But for some reason,
we often don't want to look inside ourself.
What's the opposite of our brilliance?
What's our darkness?
What's the benefit of doing that, you might ask.
That's a great question.
For some reason, I think of something that
Uncle Tony says.
He says, "One choice is a dilemma."
I'm sorry.
He says, "One choice is no choice.
If you have one choice you have no choices.
Two choices is a dilemma. Three choices, at least three
are always available in any situation."
So when someone tries to put you in this false
dichotomy of choose A or B.
This or that. It's not necessary. There's always a third
way. That makes me think of something
Andrew W. K. said where he talks about
rather than life being and on-going struggle to see the
glass half full, or even half empty,
how about the option of looking at the fact there's
even a glass at all and appreciating that.
How different is life when you look at that
and the difference of transcending this duality.
Full. Empty.
Darkness. Light.
That sounds pretty metaphysical.
Let me bring this all back together
and say, why does this matter?
How can this help you?
If you acknowledge. If you're willing to look
at these parts of yourself
that you don't like. That you're not comfortable with.
And you consider that maybe
what's holding you back
from being the person you want to be.
From living the life you want to live.
Maybe, the same mechanism that's in effect
suppressing all of that. Keeping whatever's
in the shadow in the shadow is the same thing
that's holding your brilliance back.
That's holding back your light.
As a coach, I've learned from working with
scores and scores of people,
hundreds of people if you count people at workshops.
Probably thousands at this point.
That we're always better off this is my opinion.
I think we're always better off
working to amplify our strengths, our gifts, our talents,
than we are to compensate for our deficiencies.
But if you're not willing to look authentically
inside yourself,
how brilliantly can you shine at all?
Maybe a little metaphysical.
Definitely a little bit psychological.
I hope you see something for yourself
that will help you to live a more complete life
in the way that you can see that fact
there's a glass at all.
To appreciate the totality of your being.
What you might call the good, the bad,
the pleasant, the unpleasant, the ugly, the beautiful,
the animal, the angel.
All of it.
And accept that it's all you
and you're greater than all of that.
That who you really are is greater than anything you own
Anything you do.
That you are are magnificent.
You are majestic.
If you're not already,
you are capable of living a good life.
An extraordinary life.
Even if you don't believe it, I do.
With that I want to come back to this thing
about what's the best piece of advice you've
ever received about living.
What's the key to living the good life in
your estimation?
Leave it in the comments.
Send me a private message.
Text message if you have my cell.
Love to hear from you.
Where is it that you can ask for help?
That it would be wise for you to ask for help?
Where can you help another?
Those are my questions for you.
I hope you've enjoyed.
I know this one is a little longer than normal.
Happy St. Patrick's Day!
Hope you have a safe and wonderful weekend.
I look forward to talking to you again
very soon. Until then, take care.
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