Good afternoon beautiful peoplel
ashkirwan.com.au bringing you
another video on how to rebuild trust
which is as i can assume and imagine
that you would probably be aware that
it's a big thing in today's worldl now to
go turns news on to see that people's
trust doing miss land and broken and
destroyed of a multitude of levels or if
you start to see that sort of carry out
and tater that's going on in the greater
world around and none of us are except
for that because intellectual property
the internet bullying political agenda
corporate strategy the excessive
workload workplace burnout mental health
issues family dysfunction marriage
divorce breakups messy breakups and
youth issues in a multitude of different
spectrum and arenas are starting to a
rise in our community quite vividly and
this is kind of where I think it's
really important for us now to start to
as its species I'm going to go back by
say that but as a species we need to
start to learn how to rebuild trust in
that cell phone for me I'm going to go
out and say it starts with a big dose of
humility in rebuilding trust redundancy
that means but like for me to bring for
me rebuild trust with you is to
ultimately have this humility to admit
when I'm wrong they're not to speak
dramas and negativity about other people
around me unless I'm willing to actually
speak that to that person because for me
that's a really big dose of scenery it's
something i've found is true in my world
if I exist within the paradise of
different social groups and family
groups and yet not partaking
conversations and put forward content in
the form of my self expression in
regards in relation to another person or
a call company or a brand whatever in a
way other than what I'm willing to
actually communicate effectively with
that person and say directly to that
version or the company of that brand
then ultimately I'm partaking in a level
of psychological abuse features are
willing to say things behind probably
else in fact or not I'm actually willing
to say to them so therefore when I have
people that are willing to come to me
and tell me what my problems are tell me
what what my shoes are wanting to hear
that I wanted to understand it because
it shows me parts of myself that I
haven't been out of four see for myself
by me being out to have the ability of
defeat you got to see where these people
are coming from I don't have to agree
with their right most of time I died but
it means I get to a chance to explain
why I see act do or are otherwise i am
and be the ways I be and do the things I
do quite repeatedly and it actually
feels lot stronger bond and those
relationships you know I can't tell you
how many dark and clearly lightning
filled death-defying conversations I've
had with my mother and father of the
last 38 years actually i'll go that far
of saying but it's been quite talking
and rewarding in the same essence
because like rebuilding those those
relationships with mum and dad's being
it's been huge mammoths all but is
nothing short of tormenting learning to
love people that put you in a mental
institution four times who raised your
the fundamentals old a family value
system and a religion based upon open
communication effective communication in
order to give back to one vision one
goal and while and belief because it was
totally obliterated in the segregation
of the deterioration of their own
marriage relation because i live
completely oppositely to the values a
abbreviated lead and obsessively
compulsively held each other in regard
to they completely create a profile
profane obliteration of the family
values that they believe teach me my
brother actually
the best way to put it however let's not
inter detriment to say that they about
people it's not to say that my dad
should be punished severely adjusted to
the doctor the dust of health for
everything they've done to me know what
I mean by that is giving me a chance to
actually understand the composition the
context and the content of two people
spies we totally did not partake in the
understanding and the open communication
in working through issues to create
resolve in order to have an effective
communicative relationship that could
grow to a greater level of abundance and
rebuild trust quite substantially based
upon the faults and the insecurities
that showed up persistently within their
relationship that's a bit of a mouthful
however moving right along this very
area of standing here the kitchen this
is one of the beautiful places I like to
build trust and people in my life
features help really healthy lives
healthier healthy wife now the mind
healthy body healthy spirit put it
however you like however what you put
into your for you what you feed and
nourish your body with in the form of
food thought actions activities peer
group career etc hobbies is going to
permeate all areas of your life
including relationship so for me this
area here in the kitchen is a beautiful
place to build trust because if you're
happy if your relationships are
conducive to effective communication
people are going to want to help each
other cook dinner they're going to want
to socialize in the kitchen they're
going to enjoy a morning coffee and
stirring each other up your ass and have
it a wrestle in the kitchen while
they're doing the dishes you know
generally having fun and serious people
aren't having fun and Aaron and I mean
fun in other areas their life because
this is where you get your energy to go
out and all that other great stuff but
you do it out the world because if
you're an entrepreneur and you do some
great stuff in the world you know just a
great stuff in here how long do you
think that's going to last and how long
do you think you're going to be able to
sustain that level of energy when we are
in Superman you
yeah performs a theory class with some
serious skill levels but you don't get
this part correct those skill sets are
sustainable for any level of excellence
for any extended period of time at that
is a given scientific fact without me
bringing up any statistics we all know
that do we not and we are not going to
have any trouble here argue with me I
wanted to put the comments in the box
below let's be fit out which is a la
backwards and love that shit because
you've all got stories going on your
world and that's why I'm doing these
solve the problems of the stories people
got going on in the world it was never
greater level of trust through my
humility of meeting defeat so if you've
got any grief or beef on anything year
for see or hear me say go to town on
number one Ashley's a comment box down
there and let's get this conversation
started because that is the whole point
of these videos is to teach you how to
understand how mental health is a direct
outcome from your family dynamics that
the value system that was acquainted to
you and talk to you in your use growing
up through your perceptions of your
environment around you manage your
school your peers your friends your
family and the geographical locations
and demographics that you grew up with
in and that is from those things that we
will find the keys to unlock the
perception to our greater potential for
the future in every single one of us
regardless of whether we come from a
higher socio-economic group or a low
story short social economic growth
because I've gone from being in the
middle class socially socio-economical
watching my mother and father smash one
another to obliteration physically and
psychologically to squeeze and weasel
their way into the upper middle class
only to act like complete wankers and
then have two discrete each other
through the law court and drag me my
brother through the gutter rats of
arrows like Halle need understand why
the hell they were being such idiots I
need to be scum rolled back into the low
socio-economic groups with the seat and
chill with some of the coolest people
I've known and then climb and scrap my
way out of it
see some of our firm is upper class
social economic group absolutely living
in the mythical disarray of the darkness
of their own soul and inner torment so
there is no convincing me that there is
no right or wrong or the only level of
money is going to raise your level of
happiness or self-worth or depression or
cluster bomb and mental fuck of what's
happened in the past moving forward to
correct whatever I Palace all you want
to create the only way we can do that is
to rebuild trust in the relationship
scale around us and put first things
first and build a team that people who
we care about and care to be around
because they believe what we believe and
to see what we perceive and want to have
fun to the sound level and degree that
we want to I could have kept that right
of going but I'm not here to be a part
and I'm not here to be complete
entertainer on the clan on a goose and I
like to be that I can also be equally
grumpy and go to absolute fucking
squander your on motherfuckers because
they get crankier than my granddad in
the aims I sure half a carton of evil
you export about 10 when he blew that
was quite site doesn't i can tell you i
was about its best all the kids and
grandkids will climb down the trigger
and you know it son that was no hanging
around Athens at 61 to think you're
about to get busy Australia's happen
interesting parts of happy attractive
background had an interesting culture
development and we since the wars ever
since the community development become
more of an artistic size in our
Australian Adi battle attended see a
culture of 20 we made down and go around
being the rugged Ozzie turns into the
tall poppy syndrome of actually being
obnoxious and arrogant those house and
would come along Miami clearly turn you
use on you'll see how far we've come you
know with a crack epidemic there's a lot
of research done in to drive
use alcohol abuse gambling abuse and
even to a certain extent domestic
violence that a lot of our issues and
emotional armory stuff it's showing up
that are having up num our pain in
destructive ways they addiction are all
coming from our lack of connectability
and ability to connect with one another
emotionally and resolve our issues and
live an ever greater prosperous happy
fulfilled life and one thing I'll come
to understand myself as being on the
hamster wheel and running faster and
becoming more of a worker holy to make
more money to prove your point you can
afford their thing it's not really
building trust and resolving mental
health issues or making any of us feel
any better about ourselves it's while a
bitch so much what do you love doing
when you've got a few spare moments in
your life that give you the space to
really glow and bring yourself to like
what is that you are then have you
noticed that time sleeping out fully
self-express yourself in there there's
make clearest away to be understood in
the way you intend to be understood as
being when you be that you're healthy in
your life with your schemes think line
with your body's been flourishing we
draw systems of work around sent the
body clocks working your bouncy embedded
annoying you know routine your patents
are all flowing smoothly go that way
you've had two consistent flow in life
and clean when you just bento be
scattered argue with everybody not
anything correctly not giving a shit
never trade for a while I don't think I
need to wait for an answer for that do I
go look around you if you'd like to
build more trust yourself and the people
in your life I challenge you to start in
the kitchen think throughout the
conversations and the relationships you
have in the kitchen who do you have any
kitchen who do you convert in the
kitchen how do you converse with them in
the kitchen what you can to converse
over when the different emotions of
those conversations are going on and
hacking you're sad or angry and the
arguments what top food
in those moments challenge yourself to
look at this style how do you rebuild
trust how are you going to rebuild trust
if you've got broken trust in your
relationship maybe somebody cheated on
you or maybe something's happened is
been a fight there's been any level of
domestic violence psychological pieces
been months of not being understood or
maybe your partner's been telling
stories you haven't wanted to speak
photos to other people to other people
right in products like parties and all
this sort of shit going on what is your
broken trust issues and how are you
going to rebuild or what format and what
rules and what conditions are you going
to put in place in order to rebuild that
trust because those my friend Ozar your
boundaries by knowing about it you would
know where your trust issues lie and you
will know when it will step over that
mark and is your best interest to learn
to communicate effectively and demand to
be understood in those times they're not
being understood and learn to move away
from those relationships is there to
file the toxic side of the more in the
emotional and resolve to resolve those
issues as they show up to rebuild the
trust while in the quickest ways you can
do this very kitchen because if you're
in the kitchen with the people that you
love that you're supposed to have trust
and build trust consistently with and
get a name ever deeper relationship
connection with over time because that's
what sharing your life ultimately is
meter depth of marriage are autonomous
you get to know someone ever deeper
level and embrace the true depth of
their identity based upon the
development over time you truly love
someone you will want to see them
through the hydrogen line and accept
them for their good and bad faults want
to see their race or network a level of
potential of themselves so therefore in
the kitchen is the perfect chance you
have those conversations that are hard
to have that are hard to resolve that
are emotionally sticky that really need
to happen if you look into your life so
at least the other remember why it took
far too long happen what if i get you
like well what they were wearing well
now if you take it on your into your
minds way of that you can start to open
up these conversations we're in the
kitchen over time and actually move into
the more and more and see where people's
emotional arms only see where that are
emotional I'm sure you get different
people different agents have different
levels
sure the incapability and accepting
different emotional conversations which
is some people don't actually understand
emotion my parents are in essence is
part of a baby boomer here in Australia
which means that they don't really have
much all of emotional connection with
itself because that don't even know how
many emotions there are in the human
condition how many emotions do you know
how many can you explain do you realize
there is more than a couple more than a
couple hundred emotions within the human
availability there is actually around
7,000 human emotions that you can
experience it how many of them can you
name or know that you go through one
particular day because I know my parents
in their relationship never stopped 21
times now one other emotions not one
another's emotions or their emotional
response of different subjects or why
they are emotionally responding to
something so that support twice along
the board of don't go there don't go
there which meant they end up things
from the most immature people I've ever
known that still know which I'm
accepting and loving that for which is
then physically and emotionally beating
each other up for so many years kept
them confined to the immaturity of their
own inability to step into emotional
conversations to resolve them to evolve
them to grow as individuals and they
cost themselves psychologically and
damaged themselves in the latter part
their lives which is around the ears or
maybe from fashion shit out of each
other through there but they aren't
about the lateral load which has the
facilitation on lateral thinking
thinking laterally connecting
emotionally and effectively
communicating people so they've got
psychological damage those parts of
their brain which affects them in their
ability to be mature in their fifties
and sixties when they should be the
highlight and twilight years of their
life so what i can do is shit a little
internal tears of those people but they
created themselves so what are you
creating for yourself in and how are you
going about building and resilient doing
revision trust levels within the
relation see and care about so much
because sometimes people now life for
ourselves sometimes our apples but a
reason and if we actually love them for
those reasons I'm stopping alpha
quantum at the hardware is mom and dad
maybe you will too maybe you are I'm
hoping you take the easy one take the
easy way man take the easy way
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