are you someone who struggles with trust issues because I definitely had I've
been lied to cheated on used manipulated stolen from everything that you can
imagine to just destroy my trust and faith in humanity so how the hell am I
supposed to trust my girlfriend on the solution is all about trying to help you
to improve your mental and emotional well-being so the end of that kind of
stuff make sure you subscribe and bring that notification bell because I make a
ton of videos so yeah I am making a video about trust issues because I know
so many of us struggle with this we struggle with trust issues often on my
channel is about how isolation is a bad thing a mixture anxiety and depression
worse like we need to build relationships with people but you might
be somebody like me who struggles with trust issues because of your past right
so you know I'm the son of an alcoholic mom million times I've had girlfriends
who have cheated on me I've had you know friends steal from me and me and light a
man everything that you can imagine I've
worked in the sales field at work and have you know co-workers steal my
clients like everything that can destroy a person's trust has happened to me but
the issue that I found was that I wasn't able to live free and be happy and
improve my mental health when I don't trust anybody and what happens is we
pull up all these walls and put these huge walls we don't let anybody in we're
always worried about getting hurt and it's difficult I get it so in this video
I wanted to talk about two people who I've had to work on my trust issues with
and one of them is my beautifully amazing girlfriend Tristan
my wonderful editor Zack so I break this up into two parts first I'll talk about
Tristan and our relationship they'll talk about Zack the editor and our
relationship so yeah so first let's focus on the you know the
relationship aspect you know myself and Tristan so I've mentioned this in other
videos in the past like I heard a million women a million women and you
know something eventually realized was that I was at fault too I was somebody
who wasn't you know all that great in relationships as well but like it made
it so I didn't trust women like I used to be one of those emo kids like listen
to like Alkaline Trio and like hate women music and stuff awful you know
like being cheated on and just women talking you know going through my phone
and their phone and all that so like how could I ever have a healthy relationship
and you know so when Tristan and I first started talking like as with anybody you
know was single and dating like these huge walls up because I was worried
about this person hurting me right if I open up too much to them they're gonna
hurt me and I don't want to do that so maybe I'll just keep up this guard maybe
I'll just stay protected maybe I'll just put on a front or a shower whatever it
is so I guard my feelings right but like that's no way to live that's no way to
live like something that a lot of us struggle with especially anybody who's
froze with anxiety we struggle with this thing called future tripping right the
what is like one of my favorite quotes I think was from Mark Twain something
along the lines of like the worst things that happen my life never even happened
right about all the scenarios we make up in our mind so the thing that helps me
out the most with this especially with the relationship is mindfulness right so
mindfulness is a meditation practice is very informal where we're just training
our brain to bring us back to the present right because when I started
dating Tristan like it's easy for me to think what if she cheats on me what if
she's like texting other guys what if she's you know doing this Lucy doesn't
like notions that we mean all these other things like
these are things that can lead to me self sabotaging our relationship and
something that I see so many people do which isn't fair is we bring our baggage
from the last relationship into the new one right and then we bring the
relationship baggage from both the old relationships into the new one it just
keeps accumulating and accumulating and accumulated like is that fair to the
other person that we're trying to start a relationship with by the way that's
one of the reasons why I tell people that they need to stay single until they
work on all this stuff right there at least in the healing process because
it's not fair to the other person want to know how you could tell us not fair
how would you feel how would you feel if you dated somebody who is constantly
accusing you of things that their ex did not - good right and this is that
beautiful thing that we like to call empathy you know what I'm saying so I
can't worry about those things you know the other thing that we worry about is
like oh what if she breaks up with me like I've had women just break up with
me out of nowhere it's almost like when you get fired and like seemingly for no
reason I've got women just straight-up leave me you know one of the reasons
that I didn't like is like what if this person just decides they're done with me
what if they just get rid of me right
you know what I'm saying like these are things that have been deeply rooted
inside of me but I can't do that healthy relationship I can't worry about that so
what I do with Tristan on a day-to-day basis is I remember right now like today
things are good right I can't worry about what if we get into a fight
tomorrow what is this what if that what if you know whatever I can't I can't
live in the what-ifs or I'll go freaking insane but you know aside from just our
relationship stuff you know we're growing as a couple and you know we've
been together for almost two years now and we're about to get our own place but
I have an exciting announcement I want all of you to know I know we're not
getting married and we're not pregnant so calm down but anyways yeah I asked
Tristan to become like more part of the rewired soul and this is just something
like when I made my video about Cabos today and I want to do more videos like
that like you've got to learn how to be a better judge of character right I had
been with Tristan for almost two years now and like I want her to become more
of a part of the rewired soul so what I'm doing and talking about trust right
I'm giving her all the login information to my youtube channel and my Instagram
and you know my Twitter and my email all these things because as I'm growing like
I'm getting overloaded like some of you watching this right now you've set
mediums and or emails that I haven't gotten back to yet because I am just all
over the place all over the place so I asked Tristan if she can help me out
with that like you've all seen Tristan in the live chat she's amazing she has a
background in mental health as well she worked at a mental health facility in
California she's actually in school right now to be a social worker who have
amazing conversations just about mental health and so I'm gonna have her help me
reply to all of you because a huge part of what I'm trying to do here with the
rewired soul is I want to stay engaged with all of you like right now it's like
I don't know like 9:00 in the morning and I've been up since 7:00 in the
morning just replying to all of your comments on YouTube you know what I mean
so Tris is going to help me out with that so I just want to let you all know
like you might get a message from Tristan but like that's the thing
there's a reason why I never called this thing like the Chris bouquet channel
like I don't want it to be about me I want it to be about everybody I want to
do that's why I love doing collaborations and shouting out other
creators because we all struggle with mental health and again I'm nothing
special I'm nobody special other people have been through things
and they can give you a message of hope as well so I'm very excited that Tristan
is going to be helping me out with this she's also gonna be helping me out with
patreon like all of you you're all amazing and you guys we have really
exciting stuff happening soon this week I'm doing my first patreon Q&A which I
will post here on the YouTube channel so a lot of you a lot of you send me
requests you send me requests for videos sometimes I do and sometimes I don't
it depends on my mood but what I'm trying to do is prioritize the people
who are helping to support the channel to do their video ideas so I hope that
makes sense because I'm only one person I can't make a video for everybody you
know who subscribe to me so if you're interested like this patreon links all
place down the scripture and stuff even if you just signed up for $1 a month but
I will take your suggestions into consideration but I'm gonna start doing
a patreon Q&A once a week so Tristan is going to help me manage the patreon and
all of that so next let's talk about this dude Zach let's talk about Zach the
editor so this is important but this is really
really important like especially if you're creator or you're a control freak
like man like stay and listen to this about exactly like I just got back from
bit summit you know about a week ago where it's a convention with all these
creators and like first off first off some of my best videos some of my best
growth happened while I was gone a good summit and it never would have happened
if it wasn't for Zack but I've met so many other creators event where they
they won't hire an editor they will not hire an editor because they are control
freak they're control freak and they're so
worried so how I met Zack was in Roberto Blake's Facebook group the awesome
creator Academy is you know he's a young sir he's a college student I've been
watching him look at people I analyze people I judged like their character and
stuff and Zack just has this insane insane work ethic like I've met a lot of
creators who like they just want everything handed to them they just want
to be a gigantic youtuber and not have to put any work they just want to go
find it all they just want you know money to just rain from the sky and like
Zack isn't like that I saw Seth just hustling like Zack was
trying to find a way to do some freelance work and make some extra money
and this dude was all up on Twitter just messaging different people to say yo
before you yeah I'll do this he offered to do stuff for free just to get his
name out there and like it's crazy he hustled and he got a few gigs some of
them worked out some of them didn't but even still he got some more experience
and like Zack just keeps pushing forward and I look for that I look for that like
I just replied to a comment not long ago where somebody was like telling me that
they wish their YouTube channel was bigger I went over to their YouTube
channel so hard because this world does not owe me anything I have to put in the
work I saw his hustle and his work ethic but aside from that like Zack has a very
you know a very small channel I hate using the word small like you some of
you need to watch Cody water and hashtag no small creator but anyways
like Zach's Zach does amazing work and every time I would watch his videos I
would laugh I always have a huge smile on my face like if you were in the
livestream we watched Zach's video about like Pokemon waifu's oh my god if you
really want to get to know who Zach the editor is but go check out his video
about Pokemon Weiser's is absolute madness
it is badness my zach is just looking for a thick goodra to make his like
complete anyways back to the point so watching Zach's videos I loved his humor
I love you know his work ethic oh dude you want to help me out and like
I would pay him a little bit you guys know my work ethic and you know how much
I hustle and this is just too much for me I added all my own stuff so you guys
probably notice like if you guys pay attention to my channel you notice when
I edit a video and when it's a video I love the way Zach's thumbnail game is on
point but yeah like I just gradually grew my trust with Zach and and he
listens to he listens like me and Zach were just like on the same page and we
click and we have a similar style of humor to like I told him you know what I
liked about his work and what I would like to see him do with mine
and some of you have mentioned how I love Brad who had this pewdiepie stuff
so zach is kind of like taking that style where kind of a back and forth can
I love that too because on a mental health channel
sometimes I'm talking about pretty serious topics and like how that can
infuse some humor in there to kind of lighten it up because that's one of my
missions with this channel and with what I'm just trying to do for this world is
what mental health not be this like taboo subject and like things that were
afraid to talk about you know and sacks like comedic timing is amazing and he
knows when to die what's that you know edited oh no like I hope he
doesn't like trying to throw in a joke right here and he doesn't like me and
him just clip but if you're somebody who is a control freak like remember I
always say this pain is inevitable suffering is optional like if you have
trust issues if you're a control freak and you're taking on too big of a
workload that's on you and I'm sorry to let you know but I don't feel sorry for
you like you need to take the steps and work on your trust issues but with Zach
for example we took baby steps had an editor video for me like once in
a while right how to make me a thumbnail once a while and like I started to see
that he was giving me good work so now zach is like helping me out a lot
a lot I'm still editing some of my stuff because zach is so amazing at what he
does he's actually helping a lot of different channels but anyways like I
really respect and appreciate what Zach does so if any of you struggle with
trust issues I really really hope this video helped you out like I like sharing
my own experience and how I've overcome some of my own mental health struggles
and like if you're still gonna trust issues like just the best thing to say
is take baby steps stay in the mouth don't worry about the future like hey
some days that might you know flip a switch turn evil and like try to rob me
blind future tripping alright so anyways let's do this down in the comments below
let me know down in the comments below if you think that you still have trust
issues and maybe even if you want to list the reason why wait no forget that
here at the rewired soul we talked about the problem but focus on the solution so
here's what I want from you down in the comments below let me know if you're
struggling with trust issues you could say why if you
would like to but I want to hear you stone me and the rest of the rewired
soul audience out there what you're going to do to work on it how about that
alright anyways that's all I got for you with this video if you like this video
please give it a thumbs up if you new make sure you subscribe and read that
notification bell because I have a ton of awesome videos coming your way and a
huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon and remember
I'm doing patreon only Q&A coming very soon so if you would like to support the
channel over on patreon and get involved click the top on that patreon icon right
there alright thanks so much for watching I'll see you next time
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