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Q&A Video! - Duration: 0:57.
Hello guys! How are you?
I was thinking about making a different video for you guys next week and upload a Q&A video!
So I was thinking that if you guys liked the idea you can leave your questions here in this video.
And you can ask questions about something related to Game of Thrones like:
like my opinion on some character or scene or just something I missed, etc.
You can ask about another shows, series or movies...
You can also ask something about me you would like to know.
You can leave them on the comment section below.
And next week I'm going to pick a few questions and answer them on a video I'll upload on wednesday or thursday.
So yea I hope you liked the idea and leave your comments below.
Big kiss to you all, I hope you have a nice weekend!
And I will see you on sunday for the reaction of episode 4 of Game of Thrones.
Big Kiss!!
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АСМР забота о тебе / ASMR take care of you [ENG SUB] - Duration: 15:00.
Finally you are came home from work
So sad to be alone at home without you
while you are at work
You are so cold
Yes
It's really cold outside
Don't worry.
Don't worry
I will warm you with my care
Come to me
Let me hug you
Do you feel my warmth?
I feel yours too
Though you are so cold
I will help you get rid of the autumn blues
I will help you relax
Look what I bought you while you were at work
A warm socks
For your feet
Give your leg
Right here
One is ready
Give me another one
Right here
Now your feet are warm
You will not get a sick
Never
Never
Never
Lie down
Now I will bring you a warm blanket
Wait
I will massage your tired hands
With the help of a special cream
Right here
Cream for you
Give me your hand
I will massage you
Your hands are so tired today
You need to relax
Close your eyes
Close your eyes and enjoy
Near to you it is warm and cozy
Can you feel your hands getting warmer?
Of course, because it is so cold outside
When you walk without gloves
You go without gloves all the time
I tell you all the time do not forget the gloves
Take care of you
You will not listen to me
Your hands become chapped and dry
I will massage your hands
Right here
Tell me about how was your day
What is happened on work?
I will massage your another hand
Yep
Give me another hand
I knew you could do it.
You are so hardworking
I am proud of you
Give me your hand
Right here
I will stretch every your finger
Itchy my cheek
Right here
All hands are smeared with cream
Now It will not so dry
Now
I will clean your face
Because you walked down the street
Where is many dirt on it
Now I will fix it
Now i will take a towel for you
To wash your face
Right here
Come to me
Do not be afraid
It is just a cold water
Right here
Now another side
And your forehead to clean too
Right here
Right here
Right here
Right here
Now you are so clean
A cheek
Why you are so shy
Right here
Right here
Now
Great job
I want to kiss your cheeks
And another one
Now
I have prepared for you a special face cream
This special face cream will help your skin get more relaxed
See what a beautiful bottle
I very like this
There are little glitters
It is invisible. Don't worry
There are a little pipette
Right here
First give me your nose
Now a forehead
A cheek
Another cheek too
You are so funny
Now I will rub a cream
Close your eyes honey
It was a hard day
Now you are next to me
Close your beautiful eyes
You are funny
Massage your cheeks
Right here
Have a rest
Right here
Right here
Tea is ready for you
This is a special tea
Look what a big mug
For my man
Take it
So warm
Can you feel you are getting warmer
Do you want more?
Tea is a very delicious
Good
Get a mug back
Now you are so clean
Got warmed
Yes i know
I know but don't worry
Don't think anything
Just close your eyes
Right here
Do you want that i kiss your nose ?
Ok
You deserved it
A cheek
And nose
I'll cover the blanket for you
Right here
Right here
Do you hear the rain knocking on the window?
But you are here with me
At home
It's so warm here
And I'm always with you
You're so sleepy
Good night
Sweet dreams
Good
Come to me
Wait
Fix your blanket
My honey
I am glad to see you
I've missed you
I will kiss you
In your cheeks
Softly
You deserve the best from me
Come to me
Bye-Bye
Good night
Good night
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Power supplies - How to make the right choice - Duration: 5:25.
Hey guys Linus Sebastian here for Corsair. So on the surface buying a power supply
seems like it should be pretty straightforward, right? Figure out how
much wattage your battle station requires. Pick a model rated for at least
that much and then start plugging in components, right? Wrong! It turns out that
there's a lot more to consider when deciding on a power plant for your next
rig. As the wattage listed on the box is only part of the story. You see other
important factors like reliability, efficiency, build quality, and noise
levels, can vary wildly between models. So, how do you know what to choose. Well
after you've figured out how much wattage you need you can use a reputable
third-party site like PC part picker. It's important to realize that some more
unscrupulous brands, can label their power supplies with peak wattage instead
of what they can deliver continuously. So even if your discount bin power supply
is labeled for let's say 600 watts it could still easily fail on you, sometimes
spectacularly if your computer ever actually draws that amount, especially if
you're running it in a warmer room. But CORSAIR power supplies are all rated for
continuous output at the stated wattage, so when CORSAIR says 600 watts they mean
600 watts all the time. This is because CORSAIR uses internal components that
are built to handle continuous draws. Even their more value minded VS and CX
series, because low cost shouldn't mean low performance. But going beyond just
knowing that your power supply will work when you need it to. Efficiency is also
important to keep your energy costs and your heat output down. One good way to
check efficiency is to take a look at the power supplies 80 PLUS rating.
This uses a precious metal system to give you an idea of how efficient your
unit is. All of CORSAIR power supplies meet at least the baseline 80 PLUS
standard. With many models offering gold-level efficiency and even
class-leading platinum and titanium level performance at the high end, and
some power supplies are also modular. This means that they allow you
to plug-in only the cables that you need for your build, to avoid having a messy
bundle of extra wires cluttering up your case. With many enthusiasts, as well as
first-time builders, getting serious about cable management these days to
improve air flow and aesthetics most of CORSAIRs power supplies are either
semi or fully modular. Of course, a good power supply also needs to run quietly. I
mean after all it's hard to enjoy your games if your power supplies fan sounds
like your computers trying to take off next to you.
Fortunately all CORSAIR power supplies are engineered for quiet operation, and
select models feature a zero RPM mode, when the power supply is idle and
thermal control that only spins up the fan when required, and with rifle or
fluid dynamic bearing fans you'll get quiet performance even when your power
supply is working hard. Then for those of you who want to choose between single or
multi rail power supplies, fear not because CORSAIR has you covered there
too. They offer both single and multi rail models with the difference being
that a multi rail power supply puts different components on different DC
circuits. So, that was a lot of information. How do you know which CORSAIR power
supply is right for you. Well after you've picked your wattage, and that is
still important, keeping in mind that higher wattages will give you more
headroom for expansion later and can drive more components, like high core
count CPUs and multiple graphics cards. You have a look at the features that you
get with each CORSAIR series. For a reliable experience at a competitive
price point, check out the VS and CX series and
remember that the CXM are semi-modular for a cleaner look. Stepping up to RMX
and TXM you'll get quieter performance 80 PLUS GOLD efficiency and long lasting
Japanese capacitors inside. The HX series CORSAIRs longest-running series, features
premium performance, a fully modular experience, and 80 PLUS platinum
efficiency, making it a truly high-end option. Then for the ultimate power
supply for your rig be sure to look at CORSAIRs AXI Series which features less
than 1% voltage regulation for incredible stability if you're an
extreme overclocker. These guys also rock up to 80 PLUS titanium efficiency and
they're available in capacities of up to 1600 watts of continuous power, to make
sure that even the most demanding systems keep running without a hitch.
Plus the top-end AX1600i comes with state-of-the-art gallium nitride
transistors, and remember all the models that end with an "i" are compatible with
CORSAIRs iCUE software interface. Which allows you to control and monitor all
compatible CORSAIR products right from your desktop.
Including, your power supplies noise and performance levels and no matter which
power supply you choose you'll be backed with between a three to ten year
warranty for peace of mind. So to find out more head to CORSAIR.com and check
out CORSAIRs full lineup of power supplies.
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How to Get Started With the Yoast SEO WordPress Plugin - A Beginner's Guide (2018) - Duration: 16:15.
Hi! This is Topher with WinningWP.
In this video I'm going to show you how to get started
with the Yoast SEO WordPress plugin.
I'd like to take a look at the Yoast SEO plugin with you
and go over a little bit about what it does.
Why do we need it?
We're looking here at WordPress.org at the Yoast plugin page
and there's quite a bit of information here
about what it does and why you need it
and why you might need to pay for the premium version.
Now WordPress relies on themes to do basic SEO.
If a theme is well written it will do well
with basic SEO, and if it's not well written
it will do pretty terrible.
So it leaves it up to the theme creator
to do things like make good headers
and put content in the right place.
But when you get right down to it, the thing that makes
your site unique, the thing that makes your site
come up in search results, is your content.
And the best thing that Yoast does for you
is allow you to manipulate the SEO on a per post
or page basis.
So we're looking at a post here,
and we come down and there's this Yoast SEO box.
And we can manipulate the page title, the description,
and all sorts of things.
We'll take a better look at that in just a few minutes.
But the key here to remember is that the Yoast SEO plugin
really comes in handy when you're customizing
the SEO for each post and page.
This means that the plugin isn't something
you simply install, change some settings and leave forever.
Every time you make a post or page you need to do
a little bit of work with Yoast SEO
to make that post and page really stand out.
Now before we install Yoast, we need to set up
a special kind of Google account
at the Google Search Console.
It used to be called Google Webmaster Tools
and you'll still see evidence of that here at the top
and in the URL.
But there's a big button here that says Search Console.
Now you can get to this page with Google,
just search for Google Search Console.
You're also going to need a Google account,
but one of the great things about Google accounts
is that they work across all of Google properties.
So if you already have a YouTube account
or a Gmail account, you can use that.
If you don't, you can create one here.
I'm going to click sign in.
And if you didn't already have one
then this is where you could create one.
I'm going to choose my Google account,
and here I am.
Now if this was your first time you wouldn't see
any websites listed here.
I have several.
But you would see an add a property button.
So we'll click that.
And then they want to know the web address
of the site that we're going to be working with.
Just put in your address and click add.
And that's all we have to do for right now
with Google Search Console.
We're going to do the rest of our work
in the Yoast SEO plugin.
So now let's go to WordPress.
I'm logged in here and we'll go to plugins, add new,
and I'm going to search for Yoast and click install now.
Then we'll have to activate it,
and now it's installed and it's already telling me
that there's an issue.
Now Yoast might present you with a pop up
suggesting that you do the configuration wizard.
That's what we're going to do.
But if you choose not to do it right then,
I'm going to show you how to get back to it.
You can find it right here under this icon
in the admin bar or if you go to SEO in the left,
there's a link here to run it.
We're going to go ahead and run the configuration wizard.
So the first thing we do is click configure Yoast SEO.
And we need to decide whether my site is live
and ready to be indexed or if it's under construction
and should not be indexed.
Mine is currently live so I'm going to choose option A.
And then it wants to know what kind of site this is,
mine is a blog.
And are we a person or a company?
If it's a person, put in their name.
What you put in here depends on your site of course
so you need to be thinking about
how you want to present yourself to Google.
And here we can connect our social profiles.
I would recommend that you put in the URLs
for all of your social profiles.
I'm going to skip this section
because I haven't actually set them up yet for my site.
You could do the same, you could skip this section
and then later go create these accounts
and come back and either rerun the wizard
or there's a place in the settings for them
and we'll look at that in a moment.
Do we want search engines to show posts in search results
and or pages?
I'm going to say yes for both of them.
Do we have multiple authors?
My site is a no.
And here we come to the Google Search Console.
Now let me talk a little bit more about what this does.
The Google Search Console keeps an eye on your website.
When Google crawls your site if it finds any problems
it will log them in the Search Console.
It can also make suggestions if it finds malware
on your site or if it finds something
that slows your site down.
Connecting Yoast with the Search Console
means that you can get those messages
right in your WordPress site so that you don't have
to go to the Search Console to see them.
Also Yoast can tell Google when you have new content
and ask that it crawl it.
All in all, it makes Google much more aware of your site.
So we're going to click get Google authorization code.
Going to log in with the same Google account
that I did before.
And it says Yoast SEO wants to access your Google account,
I'm going to allow this.
And they're going to give us this big long number,
we simply copy it, let me close this window,
we paste it in this field right here and click authenticate.
Now we've authenticated with Google
but we haven't told it which website we're working with yet.
We've only logged in.
So now I click the site that I'm working with
and click next.
And now Search Console is connected to this site.
Now this page refers to the site title,
and that appears in this tab at the top.
Now our site title is going to have our page or post name
then a separator and then the website name.
And you can choose any separator you want
and it doesn't really have any bearing on your SEO.
This would be purely for cosmetics.
We'll choose next and here we have the option
to sign up for the Yoast SEO newsletter.
If you're at all interested in SEO I highly recommend
you sign up, there's some really great information
that comes in their newsletter.
The final page is a pitch to upgrade to premium.
But there's also a number of training videos.
These are also excellent if you really want
to do a deep dive on Yoast, and now we're done.
We'll click close,
and we have some wonderful default settings for Yoast SEO
as well as being connected to the Search Console.
But we're not quite done yet,
there are a few more things that I'd like to show you.
Let's go to search appearance.
Now this refers to how you appear in search results.
Right now it's site title, page, separator, tag line.
I recommend leaving the defaults because Yoast
is pretty clever at what they do.
But if you needed to change these, you could.
You can simply click here and click any one of these.
If we go to content types,
we can choose some options for each content type.
So we're showing posts, but we're hiding the date
in the snippet preview.
And on posts we're showing the Yoast SEO Meta Box.
We'll look at that in just a minute.
And then this is how it appears.
We can do the same for pages
and if you had other content types,
you could do the same there as well.
Each of these tabs has some wonderful default settings
and I recommend that you read through them,
but not necessarily that you change them.
Again, Yoast is very clever.
Let's look at the Search Console here real quick.
And this is where it would show you some information
from the Search Console.
We don't have any issues right now,
but if we go to settings,
this is where you could reauthenticate.
Every now and again the authentication fails.
Google will try to connect to your site and it'll fail
and so it will disconnect your authentication.
That doesn't mean it'll stop working,
the console will keep crawling your site
and all you'll need to do is come back in here
and click reauthenticate.
There's a social tab here and this is where you can put in
your social profiles.
Some of them have some custom settings.
For example, with Facebook you can put in a Facebook app ID
and then Facebook will know a lot more about your site.
Similar things work for Twitter, Pinterest and Google+.
Under tools we can import and export all of your settings.
So if you have another site that's very similar to this one
you can export your settings and import them there
and be a lot farther ahead.
Now one more thing I want to show you
now that you have Yoast SEO installed,
it'll do some very common things in the background
and it'll do them to all posts and pages.
However when you're creating a new post and page
there are some very important things
that you should do.
So I'm going to make up a post title here
then I'm gonna come down to this Yoast SEO Meta Box.
And you'll see right here, this is what the search results
are going to look like.
There's the post title, our separator and the site name.
Then there's the URL, but there's no text here at all.
So we can click this and put something in there.
Then we also want to put in a keyword
and this is an important word that people might search for
to find your post.
This is actually a bad keyword but I'm gonna use
the word post because it's in my title.
So now we have our site title, site name, our post
and a site description.
So this is how it's going to look in Google.
And that's how it's going to look on mobile,
if you click here you get to see it on desktop.
Down here is an analysis of how we did.
The text contains zero words, I didn't write a post.
But what's interesting is that it says
this is far below the minimum recommended of 300 words.
So that's good to know that Yoast expects you
to do about 300 words in a post
to make Google pay attention to it.
My meta description is under 120 characters long,
however up to 156 characters are available.
And you can see that with an orange bar here
as I type, it gets longer
and at some point it turns green
and that's when you're in the happy zone.
Now 156 will be right here and it'll turn red
and then it would cut it off.
You can see here how it's getting longer,
if I put in a bunch suddenly it's truncated
and there's an ellipses.
That's not necessarily bad,
but ideally you want to get it just right.
Now additionally the SEO title contains the focus keyword,
but it does not begin at the beginning.
Try and move it to the beginning.
The SEO title is too short, use the space
to add keyword variations.
So there are some great advice here
and it's important to know that this is advice,
these are not requirements.
Google's not gonna hate you if you don't do
all of these things and get a perfect green dot from Yoast.
Write your content the way you want it to be written
and follow as many pieces of advice as you can
without making it feel artificial.
Once you're done hand crafting all of the elements
here in Yoast, then you can publish your post.
Then Yoast is going to let Google Console know
that you have a new post, and Google will come crawl it
and it will start showing up in search results.
Now this box appears on posts, pages
and optionally every other post type you have.
Now let's review real quick.
Optionally create a Google account.
If you already have one via Gmail or YouTube or whatever
then you can use that one.
But then create a Google Search Console account.
You don't need to do anything with it, just create it.
Then we installed Yoast SEO
and follow the install wizard, and at some point
it's going to ask you to authenticate
with Google Search Console.
Once we've gone through the wizard and set up some great
defaults then it's time to start hand crafting
SEO information about your posts and pages.
Now I showed you how to do it with a new post,
but if you already have an existing blog
and this is your first time setting it up with Yoast
I recommend going back through your old content
and adjusting the keywords and the descriptions
and things like that.
One last thing about SEO, if this is a brand new website
it's probably not going to start showing up
in Google search results for about a year.
Google has a policy about that.
It doesn't list sites that are younger than a year.
Now it starts watching your site immediately,
so you want good SEO and you want to start now
being a good citizen of the web so then after a year
Google says ah, this site has now grown up.
They have good content, they've had good content for a year,
let's start listing them up high.
So if you have a new site, start working now
on great SEO and in about a year
you should have great listings.
If you'd like to learn more about WordPress
check out WinningWP.com.
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An all-access look at KU from a Jayhawk POV - Duration: 1:42.
Gabrielle: My name is Gabrielle.
Jamie: My name is Jamie Van Loben Sels.
Donovan: Hi. My name is Donovan.
Andre: My name is Andre Womack.
Gabrielle: And I am super duper excited
to be showing you around my life as a Jayhawk.
♪ music ♪
Abbey: Everyone say hi!
Whooo!
Gabrielle: I am just about to head out for school.
My first class is Acting 2 so that should be a lot of fun.
♪ piano ♪
Gabrielle: (off-camera) Welcome to acting class.
Jamie: So I'm studying secondary english education
and I technically live off-campus
but it feels just like it's on campus
because my house is right over there.
Hanna: KU hills, baby.
I've got to go down all these steps.
♪ music ♪
Sam: We are out here at CCO's Super Service Saturday.
It's the largest volunteering event on KU's campus.
Heyyyy!
(clapping)
Abbey: Hey guys.
I'm here with my friend, Melissa, today.
We just finished 2 hours of wind ensemble
and now we're headed to marching band!
Whooo!
♪ music ♪
Jamie: So today we're in the honors building
and it's always pretty quiet.
Sometimes. But so focused.
Sam: Heyyy!
(crowd yelling)
Gabrielle: KU brings a lot of really awesome people in.
Her name is Ruth Carter.
She was the costume designer for Black Panther.
♪ music ♪
Hanna: Just getting some work done.
Heyy!
(laughter)
Andre: We're in psych of music. Almost 8 A.M.
Andre: (to class) ...which provides strength
and support to these societies.
Female student: Oooh. Stay tuned.
(crowd cheering)
Jamie: I'm going to head out.
Gabrielle: Rock Chalk!
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LEARN 5 AWESOME MBAPPE FOOTBALL SKILLS - Duration: 3:51.
Yo guys whats we are back
with a new video and you see in the title
today we show you 5 SKILLS from Mbappe
Leave a like and take part at the giveaway
of the PSG JERSEY x JORDAN!
How to win? Subscribe, Like & Comment
Have fun with the video! Lets go!
Lets start with Skill number 1 , The fast switch
Mbappe use this skill very often in every game
so take care and be ready!
Be with your body in a lower Position
and be ready for the explosion
Take the ball with some touches to one side
change then by a reaction from the defender the site
Important is that the switch must happen with SPEED!
Skill number 4, THE ZIGZAG MOVE
use the skill to loose the defender from your own
Important is to choose one side while dribbling to the defender
Take the moment from the defender to change the side !
Use your outside foot to controll the ball
Take care to skill not to late..
The next skill the PANNA TRAP
I hope to see this skill more by mbappe in the future
so take attention!
USE YOUR STRONG FOOT AND WHILE JUMPING US YOUR OTHER
after it you need to panna the defender again with your strong foot!
Important is the timing !
Number 2 play and RUN
Take your speed and play the ball to one side
try to get the ball by using the other side
I hoped you like the video
Choose the last skill in the Corner!
How to win the jersey ?
Like the video , SUBSCRIBE & comment below why you should win
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Minute Professor: Zombies! - Duration: 1:11.
(spooky organ music)
(clock ticking)
- Uh, brains. (laughs)
Zombies, rooted in the lore of West Africa
come to us via Haiti in the stories told
by U.S. Marines who occupied the country
for 20 years starting in 1915.
Haitian zombies were creatures pitied
as powerless, lost souls.
Haitians feared the zombie masters,
the bokors, and their powerful magic.
In the 1968 film, Night of the Living Dead,
zombies are cast as ghouls, murderous hungry monsters
that represent the era's fears and anxieties.
While recent books and films celebrate our strengths
and cunning as we survive the zombie apocalypse
they also confront renewed fears
of death, disease, science and technology,
and a stranger.
No longer the pitied victim of the bokor,
the zombie has become a dangerous monster.
Undead, soulless, mad, the stranger that threatens
our well-being.
(dings)
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Cancer help: How to help a friend - Duration: 10:53.
Simple easy things that you can do to help someone, you know who's struggling with cancer.
My name is Christine L Conroy
Welcome to Happy Stuff and Fluff, a channel for women over 50 who are getting happy and growing younger.
Mmm, so today we're talking about
Just how you can help someone who is struggling with cancer. I
Mentioned to you in the last video. I think I touched on it a little bit some people
don't know what to say, don't know what to do. And I've had quite a few emails actually on that point
that
you've even lost friends because you've been ill and the people you thought were friends are the ones who stayed away and
all kinds of stories about
that and
Anyone who's read my book will know that we suffered from that too. We lost quite a few friends when Charlotte was
originally
diagnosed with cancer, when she was a little girl and it hurts and I have answered those emails to the best of my ability.
I'm not going to focus on those people. Today,
I'm going to focus on you and how you can, or what you can do when
someone you know has cancer. Because as you will have seen perhaps in the
In the comments box someone actually asked for a video on this subject and as I got so many emails
I thought I'd better do it quickly. So here we are and it is so simple.
Okay, so the first thing is -
visit.
Don't stay away.
Some people are so concerned about what they're gonna say. Oh, I don't know what to say
They don't bother doing anything, and believe me
that is the worst possible thing to do
If you don't know what to say, turn up, and say I don't know what to say.
Because half of the time there is nothing to say.
Just being there
just being there and
showing your support is the first thing.
Okay, so it
might take a little bit of courage - once you're there. no problem.
You'll be glad you did it. Now then if you want to take a gift a really nice gift is a beautiful
Journal notebook as you can see you can get some gorgeous
notebooks
Get one of those. You can get some,they're not very expensive
And suggest that your friend or your partner, whomever it is that's suffering
Journal their thoughts. We will be talking about journaling. It's the best thing we can all do but especially
Someone who is struggling with something such as cancer
It helps to journal their thoughts. Now in terms of positive
psychology when in fact whenever anything happens to me
I always go back to my own Conroy Concept and look at things like close relationships.
Being outcome and goal-oriented, living in the now,
contribution, exercise, pleasure and learning something new. And out of those things
I can always pull something that's going to help me in any given situation.
Now, so here, of course. We're talking about relationships. That's the first thing please show up and be there for your fellow
human being.
Okay, so that's the first thing and I
think the other thing is you have to take with you
hope and positivity
But please
try not to say
to them,to the person you have to 'be positive - you must stay positive'
that's a
very often very well meant thing that people say, but please don't say that.
However, take with you ,your own positivity and your own hope for the future, for
your friend. Take that with you so that you go with an attitude of gratitude
for them, of gratitude for life and of hope and positivity.
Now if you don't actually feel that take a few minutes to sit down and meditate on those words before you actually go - to put
you in that right frame of mind.
Now, obviously, I don't know what stage a particular person may be. So timing is crucial when you when you do these things, so
when you go to see someone you must obviously
acknowledge their pain and their suffering.
Because they are suffering
there's no question about that and you really do need to
acknowledge it. But what you mustn't do and what will not be helpful to them is if you
join in - what's,
what's that common phrase we use
Pity party
That's the one. if they are indulging in, which they have every right to do. Don't get me wrong,
but if they are indulging in this kind of pity party thing this, 'woe is me' and
everybody's dying and the neighbours too -
attitude then you've somehow got to step back from that and not be sucked into it because you've got to change their mood.
If they spend all of their time thoughts and energy
fighting this thing called cancer then life is slipping them by anyway.
And if they are of an attitude where they've kind of put their lives on hold until
The cancer is gone or healed,
then that is also a mistake because the cancer may not go away.
You know they have to
try to live their lives too.
- Now I know this is easier said than done.
So what you have to do, or what you can do for them is to try to take them out of that
constant fighting and constant focus on the
illness as it were and do
Something nice with them.
You know as I've said in Stitch Your own Silver Linings,
moments of pleasure small and often are what gets us through the day.
Now that's whether you are suffering with cancer or whether you are just struggling with anything.
Small
moments of pleasure, so it could be anything it could watching a program with them on TV and talking about it afterwards,
It could be going for a walk. It could be
talking about their favourite thing before they got the cancer.
Anything that you can do to lift them out of that mood for a second, take them away from the cancer and
give them some, help to give them some pleasurable moments. Now what to do then is to help them to savor
that experience. To prolong that pleasure because what you're trying to do is to increase their
positive emotions.
Because
you know, and it's study after study those people who are
genuinely
positive and
rebellious about their illness, but certainly those who are positive,
fare better at all levels, at all levels, they fare better, but it has to be, it has to be
genuinely felt. So
Increasing their positive emotions and
prolonging
pleasurable moments will help them to do that.
So watch something funny on TV with them and then talk about it afterwards and then encourage them
to write about that experience in their journal
I mean be open about what you're doing. Talk about positive emotions and how
that's going to help them -when the time is right, of course if you feel you can approach it with them.
I've only said a little bit there
but I've said an awful lot because if you can do that for the person who is suffering from cancer
you'll be helping them an awful lot. And as I say it doesn't have to be anything
anything major. Small moments.
But help to prolong that experience or get them to talk about it afterwards. Get them to phone another friend and tell them about it.
Get them to write about it in their journal on a
daily basis and if they are open to it, as I say depending on where they are,
suggest the
Three good things
exercise for them to do at nighttime before they go to sleep because for certain and, of course, they are
going to lose sight of those things.
So if they can't actually feel or think of three good things they have to be grateful for
maybe rephrase the exercise by saying three things that went well today.
Those could include things like a friend visited,
we went to the park for a walk or we did this
Those kind of things to try to get them in a more truly
heartfelt
positive frame of mind.
And this next thing is the big thing
Keep doing it. Keep going back to visit
and
listen to them
without trying to fix because, obviously, you can't fix. You can help to ease their path through their suffering
Keep watching the video
And take all that in again as I say they might sound small things
but they are particularly potent things to do to help your friend your family member or whomever.
Okay, please tell me if that helped you in the comments box.
Also, if you've done something else for a friend of yours that helped them,
please share it with us because we're all in this together and
It would be great if we can get that going as a thread in the comments box.
Okay
Yeah, I hope that's helped
I'll be speaking to you soon. And until then remember that on the Happy stuff and fluff, we are getting happy and growing younger
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