hey I have a question for you when was the last time
you punished yourself what did you do wrong
do you think about it as part of self-discipline
well this episode is the first episode in the
series self-discipline where we might see
self-discipline in a different light more about that
right after the intro welcome to the day 1 journey
episode 112 chi-ching yeah well when was the
last time you punished yourself yeah punished yourself
do you see that as self-discipline
how do you define self-discipline notice it is self discipline
not just discipline many of us think about discipline
as we associate that to soldiers to very tough routines
to things that we don't want to do right
it's that self discipline for you or is that just discipline for you
interesting well let's go a little bit back
in the day one journey let's talk about communication
cause see this is no discipline this is the SELF discipline series
self is the discipline we want to have with ourselves
yes a little bit communication with ourselves
do you remember when we talked about it in the daily
routine the three basics the third basic was communication
you can check the link there for the communication episode
but where does it all start where does it start
our work on our communication it starts with ourselves
with the conversations we have with ourselves
think about it maybe this has to do with
self-discipline because this is disciplining ourselves
maybe this is some sort of a relationship
does it make sense to you maybe it does give it a moment
self discipline discipline we want with ourselves
you know what we spoke about relationship
let's take another example I'll give you another example
it might shed a light on what I mean by that
with a discipline over self this self discipline
ready for the example let's say you came to me
or a friend came to me and talked to me I think that
really happened in the past so I have this friend coming
to me and they say they are married
and they say remember this is diving in
into a relationship example to see what's the self discipline
is about but be with this with me
with this example pretty interesting
so that friend comes to me and he tells me you see
me and my wife we just don't have the love for each other
we used to have and we have two children
and we are really worried about them what can I do
he asked me so I asked him what do you
mean the love isn't there just love her
but then says you don't understand the love just isn't there
we don't feel that way towards each other anymore
so I tell him if the love isn't there that's a good reason to love her
if the love isn't there that's a good reason to love her
but then he looks at me and says but how do you love
when you don't love so I told him
you see love the feeling is the fruit of love the verb
so love her work for her appreciate her sacrifice for her
do things for her compliment her
raise the her up be good for her
do more things for her put some effort
are you willing to do that this is what I was saying
to my friend think about it can you
relate to this idea love the feeling is
the fruit of love the verb so what this has to do
with self-discipline what this has to do
with self-discipline do you have any idea
we said self discipline is also about communication
communication with ourselves right we have a relationship
with ourselves right I see self discipline as self love
do you love yourself enough to do things for you
love the verb you see many of us me included
was thinking are thinking or were thinking like
do I love myself I don't love myself
maybe I wait for that feeling to come
like this couple like this friend of mine
he waited for the love feeling to come
but the feeling of love love the feeling is
the fruit of love the verb you do the things
do you love yourself you can do things about it
do you love yourself enough to do something about it
think about it by the way the bigger the thing that you do
let's say a relationship let's say you get a present
for your life partner you get them a present
is it the bigger present or is it the bigger effort
that means the most love it is the effort it is the thought
it is what you put inside right so now think about it
towards yourself you have a relationship
towards yourself what are you wanting
to do for you will you consider it love
loving yourself if you find it a little bit
challenging you can think about your future self
yes think about your future self what do you wanna do
for your future self do you love them
do you love enough to put some work
you see it is so empowering because we can choose
yes we can choose to love ourselves
we can choose to love ourselves because this is action
we can do something about it we can put some effort
if we love ourselves and we want us to have energy
we can go to the gym we can start doing sports
we can do this walk and the bigger the effort
the bigger the love right then after a long time
we put some love we put some action we love ourselves actively
then we can look at the mirror and say yeah that was me
we can see the results if this is Fitness we can see
this is me yes and be proud of ourselves
because we love ourselves we put some action
we put some effort maybe it's not necessarily
going for that massage which is nice
it's still loving yourself but maybe the effort
is not that high but when we do the hard stuff
right when we resist our desires our basic desires
but then we do it long enough which is just more effort
we do it long enough and then we reach
what we wanted to reach yeah then we look at the mirror
we say to ourselves yeah we got there
yeah this is me we got there
this is self love this is what I urge you to do
love yourself put some action put some effort for you
yes for you this is what self-love is about
self-discipline don't wait there and think to
yourself do I love myself
do I not love myself put some work
put some work for your future self this is my message for you
for the day think about it
this is just the first episode this is just the first episode
of the self discipline series in the next few episodes
we will look at self discipline even from different angles
yeah different empowering angles the first one was this episode
was self love so my message for you for the day
right before the back to you love yourself
express your love for yourself in action do things for you
love yourself more than you love your desires
love yourself more than you love your desires
you can also check out the episode when we spoke
about the three basic basic desires most
responsible for our lack of self-discipline
check that link above the desire for food
the desire for sex and the desire to express
loosely organized opinions but either way
we're really out of time next episode we'll keep talking
about self-discipline but back to you
back to you my friends the assignment I have for you
for the day pretty powerful I want you to think about something
something that you can do for yourself
and now you can think about it as a small act of love
self love think about maybe something small
but something that does require effort maybe resisting that extra cake
maybe do this walk maybe calling this friend
but for you something for you think about something
think about a small effort that you can put for yourself
and put the label consider putting the label:
"small act of self-love" express your love for yourself in action
love yourself more than you love your desires
this is my message for you for the day
do this assignment today and of course
of course have an amazing amazing yeah
day one
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