So the other day towards the end of one of our free freelance or group coaching
calls came up the question around how long should things take and it's a
really interesting topic and I want to broaden it a little bit here today to be
but how long does it take just to succeed at whatever that goal is you
have and the first interesting thing about this is that people are terrible
at perceiving how long things should take in NLP they talk a lot about
perception of time right we all have different world views around time for
some people a long time is a week like if you have to take a week to do
something that's insane for other people a long time is five years we can compare
myself to one of my friends back home we will call him double-double planned his
trips years in advance last year he told me that he'll be in Europe next year so
that's a two year gap he's like don't worry I'll be in Europe maybe I can come
see you for a few days I don't know where my trip in September will be yet
and it's mid-august we have different ways of planning the
future in perceiving time is one of us more accurate than the other not
necessarily it probably depends what we're planning what we're trying to
figure out what we're needing to account for this is the first thing to think
about is generally our basic wiring is not great for timing now if you're
thinking about like your business let's say you're working on a project starting
your new business and you're thinking okay how long is it gonna take until I'm
you know successful until I have enough money coming in whatever you think it
will take for you I'd probably double it to be safe and probably double it to be
accurate as well I've heard this advice for many people and it's what I've
experienced myself as well now whatever you think it takes someone else to
succeed right let's say you're watching someone on YouTube or reading a book
about someone it's like wow they seem like they succeeded really quick
whatever your perception is I probably times that by about 10 so if it seems
like they got where they were in like three months
probably took them about three years something like that right that's the
first thing so here's why this can be a serious problem is if we think we should
achieve a goal in three months but it actually would take us
six guess what happens around three months we generally quit or we
reevaluate our strategy so what often happens is we get started down a path
and we're going and we're like okay really excited like I'm gonna do this
this is gonna work right but to three months in we're not nearly as far
towards the goals we thought we would be so rather than doubling down on our
efforts and just keep going and maybe increase our frequency of work or how
much we're doing or whatever it is we tend to look at our strategy and try to
change directions well this isn't getting me where I should be so I should
probably change what I'm doing and then we reset and we try something else and
you can imagine how this ends up right some zigzag in life we never really get
where we want to go and a big reason this happens is because we had an
unrealistic expectation when we started out so fear can play a big role here
right the way it sometimes works out too is I've seen this in people where they
start on a strategy and they're they kind of believe in it they kind of
believe in themselves as well but as they're going maybe a weekend they
should not have seen any results yet right the strategy should take at least
a few months over but a weekend they start second-guessing themselves maybe
they feel insecure maybe fear comes up and they start changing their strategy
in freelancers this often looks like redoing our website or deciding to focus
on a slightly different customer or something like that when really what we
were doing was fine we just needed to keep doing it rather than changing
direction so I have two really quick tips to do a little better in this area
the first is improve your perception of time right so like I said it's usually a
safe bet to double whatever length of time you think it will take to do
something double that the second thing is well let me add to that actually you
can double it you can also check with someone who knows what they're doing
who's done it before or who knows you really well right so check with a mentor
check with a business consultant or someone and say hey here's my plan and
your experience how long would this actually take and that's another way to
get a better perception right so if you don't have that maybe just double it but
if you can get outside feedback that's another way to do it as well and outside
feedback from someone who has done it if you ask your friend who's at the same
level as you how long should this take they're
gonna have an equally inaccurate answer right so that's the first thing figure
out how long it should take secondly while you're doing it focus on the
progress you're making so even with this new perception of time let's say you
decide it's six months instead of three it might actually take you eight months
or ten months and if you want to keep going rather than quit the best way to
maintain that energy that motivation is to focus on the progress you've made
so if you keep looking at where you're trying to go in the mindset of I'm not
there yet why aren't I there yet it's going to make you think you're doing
something wrong it's going to erode your confidence and you'll probably change
direction but if you keep looking backwards and saying hey look how far
I've come hey this is really cool like I've made
all this progress remember three months ago I was here and now I know so much
more I'm doing so much better if you take that approach you're gonna
end up maintaining that momentum if anything you'll build your confidence
more you're building momentum more and then if it does take you know three
times as long as you thought it would take you'll still be able to keep going
right because just because something takes longer than you think it should
have does not mean you're doing it wrong or that it's the wrong thing to do
sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't and unfortunately especially when we're
starting out in business or we're doing something alone we don't have the
knowledge to assess whether or not we're following the right strategy necessarily
whether or not we're going down the right path so if that is your
circumstance and you don't have the ability to figure out you know like have
a mentor or figure out are you on the right path then I would say you're
better to stick to that path about twice as long or three times as long as you
thought you should and just give yourself a chance to succeed it's much
better than quitting early of course ideally find someone to sort of give you
that bird's-eye view perspective and say yeah you're on track right now you're
doing well and keep going and that's gonna be the best but if you don't have
that then just keep going until you find that person to give you that advice that
would be the most important thing I can say is focus on the progress you've made
and then just keep moving forward and you will get to your destination and
then it will be awesome and then you can pick a new destination thanks for
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