everything that you really want your
life comes down to one thing you want
some kind of change in how you feel or
what I call a change of state the state
of mind or body you're in at that moment
in time we all want to change how we
feel think about it the only reason you
want more money you don't want little
pieces of paper with pictures of
deceased notables on it do you of course
not
you want money because of what you think
it will give you you think it'll give
you more freedom more fun or the ability
to give to other people you believe it's
going to lead to some kind of pleasure
if you want it say I want a business
listen I know a lot of people in
business who don't want their business
anymore the bottom line is it's not the
business you want it's what you think a
business will give you the feeling
changes you think it will give you
somebody says I want to get married they
want to get married because of what they
think that will give them or I want a
relationship they think it's going to
give them a certain kind of feeling
that's what drives all of our behaviors
challenge me on this see if you can find
an exception is there anything in your
life that you really really want that
the reason you want it doesn't come down
to eventually some feeling you're going
to get if this thing happens in your
life I'll tell you over and over again
no matter what exception someone has
tried to fall in it if I keep asking
them why do you want that but why do you
want that but why do you want that
eventually to get to a point where they
go well because it makes me feel good
and so that's what we really want we
want to feel good the one I have those
special feelings inside in other words
we just want to be able to manage our
emotions manage our states and create
what we really want emotional analyze
everything we do we've already said is
to create pleasure that for the motion
and to avoid pain that's an emotion too
and if we want to change our behavior
the quickest way to do that is change
how we feel I mean you think about it
haven't you had a situation in your life
where you did something and after you
did it you say to yourself I can't
believe I said that I can't believe I
did that that was so stupid
I've never had a situation like that I
mean an area you're normally pretty
smart in you just did something really
dumb I know I have plenty of times
haven't you also had the opposite
experience though where you want a role
where things were just flowing it was
like you were unstoppable and you don't
even know how you were doing it you were
just like flowing you know where after
you did it you know somebody said you do
that you
yeah that was me okay and you know how
you pulled it off you were rather proud
of it though having had those kind of
times if you're just on a roll
so I got a question for you what's the
difference in your behavior why is it in
one situation you perform brilliantly in
another situation you perform well as we
say brutally the difference is not your
ability what we do at any moment in time
in that moment is based on the state
that our mind and body is in at that
moment in time in other words what
people can do it's absolutely incredible
what they will do is usually
disappointing and the difference is not
their capability but rather what's stay
to the end right now if every time they
think about public speaking they
associate fear or pain that's going to
change their state and also they're
going to feel tighten their body the
whole emotional state will change
they're not going to get the most of
themselves but it's whenever they think
of public speaking they think of
absolute pleasure they're going to be in
a great state of mind they're going to
get more out of themselves I mean think
about it when you're feeling really
frustrated do you behave the same ways
and you're feeling like you're on a roll
and things are flowing obviously not you
have the same ability but things act and
behave differently coming out of you you
speak differently you communicate
differently everything changes I'll give
you another example have you ever
forgotten something simple like your own
home telephone number or address or how
to spell the word duh I've had one of
those enlightening experiences now you
know how to spell the word how come you
couldn't remember the answer is because
you're and what I call a stupid state
right you're in a state of mind where
your brain would Mabel get all the
answers the answers are there but you
couldn't get there so I believe one of
the most important things probably Remos
tempore today that you and I can do in
our lives to create the power and joy
and passion that we really want is to
learn to manage our own states of mind
in fact think of the cost of not
managing them if you don't manage your
emotional state
it'll cost you virtually everything you
want your life friends family success
and just the joy that every one of us
wants to experience on a daily basis and
let me ask you a question is what
happens in your life the thing that
determines how you feel at any moment in
time yes or no
in other words
doesn't matter whether or not for
example the economy is doing really
strong as to whether or not you feel
good
most people say no some people will you
bet now it doesn't matter how your
relationships are going that determine
how you feel is how you feel determined
by the weather by how much Sun or rain
there is is it determined by how other
people treat you I'm here to tell you
the answer that is no I'm not saying
that doesn't compliment or support you
feeling one way or another I'm saying
how you feel at any moment in time is
purely designed and the result of how
you are directing your own mind and body
at that moment what I'm saying to you is
no matter what has happened in your life
you are in control of your own States
and once you understand that number one
and number two you use that ability you
now have control of your life at a whole
new level and you have more fun and joy
and passion you ever dreamed of once you
take that responsibility and take that
control now for some people when they
say well that seems like a heavy
responsibility or look at the opposite
what's the price of not managing your
states well I'll ask you a question what
is John Belushi Elvis Presley Freddie
Prinze Jimi Hendrix Janis Joplin and
Marilyn Monroe what do they all have in
common
they're all people never learned how to
manage your state that's what they all
were people that had every reason in the
world to be happy by anybody else's
standards but who destroyed themselves
little too killed themselves in the end
I mean Belushi is one of my favorite
examples why because I like this guy
didn't you was he was a fun guy man if
you were to think of somebody didn't he
feel like this guy that you could
connect with I don't know about you but
I really enjoyed him and millions of
other people did as well he had what
most people think would make them happy
he had all these people that loved him
appreciated his work he got to be
creative he was in movies he was in
television he was on Broadway I mean
here was a guy that was spontaneous
he had a great family at totally loved
him he had all the money and fame that
most people think that they could
possibly want to need and yet he's not
here how come he's dead why not because
of old age you'll recall but because
this man did not know how to control his
own emotions within himself and he tried
to change the way he was feeling by
using
he was drugs as a way to change his
state and he's no longer here and
neither the other people I mentioned on
this list think about it there's a major
price in our managing your state and in
managing your state there's major
rewards now let's contrast Belushi with
a friend of mine his name is W Mitchell
one of the people in the world that I
only love most but also have the most
respect for study Mitchell is a unique
guy 15 years ago he had a unique
experience one that most people would
never forget he was driving his
motorcycle 65 miles an hour down the
freeway when something caught his
attention when he looked over while he
continued to drive forward
he got fixed on something I don't have
you ever done that he got stuck there a
little too long well when he looked up
he was traveling 65 miles an hour right
into the back of a Mack truck that had
stopped in front of him and a
last-minute split-second decision to try
and save his own life he slammed himself
on the ground and he slid 65 miles an
hour
underneath this truck across the
pavement then the worst thing happened
the gas cap popped off fuel spilled out
all over the place
and then from the friction exploded and
ignited three-quarters of his skin was
burned off his entire face was mutilated
his fingers burned all the way down to
the knuckles he woke up two weeks later
in a hospital bed in searing pain
fearing to even breathe now for most
people at this point they say hey I'm
out of here why stick around in this
body I'd rather just die but not only
did he not die but he's become an
example of true possibility for people
all over the country and this gentleman
could not even take drugs because his
body was in such bad shape but when
people met him they thought he must be
on drugs because he seems so up you know
they go in and talk and they feel bad
and goes hey it's over we just got to
move on his mother said we just must not
realize how bad it is well the reality
is he just made a decision he decided
that he was going to manage a state why
because he saw the alternative is much
more painful he said look I got one or
two choices I can feel bad emotionally
about everything I've lost and just make
my total life a mess emotionally and
have more pain to add to my physical
pain or I can focus on what I'm going to
do
which means I can at least focus on
something that could bring me some
pleasure and get rid of my focus on the
physical pain and that's what he did his
wife has become such an example because
he kept managing his emotions now not
only did he do that but within three
years he managed himself so well he got
back into business even though it didn't
look too terribly attractive but he
ended up going into business and
becoming extremely successful
the new company he developed after his
accident became the number one employer
of its type in the state of Vermont he
became a millionaire he even learned to
fly airplanes now that's not the end of
the story about eight years later he's
flying his airplane with three of the
friends in Colorado and he made himself
a lot of big mistake he didn't go
through his checklist and he didn't
notice that there was frost that had
developed on the wing and when he took
off he crashed three people walked away
he was not one of them he was paralyzed
from the waist down for life so they cut
off his toes since he didn't need them
anymore and sewed them on his hand so
he'd have something to be able to grasp
things with he's stuck in a wheelchair
now for life of course he doesn't look
at his stuck in a wheelchair in fact you
say at this point he must have given up
right no even after his wife left him he
said look I don't want to be around a
fried cripple even after all that he
still didn't give up he turned around
and the city he was living in in
Colorado had some major problems he
decided to become the mayor in that town
after that he decided to run for
lieutenant governor of the state of
Colorado he placed third in a group of
six and he ran on the issues not on a
sympathy vote any campaign door-to-door
remember this kind of looked too
terribly good fact used to wear a button
that said send me to the governor's
mansion and I won't just be another
pretty face that have a nice way to
interrupt people's patterns and make
them associate something new to you
now I didn't win the lieutenant
governor's place he still we give up he
now has his own radio show in Colorado
and he has found the woman of his dreams
and remarried so I'm going to tell you
that if you start to tell me well gosh
Tony I call these problems it's hard to
manage my state just think about W
Mitchell but I look at somebody like
Belushi and see all that he had and I
look at somebody like Mitchell it seems
to have all these challenges but it's
so happy so successful such a sense of
possibility it becomes clear to me that
I have no excuse to ever not manage my
state on a consistent basis no matter
how big the problems may seem you're
much better than anybody like that might
ever hope to be
so how do we manage our state's well one
remember I believe virtually everything
in life comes down to why to first then
how to I believe if you want to succeed
you got to have 80% of success it's
figuring out why to succeed why to
manage your state for example 20% is how
here's the how let's do it quickly and
let's just get right to doing it and
doing some exercises there are two
primary ways to control your state of
mind and body they are number one
controlling the way you use your
physical body what we call your
physiology and number two controlling
your mental focus that is what you pay
attention to what you think about what
you picture what you say to yourself
today we're going to focus on how to use
our physical bodies to create the
emotions that we want at any moment in
time and then on your next state we're
going to work on how to control our
focus how to control the mental imagery
and pictures and things that we think
about in a way that immediately changes
our state as well let's start and focus
again today on physical movement now I
want you think about something in order
to feel anything in your life you feel
it through your nervous system through
your physical body now if I told you I
know someone who's totally depressed I
bet you could tell me about the way they
move or even their posture and you would
probably have an accurate representation
in other words if I told you about
someone I know that's totally depressed
and let's say they're outside your door
right now and I said to you for $100,000
describe for me what does this person
like what's their posture like for
example what would you say most people
say slumped over where is this person's
head
most people say down where their eyes
again most people say down where is this
person's breathing is it full or shallow
again most people say shallow and where
is this person's facial expressions are
there muscles in his face pulled up and
tight or they down and slack again most
people say slide how did you match up
with these descriptions again if you're
like most people most of those
descriptions match the picture you have
in your mind
why is it that when we think of a
depressed person we think of somebody
just physically hunched over a little
bit looking down talking a little bit
more slowly with their eyes down and a
breathing shallow and their facial
muscles slack the answer is in order to
get depressed
you've got to work at it it's not easy
you have to use your body in a certain
specific way I mean try something
ridiculous with me for a moment won't
you sit up right now in your transfect
if you're not driving stand up if you're
driving that would be difficult but if
you're sitting stand up for a second if
you would and if you're sitting and
you're in a car then sit up but I want
you to stand up ideally stand tall
breathing fully really strong breathe
fully and I want you to look up towards
your ceiling imagining a breathing tall
looking at your ceiling why don't we do
something really ridiculous really dumb
put a huge silly grin on your face go
ahead try it oh come on
nobody's noticing you're by yourself and
if there are another thing then you'll
get the attention anyway put a big lid
on your face look at the ceiling listen
to me now what I want you to do while
you stay standing tall your shoulders
back
breathing fully with this big grin on
your face I want you to get depressed
without changing any aspect of your body
don't change your facial expression oh
come on you can do it hang in there get
the breath no no you know so you're
cheating I can tell I'm in the room you
drop those shoulders if you drop your
head if you stop breathing or if you
stop smiling it doesn't count
stand tall breathing big big smile
looking at the ceiling that's right and
get depress without changing alright
well if you can't change and just stay
happy and sit down here's my point you
might say what does this got to do with
state management are you saying every
time I don't feel good I should stand up
tall stare and grin at the ceiling yes
no there are many ways to do this but
this is one my point is this how come
when you stand tall and your breathing
has a big grin on your face how come you
don't feel depressed the answer is
because it's pretty difficult because
you're sending a totally different
message to your brain see the way we
move our facial muscles the way we
gesture the way we physically walk the
pace at which we talk all of these
things determine how we feel in any
given moment if you don't like the way
you're feeling rather than try and pump
yourself up intellectually whoa no I
feel good I feel good I feel good or
doing too much after making sure I feel
that
but I feel good your brain goes B s
that's not enough what you've got to do
is change the way you're moving I mean
think about it when you were growing up
didn't you have a parent that told you
hey look if you're depressed go do
something why did that work because when
you go do something you change the way
you move you change the way you breathe
you change what you're focusing on or
what you're paying attention to and
wham-o you have an emotional change a
state change if you will so I want you
to realize the power of your own
physical body when I was struggling I
had no idea the power my body I was at
the effect but you know what I still use
these tools I just used them in the
wrong way hey listen you already know
the power of your body when you don't
like the way you feel what do you
usually do I'd say what most Americans
do they do something to change the way
to feel by changing their body by
changing their biochemistry what do they
do they do things like drink alcohol why
because the minute you drink alcohol
does it change your state you bet you
behave differently when you're in a
different feeling State you better
believe it
there goes your mother sure do the
bottom line is you changed your
biochemistry soon as you do that that
was changing physiology and your
emotions and feelings and behaviors
changed instantly now a lot of people
aren't Society and they don't like how
they feel they change their body and
change the way they feel by using
cigarettes they smoke and therefore they
breathe differently and they breathe
differently they feel differently when
they feel differently they behave
differently so they don't like kind of
feeling a feel a little tight the
fillable frustrated feel a little
stressed they can load a cigarette and I
think the cigarette makes them feel
better what makes them feel better is
the fact that they're taking nice deep
slow breaths why not try it without the
cigarette what a concept
amazing the bottom line is you can
change just by changing your breathing
alone now what else do we do well a lot
of people and they don't like to let it
feel what do they do they eat there we
go I don't feel good they eat and then
they get that and they look in the
mirror they don't like how they look
nice they feel worse so they don't like
the way they feel so they eat some more
right and they're caught up in that loop
again have you ever been there so food
is another way we try and change our
physical body in order do it some people
just go to sleep and some people do
things like go shopping or watch TV but
we're going to talk about that in your
next tape that those are people that are
changing what they're focusing on but
the primary way most of us try and
change how they feel is by changing the
way we use our physical body drugs is
the most
these example we've already talked about
that cocaine why because it changes
their state rapidly that's why people
still purchase it even though it
destroys their life simultaneously they
don't focus on them the point is any
change in your physical body makes an
immediate radical change and the way
that you feel so what you've got to
learn to do is use this to your
advantage instead of being at the
effective things immediately change your
emotions so right now let me give you a
frame of reference about what I'm saying
I learned a long time ago that if I
really wanted to succeed on an ongoing
basis I probably needed to measure my
level of emotion my level of intensity I
got a lot of this by working with
professional athletes I noticed that
most athletes are really conscious of
and pay attention to managing their
emotions in their states he watched a
tennis player and every time before he
hits the ball he bounces the ball the
exact same way the exact same rhythm
kind of anchors himself if you will it
triggers himself back in the state
football players do it differently and
they grab their other buddies head kneel
at my lambing smack heads with them and
they feel good now baseball players they
spit you know grab their legs and
they'll scratch the ground but they do
certain things every time you get
themself in state and as I started work
with professional athletes people like
the Los Angeles Dodgers or the United
States Army or individual Olympic
athletes every one of them focused on
are they ready or not kind of check in
their state but you see in life I think
life is not black and white I look at
life as having many hues and colors and
shades so one day I pull one of these
guys aside and I said look it's not are
you ready or you're not let's try a
stupid game okay let's pretend we're
going to measure your level of power and
readiness on a scale from zero to ten
zero is you're dead
ten is you're absolutely unstoppable I
said where are you on that scale I think
I said well I'm about level seven six
and a half seven I said well you're
about to bat right now against Dwight
Gooden tell me if you stay at level
seven what's going to happen you know
was amazing instantly he could tell me
when he realized where he was he said
I'll either ground out or I'll pop up or
I'm going to be in a situation where I'm
going to strike out I said what levels
you need to be out on a scale from zero
to ten to be successful Dwight Gooden
he's a level 12 okay let give me a frame
of reference so you also need to know
where you need to
to be successful now what an athlete
it's pretty clear for peak performance
they got to be at level 10 or above if
you will on a scale from zero to ten but
isn't your life just as important as an
athlete if you're going to go in right
now and you're going to influence your
son or daughter to do something like get
excited about their school work how are
you going to do that if you're at level
three it's not going to happen too often
I see parents of God just can't motivate
my children I just don't understand why
I taught them about the reasons why I
should really go for it but it just
doesn't seem to work do you have any
suggestions in this drum I'll say yeah
try talking a little faster for your
children see the way we use our voice
will affect our states they have a lot
here I want to share with you in a short
period of time so I speed up a little
bit how would you feel if I said well
ladies and gentlemen this is day five
and today what we're going to learn to
do is manage our states of mind emotion
and over the next 30 days of this
program I want you four hours at a time
to listen to my voice after you came out
of a deep trance and turned off the tape
I doubt very seriously if we create very
much change I'm not saying it's not
appropriate to talk in a more relaxed
way than I am in this frenzy base that
I'm sharing with you to try and get
everything in but what I am saying is
make sure that you're an appropriate
state for what it is you're trying to
accomplish does that make sense on a
scale from zero to ten where do you need
to be to be effective at a given task if
you want somebody feel loved by you you
probably don't like okay that probably
won't work either so everything is
context related but I'm asking you today
to commit yourself for the next four or
five days even though we're doing other
exercises - looking at what state are
you living in your life if you want to
look at the state of your life look at
the level of intensity and joy and
passion you're creating where are you
today on a scale from zero to ten
or better yet before you started this
30-day program where were you do you
remember that first day
before you got the tape program or
anything else where were you on a scale
from zero to ten you remember where you
were first of all think about it for a
moment if you would
where were you what was your state like
where were you going to scale from zero
to ten now I want you to think of
something where were you after you
finished that first tape on a scale from
zero to ten most people that we followed
up with an interviewed with are usually
at level 8 or above and when they
started out they were in level 6 or 5 or
4 or 3 and so what I want you to do is
do it without me you don't need me to
change your state you need you you need
to move your body differently and you
need to pay attention to where you are
use the state that's most appropriate
for where you need to be for the given
situation so let me give you first of
all some specifics about how you can
change your body I've mentioned a lot of
them but let's be really precise the
number one way that you can change the
way you feel at any moment in time is to
change the way you move the reason is
this in fact you might want to remember
this phrase emotion is created by motion
the way you move your physical body is
the fastest way of changing your
emotions so for example if I'm not
feeling passionate and I want to instead
of pumping myself up all I have to do is
clap my hands or move my hands rapidly I
make a rapid gesture not a little minor
one where I just push my hands a little
bit and then bring it back at a slow
pace but I mean speed acceleration if
you will if you speed up the quality of
your movements you will instantly change
your emotional state and your intensity
so try it right now even while you're
listening to me here's what I want you
to do take your hands and put them
together so that you're touching them
almost like in a praying motion and what
I want you to do when I say now is at
the pace I say I want you to pull them
apart and just gradually pull them out
to your sides at the base that I can't
like one two three four okay and by
timing it for you should be level with
your shoulders okay let's try it your
hands are together and just notice
happens how you feel ready 1 2 3 4 ok
then hands out together 1 2 3 4 again 1
2 3 4 again 1 2
two three four this is known as the
state of absolute boredom okay so let's
try something new let's try moving more
rapidly this time is there one two three
four when I say now I want you to pull
your hands apart and don't limit them to
the length of your shoulders I want you
to literally pull them apart and pull
them out as far as you can like
extending your entire wingspan now be
careful on this look around you before
you do this to make sure you don't hit
anything and let's have some fun do
something silly I know it seems
ridiculous but just try it now if you're
driving this is not useful
keep one hand at least on the wheel and
try it with the other one okay here we
go you handle together when I say now I
want you to literally bring them out
explode them out to your sides and
extend your fingers and everything out
as far as and go in other words you're
going to take your hands and make them
go as fast as they can apart all the way
up and extend them ready one two three
go and just feel it and bring down
together again enjoy clap again and do
it again out as fast you can't go faster
you can bring them in and again out of
fast again again in again out fast move
now if you do this about ten times you
will feel what we call a state change do
you feel it now now I know this may
sound weird in Missouri but okay Tony
what am I supposed to do create this
wings man every time I need to change
state no what I'm saying is you must
learn to develop what I call power moves
what a power move is to me is finding a
certain type of gesture or a couple of
them that no matter how bad I was
feeling or frustrated or tired or
whatever the case may be I can make this
movement and instantly instantly I feel
strong instantly I feel resourceful
instantly I feel like I could turn
things around you need to develop what
those are and you already have them
because you've had times in your life
and you felt great
how are you moving at that time that's
the first clue in fact what I often do
with people give them a stand up and
walk around the room and notice how
would they walk that they felt totally
successful
I mean unstoppable try it right now are
you going well I'm in the car great
you're in the car and you can try this
later on but if you're actually
listening to me and you're not in the
car stand up right now and try to come
on come on don't no don't just listen to
me stand up come on come on come on I'm
watching you I'm there
know this I want to do is stand up and
walk around the room and what I want you
to do is first of all walk the way you
normally walk just you know walk around
in a circle or walk straight back and
forth notice how that feels come on you
can do it there you go now what I'm
going to do now is make a state change
and I want you to if you would imagine
that you feel absolutely strong and
unstoppable I mean in your power what I
want you to do is just walk around the
room as if you felt unstoppable and
powerful and move your body the way you
would be if you are unstoppable and
powerful go ahead and try it right now
go ahead walk climbing room and actually
strut the way you would strut if you
felt unstoppable and powerful make a
gesture - the way you would if you felt
unstoppable and then try go back the
opposite again go to feeling not
confident not sure and walk around I'm
not sure about whether you can succeed
making gestures like you're not sure
feel the difference in your body I want
you to get an example of that and back
to confident again make it strong they
say what if I'm listening in the car
I'll be listening in the car all the way
to do a sit right now or even if you're
sitting down come back with me right now
sit down what I want you to do is just
notice how you can change your state
from being bored and tired of feeling
energized just by changing your body so
try this first of all sit the way you be
sitting right now if you have five times
more energy than any other time you can
remember come on go for it don't just
listen if you're just going to listen to
this tape and not follow through turn it
off but if you're going to go for it
make changes then play with me okay
sit up in your chair right now come on
sit up the way you'd be sitting if you
had five times more energy than the
other time breathe right now the way you
be breathing a few pumps strong and
excited and energized put a facial
expression on your face right now I can
have a few felt totally passionate and
excited now it doesn't look like this
come on but a big grin your face a big
feeling of energy there you go good and
make sure you gesture that way notice
how this feels now if you don't feel any
change it's because you've not made a
radical enough body change that has
changed your body really major create
more tension more excitement whatever it
takes now go from this state to being in
a state of boredom go ahead sit the way
you're sitting if you're bored and tired
Hanson just notice how that feels
go ahead really bored and tired
you know then you're sitting there bored
and tired I got a question for you did
you change your body to do it you bet
you did what did you change to get bored
and tired well did you notice anything
happened to your head did it go down did
you relaxing the muscles what happened
to your breathing did it change about
your facial expression there's your
muscles go slumping or slack now try to
get back to energized as fast you can
I'll come on play with me what I want
you to do just for a moment is to
practice snapping yourself from being a
state of being bored and tired into a
state of energy it's going to be very
valuable for you let's try it that can
energize state come on it's energized
you can get come on sit up in your chair
reading with some energy feeling strong
come on even more energizing before now
go to board and tie it back to energized
come on as fast as you can't snap
yourself I know this looks weird if
you're driving in your car and
somebody's looking at a window but eh
it'll make their day you'll change their
state come on somebody else in the
family is watching they don't have to
know what's going on just go for it
here we go total energy lots of energy
and excitement feel it in your body move
your body sit the way you're sitting
again even more energy born and tired
energized faster you can come on snap
back in that state boarding time
energize faster again come on even more
even more anymore bored and tired
energized back in that state again feel
and just stay there stay in the
energized state now you might so this
sounds weird finish your question how
valuable is it for you to be able to go
in life in business and your job and
your personal relationships from being
bored and tired and wiped out to being
in a peak State how important would that
be to increasing the quality of your
life Sante scale from zero to ten I'll
tell you I think at the level 9 or 10 or
above I think you probably will too so
developing new ways new habits of moving
your body is the single most powerful
way to change state here's another quick
way change your breathing as I said
earlier one of the reasons people smoke
cigarettes is because in order to smoke
a cigarette you change your breathing
pattern rather radically when people eat
food oftentimes they feel better
afterwards because they fill their
stomach up and it changes the way they
feel and the way they breathe well now
let food in there things slow down they
feel less stressed
almost every yogic practice that I've
ever studied or notice teach us some
kind of breathing pattern
part of how to change your emotions and
the way you can grow spiritually if you
will so changing your breath trying
different breaths breathing faster
breathing slower and discover what
breathing patterns work best for you to
create the changes that you want thirdly
learn to manipulate your face I teach
people in seminars how to do what I call
facial aerobics what that means is is
doing many different expressions as you
possibly can in a short period of time
so that what happens is you really have
access to different emotional states if
you know you have over 80 different
muscles in your face and a slight change
in your facial muscle instantly changes
the way you think in the way you feel
there was a study done at the University
of California at San Francisco when they
took manic depressives and all they did
was change their facial expressions made
them smile an ongoing basis these are
people who were manic-depressives
Barrowman people normally need drugs
that change the way they feel not one of
those persons while they were able to
keep smiling was able to feel depressed
in fact some of them began to manage
themselves by smiling for 20 minutes at
a time for no reason and breathing it
again a field gray and they began to
duffel a new habit do you have habitual
facial expressions of grimacing or
frustration will you crinkle up your
nose or your eyelids or your forehead or
something else that you do in the
ongoing basis I'm here to tell you that
those habits create those negative
emotions in your body on a regular basis
you need to develop some new habits of
using your face and finally one of the
ways you can manage your state best is
to control your diet and I'm not going
to teach you a health seminar here
although I do those across the United
States I do want to say this to you that
most of us in life do not pay attention
to what we're putting in our body and
what you're putting in affects deeply
how you feel emotionally blood sugar for
example alone makes a radical shift in
how you feel emotionally so if you
aren't paying attention how you're
eating and you're throwing anything you
possibly can in that body without
looking at the consequences you're going
to pay an emotional price many times
hyperactive children or people that are
having major ups and downs in a life it
just comes from some basic simple
Dietary Approaches if they made a few
simple changes they'd live a much more
balanced emotional life so my challenge
to you is to study health
find out not I'll throw your pendulum
and go off on the deep end on some
desired diet but how can you make sure
that the way you're breathing the way
you're moving in the way you're eating
things is giving you as much as possible
to your life and not taking away not
throwing your life into a pendulum make
sure that you have that physical energy
and drive it comes from having enough
sleep and eating well for now though I'm
going to have you focus on one emotional
state because I'd like you to be able to
trigger a state change anytime you want
and that emotion is the one I know it is
passion as you may have picked up I'm a
fairly passionate person and I talked
about that the end of each tape because
I think out of a state of passion you
can create almost anything you want in
your life I think most people want
passion they want that drive that
attraction to life they want that juice
in their relationships in their business
and their ability to learn but most
people aren't barely making it through
the day you know I mean hey you got to
watch TV fight the traffic home get a
bite to eat go to bed so you can get up
tomorrow and start the same vicious
circle all over again I mean after all
guys got to work got to make your way
and stuff after all I work hard for a
living can't expect me to be passionate
end of the day easy for you but come on
I work for a living
let me just tell you something I used to
believe that kind of stuff and I used to
feel that way too am i saying you can't
talk slowly and be passionate absolutely
not
I can talk quietly and still have
passion coming through my voice and when
I'm speaking to you and the way I feel
inside
but that's passion this is not passion
if you want passion you got to talk like
you're passionate you can't talk like
you're bored and feel passionate it
won't work your body will lead your mind
take care of it how can we use this
knowledge symbol answer I want you to do
it by doing the following in a moment at
the end of this take your only exercise
today is to do this I want you to
absolutely whip yourself into a
passionate state and if there's somebody
there I want you to talk to somebody
about something and I want you to do it
two different ways
talk to them about something you believe
in
something you're really usually pretty
excited about but do it in a
dispassionate way
in other words talk to a friend and by
the way let me just say this if you're
in your car or there's nobody there talk
to the wall okay talk to the road it
doesn't matter if you're talking to
yourself and people driving by
they'll again be entertained so this is
very useful now here's what I want you
to do if while you're doing this I want
you to talk about something and you can
just talk out loud no one or talk to
someone after their talk about something
you're normally inspired about the talk
and a non inspired way a dispassionate
way what's like you really don't believe
what you're saying that you're just
trying to convince somebody or something
they say gosh you know it's really
important to me in life is learning to
change people's conditioning and help
them to succeed and I really think that
if you were to study it it would really
change your life too and I want you to
notice what you do when you're
dispassionate notice for example how
you're standing
are you wavering back and forth while
you're standing still are you back on
your heels how do you gesture or do we
leave in gesture when you're
dispassionate how to use your voice
what's the volume what's the tempo
what's the tone of your voice what do
you do with your facial expressions when
you're passionate versus dispassionate
pay close attention and then what I want
you to do is and really go for it for
two or three minutes be totally
dispassionate notice how it feels to be
dispassionate and doubt if you'll like
it too terribly much then what I want to
do is change your state completely and I
want you to go the other extreme I want
you to talk to yourself or the wall or
your radio or the crowd or the traffic
or your friend in a totally passionate
way where you're more inspired more
excited more passion that you can ever
remember being an entire life I mean I
want you to go forward a thousand
percent and while you're talking it -
whatever it is I mean go for a hundred
cent don't go on this is stupid all
right I'll try it halfway do it all the
way or don't do it at all I mean I can
do it at all give this tape program to
somebody who will follow through but if
you're one of those people then go for
it okay be outrageous push yourself and
then notice how are you moving
differently what are some of the
specific gestures that you give when
you're passionate and where are they now
what's the difference for the quality of
them
the difference in how you use your voice
what's your volume like what's your
tempo what's your facial expressions
like again notice the difference when
you're done here's your assignment your
assignment is pull out your success
journal and record the difference in
other words what I want you to do is
leave this session today having
knowledge of the buttons in your brain
in other words if I notice that if I
take my right hand and I actually snap
it out in front of me very very fast but
when I'm passionate I tend to do that
making a point and when I'm
dispassionate my hands are below my
waist or just kind of hanging out there
then the next time I want to be
passionate even if I'm not feeling
passion I'm going to snap my hand out
there and immediately it's there if I
notice that when I'm dispassionate I
tell are kind of quiet and tire and
stuff but when I'm passionate I speak a
little more rapidly than if I want to
get passionate I just start speaking
more rapidly immediately and pretty soon
I only feel passionate as well if I
notice that when I'm dispassionate I'm
back on my heels or leaning away from
somebody but when I'm passionate I'm
leaning into them talking and gesturing
then I start leaning into somebody in
order to feel passionate towards them in
other words find out how your brain
works you are different than me or
anyone else you're going to meet find
exactly what triggers passion within you
in terms of movements and experiment
what would be a kind of move you could
make that a meet it would make you feel
strong even if you are afraid a few
moments ago so let me be clear
here's your exercise one talk to
something or someone in a dispassionate
way about something you're normally
inspired about dispassionate or you
don't really believe it a feel it to
change your state and get absolutely
passionate where you feel more excited
more energized more passion ever before
3 dissect in your mind the difference
and how you moved how you breathe I use
your face how you use your voice and
record that in your success journal and
finally today experiment at some point
in the day you don't feel very inspired
or you don't feel anything in particular
snap yourself into a powerful state or
ask yourself where I'm on a scale from 0
to 10 if you find you at level 4 or 5 or
6 to me that's a pretty boring way to
live life maybe you want to amp yourself
up crank yourself up to level 8 or 9
just by changing your movement
or maybe you want to be able to go from
being totally excited to relax just by
changing your breathing or your tempo or
your gestures because being able to
relax quickly and easily sometimes and
oftentimes as important as your ability
to get yourself excited the only reason
I push in the other direction if I think
most people have the ability getting the
state they may not have to go to give
them the other one whatever you're
already good at make it better whatever
state you're not good at getting in
practice getting into it until you can
absolutely make the change you want as
fast as you can think remember any
emotion you're feeling is based on how
you're moving little movements like
breathing in big movements like gestures
and facial expressions take control
today
and experiment and explore how the
adventure of discovering how you can use
your body to immediately direct your
mind in your emotions
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