TERRI: I want to talk to you about something today that I
wish so bad someone had told me when I was 15,
16-years-old, but honestly you don't hear stuff like this in
church and pretty much anywhere. It's most likely affected your
life and probably the people closest to you. I want to share
with you the keys to break free and live your dreams.
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TERRI: Hey, I'm Terri Savelle Foy and you're watching Live
Your Dreams. I pray that as you invest in yourself today you're
captivated and you're catapulted to live your dreams. Well, today
I want to talk to you about something that like I mentioned
earlier I wish somebody had told me when I was a teenager, when I
was in my twenties, but it's a topic that's very intimate and
mostly avoided and is the subject of soul ties. Mostly
breaking wrong soul ties. In fact this is not something I
particularly like to teach, but I know what I went through in my
life and I know how Satan strategically set up the wrong
relationships, the wrong attachments to drag me out of
the will of God. In fact, I even stayed in an abusive
relationship that I knew wasn't right. My best friend would tell
me to get out, but I couldn't. Why is that? Because we had soul
ties. You know, it's interesting, without fail every
conference I speak at I'll have someone come up to me usually
with tears pouring down their cheeks saying, "I'm recovering
from a wrong relationship. It's the hardest thing I've ever done
in my life. Thank you for giving me hope." Well, thank you Jesus,
but it's because of soul ties. You might be wondering what are
soul ties? I've heard that phrase. I've heard that but I
don't even really know what they are. Well soul ties, it's really
an emotional bond or a connection that unites you with
someone else. Your soul can literally become tied to another
person. You may be in a relationship that just ended,
you may be in the numbing stage of grieving over a relationship,
feelings of hopelessness, feeling broken inside, not being
able to see beyond today, those are all too common for you.
Perhaps you're staring at the phone and you're hearing
nothing. You're waiting for that text, you're waiting for them to
call you. Nothing's happening and you're grieving on the
inside. You're even wondering do I delete them as a friend on
Facebook? Do I block their profile? But you want to see
them. In fact, you're soul longs to hear from them just one more
time. In fact, you might be spending time rereading old
texts and you're hurting in a way that you've never hurt
before. You have soul ties and I want you to know you're not the
only person to go through this. As a matter of fact I was
reading something that said there are 3.19 million Google
search results on how to get over a breakup. Well, let me
just tell you how soul ties are formed just to kind of help you
or this message, it could be for someone you know, it could be
that you want your daughter, you want your sister, you want your
coworkers to hear this message and you've been trying to help
them, but you don't know how. You don't know what's going on.
You're looking for a solution. This could be the very thing
you've been wanting to hear to give them some tips to break
free. Well, soul ties are formed three ways. Number one is
through close friendships. Just relationships with people. You
know, not all soul ties are bad. You can have good soul ties with
your coworkers, your family, your best friend, your care
group, people like that. Any time you spend time with
someone, you're going to develop a soul tie. Like I said they're
not all bad. The second way that they're formed is through vows,
commitments and promises. In other words, with the words of
your mouth. So Bible tells us, "Life and death are in the power
of the tongue." The Bible says that we're snared by the words
of our mouth, so your words can actually keep you tied to the
wrong person. Then the third way is through sexual or physical
intimacy. Any time and every time there's physical intimacy,
the tighter that tie becomes and the harder it is to break free
when God tells you to stop. Here's the thing, Satan has one
plan for your life and for my life, in fact John 10:10 tells
us that plan. His plan is to kill, steal and destroy our
lives. In other words, he is actively looking. In fact the
Bible says he's roaming about like a lion seeking who he may
devour. He's trying to devour your life, and one of the ways
he strategically does it is through bringing those wrong
attachments, those wrong soul ties into our lives to get us
off the plan of God. Well he can't just devour anyone. He has
to locate a weakness in you. Many times like I said, it's
through a person, a wrong attachment to try to destroy
you. Years ago I heard this story from Beth Moore and it was
about these little miniature horses. I'm sure they were pink
too, but it was about this couple who happened to raise
little miniature horses on their property. They owned all this
land and they had the adorable, gosh, if I did have a horse I'd
want it to be pink, but they had all these little miniature
horses on the property. Well, right next to them was a
wildlife park with all these wild animals. Well, one day the
husband and wife, they're walking on their property and
they said they just happened to notice that the fence was caved
in in a certain area. They saw it, they talked about it, they
knew it was there, but if you've got any extra money who wants to
spend it repairing a fence? So they just ignored it. Now I'm
sure you know just because we ignore something doesn't make it
go away, right? Well, as time went on all of a sudden one day
the wife was sitting at the kitchen table eating a sandwich
and she said she just happened to glance out the window, look
out the backdoor and a lion from the wildlife park came onto
their property and was tearing to shreds her favorite little
miniature horse. That broke my heart when I heard that, but the
point of that is just because we ignore something in our lives,
of course it doesn't go away, but weaknesses, they don't grow
stronger over time. They just get weaker. See, Satan would
love for you to just ignore the weak areas of your life. Maybe
you look good everywhere else, but you've got this one area.
Well, when we ignore those weak areas, I'm telling you, it's
just a matter of time. The fence is down. The lion's in the yard
and he is devouring everything precious to you. He would love
for you to develop an unhealthy inappropriate relationship with
someone else and it lead to destroying your marriage, your
kids disrespecting you, you being consumed with guilt and
shame. In fact, I heard someone say shame and guilt will keep
you from your calling, so if you're consumed with that you
could miss out on God's plan. You won't live your dreams if
you're filled with shame and guilt. He wants you to feel
dirty, used, worthless, insecure. He wants you to even
feel bound to stay with someone because of what you've done with
them even though you know they're not right for you. If
you or maybe it's someone you know who's being tempted right
now by a wrong relationship, maybe they're in a wrong
relationship, they're clearly being deceived and you can see
it, I'm telling you, it leads to destruction, period. In fact, I
heard Mac Hammond say this. He said, "When you choose to give
in to an unGodly temptation," he said, "It leads to death." Then
he made this powerful statement. He said, "And death will be
manifest all around you." Well, I take that to mean the death of
your family unit, the death of your marriage, the death of your
self esteem, the death of your career, the death of your
health. Death is the result when we continually give in to those
wrong attachments, those wrong temptations that are leading us
away from God's perfect plan. Well one of the things we have
to know is that Satan works through deception. See, he can't
defeat you unless he first deceives you. What is deception?
It's simply believing a lie. Well if you believe a lie, then
to you it's the truth. Isn't it amazing how you can clearly see
this in other people, you can see when someone's been deceived
and you're like, "Come on. Wake up. This is crazy." But when
it's you, when it's me, it's not so easy to identify. That's why
you need the truth of God's Word like never before because God's
Word is going to start causing a light to go ff on the inside of
you. In fact, listen to this testimony I received from a
sweet lady named Janice. She said, "I'm so glad I found your
ministry. I read your email today about the guilt and shame
that you felt and now I read about intimate soul ties." She
said, "You described my situation perfectly. Now I
understand why I'm having such a difficult time letting go." She
said, "All I do is pray and cry and it doesn't help that I see
my ex almost every day since we live a block away from each
other. Seeing my ex with someone else daily is torture for me."
She said, "It's been since January since the demise of our
relationship after 15 years." They have some serious soul ties
after 15 years. She said, "Right now I am overwhelmed in my life
and I ask God daily to heal me and to give me the strength to
keep going. I've been seeing a therapist and I'm on depression
medicine, but nothing seems to help me. If it weren't for the
fact that my mom needs me so much I would just give up. I
will get your book in the hope that it will assist me in the
healing process." Well I'm telling you, breaking free from
wrong soul ties is one of the most painful processes we ever
encounter. In fact, I have met numerous people of all different
ages, backgrounds, genders, this isn't just for women. This isn't
just for teenage girls. I have had so many people come up to me
just crying about the pain they feel in their soul. They know
they need to leave. They know it's not God's best, but they
just feel like it's tearing their heart out. Well, they're
consumed with thoughts about that person. They may even live
in a different city or state but they can't resist checking on
them, looking them up on social media, calling them, texting
them. They're tormented day and night with memories. Well, I
only know how to speak from experience unfortunately and I
want to offer you some very strategic steps to freedom. In
fact a counselor told me this years ago. He said, "Fight fear
with a plan." Fight fear with a plan. I was like, "What in the
world does that mean?" This is what he began to explain. When
you've been locked in a wrong situation, this may mean when
you walk in your house, an empty house on a Friday night with
nothing to do, you better have a plan. When you receive a text
from them inviting you to come over, you better have a plan.
When your phone is continually ringing or you run into them or
your friends are updating you on them, you see pictures of them
online, when you begin to sink into depression you've got to
have a plan. When you start missing them, when you start,
your mind is replaying memories about them. You have to learn to
get control of a tormented mind. I'm going to walk you through
that process because like I said, I only know how to speak
from experience. Do you know a tormented mind is not the mind
of Christ? God doesn't want you to go another day of your life
hanging onto something that He doesn't want you in, hanging
onto something that's dragging you away from His best for your
life. He wants you to be free. He wants you to get to that
place where the memories are gone, you stop talking about it,
you stop reliving it every time a song comes on and it reminds
you of them. No, He wants you totally free. In fact He said in
His Word, "Do not remember the former things, nor consider the
things of old. Behold, I'm doing a new thing and now it shall
spring forth." I believe you're watching this maybe for yourself
or for someone very dear to you and God is saying, "I'm ready to
do a new thing, but you've got to get free from the old thing."
ANNOUNCER: Are you suffering from a relationship that
recently ended or perhaps needs to end? Are you unknowingly or
adversely bound to someone else through a negative soul tie?
Terri understands the pain and confusion involved in unhealthy
relationships. More importantly she understands God's power to
set you free. You'll discover as you read Untangle how soul ties
are formed, how to identify possible negative soul ties in
your life and much more. In the two CD series Breaking Soul Ties
Terri shares intimate details of her personal journey to conquer
negative soul ties and leads you on a path to freedom and hope.
Together this is a must have package for you or someone you
love, one who needs to understand the powerful
consequences of soul ties and the steps to break free. To
request your copy of The Untangle Package,
call 800-795-5597 or visit us at Terri.com.
TERRI: Welcome back. Well you know, we're
talking about the very intimate subject of soul
ties. I've mentioned before I don't like talking
about this, like at all. I would rather teach you how to make a
vision board, but you know, I taught this message in obedience
to the Lord because I know what I went through in my life and I
know how painful it was. Satan would love for you to miss out
on everything God has for you because you're in a wrong
relationship. I love getting testimonies. In fact, I've
probably received more testimonies from this message
than anything else. Listen to this girl named Shanita. She
said, "I want to thank God for the anointing to write this
book." She said, "The book is straight up truth and based
strictly on the Word of God. I have been searching for an
answer as to why I feel the way I feel and the reason why I
can't seem to break free from this man not knowing what a soul
tie is before I read this book." She said, "This book has opened
my eyes and actually tells you what you need to do to break
free once and for all." Well, thank you Lord and I'm glad that
it's blessing people's lives, but I want you to think about in
your own life or someone you know where you can clearly see
why do they keep going back to them? You know, it's so easy to
see that in other people. If you know someone who's struggling
and they're not waking up, get this special package for them
because I believe this is going to be one of those wake up
calls. I want to share with you real quick three keys to break
free from wrong relationships. Number one, the first one is to
wean yourself, W-E-A-N. Wean yourself. Well let me explain
what that means. The word wean actually means to deprive.
You've got to come to that place where you deprive yourself of
that person until you no longer miss them. That may just bring
devastation to your ears right now to even hear that. In fact
the Bible says in Psalm 131, "Surely I have calmed and
quieted my soul like a weaned child with his mother. Like a
weaned child as my soul within me ceased from fretting." Well,
like I said, you have to deprive yourself of this wrong soul tie
until you no longer miss them. Listen to this, there will come
a day when you no longer miss them. In fact, it makes me think
about how it's no different than when you wean a child from a
bottle or from a pacifier. In fact when my daughter Cassidy
was little every night before I would put her to bed I'd feed
her, I'd give her a little pacifier and then I would put
her in her crib. Well, that was just the routine. In fact there
were so many times I'd take the pacifier out and her little
mouth would still be moving like it was there. It was the cutest
thing. I remember when that day came and it was time to wean her
from the pacifier. Well, this is what she was used to getting
every single night. Well, that first night when I fed her, put
her in bed, I didn't put the pacifier in her mouth, she
didn't just cry. She screamed with all her might. I remember
closing the door. I went to my bedroom. I had the little baby
monitor and I mean she is screaming at the top of her
lungs for that familiar thing. I remember I was taking a bath one
night, I could hear her on the baby monitor. She's crying. I'm
crying and I'm telling my husband, "Shouldn't I just go in
there and give her the pacifier?" I felt like the bad
mom. She's still bawling. Thirty minutes are going by and she is
screaming. I'm going, "Rodney, let me just go giver her the
pacifier." He said, "No, you've got to just let her cry. If you
give in to her it's going to happen again the next night.
It's going to happen again the next night." He said,
"Eventually she's going to stop." Well, I think it was
harder on me than it was her because I just felt like the bad
mom. Well finally what felt like an eternity of torturing my
baby, it finally ended. She cried herself to sleep. Well the
next night it didn't get any easier. It was like starting all
over again. She cried and cried for what she was used to
getting. The next night and the next night and the next night.
Then one night I remember the cries became less and less. The
20 minutes went to five minutes. Then the five minutes went to
little whimpers until one night I remember just hearing her go
... Well today she's 20-years-old and she's never
asked for the pacifier. What I'm saying is when you first deny
yourself that thing or that person, your soul will throw a
fit. Your emotions will scream for the right to stay in
bondage, but here's the thing. The more you deny yourself that
thing, that person that you're screaming for, the less you
begin to desire it. I'm warning you, it's not going to be easy.
Your flesh is used to getting what it wants and your flesh
wants its way. Listen to this, Jesus said in Mark, He said, "If
anyone decides to come after me, let him deny himself." Well, you
have to deny yourself that thing until you're no longer screaming
for it. Let me just tell you, nobody can make this tough
decision for you. You're the only one who's going to make
that decision to get free, to get out of this mess by obeying
God day after day after day. But each day that you defeat your
flesh and its unGodly desires, it's another step of freedom.
Every single choice you make to deny your flesh, you're making
progress. Always remind yourself, whatever God is
telling you to get rid of in your life, it's ultimately for
your benefit. He's not trying to hurt you. He's not trying to
just make you suffer and punish you. God sees down the road. He
sees things that you don't see. How do you deny yourself that
thing or that person? Well you know, it might mean things like
don't answer the phone when you see them calling. Don't reply to
the text messages. Don't go to the place where you know they're
going to be. Don't be alone with them because you know what it
will lead to. Don't answer the door when you see him through
the little peephole. Don't go to the party that they're at.
Whatever deny means to you, just determine to do it. You may have
to take drastic measures to be free, but I'm telling you, it's
worth it. You will never regret obeying God, never. Always
remember this, this is so important, because a lot of
times when you're thinking about denying yourself that person,
that thing your flesh is craving, it makes you feel like
you're mean, how could you do that to someone, especially
after what you've shared with them, always remember this,
you're not rejecting that person, you're rejecting sin.
That's a big difference. So number one is wean yourself,
deprive yourself of that person. Number two is to hear the Word,
hear the truth consistently. In other words you have to make
yourself listen to God's Word more than you've been hearing
Satan's lies. This is vitally important to your freedom. That
means every available moment that you have push play and
listen to messages that deal with this subject. That's why I
produce this message on breaking soul ties. I didn't teach this
at a conference. I actually went in the studio. I didn't want
anybody around, just me and a little microphone and I shared
straight from my heart because I know what I'm talking about. I
didn't just Google this message and think that's a cute thing to
talk about. No, I know the pain that comes from breaking wrong
soul ties. Well, you've got to hear messages that speak the
truth to you. You've got to read books that give you wisdom and
clarity. You know, God's Word, the Bible says God's Word, the
entrance of God's Word brings light. Well, you need the light
exposing all the darkness that's been invading your soul so that
could mean every time you get in the car you push play because
your flesh is going to listen to those old songs that remind you
of them and take you back in time. You've got to make
yourself listen to the Word of God. Every time you want to read
old texts or you want to creep on them on Instagram, look at
old pictures, start reading books that keep you focused on
what is happening. Don't entertain Satan's lies. Finally,
number three, the third step I want to share with you today is
you have to clean out your house. Clean out your house. Do
you know you may have reminders of your past just laying around
the house and you have no idea what those things are doing to
your emotions? I mean it seriously, it could be stuffed
animals from an old boyfriend, a girlfriend who gave you
something as a reminder. My old boyfriend, I remember he
drenched the stuffed animal with his cologne. Every time I'd
smell it I'd think of him. Well, do you know Satan works through
your five physical senses? He uses your sense of sight and
hearing and touch and taste and smell. In fact, I read something
one time that said that the sense of smell is the most
powerful in memory recognition. All it takes is one whiff of an
old girlfriend, an old boyfriend and instantly it takes you back.
You may need to get a trash bag like I did. Go through the
house. Throw away, it could be jewelry that was given to you.
Don't throw it away. Sell it. Make some money off your past.
It could be letters or cards, gifts. It could be lingerie. It
could be music you don't need to be listening to anymore. It
could be old pictures, old emails and texts that you need
to delete. You need to assign a special cleanup and clean out
day. Go through every closet, every drawer, every cabinet and
throw away anything that has a negative emotional attachment to
you. I wish I could keep going because there's so much more I
want to share with you. Like I said, this may be for someone
you know or God may be speaking right to you. I want you to get
this special package on breaking soul ties. I don't know of
anybody teaching on this and I wish I had heard this years ago,
but it's a two part teaching on breaking soul ties and then the
entire book is Break Wrong Soul Ties and Pursue Your Purpose.
You know one of the statements that helped me so much was
loneliness is not the absence of affection, but the absence of
direction. In other words I'm going to walk you step-by-step
on how to get free from those wrong soul ties, those wrong
attachments, but I'm also going to teach you how to get a vision
because when something ends God always has a new beginning. So
my favorite part is the last part of the book, the last few
chapters to teach you how to wake up with purpose, wake up
with a vision. I'm going to teach you how to build your self
image so you stop being tormented by those memories. Now
you're not just over the past. You're on a pursuit. You're
ready to do something with your life. See, Satan can't defeat
you unless he first deceives you. He's so subtle and one of
the most powerful ways he does it is through soul ties. So I
want you to get this if you feel like God's speaking to you or
you have a friend who's in a wrong relationship and you want
to be able to minister to them, you want to be able to tell
them, "This is what's happening. Wake up,"get this special
package for them because I'm believing it's going to save
careers, save callings, save marriages and who knows, maybe
one day you'll be writing a book helping people with what you've
been through. I want you to do whatever God's telling you to
do. Don't miss out on everything God has for your life because of
something back there, because of some person who's dragging you
out of the will of God. Well you know, I love this Scripture that
says, "Don't remember the former things nor consider the things
of old. God is doing a new thing in your life and now it shall
spring forth." I believe God is saying, "It's time to move on.
It's time to break free." Let's clean your house. Let's get rid
of the torment in your mind. Let's get a new self image.
Let's get a vision for your life. Let's walk out the very
assignment that He put you on earth to do. So I believe God's
speaking to you by divine appointment. Stop looking at all
the years you've lost. Let's look at the years you've got
left and start living your dreams. Just, you know if God's
telling you to get this for someone else, just obey because
I believe it's going to save their life so they can move on
and live their dreams. Thank you so much. I'll see you next week.
ANNOUNCER: Are you suffering from a relationship that
recently ended or perhaps needs to end? Are you unknowingly or
adversely bound to someone else through a negative soul tie?
Terri understands the pain and confusion involved in unhealthy
relationships. More importantly she understands God's power to
set you free. You'll discover as you read Untangle how soul ties
are formed, how to identify possible negative soul ties in
your life and much more. In the two CD series Breaking Soul Ties
Terri shares intimate details of her personal journey to conquer
negative soul ties and leads you on a path to freedom and hope.
Together this is a must have package for you or someone
you love, one who needs to understand the powerful
consequences of soul ties and the steps to break free. To
request your copy of The Untangle Package,
call 800-795-5597 or visit us at Terri.com.
TERRI: I think it's one thing to have a
plan, to have a dream for your life, but when
you discover God's plan, that's the icing on the cake.
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