Waching daily Aug 2 2017

Vaheguru ji ka Khalsa Vaheguru ji ki Fateh

It is generally seen that out of a couple one wants to take Amrit and the other doesn't

If your life partner wants to move towards their religious roots

meaning wants to take Amrit and become a Gursikhs

But your heart is not ready then what should you do?

In this video we will discuss this topic

that if your life partner wants to take Amrit then what should you do?

In this video whenever Daas says life partner

it is for both husband and wife respectively

If you didn't have to do anything when they become a Gursikh then it wouldn't be that big of a deal

but according to Maryada a married person can't take Amrit by them selves

according to this Hukam the husband or wife will have to take Amrit as well

You can only become servants of Guru jee along with your spouse this is the Maryada since the beginning

Some times after giving very hard conditions a person can take Amrit by themselves

but with these conditions the household will be filled with disharmony

So husband wife should take Amrit together

If your husband or wife wants to take Amrit

So our advice is you should become a help in this and not be a hurdle

here is some more vichaar on this topic

A life partner is such who stays with you throughout your life

this can only be done if you love and care for your spouse

love is based on sacrifice

it is our duty to sacrifice of give yourself a little bit of hardship for the happiness of your spouse

Your spouse's want to take Amrit is totally justified

and for you to give support in this will be a great sign of love a sacrifice

by doing so your life will be filled with happiness

we can give you full faith that you will be happier than before

if you help your spouse take Amrit

If your spouse has surprised you with the want to take Amrit

then think it over, this isn't a bad surprise

In Kaljug nowadays people give each other very weird surprises

Such as they will say they want to be separated

or that they want a divorce or they are in an affair

or then they surprise you by telling you they have some grave illness

after hearing such things, what must people be going through? We can only wonder

On the other hand your partner has only said they want to become a Gursikh

There is nothing wrong in this

Do tell, with this what sky has fallen? Which earth has been torn apart

nothing bad has happened

So don't panic

and don't make a small thing into a bigger deal than it is

be a partner in such an auspicious moment and fill your house with happiness

Your life partner wants to take Amrit, not like they want to take poison or alcohol

So Guru jee does Hukam

By taking Amrit your life will be fulfilled

So think it over and being wise take Amrit with your spouse

According to Gurbani your lifes goal is to take Amrit

Guru jee says

it is for this reason we take Amrit

So if you take Amrit with your spouse your life's purpose will also be fulfilled

it's true that by taking Amrit there will be some changes in your eating habits

and waking up early you will have to join in praising Akal Purakh

But this isn't as hard as you think it is

There are many people in the world who are living such a Sikhi life and are doing so very happily

It's not like you have to go live in jungles if you take Amrit

or you have to become a recluse

you can live a house holder life

and living all of life's happinesses you can make Akal Purakh happy

Think what the founder of Buddhism , Gautam Siddharth did

One night he left his wife and kids and went to the jungles in search for truth

Some for attainment of the divine become recluse

some peirced their ears and become Jogi

and some religions even tell you to do violence and kill people

Our religion is a religion of peace

After taking Amrit your life will be filled with happiness and peace

Dear Brother, Dear Sister don't be stubborn

be shoulder to shoulder with your spouse and get ready to walk on Guru jee's path

A lot of the time we don't get in Sikhi Saroop because we are scared of what people will say

You must be thinking if I keep my beard and hair

or if I tie a Dastar what will my relatives say, what will my friends say

what will my colleagues say?

If I take Amrit and don't do makeup what will people say?

If I don't do fashions against Sikhi then I will look bad

These kind of questions stop us from taking Amrit

But think, those people who you are worried about what do you even want from those people?

What do those people give you?

Not like they can stop your pension

and you care for their opinion?

do those people ask you before doing anything? NO

Your life partner is the most important person for you

their happiness should be firstmost for you

those people who's opinion you care for aren't going to come of any use to you

so don't care for their opinion

don't ruin your house because of them

it is not wise to ruin your house's happiness over someone else

You are scared that by taking Amrit who knows what will happen

Nothing bad will happen, trust us, you will be very happy

We know many people who first were scared to take Amrit

but afterwords when they did take Amrit for the happiness of their spouse or children

then they can be heard saying

That we wasted so much time not taking Amrit

we wasted our previous life

So don't be scared and take Amrit

You will also be very happy, this is our guarantee

If you don't agree to take Amrit

and because of you, your spouse doesn't get Amrit

then you will see that your house will lose happiness

In whose ever mind the thirst for Amrit has arisen once

that thought can never leave their mind

it could be that for your case or fearing conflict they won't take Amrit

but there will always be a void within them

there will be something missing in your life

So support your spouse and take Amrit

There is no good deed as joining someone with Sikhi and no sin as breaking someone from Sikhi

If your spouse doesn't take Amrit because of you

and because of this cannot meet Akal Purakh

and they die

then you will be without a doubt responsible for this sin

So if your husband or wife wants to take Amrit

then support them rather than becoming a hurdle

If your spouse becomes adamant on taking Amrit

then they won't falter

and if because of this your house gets filled with conflict or divorce

then will this be okay?

Some people are stubborn and others not'

If your spouse is adamant that they want to take Amrit than they will

but if due to this your house breaks up it will be very bad

you should use your wisdom and save your home

and make yourself ready to take Amrit

this is our advice to you

Maybe you aren't convinced but it is our belief

and our experience that by becoming a hurdle in religious work

and by refusing to follow Guru jee

Akal Purakh's rath is invited

regardless of whether something bad happens or not

but one thing is for sure that your mind will be filled with unrest

you wont stay happy

So it is our supplication

don't become a hurdle in your spouse's wish to take Amrit

rather join them in taking Amrit

if your mind is not convinced by hearing these points

It is very important to have Gyan before taking Amrit so start doing Sangat

Listen to Katha and Keertan and read books of Gurmukhs

increase your Sangat of Gursikhs

So by doing this you can make yourself ready

If you still have doubt in your mind

then take our advice and do Siri Japjee Sahib Paath with full concentration

or if you don't know how then do Mool Mantar for 5 to 10 mins

with full concentration pray to Vaheguru jee

that they show you the way

and put you on the right path

If you do this your doubts will be cleared

and Vaheguru jee is inside your heart. Vaheguru jee will show you the way

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7 Ways to Help You Master Critical Thinking - Duration: 5:14.

7 Ways to Help You Master Critical Thinking

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Pesto Quinoa Bowl with Avocado, Spinach, Cremini Mushrooms and Cherry Tomatoes - FreshDirect - Duration: 8:47.

focus on me am I the weirdest person on the planet no thinking involved hi

everybody I'm Alex welcome to my kitchen where we only cook healthy food that

doesn't suck tonight I have a really special super easy very delicious

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the pesto quinoa Bowl I love pesto and I love quinoa so I

think I'm going to like this I think they're gonna like it a lot if I can ever

open it that's how we want it to look spinach quinoa

avocado cherry tomatoes mushrooms basil pesto two eggs - whoa all the instructions on

what we're supposed to do are right in here let's start with the

quinoa one and a half cups of water bring that to a boil the other thing we need

to hard boil our eggs smaller pot fill it up with enough water to cover the

eggs got a frying pan here our first ingredient that doesn't come in the kit

a little bit of olive oil get that hot it's getting hot so now we're going to

chop up our mushrooms well these guys are dirty I'm going to rinse these off

because there is a lot of dirt on them there's nothing wrong with eating a

little bit of dirt but I don't know where these mushrooms been mushrooms are

supposed to be dry-brushed but today they got a little bit of wet I don't think

they mind so just cut your mushrooms into fours the instructions say to

remove the stems I don't mind the stems I kind of like them actually nothing

wrong with eating with them quinoa water is boiling so I have the bag of quinoa

the quinoa is the longest slowest cooking thing in this whole thing so you

want to get it on right quick stir this a little bit just so that

all the quinoa is in the water bring it back up to a boil which is like no

time at all then cover it and take it down to like a low simmer for 30 minutes

I don't know about that I'm not going to time it but when it's done I'll let you

know keep chopping your mushroom our frying pan is melting the plastic bag

pay more attention and I am I'm going to do the mushrooms in there I was supposed

to do the spinach first but the whole melting plastic thing threw me off so just saute

your mushrooms salt pepper give them a bitch lift turn that down to like a

medium cherry tomatoes rinse these off we keep them whole so we don't even need to

chop them for hard boiled eggs I always let the water boil first and then add my

eggs so it's easy to time the doneness now I'm going to take them in this

slotted spoon and gently lower them into the water so very gently just kind of

place them in the water and I like jiggle them out because the last thing

you want to do is crack it when you're putting in it oh that was cracked

hmmmm it's fine it'll still work hey Google set timer for 10 minutes

the yolk will be totally cooked in 12 minutes is like a very hard boil and

anything below 10 you'll still get like a little bit of runny creamy okay so our

mushrooms are pretty much cooked so put them into a little plate over here and

then we're going to add a little bit more olive oil to the pan and then we're

going to add our spinach the spinach will look really quickly so keep an eye

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right so the spinach is basically done now - you can see it wilted down

really nicely we're going to put this on our same plate with the mushrooms and

they're going to make friends tomatoes into that same pan now I think the thing

about the tomatoes is you want to just kind of blister the skin almost like

roasting them we gotta an avocado here the way to get into an avocado is

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then cut all the way around the pit being very careful of your fingers then

you do a little twist Oh into the pit I'm not going to work this time

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three lengthwise slices and then a couple of slices going the other way and

it is totally 100% possible for your knife to go all the way through the

flesh and cut your fingers so be very careful and then that will be really

easy to scoop out into our portion the tomatoes are starting to look really

good they're getting like brown hey Google how much time is left on a timer

so the cherry tomatoes are done they're like they

started to kind of pop out of their skins and they're getting a little bit

browned on the sides so I'm going to put this on our plate of veggies our eggs

are going to be done very soon what you want to do as soon as you take them out

of the water with your slotted spoon get them under cold running water so that it

stops cooking okay google stop she knows what's up

I just put my eggs in a bowl of cold water and then we're going to peel them

I don't really have a trick on how to do this

I usually just crack like an egg peel away from the crack always move away

from the crack the quinoa is actually almost ready I Think heck yeah

thirty minutes my behind we've got our pesto here the oil is separated a

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our quinoa so I just mix your pesto in the quinoa together it smells really

really good oh my god that pesto is delicious

divvy up the quinoa between the two of them a good way to divvy something in

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half then just divvy up your vegetables between the two so we've got our roasted

tomatoes we got the spinach maybe if you're serving somebody that's like not

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caveman invented utensils for a reason mushroom dry off your eggs a little bit

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Microsoft Stream: Learn how to use cognitive services for your videos - Duration: 1:32.

Whether you want to share a video with your team or catch up on a meeting recording,

Microsoft Stream makes working with video easier than ever.

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and how they affect your Microsoft Stream experience.

Here we are on the homepage for a Group in my company's Microsoft Stream portal.

Let's say my manager recommended I check out the mention of "Microsoft Office" in a recent branding video.

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And this search experience was automatic.

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Now that we're in the specific section I searched for, take a look at how the player page gives complete control to:

-navigate the transcript by searching, scrolling, or clicking

-change the playback speed

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-use the face timeline to see where different people appear in the video

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empower cognitive insights and make video communication both easy and effective.

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Staying Fit During Your Pregnancy - Duration: 1:44.

Staying Fit During Your Pregnancy

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Microsoft Stream: Leverage deep search capabilities to find the content that matters to you - Duration: 1:33.

Whether you are searching for a specific piece of content or just browsing your organization's videos

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The homepage features a few of your company's trending videos -

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The search box on your group page restricts results to just the videos and channels within your group.

Once you search for a video, search results show the relevant metadata,

as well as cognitive insights extracted from the video, like these results from the video's transcript.

You can learn more about cognitive insights in the intelligence features video.

When I click this transcript segment watch how the video jumps exactly to that point.

Now that I'm here I can share this video from the same exact point - just as quickly as I found it.

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Health officials urge extreme caution in sweltering temps - Duration: 2:31.

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How Can You Lose Weight After Pregnancy - Duration: 2:03.

How Can You Lose Weight After Pregnancy

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Why You Should Learn Baseball - Duration: 2:06.

Why You Should Learn Baseball

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Konnichi-What? - Are you a Wizard? - Duration: 1:19.

- Higa-san, do you want to see a magic trick?

Hold out your hand.

Wingardium leviosa!

(blows feather)

♫ Konnichi-watu

♫ Konnichi-watu

♫ Watu-watu-watu

♫ Konnichi-wa

- Hi everyone and welcome to this week's episode

of Konnichi-what?, the show where Higa-san will try

to teach me words and phrases in Japanese.

There's a magician coming to Schilling.

We're both pretty excited about this,

in case you couldn't catch that from the magic trick I tried

to perform at the beginning.

In honor of this magician coming,

we decided we'd kind of go a little random

with our phrase this week

and we're bringing in some magic,

bringing in some illusions,

and kind of just bringing in some fun.

Higa-san.

- Yeah.

♫ Konnichi-watu

♫ Konnichi-watu

♫ Watu-watu-watu

♫ Konnichi-wa

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Christopher Carlson: 5 Fast Facts You Need to Know - Duration: 5:30.

Christopher Carlson: 5 Fast Facts You Need to Know

Police in Lawrence, Kansas accuse 34-year-old Christopher Carlson of repeatedly strolling naked around town, one time right after he was released for the first nude stroll. The sight of the naked man walking around town unnerved Lawrence residents.

"Man it was just insane. There's no other way to describe it," said Megan Engleman, a bartender, to FoxKC. Police identified the Kansas man as Christopher Steven Carlson. Here's what you need to know:.

Carlson Walked Naked Past a Starbucks & One Witness Said He Was 'So Casual About It'. Witnesses expressed shock at seeing the completely naked man stroll past a Starbucks and other establishments on Sunday, July 31.

"He was just so casual about it and yes it was all just hanging out," Engleman, the bartender, told FoxKC. "It's just so funny and those pictures weren't even flattering.".

"Jaws dropped," says Sophie Milstein, a restaurant server, to Kansas City.com. "It was from a movie or something.". Police Cited Carlson But They Say He Did It Again.

Naked man in Lawrence cited, fined for walking in publichttps://t. twitter. com/UFO3dmMQjY — KansasCityDailyNews (@KansasDailyNews) August 1, 2017  .

Carlson "was first taken into custody at around 2 p.m. Sunday on Massachusetts near Ninth Street. He was cited for indecent exposure, fined $500 and released," Kansas City.com reported.

Police saw him yet again at 4:30 p.m. after he was released and cited him. He was naked – again, they say.

According to police, "Carlson was cited again for indecent exposure and theft of services at around 4:30 p.m. Sunday, when he was spotted sans clothes on West 10th Street just west of Massachusetts," the newspaper reported.

People Posted Photos on Social Media of the Strolling Naked Man. Hey, theres a naked guy: Man gets arrested twice on same day for strolling naked in Kansas town https://t. co/plkoBiF3B4pic. twitter. com/EjT1fd9SQm — Ottawa Sun (@ottawasuncom) August 1, 2017  .

The sight of a strolling naked man in Lawrence caused a stir on social media. The Lawrence KS Police Community & Scanner Facebook page noted, "We had ourselves a streaker on Mass St a little while ago.

It was called in as a disturbance, but its not illegal to walk around naked as the day you were born in Kansas, unless a city has passed city code against it.".

The post, with a photo of Carlson, has more than 1,000 shares. A Cab Driver Alleged Carlson Took His Clothes Off When He Couldn't Pay His Fare.

The motive for the naked strolling is not clear. However, a cab driver told police that Carlson took the second naked walk after he couldn't pay his cab fare.

"Lawrence police received another call from a taxi service about a man who was picked up from the Douglas County Jail.

The driver said the man couldn't pay for the fare and when he arrived at his destination he took off his clothes and left the vehicle," reported KSHB.

He seemed okay," the cab driver told the television station. "He talked to me. He carried on a small conversation with me.". It's Not Illegal to Walk Around Kansas Without Your Clothes On Under State Law.

Walking around naked in Kansas is becoming a trend. The above photo is of a different naked walker, in Topeka, in 2014. In that case, the man was not arrested because it's not against Kansas law to walk around in the buff.

In Lawrence, it's an ordinance violation, though.

Kansas City Star reported that under Lawrence city ordinance, "public nudity is classified as a misdemeanor, even though state law does not consider it a crime, unless committed with 'intent to arouse or gratify the sexual desires of the offender or another.

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The 10 Essential Rules for Fighting With Your Partner - Duration: 12:44.

Hey, everybody. It's your life coach Alyssa hammond here and today

I want to talk to you about the ground rules of fighting. this topic

It just seemed like the universe was calling me to do it because I had four clients

Call me in 24 hours saying that they got a huge fight with their significant other because of a lack of communication

So I ended up telling pretty much the same thing to all four of them

so I just thought I'd go through some of the ground rules for when you're arguing with your significant other or really if

You want to argue with anybody in a respectful way number one speak from your feelings and not?

Making accusations of what the other person has done to you, so by that I mean

It's so much more effective to say when you say things like that it feels

Mean-spirited or it hurts my feelings. It makes me feel unlovable

It makes me feel not valued you know whatever

Whatever you guys are fighting about that's so much stronger as far as evoke an emotion from your partner and getting your point across

then

Saying anything along the lines of you do this and that which makes me act this way instead of making it about

What they've done wrong,

Make it about

How you've been feeling and what you think the solution is to how you've been feeling one of the things

I always say is actually let's make this number to ask yourself is what I'm saying right now

benefiting the conversation, so

For example one of my clients was saying that she said something and and he responded with well now

I finally agree with you for once. So that stung her obviously and it didn't get them any closer to resolution

So even though he may look at it as somewhat innocent because he you know you could almost argue

"I was saying I agree with them"

But you're actually making a dig and if you truly ask yourself if you're getting any closer to resolution

You could probably argue you're taking a step back because now that person is thinking

"okay, so

you know they're obviously not over it or they want to keep fighting or

They're trying to make me feel like shit." None of those are good ways to be making the other person feel

So focus on is what I'm saying headed toward resolution

Or is what I'm saying digging up old battles have nothing to do with this is what I'm saying

Dignifying me mistreating my partner when I know I shouldn't have been acting that way

Number three listen to their feelings and respond don't just wait for them to be quiet

So you can speak we all do this okay?

This was hard for me to unlearn because we all fight like this we wait for the person to shut up so that we can

Get our point across

We're not actually really listening to what they're saying so here's something

I learned in my college psychology class that totally changed the way. I'll be fighting forever

They said when you're fighting with someone

The worst thing you can do is roll your eyes because that shows contempt just if you do eye rolls

Just stop

It's not doing anybody any good

The other thing they said is we have this urge to speak over each other because the most important thing in a fight is to

Feel understood what we do is

We don't actually listen to what the other person is struggling with until we end up having these fights over and over because you get

To the end of the fight and a lot of times you know closer to really understanding what the issue was?

so what they said in a

Psychology class is that the best way to fight is that each person gets to take a turn to say whatever they need to say?

So like let's say person A is talking person B

Has to sit and wait until person a is done talking and you can say are you done yet?

Which at first when I heard I was like that would piss me off if someone said that to me

But you're saying are you finished talking yet?

And then you can respond and if the person isn't finished then that's their chance to say no I've got more to say and then

They get it out one of the things that is very hard for a lot of people to drop is

They want to get a thought out while they have it

You know like you're super deep into a fight

And you want that other person so deeply to understand where you're coming from?

That they'll say something it flips this little switch, and you have this memory in your head

Oh, I should bring that up, so then you're waiting for them to finish that you can insert what you're saying, but again

you're not listening to them and

In psych class that we said to our professor

I think a lot of people talk over someone because they want to make sure that they don't forget and

The professor said if you forget was it that important though?

That blew my mind

Because yeah, I mean, it's just a totally different way of fighting

It's a way where someone feels completely hurt with that way of fighting you cut chances of offending someone?

Probably in half just by waiting for them to finish talking and not rolling her eyes

so those are two little like

Side bonuses that weren't even on my list of the top ten ground rules for fighting so I guess you're getting pulse so number four

Is don't make assumptions about who the other person is or is not?

Nolie's here! You want to come get on my lap? Oh god you're so heavy

Okay

Okay, so yeah

Don't make assumptions about who the person is or is not so by that I mean we all get into fights

especially if we've been together for a long time and

assume the way that the other person is Gonna react or

we're like I know he's gonna freak out if I talk to him about this you act totally differently because

You're thinking that they're gonna get upset or let's see you hide something cuz you think they're Gonna be upset

They're gonna be upset because you're expecting and of them, and you're treating them differently

so

Nolie's bored of this topic So she's gonna just lay down

Let's tilt it so she can be part of the action okay Nolie's back, so....

sorry, I just had to have a quick three-minute makeout session with my dog everyone kisses their dog like

300 plus times a day right is that not normal?

Well, it's not gonna stop me cuz we're in love and I don't let her lick inside my mouth if that helps

so if you make assumptions that you can't say something to someone because they won't care or

They're not willing to listen you're making that decision for them

And you're not even giving them the chance to prove you wrong

So if you make that assumption that they're not gonna listen to you, you're causing yourself unnecessary hurt. You're just like assuming

It's Gonna be awful

So you make it something you can't even approach and how awful is that to be dealing with that forever?

In other news this is really great lighting to see how pretty Nolie's brindle coloring is. Nolie's gonna nap for a bit

She's exhausted from all this conversation

Yeah, so if you make assumptions that they are or are not able to make changes

It causes this whole new fight when you could have been done like get done your first one for easter

That should be another tip we can call that 4.5

number five was my mom's favorite quote when I was growing up it is you can say

anything as long as it's from a place of love so the reason that she says that is because

She thinks part of loving someone is

Being truthful with them and saying thanks to them even if maybe if I'm not ready to hear it

if you say all things with love

Then the person you're fighting with knows that you have the best intention during these fights, and that will immediately help them bring down any

Guards that they have up when you can always take what you're saying and handle it gently

They'll just naturally come out better than if your goal is to win. I don't even know why I said ten tips

I mean, this is like 15

Listen I'm sorry my dogs here, but I'm a working mom and she's my baby. What do you want me to do? Number six never mentioned divorce or breakup

During the fight this is for two reasons one of them

Is that most people when they're saying they want a divorce or they want to break up?

It's because they're trying to get a rise out of the person that they're talking to so

You may get a rise out of them, but you're gonna regret it

And you're gonna pay for it later because they're never gonna be secure in your relationship anymore

Because now they know that for you breaking up is on the table and communicating from a place of love

Which is rule number five means you're not threatening them to try and get them to make changes the second part of why?

Someone would mention divorce or breakup during a fight is that they're serious about it

So if you do feel like you want to end their relationship

Then that's actually not something. I think should be done during a but you're fighting and

Let's say you guys decide to get a divorce and if you have kids

Or you live together you have pets you still have to get through all of this

Crap you need to try and get through the fight and then when you're in a clearer state of mind

That's when you make that decision because if you try and end a relationship as a result of a fight

You're just going to both end up hurt and both end up without closure my argument in all this is that you need

To find resolution on this on this topic no matter what make that a priority over deciding if you're gonna break up or stay together

Number seven is something I feel like well in every video

It's the tube of toothpaste theory we too can't talk when you squeeze

Toothpaste out of the Tube. It's very hard to put it back

It's the same way with words if you say something very hurtful

They're gonna remember that and definitely don't write it out be a text or Via email

Because things can easily be misconstrued in fact if you haven't seen my video on the do's and don'ts of texting and relationship

I'll link that here so that you can watch it because that's another one

That's gonna be important as far as communication techniques

go

So in summary of number seven don't say anything that you can't take back because words sting and they will stick with people

Especially if it's someone who was feeling even mildly self-conscious about their role in their relationship number eight is don't make threats

So it's kind of like number six in that don't mention divorce or breakup

But number six is more about getting a rise out of that person on things you don't actually mean number

eight with making threats threats aren't gonna get anybody anywhere and

There is a difference between saying this is something that needs to change or else. I need to reconsider being in this relationship

Versus grow the hell up or I'm kicking your ass out on the street pretty similar message

But totally different delivery so again

It goes back to ole delivering things from a place of love and just trying to prioritize

Finding resolution to the issue over being right number nine

Don't meet negativity with negativity, so I make my clients say to me

I will not stoop to the other person's level and the reason I say that is because

It's a it's kind of empowering to say to yourself. No matter what that person is feeling

I'm gonna meet what they say with compassion and empathy number ten is

explore feelings with curiosity

so by that, I mean let's say the other person has a very negative reaction to something you're saying that's

Truthful and from the heart it can be really really powerful to say what do you think is causing you to feel this

strong of a reaction to what I said? And it almost forces people to come down on their defensiveness because

Instead of just spewing their story and trying to get their point across. They're actually saying why

Am I have this upset about this topic? It's not even that big of a deal

So those are the top ten tips I know that was actually like 12 or 13

But I wanted to make sure that you had the ground rules there because all couples need to argue

it's just reality it's not just about having the perfect person it's about both making a commitment to

Truly understand the other person and putting that above being right, so let's make that the final one

number Eleven don't make it about being right make it about binding resolution over all else and if you

Just try to speak Openly from a place of love you're not trying to hide anything

You try to understand where the other person is coming from you meet their emotions with curiosity and kindness and empathy

You're careful with the words that you use you don't make threats you will have a much more successful

Argument, because again they need to happen if you just if you have these ground rules you can find resolution a lot more quickly

So whoever the first person to comment on this that they use these techniques, and it worked

I'm Gonna be so excited

So is Nolie. Because I really want to see

If they if they help the general public because they've helped a lot of my clients

So let me know and if there's any other topics you want me to cover. Shoot me an email

I'll leave my information below or leave comments here

I'd love to see if you have any other ground rules and if you like this video as always hit the like button below

Comment and definitely subscribe because I'll be coming out with a new video every week on living your best life. Thanks guys

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I have a tutorial for you on how to go live on YouTube.

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Welcome back, or if you're watching for the first time,

then thank you for joining.

I'm Sonali Ankola, the creator of Dream with Intent,

where we talk about creating a positive life attitude,

and getting results for your side hustle and business.

Now let's get started designing your destiny.

So today we're doing something a little different.

I actually have a tutorial for you on how to go

live on YouTube.

Now just in case you did not see one of my recent videos

on getting out of your comfort zone, especially

with your first live video, then check that out.

You will see why this tutorial was so important.

Cause there were so many hiccups that I ended up having

and just understanding the technical part of it,

especially when you're not so technically savvy, like me.

It's not that easy to figure it out, and unfortunately,

even when I was Googling and trying to just get information

on how to actually go live, there weren't as many

up to date resources on how simple and easy it was.

And by the way, talking about simple and easy,

I do have to give a really big thank you to

Trena Little.

She actually has this amazing channel on YouTube

where she gives information on basically creating

your YouTube channel.

So definitely check it out, especially if that

is something that you're looking to learn or

just create for yourself.

All right, so let's get started with the tutorial.

So the first thing that you wanna do is make sure

that you're actually logged in to your You Tube account.

Once you're logged in, then select right here

under Creator Studio.

Once you've selected that, then you wanna go to

your Live Streaming.

Now under Live Streaming you'll notice that there are

two options, which is Stream Now and Events.

You actually want to select the Events option

cause with Stream Now you do need to have a

Third Party way of connecting your live streaming,

whereas with Events, it's actually done

through Google Hangouts.

So once you click on events, you can either select

New Live Event, or you can select Schedule a New Event.

Now either of these options will allow you to either

schedule your event, or to go live immediately.

So I'm gonna go ahead and click on Schedule a New Event.

Once you have that selected, then go ahead and

enter in your title.

After you enter your title in, it does allow you

to select as to when you are looking to go live,

so either you can do this at a later date and time,

or we can just leave it for going live now.

And since we're gonna be going live now, I'm just

gonna leave this selection.

Then next you have the option to put in your description.

So go ahead and enter that information in.

Once that is done, then you want to make sure that

you're adding in all of your tags, cause if

you're gonna be going live to the public,

then you really want to make sure those tags are

added in prior to going live.

Because with tags, it allows your video to be found

as you're live streaming in that moment.

So once your tags are added in, you want to make sure

that you have the correct selection selected here.

So with Public, this means that your live stream will

go out to the general public immediately

as soon as you're live.

With Unlisted, that basically means that you need to

share your video URL while you are either doing your

live video, or you can share it afterwards

once a live is done and that's the only way that

people will be able to access it.

And then the last option, which is Private.

So with Private, the only way someone can either join in

during the live streaming, or see the video afterwards,

is if you enter the actual email into this location.

So since we're going to be doing more so of a demo

on how to go live, I'm just going to leave this

under Private for now.

And right here under the Type, since we are going live

immediately and we want to leave it for the default option,

which is Google Hangouts on air, I'm just gonna leave

this option here as is.

Now under the Advanced tab here, I did not really

make any kind of changes cause most of these options

I was able to just leave it as is.

But you can basically read through to see

if there is something that you need to change in here.

A couple of things that I do want to point out,

which is under chat, you have the option

to enable or disable your live chat.

So it's up to you on how you want to leave this,

and also under category, just make sure that you do have

the correct category selected for your YouTube channel.

Now with the last tab, which is the Monetization tab,

this basically allows you to put ads on your video.

So again, it's up to you if you're doing ads or not.

Since I don't normally do ads on any of my YouTube video,

I've just left this as turned off.

So now going back to the basic info, what we're gonna do now

is click on Go Live Now.

Now by clicking on Go Live Now this does not mean that

you'll actually go live immediately.

There is still another button that you need to click on

in order for you to actually go live.

So now I'll be connecting to Google Hangouts.

And you'll notice here that this is still showing

that we are off air.

So it's not yet live as of now.

Now while that is still loading, what I want to show here

is that you have the options to either have your

chat window open, there's also the screen sharing option,

also depending on how you want to have your camera set up

for yourself, or even for anyone else that is joining in,

and then here, this is actually your control room.

So basically can see all of your options listed right here.

So you can leave this window open or keep this closed

and just have your chat open.

Now before you go live, just want to make sure that

you do have your video camera turned on and also

your mic turned on.

So by default the mic is already turned on on here.

So what I'm going to do is go ahead and enable the camera.

All right, so now that the camera is enabled we can

go ahead and click on Start Broadcast.

Now as soon as this thing goes live you'll notice that

the off air will go away and at the bottom,

you'll notice that here is showing that it is live.

So once your live video is actually done, just click on

Stop Broadcasting, and that will basically

end your live video.

Aren't you surprised by how easy that was?

And that is exactly why I thought it was so important

to do this tutorial.

I know it's really hard to go live to begin with

and the last thing that you want is more headaches,

and trying to figure out, how do you even go live

in the first place, especially on YouTube.

I mean on Facebook, it's pretty easy.

All you're doing is clicking a button, but whereas

with YouTube, it's a little bit more complicated.

But, not as complicated as you might have thought initially.

So, I really, really hope that this video is helpful.

Let me know in the comments below and please feel free

to share this with anyone that you think

may benefit from this.

Thanks for watching.

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