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my life is shaped by a lot of events of
what the most powerful was somebody
doing these kind acts for my family I
was 11 years old we had a really really
tough Thanksgiving where there was no
money in no food and we would have
starved they always found a way to get
something but we weren't gonna have a
Thanksgiving dinner that's for sure
certainly not a feast of any sort and
now my mom and dad at the time were
fighting like cats and dogs and saying
things that once you say them you could
never take him back you know kind of
stuff I'm talking about and my momís we
met father about how he could even take
care of his own family and it was
horrible I have a younger brother and
younger sister I'm the oldest so I was
trying to keep them from hearing this
conversation and then a miracle happened
bang on the door I'm the oldest there
screaming and so I go answer the door
and I answer the door and standing there
is this giant man I was his little boy
and he's holding this huge box of food
and beside him on the ground was a black
pop with an uncooked turkey in it and he
said is your father home I said just one
open okay I was like unbelievably afford
I thought this is a gift from God this
is gonna change it all this can make my
mom and dad happy it's gonna be a
believable cycle all my father is
screaming at my mother through a closed
door to the bedroom door and I said dad
dad there's God's Authority it's cold
you answer the door I said I did he's
got to see us I kind of teased to trust
daddy kind of come so he said fine he
made one last yell at her and he walks
at the door and I'm waiting there just
can't wait to see his face
and my dad opens the door on his ass
standing head with his big box of food
that my father did not get happy he
looked in the span and he raised his
voice to what he said who look we don't
take charity and then he took the door
to slam at the man's face but the man
was a good-sized man he put his foot
there and smacked his foot down stucco
he said sir sir
this is not charity everybody else tough
times somebody knows you're having a
tough time and they want you to have a
magical Thanksgiving I'm just the
delivery guy he said please take this oh
my father said we don't take Jerry what
- slamming again and that's not the guy
put his shoulder against it so he
couldn't do it and him I thought of
cerium it's like he's two males starting
to get this intense mode and one just
trying to give a gift
I'm freaking and then the guy said
something that I'll never forget the
moments I wished he having said but he
found a way to force my father he's
holding this thing he looked at me and
then he looked at my dad he said don't
make your family suffer because of your
ego now my dad's level of energy
increased
but he was also trapped you get it so he
took the food slammed it on our table
and slammed the door on the man's face
in every Bank
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and I I'm know what to do part of me
wanted to cry part of me was crushed and
I watched my father storm off and went
on back to scream at my mother and I
remember that day just thinking you know
I don't understand them and years years
later I began to understand a little bit
what I do understand is that you look at
a person's life and it's like so much
life you can be joyous about like I
wanted to smile you know I mean even now
I could remember it I want to smile
about this great gift but now I couldn't
even smile cuz you were making me angry
and then I thought you know years I
figured out it our whole life is shaped
my decisions that's what we've talked
about today right but there's three
decisions you're making every moment
you're alive and the way you make these
three decisions shapes your destiny
first decision we're all making every
moment is what even a focus on what are
you gonna focus on
I realized that my father's life of my
lives ended a very different because we
made that day three decisions very
differently he decided to focus on the
fact that he has not fed his family and
the second question you gotta decide
every moment you're alive including this
moment what are uniform the song second
question as as you're focusing on what
does this mean what does it mean and the
bottom line on meaning is if you think
about it you get to make up the meaning
and most people pick the worse for
dumping that day my father cited that
focusing back he hadn't at his family
and I know what meaning he gave because
he sent it out loud over and over again
that he was worthless because he had not
taken care of his family and then the
final most important decision you make
every moment you're alive what am I
gonna do what am I gonna do and I'll
tell you decided to do he decided to
leave our family charlie thereafter
which at the time was it was the worst
experience of my life it was the most
crushing experience I felt has been so
many years now I don't have the same
feel
part of it is three years ago he passed
away but at the time I knew no greater
pain my family did no greater pain I
couldn't understand why I would leave I
loved him so much and my wife turned out
very different than him I was the only
one to go to his funeral no one else in
the family would go nobody want to be
part of it
he died alone of a disease called
connective tissue disorder and I can
tell you right before his death he got
palestin cuz he looked at me he said son
he said I was a bastard I didn't connect
with anybody and look when I'm dying
enough it's unbelievable so that same
day I made three decisions I decided to
focus on the fact there was food what a
concept I like that but what changed my
life was the meaning I gave it I decided
that day that what this means is that
strangers care and if strangers care
about me and my family I decided I was
gonna do as I was gonna care about
strangers and that completely changed my
life I promised myself something they I
do well enough to do this for other
families I was done for me and I didn't
wait till I was you know wealthy to do
it I did my first one when I seventeen I
remembered our seventeen I have my own
car I have some money and I decided go
on the greatest shopping spree of my
life at that point as I was gonna go
shop for two families for Thanksgiving
and I was gonna go do four families was
done for me so many years before it was
the most euphoric experience I took two
baskets I went to the manager of the
place I told him I was gonna do and I
said I want you to give me a discount
you be my partner give me 10% cheap
bastard
that but it was so cool I got two of
everything right because I want to give
enough food for a family for two or
three days and have an unbelievable
feast then I called this church in the
barrio area and I said listen I want to
go take care of some families that are
too proud to come to the church and get
food so they might suffer can you
recommend some families and they gave me
two families so then I wrote a note
because I thought you know what I'm
gonna put on old jeans and a t-shirt and
I'm gonna deliver this I'm not going to
get the acknowledgement but I do want to
see the faces right so all go is the
delivery boy which is easy I look like
one and but I wrote this note and I
wrote I kind of wanted to get upset like
my father did Sarah this note and I said
this is a gift from a friend please know
that you're loved I want you to have an
extraordinary Thanksgiving you deserve
it please accept this gift and then I
put under it I said if you can someday
do well enough to do this for one other
family and pass on the gift and put love
a friend and then I realized I was going
to an area that was more Latino and I
don't speak Spanish I thought I got a
friend to write on the back and Spanish
so I could flip it around of those
challenge so I got one of my buddy's old
vans
so I need a little room put all the
groceries in and I drove to this house
and it was not what I expected it was
more I got this house and I got two bags
of groceries and I banged on the door
door opened and it's one about this tall
stares up at me like this right and I
said hi and his very office students
beginning English and she let out a
scream when she saw the food and by the
way this woman had five children and a
husband what I didn't know is the
husband who left her three days before
with no money no food and five kids so I
got these that says she screamed she
grabbed me sir Holloman acting like
kissing right and I said no her uncle I
said the delivery boy delivery boy and I
was seen understand a word I'm saying so
I reached in the pocket they gave her
the note flipped it over she got it in
Spanish and then she started to bawl so
then she came and start kissing again no
no I'm the delivery boy a little you
know try to show her and she goes no no
gift from God gift from God come on
trying up the ball so I'm like you know
what do I put this and I'm doing
everything hold it together I smiling
but I want to cry and she disappointed
wasn't a big house it's like a room so I
went over and I put the stuff on there
just as I'm trying to put stuff on there
I hear these screams also Bam Bam two
boys hit me one leg and the other his
two little guys just tack on me right
when they saw it when they saw the food
they went crazy when I saw the pumpkin
pie it was over
decides to come out with me come out
with me and so they came out we kept
bringing these groceries in and I'm
telling you it was like I don't know
describe it was the most before fun
passionate loving was like my little
brothers in hell that's we brought all
stuff in there laughs and then they were
lit up and then you know I done it all
it was time to go and I didn't want to
go on they didn't want me those one
little boy just wouldn't let go of my
leg he's kept looking up to me a hug
give me a fight you know but I had to go
make the other delivery so uh I just won
I said you know I've got to go you know
and she said ok whatever her language
was I don't know what it was but I knew
it man okay right so I went to the leave
and then she grabbed my arm and she
started tears in her eyes and I and I
said I wanted to say you know Happy
Thanksgiving but I don't know Spanish
silent Feliz Navidad
feared it was closed and she started
last she went from crying the laughing
right and it's a grab gave me this big
hug and the kids giving his hugs and
other I got out and I walked off they're
all staying on the porch I got this
little band and I drove it out and turn
it around and I would turn around I
looked in the rearview mirror I was
feeling all this emotion building at my
body and I looked in the mirror and I
saw mama standing in the porch with her
kids all the kids my mama sitting there
crying hysterically and smiling from ear
to ear and I couldn't keep it together I
just I was right there stopped in the
street I started bawling and then
probably and I'm gonna just think you
know this is a beautiful thing you know
why is this making me cry and you know
wise it's great but why am I so
emotional about this and then I got it I
realized that moment not the worst day
of my life my father leaving could
actually be the best Airmotive
because of I am have that experience I
wouldn't be here today and now because
of that I'm get to live this life I have
the desire and the drive above I want to
get it the sweat and so I've really
realized that the worst day was the best
ended that was God's gift the gift would
have been their newest and as an old
country song that says thank God for
unanswered prayers it's a story about
this man wants his Prairie mines la
Orana wasn't fulfilled
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so so I tell you I tell you the story
couple reasons one is you want to change
your life figure out how your worst day
was your best then you'll change
anything because it is if you look for
it if you find the deeper meaning it is
you know there's something in you that
wouldn't be there without it and the
second reason is because I want to
recruit your soul not for your money or
business
I want to recruit you in this action of
going making a difference I want to
recruit you for you because I know if
you go do a few these things you'll get
hooked and you'll make it a ritual all
change your life you know whatever
things you do in your life this is what
it's really about and you know it won't
be long before it'll be Thanksgiving in
we still do this you know I start off at
first year I've had two families my next
year I've had four I'm gonna double it
next year I did eight which was a lot of
work and I didn't tell anybody I was
doing this I wasn't doing it for
acknowledgement as duties right but
after a while I thought I can use some
help so I got my friends together and
say you know what's that they're just
going to have in Turkey let's give
thanks let's go build baskets with food
great stuff let's deliver it to people
who will come and have a big dinner and
we'll talk about we're grateful for and
have our dinner and so we did it and it
became a rich one it grew and then I
dumped some companies how my employees
got involved and then about 14 15 years
ago I started my foundation the last
year we fed over a million people now in
nine countries around the world you know
our Christmas advanced image
students thank you thank you thank you
so I thank you for your applause I
wasn't telling you for that reason I
want to recruit you and you can give
your money but I'd much prefer if you
would just go deliver the food because
I'll tell you what's great
you'll be changed by that it's easy to
give money but we enter an environment
you give you don't give as the giver you
go so do every person but you're the
really the one that made it it'll
absolutely change your life
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