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All those job interviews you thought you failed, you didnt.

You were scammed.

One of the most disgusting things some of the large corporations do is posting fake

jobs, at an increasing rate.

it's their single biggest evil act.

They are not only wasting your time but more importantly they are wasting your hopes.

The latter, I have no tolerance for.

I mean how do you feel after receiving 100s of rejections to your job applications?

Or failing 10s of job interviews.

Don't you get to a stage where you start doubting your worth?

You start thinking that you are not worthy of these great employers.

So, what happens is, as a result, you start lowering your hopes and your expectations.

It's absolutely disgusting what they do.

And I am very confident over 90% of the jobs that are advertised online with big job search

websites are not real jobs but fake jobs.

But not just that, also over 90% of the job interviews you attended were also not real

job interviews.

Meaning; they never had any intention to hire you in the first place.

I'll expose everything in this video.

Now, if you are one of my subscribers, you already know me and you already know my management

consulting career with PwC, PricewaterhouseCoopers.

In that decade long consulting career, I had over 200 clients in the world, all around

the world, top organizations.

And during this time, I personally saw these kind of practices, with my own eyes.

It happened right in front of my eyes.

You'll hear all about them today.

Once I am done with explaining why they post fake jobs, then I'll also tell you what

you should do about it.

But you need to get the reasons first.

Once you understand why they do it, things will be a lot clearer.

You gotta understand the "why" before you start thinking about the "how".

Essentially, there are 4 major reasons.

And the sad part is, although these are absolutely disgusting practices, downright shameful acts,

you'll soon understand that they make sense from their perspective.

It just makes pure business sense.

And the worst part is, because it makes business sense, they will continue to do it.

They will continue to post fake jobs and conduct fake interviews, most probably at an even

greater scale.Number 1, the first reason is to trick, is to fool financial analysts and

credit rating agencies into believing that the company is doing well, and expanding.

Why they are trying to fool them?

Because if these analysts believe that the company is expanding, they'll assign higher

valuation figures and potentially higher price target for their stocks.

How are they fooling them with fake jobs?

Because, financial analysts from investment banks and credit rating agencies use this

datapoint "number of vacancies" as part of their overall valuation study.

It's one of the many datapoints.

These analysts, they want to be able to see if the company is growing in head count.

How do I know this?

I know it because I used to work for Standard & Poor's, long time ago.

Now, these large publicly listed companies are smart.

They realize that this is one single datapoint that they can easily manipulate and the best

part is that there are no regulations.

They can't manipulate their 3 main financial statements because there are strict regulations,

but they can manipulate this particular one, no regulations.

So, they post thousands of fake jobs just to create the perception that they are growing.

Now, this was the case for large, publicly listed, giant companies, big brands.

You know them all.

But relatively smaller firms also post a lot of fake jobs.

But they have different reasons for it.

Reason Number 2: Now, these smaller firms, I mean they are still above 1,000 plus employees

but not as giant as publicly listed ones.

What happens is, to get a major discount from the online job boards, like monster.com or

indeed.com and millions of their derivatives, they buy the job advertisements, the space,

in bulk.

It's like a wholesale discount.

By that way, they get discounts of up to 80%.

It's a good deal right?

80% off…

So, if you can estimate how many jobs you'll hire this year based on previous year's

estimation, then you'll get an 80% discount.

But I have a question for you?

What do you think happens when the company doesn't do so well in that year and that

they can no longer grow?

Do you think they let go of all this "bought-for" online attention?

Nope.

Far from it.

They just place fake jobs.

So, in a way, they see that as a branding opportunity.

It creates the perception that their company is doing very well in the eyes of 10s of millions

of people.

Those fake job ads are seen by 10s of millions of people.

Do you know that Indeed.com gets half a billion traffic per month?

Half a billion.

So, some of these employers, what they do is once they post all those fake jobs, they

tie the job posts to an email autoresponder which sends out an autorejection email after

a certain time passes, like 2 days 8 hours.

You know what, you can actually test this.

I've done it in LIG.

I tested this with 20 perfect resumes, sets of 2 CVs per role.

And from the fake accounts I created, I applied to 10 randomly selected job posts from some

of the most reputable companies in the world.

These were active jobs.

Each application in a particular set of 10, received the autorejection exactly at the

same time duration, ike 3 days, 8 days.

Then the auto-rejection.

If you are thinking oh but maybe the machine did the sorting and looked for certain keywords,

I had all the keywords.

They were just perfect for both the machine and the human screening, they had extremely

relevant experience from PwC, McKinsey, MBA from Harvard Business School, just perfect.

There's no way anyone in their right mind would not invite those fake candidates to

those fake interviews.

It's downright disgusting.

Reason number 3; This 3rd reason actually takes this whole circus a step further.

This is where things get borderline illegal.

Now, they don't just post fake jobs but they also conduct fake interviews.

They literally invite you in for an interview, even multiple stages of interviews.

But you know where the problem is, they actually never had any intention to hire you in the

first place.

Their whole game plan was that they were going to promote a particular internal employee

to a higher role but they needed another candidate, a worse one, to benchmark against.

In a way, all they wanted was just to be able to say to VPs or Directors that, "Hey, you

know what, we did interview all these qualified senior, external candidates, all these 20

of them, and they just weren't as good as our very own Alex.

Alex is the best.

Look here are the interview results".

Then the VP says, ok.

Go ahead.

Promotion approved.

That's it.

Just to be able to say that, they wasted 100s of hours of all those candidates.

The Final Reason, Reason number 4; what do HR/recruiters do.

Other than admin work, they source CVs and interview candidates right?

Very good.

What happens to all these recruiters, the HR when the company isn't hiring as much

as before?

Think about it.

Do you think they stop their HR work and start helping other departments like, Marketing,

Sales, Operations?

No.

Not at all.I'll tell you what happens.

They get fearful for their own little jobs.

They want to look busy.

They want their public calendar to be seen as full to everyone else.

So, they continue to source CVs and conduct job interviews.

Let's say in normal times, they conduct like 500 interviews as a team for 100 open

roles.

Which is about 5 HR interviews per role right?

Good.

Now, when the company can't grow that year and has only 10 open roles instead of 100,

what happens?

I'll tell you what happens, the HR still conduct 500 interviews.

So, as a result, they conduct like 50 interviews or sometimes as much as 100 interviews for

one single role.

Are you kidding me?

As I said, they want to look busy.

Obviously, there are exceptions.

There are very well managed companies, but not as many as you would think.

There is a back story to this actually.

When I was still with PwC Consulting, PricewaterhouseCoopers.

We had a major client, a very big international company.

I can't give you the name but you know them.

The project was organizational transformation.

The company, our client was on the verge of bankruptcy, they couldn't pay salaries,

extreme hiring freeze, and majority of employees were about to be laid off.

10s of thousands of people.

All around the world.

Imagine how bad they were going down.

Imagine all those families losing their only source of income.

Anyway, here's the funny thing though.

At a time like this, they still had 60, full time internal recruiters/HR whom strangely

enough, all looked very busy, all the time.

They didn't collaborate with us, consultants, or even with the board of directors.

They didn't want to attend my meeting invitations, no collaboration, like completely isolated.

Whenever I approach them, they are always like "we are so busy, can we do that tomorrow.

Oh, let me check my calendar I'll get back to you."

And then they never get back.

Then after a while, I found out that they were actually conducting job interviews all

they long, all 60 of them, as a team.

Full time.

What are you even interviewing for?

Right?

When I found out about this, I approached the Vice President of HR and I asked "what

are you doing?"

Seriously, what are you doing?".

There is a hiring freeze, salaries are not being paid, your employer is going bankrupt,

What are you guys doing here, interviewing new people?

And you know the words followed.

What VP said.

I will never forget that moment.

He gave me the perfect bullshit answer as far as bullshit answers go.

He said, something like this; "Oh Deniz, you know we are preparing the talent pipeline

for the company's future growth to be able to attract the global talent that we require

to survive in this spectrum of unheard of global competitiveness"

I really couldn't believe what I was hearing you know.

There is a hiring freeze, company is going down, and you know this very well.

You are a VP.

And this was not an isolated case.

I came across a very similar situation multiple times in my consulting career.

At the end of the day, human beings are selfish.

We are self-centered.

Just like in this case, they didn't mind wasting your time and your hopes as long as

they could get another month's salary.

So, you, you, do not fall victim to this.

At the beginning of the video, I told you that I'd share with you what you can do

about this, right?

Here's what you can do about this.

Do not make online applications.

Because there is absolutely, no way you can identify a fake job or a fake interview.

There is no way.

There is no way you can know even the interview you attended was real.

You need to be an insider to know if they were legitimate.

So, you simply can't know.

If you want to have a better job, if you want to have real interviews with successful employers,

that's not the way to go.

Online job posts, online job applications are not the way to go.

You'll waste your time, you'll waste your hopes, and you'll destroy your self-confidence.

Self-confidence is like muscle.

Once it's destroyed, it takes so much effort and so much time to get it back.

Don't lose it in the first place.

The right way to go about finding better jobs is, as I always proudly say, is what I teach

in LIG.

The strategy I developed is very complex so you'll need to go through a proper 3 hour

program to really understand the step by step strategy that I developed for you.

It's not very simple.

You need to be truly committed.

Now, I know it may sound sort of a douchebag move to some of you that I first surfaced

the problem, gave you a 20 minute talk, then very conveniently show you the solution which

I charge for.

It's a very small amount but I still charge.

And here's my answer to that, it's a business.

LIG, is a business.

A very successful one.

Mostly through the word of mouth of current members it reached up to almost 5,000 members

and growing exponentially.

And because it's very successful, I was able to reduce the price almost by 95%.

So, you get a 95% discount to LIG.

Yes, it's a business, but at least it is a very responsible one.

One that offers you a unique solution to your biggest problems in your career, which is

getting better jobs, with companies that can afford to pay you those big salaries.

All I am trying to do is help you achieve what I achieved in my career but without losing

decades of your life like I did.

And I am doing this for as little as the cost of a dinner for a small family.

Literally.

I am 37 now.

Had I known the strategies I teach in LIG at the age of 27, I would have achieved this

career 10 years earlier.

It wasn't my fancy MBA degree that propelled my career to greater heights.

It was my exclusive strategy that I teach in LIG that made it all happen.

But there's a catch.

The catch is that you gotta take action.

You have got to implement what you learn.

That's a must.

If you don't have at least a couple hours every week to implement what you learn in

LIG, don't join.

It's not for you at the moment.

Take a look and see if it's right for you.

If it's not, no problem, at least, today, you learned something very important.

Next time you get a rejection email from an online application, or that you fail an interview,

don't feel bad.

There is a very high likelihood that the job or the interview wasn't even real in the

first place.

And that you are definitely worthy.

You are worthy of working for the best employers in the World with 6 figure salaries.

Hope to see you in LIG.

Otherwise, I'll see you here, next month.

I love you all.

See you next month.

For more infomation >> You Didn't Fail That Job Interview! They Scammed You ✓ - Duration: 18:37.

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6 Things You Didn't Know About MJ's Fiance Tommy Feight - Duration: 4:37.

6 Things You Didn't Know About MJ's Fiance Tommy Feight

Mercedes MJ Javids new man certainly wasted no time sweeping her off her feet! Clearly he wasnt kidding around when he told MJs mom, Vida, hed propose as soon as he had the money for a ring, given the recent news of their engagement.

But Tommy is new on the Shahs of Sunset scene, so we turned to MJ (and her BFF Reza Farahan) to learn more about her future husband.

1. Hes a Big Sports Fan

Tommy is a diehard Mets fanatic and a fantasy football enthusiast. Think Jimmy Fallon in Fever Pitch..

2. He Works in Marketing

Tommy is the Marketing Director for Blow & Drive Interlock; their company developed cutting edge technology that the government uses to monitor criminals in an effort to keep the streets safe and save lives.

3. Hes an Amateaur Chef

Tommy loves to cook. He loves when we stay home and bump elbows in the kitchen.

He loves Vidas cooking, and without fail, his eyes are bigger than his stomach..

4. Hes a Comedian

Tommy makes me laugh. I make him laugh.

He considers himself the funniest person he knows. The best part is that I get to make him laugh every day.

5. His Taste in Music is Questionable (in MJs Opinion)

Tommy has the WORST taste in music, A.K.A. worst of mainstream top 40, and he HOWLS over the song, because he thinks he has the voice of a hummingbird. Think of random discount songs you hear over the intercom speaker system of a Piggly Wiggly at 2am – those are his his #JAM!.

6. They Met on Tinder

For more infomation >> 6 Things You Didn't Know About MJ's Fiance Tommy Feight - Duration: 4:37.

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👗🔥 DIY: How to sew a hot dress WITHOUT PATTERN - Duration: 5:29.

hi guys welcome back on my channel so in today's video I'll be showing you how to

sew a very sexy dress without the need of a pattern so it's actually

very easy you basically just need a few minutes for it so if you want to see how

are we do that then keep on watching so let's begin first I take my measurements

looks more difficult than it actually is you just need three measurements the

waist and hip measurements and the length from neck to waist after I wrote

them down early buy them buy porn subtract one from this number this is

because we won the best her like stretch around your body

so next I'm going over my materials you need some jerseys us a ruler and tailors

talk or something our conference firmer measurements to my fabric I'm doing this

code first starting from the foot of my fabric I draw a line that has my

co-created waist length and like ten centimeters deeper something in second

line with the length of my hip measurement now I can easily connect the

dots with a nice curve you can decide how long you want to create your skirt I

use the length of 45 centimeters so one part of my skirt finished I need exactly

the same thing again so I just put my finished pelham piece on the fabric and

cut it out a second time

for the top I used the same technique starting at the neckline a draw line

that is 10 centimeters long and then 40 centimeters deeper or like the length

you size from neck to waist you draw another line at this point using the

waist measurement you will need this pattern piece two times as well so just

copy it again like I did it before

finally I cut out three ribbons for the width of three centimeters the length is

not so important here I use five twenty five centimeters or something

once that is done we can finally start the sewing and I'm suffering with my top

I'm laying the pretty size of the pieces on top of each other and sewing the long

diagonal sides together you can use the zig-zag stitch of your sewing machine or

your overlock sewing machine for this if you have one in the next step I fold

over the neckline and sew it with one centimeter seam allowance

I can tell you with my skirt I'm laying the pre size of the pieces on top of

each other again and sell them together afterwards I will stitch my skirt and

now we're actually almost finished we just need to sew

top and bottom together

the last thing I do is attach the ribbons to the dress

one I thread through the tunnel at the neckline the other two attention at the

height of the chest and that is basically it so I told you it would be a

very easy and simple thing to make

thanks for watching my video hope you liked it if you did that leave me a

thumbs up or kind I hope to see you soon and bye

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The 3 Phase Model Of Ericksonian Hypnotherapy - Duration: 21:54.

All right, so before the whole lunch break we went through a nice simple structure for

doing some hypnotherapeutic work, right?

Would it be fair to say that you started to experience something significant and shifts

were going, I realize that not all of you necessarily had a resolution, but all of you

got closer to one, if not actually receiving one.

Would that be fair to say?

Remember you're only working for half an hour and I'm still recommending you initially

start with 90 or 120 minute sessions to really build everything, including the kitchen sink.

(An English expression, I don't know why they want kitchen sinks but apparently we

do) What I want to do now is take this training wheel model we've played with and give you

a more general model of what I would consider to be a model for Ericksonian hypnotherapy.

Nothing in this list will surprise you except for one or two things that we'll cover tomorrow.

But I want you to be aware of it, because then we can start looking at the therapeutic

stage in it to play with that.

Before we actually go into this model here, let me just simplify this into three steps.

This puts everything in perspective.

[Drawing on the board]

There are three key phases that I personally conceive of in the Ericksonian therapeutic

thing and the reason I give them a phase and not a step is because they're not linear.

They are all three constantly happening and they are all running inside of each other,

so you'll start one which leads into the other, which goes to another one and goes

back to the first, ends up in the third and comes back to second, so they just jump all

around the place, but they are three key things that are constantly happening.

I call them the three T's just to tease you a bit.

The first of the three T's is…

Trance Induction

This is basically everything that gets the conscious processes out of the way.

I hope you realize by now you're constantly doing things to get the conscious process

out of the way and consciousness will resurface and diminish in waves throughout your whole

session.

Which means, you're constantly re-inducing trances, deepening and really it becomes the

same effect.

The point of what you're trying to do is to keep limiting the amount of interference

you get from the rigidity of the conscious mind.

Do you understand what I mean by that?

Yes.

The next one I think a lot of you already understand…

Trance training

Trance training, as you well know, is accessing as many unconscious potentials as you can

usually in the form of phenomena, because when you access a phenomenon it proves that

trance is working, which goes right back into trance induction.

It sidelines the consciousness even more, because once you receive proof it creates

a stronger dissociation from the unconscious that conscious/unconscious dissociation is

going on.

The third thing that's happening, you get to start doing your therapy.

You're using therapeutic trances.

You're using the fact that the conscious mind is not so involved in step one and the

fact that you have lots of experiences brought up in phase II, to do something practical

with it.

Each of these three phases, and remember they're not linear they'll happen constantly throughout

a session.

Each of these three phases has its own unique problems and its own unique solutions.

By far the most difficult of them all is step number three.

This ironically is the one that most hypnosis schools, coaching schools and so on just give

you a glib technique for, and it had its uses, but I think it misses the point in terms of

how important and how significant that particular trance is.

You could probably spend three lifetimes just exploring that element and getting some real

good material out.

Therapeutic stage

Ironically enough, field hypnosis, most people are fixated on the first step, trance induction,

which is actually the simplest of them all, although as you saw earlier when we talked

about 4:46 resistance if you like in teaching us how to work that you can get stuck in a

way with that too.

Now trance training, I've noticed that many hypnotherapists, many hypnotists in general,

but hypnotherapists in particular are petrified of that in case it fails.

I think whilst anyone wants to laugh at their misfortune, you can see those concerns be

much more laughable now, given your experiences.

So these are three key phases that are constantly running.

If you think of three little machines running inside the whole hypnotherapy practice that's

these three here.

How does that look in actual practice?

Well, it starts with some kind of problem and an outcome dynamic.

What is the problem?

You can get very elaborate.

I've seen models where you spend an hour talking about their family, their history,

when and where does it happen, how do you feel when it does happen?

How could it possibly not happen?

I mean it's very involved.

Personally I don't get very much up front, I just look at if I understand what the nature

of the problem is?

Do I understand what they want?

Do I have a sense of where the blockages are?

That's usually enough for me.

Erickson did even less, he just said, what's the problem?

Shut your eyes and off he went.

Step number two is not a part of my marriage counseling practice.

It's actually a term that comes from another hypnotist called Dave Dobson, who's an excellent

phenomenon, another genius like Milton Erickson, also sadly passed away now.

We'll deal with that more tomorrow, I'm just putting it in here so you have a complete

model.

Somewhere in that whole process you'll be making your decision around inherent skills

the personal already has.

What is the hidden ability and the problem?

Also, what might be missing?

What is it that if they had it would it would be easy to resolve the problem?

Again, not rocket science at this point.

Then number four, we go straight into the whole trance step.

Steps one to three are relatively invisible because you're doing it in conversation

ahead of time and it seems like you're doing chit-chat with a client.

This is where the action begins as far as they're concerned.

Now, you can start that formally, looking at folks at this point now go inside.

You can also do it informally, for example, in the form of a hypnotic lecture.

Erickson loved doing these sort of things where he'd say, okay, so your problem is

X, Y and Z and you've tried this, and this and this to resolve it and its failed.

Now you've come to me for help and you really need to understand the functioning of the

human body in this regard.

You can breathe and you can feel comfortable about breathing.

Some people have discomfort but soon it turns into a comfort when they understand the mechanism

of breathing, and off he goes.

The person has no idea that the trance has begun, they're just going like, what's

going on?

So the trance induction or the trance phase here, I hope you realize is, you can be semi-covert.

You can be totally overt, it doesn't matter too much it just depends on where you are

with that particular client.

Then I pull out three phases of trance training, and again they'll all kind of come together

anyways just to keep you posted with the general idea that you want to be doing a fair number

of Dr. Unconscious' within the process.

In other words, you want to talk to a semblance of that conscious mind from time to time.

As you get more experience, you'll end up talking to their unconscious more as their

somnambulist, although initially you'll think you're talking to their conscious

mind until you realize you're not.

But, five, six and seven is to really put you on alert that there are many ways you

can run those particular processes, but you do want to make several trips into the fractionation

process.

That you do have separate tasks to perform in there.

There are several different skills that you wish to elicit from them and that all of them

are important for the therapeutic process.

From time to time you may skip one of those steps, you may not go over the missing skill,

it may be enough for an inherent one or it may, just through general trance training

and discover sufficient resources to do the work you wish to do, in which case you make

a professional decision not to continue to find more resources, because you can get on

with their therapy.

And if you're correct you did a good job and if you're incorrect the client has no

idea that when you go back to doing some more trance training that it was in your plan all

along.

So again, step five, six and seven should be pretty straightforward for you, because

you've been doing it quite a bit now.

Are you okay with that one?

Let's have a look at the second portion.

So really, you can see the general steps one to four cover the trance induction phase.

You have to figure out what to do with these people and what kind of people you have.

Steps five, six and seven are really the trance training phase and then as we talked about

before, I've given it to you in a linear list but these things are happening in cycles

continuously anyways.

Then eight to the end is the therapeutic stage and again, you can do a lot of this stuff

as things are happening.

For example, when a trance phenomena comes up, you can start seeding their learning straightaway.

You don't have to wait until a later phase, although you can wait until a later phase,

there's a lot of choices you have available to you.

So you know about seeding their learning.

You understand about seeding their future memory, which basically gives the unconscious

mind the opportunity to adjust the conscious goal in accordance with the whole personality

and there's many ways you can do that.

These are relatively indirect.

You can directly ask the unconscious mind to adjust the goal so it becomes more relevant

to the person.

There's many things you can do with that.

Phase 10 is purposely ambiguous, that's where you do the therapy.

So far you've got a couple maneuvers you can do in therapy.

You've learned the reframe right?

You've learned to use trance phenomena as power loops in terms of, here's an experience

of trance.

Here's a way of separating yourself from memories and learning something from them,

so you can use it as a general, just review your memories in a new way.

You've learned how to play with the emotions to some degree.

So you have three simple maneuvers that you can put into that.

Those of you who have more coaching and therapy experience can plug whatever model you happen

to know into this point as well and it's much more likely to be successful because

the problems you typically run into, are less likely to emerge now.

We'll come up with some more processes today and tomorrow.

Integration and testing, well, it's pretty straightforward at this point right?

One thing I may add to this just to get an idea of completion, this includes what's

called the 'post hypnotic suggestion' phase.

A post hypnotic suggestion is basically an instruction to experience something outside

in the real world once they've finished the trance.

Really, it's the same thing as the future memory.

This is one of Erickson's favorite ways of preparing that and you should know a lot

of these ideas, especially the idea of inherent skill and the idea of the post hypnotic suggestion

comes from one of my mentors, John Overdurff, who also did an Ericksonian seminar, an excellent

seminar called 'Training Trances'.

It's a book of the first portion of that seminar available and it's a great read.

It's totally worth reading.

So, you'll recognize if you read it where some of my ideas came from and I take my hat

off to them because that's where I got the idea to start this.

The model I run is a little different from his, not to say that it's any better or

worse, necessarily, it's just the way I perceive it and hopefully it'll help you

perceive it in similar ways.

It's definitely worth getting a second opinion on.

If you watched any of the Erickson videos, especially those commentaries talking about

what Erickson's doing as he's doing his therapy.

He had a very different model.

If you look at his model you'll notice that it fits into this in some ways, but it's

very different.

If you ever watch those tapes you'll enjoy it because it's much more conscious mind

oriented, and you'll go oh, that makes a lot of sense.

How do you do that?

I don't know, but it makes a lot of sense.

Whereas, hopefully this is like, I don't quite understand it.

Yeah I can do it its easy but I don't quite understand it.

That's my preference.

It's easy and straightforward at this point.

So the post hypnotic suggestion, a simple way of doing that is to say, I don't know

how you'll know you've changed.

Perhaps you'll go home tonight and something wonderful will happen.

Perhaps you'll wake up in the morning and this happens.

You know, there's been many situations that had they happened in the past you would've

had the old problem resolved, but now when they happen 14:22 doesn't it?

Think about it now.

So you're basically getting them to re-experience that outside and if you know some of the contextual

situations they'll be in.

Maybe it's a car, something at school, being at work, being with other people, having set

tonality and so on, you basically list them and remind them that in trance when they have

these experiences it's a reminder that all this good work that they've done is being

fortified.

It's a relatively straightforward process.

After that we typically want to present amnesia.

You can give it more hard line to say you will forget stuff.

My preference is to offer the unconscious mind the opportunity and the right to let

the conscious mind forget those portions that are important for it to not interfere with

or think about.

And so typically you'll have what I get is a dual result.

The most elegant version, I think, was when the gentleman came up who said, I heard everything

you said.

I have no idea what it was but I heard everything you said.

That's a great example of amnesia.

He didn't forget the fact that he was in trance.

He didn't forget the fact that he'd had conscious activity whilst he was in trance.

He has no idea what it was, so he can't interfere with it, but at the same time he

acknowledged the fact that it occurred.

Sometimes they'll swear that certain portions have occurred, and of course you don't remind

them about that.

Other times they'll say they know everything and if you want to test them on it just ask

them about it.

What I recommend you do, if you're going to ask them about what happened in the trance

experience, get them to take a break first.

Let them walk around for a bit.

You know you'll keep people in a trance afterglow, like when they're doing this

sort of thing.

Wait till that stops because they're still hovering, there's an afterglow.

When hypnosis finishes, especially when a lot of stuff has happened, there tends to

be this afterglow that lingers like when you wake up in the morning, you have this sort

of sleep afterglow that lingers.

Wait for that to diminish because they're still on the threshold of trance so they'll

have more access to what's going on there.

It's called 'state dependent learning'.

Once they've changed their state more significantly, their everyday alertness, when you ask them

about it than they've had a much better chance to forget the important bits which

is great.

So you understand why now, right?

If you do ask about them, don't remind them and say, hey what do you think about this

bit?

Then you're reminding them about it again.

How was that experience for you?

Is there anything you recall from that versus what's everything you recall about that?

Do you understand the subtle difference in the way I presented, which will be received

differently?

Self-appreciation is very important.

I think it's a fundamental thing and really comes across clearly reading Erickson, that

he really appreciated and respected people of all walks of life, no matter how messed

up their life has become.

Some people that came to him did some really messed up things and really experienced some

strange and unpleasant situations and he still respected them immensely.

He still treated them as a valuable unique human being, whether they were a prince or

a pauper.

He made a point to ensure that they did the same for themselves that they appreciated

themselves also.

That's an important piece.

Finally, you end the trance.

You can do it indirectly where you say you can come back any time.

Do you feel all right?

You do it directly…

Erickson was not shy in saying, now count from 20 to 1 and awaken at the count of 1.

That's very classic, authoritarian hypnosis.

Many Ericksonian's miss that.

Use your instincts whether you want to make it a more formal ending or informal ending.

I like the informal ending because then people go, what the heck?

I also like that the last part of their trance is a Dr. Unconscious because they don't

know why they've just awoken.

But you don't have to do it that way you can do it any way and there's times when

I'll just count them out, purely because I consider it to be more valuable for them

in that sense.

Lastly, you want to distract them from what just occurred because of that trance that

we just talked about.

Have a general chat about the weather and all the rest of it.

One thing Erickson loved to do is, right up here before we started talking about a problem

or maybe around the gold digging stage, he'll start talking about something random, sometimes

actually even before the trance induction.

Maybe it's weather, football, a play he and his wife saw, a meal he just had… he'll

go huh?

He'll make no attempt to segue into it smoothly he'll just start talking about it.

Then he'll interrupt that as though halfway through and start doing the whole trance induction,

the whole process and by then they're off in fairy land.

When they come back he distracts them, they just carry on the conversation from where

they left off.

That creates a very nice loop and it works on a principle in psychology in memory research

called 'recency and primacy'.

The things you remember the best is the beginning and ending of things.

So he gives you the beginning of something and ending of something that fit perfectly

together, so the mind had a tendency, not a guarantee, but a tendency to put them together

as a whole unit and everything else that's happened in between kind of just vanishes.

The other version is distraction… have you ever noticed if you have something important

to say to someone and he's like sure, tell me you need some input but first… take your

train of thought off and go, what is it you want to tell me?

And they go, never mind, because they change your train of thought.

I actually used to love to do this, especially with the colleagues that really would give

him a hard time or chew him out and so on.

He'd just distract them to the point we were about to launch in and then go afterwards

and say so, what is it you wanted to say?

And they'll go…

So the whole model of Ericksonian therapy should be pretty straightforward for you right

now, although I appreciate there's many steps in it, it's not so much that you have

to remember steps in a sequence, these are all stuff that's happening pretty much at

the same time, layering over each other and so on.

This is one of the reasons why it can feel or seem like a daunting task, trying to make

sense of what Erickson's doing.

He's doing basically most of these steps, especially step four through eleven, which

are constantly happening on top of each other.

He'll distract them one way and then go another way and another way and so a lot of

things are happening.

To keep track of which one's happening for what reason, what stage he's at that can

take a little bit of skill sometimes, especially when you're going there with him.

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Best Yoga Workout ♥ Butt & Arms Toning | Pisac, Peru - Duration: 18:51.

Welcome to the beautiful sacred Valley of Peru

We are hiking through the mountains of Pisa and today is going to be a yoga work of practice that

Focuses on strengthening and toning your muscles as well as releasing any tension through deep yoga postures

This is the perfect combination of toning and strengthening your body while deepening your connection to your breath and each present moment

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With that said let's get back to our yoga practice

All right friends we're gonna begin today seated on your mat

Let's go ahead and bring your legs together inhale reaching both arms up to the sky

And then exhale releasing yourself into your child's pose

Just taking this moment right now to connect with your breath

Inhaling deeply through your nose

and

Then exhaling slowly through your mouth as you come on up to your all fours

Let's take a cat cow inhale arching the belly and then exhale

rounding the spine and release

Inhale arch the belly look up

Exhale release taking this opportunity right now to warm up the body warm up the spine inhale

exhale release and

From here coming back to neutral now we're gonna start with an exercise for the glutes

You can extend one leg all the way out make sure that both of your hips are square

from here taking that like to the outside of your mat kick it up and over to the other side of your mat up and

tap

kick and tap

kick and tap kick tap kick

Good just taking it to each side of your mat here

Engaging the glute muscle trying to keep your knee as straight as possible here

Beautiful keep going tap kick tap kick

tap kick

Tap you're almost done

Last one you're gonna kick

Bring it back to Center

Hold it here and able to the spine engage your core flex the back foot just kick it upward and out one

Kick it to nice high back kick three

for

Keep the hips square. Just work from the glute muscle seven

eight

nine

Ten beautiful hold it there now

And then taking our Pilates push-ups for one push it up for two working the tricep muscle here and three

bring it down and up for four and

five

and six you got this keep going seven and

Eight

Nine now last one

Hold it there

And then take that straight leg to the side tap the ground and then kick it to the side for one

Lift it up two three

We're working the side of your glute muscle you're toning that entire area here

toning your gluts toning your legs

This is a very effective exercise just keep breathing through it

Last one bring it back to Center now tuck your back toes lift

And hover the bottom knee you're gonna bend that straight knee in and then kick it back

Bring it to your forehead and back again using the glutes at the same time now strengthening the core and the shoulders in

back in

back in

Back in

Back hold it there and then extending into your three-legged dog

From here just hold for a moment allowing that heel to come down to the mat

Feeling a nice deep stretch through the hamstring then bend the top knee

stacking the hips on top of each other and then that same bent knees going to start to

Circle up and around for two. This is a wonderful warm-up for the hip and

three one more big circle with that leg and

Four wonderful extend the leg up to the sky inhale

Exhale from here coming into plank chaturanga dandasana inhale let's open into your upward facing dog

Open up through the heart Center lift the chest and then exhale release the toes and come back into your downward facing dog

Holding here for a moment

And then that same leg is going to reach up to the sky bend

The knee and step between your two hands into your high lunge

Just check your balance make sure you're nice and square inhale and then once you're ready both arms are gonna

Reach up to your high lunge

We're gonna stay in the how lunch and go through some arm exercises at any point if it gets too much

Drop the back knee to the floor. Let's take an inhale exhale. Bend the elbows squeeze the shoulders inhale reach exhale

squeeze for two reach bend the elbows and squeeze

reach up and

squeeze reach

squeeze the shoulder blades and

three

Keep going bend those elbows two last one keep those elbows bent

From here bring them together and open for one close the elbows and open for two

Stay in that lunge position again

If your legs start to get super fatigued drop that back knee to the floor and do the same exercise in a low lunge position

Keep going close and open

Close and open extend in the arms arm circles forward 20 times go one two three

four five six seven eight

Nine ten keep going ten nine eight

keep rotating those arms big circles and five

four three

two

One beautiful hold it there Bend those elbows now you're gonna reach

And then squeeze back reach forward and back

Reach and back so this is a similar exercise to the first one except. We're reaching forward not up to the sky and

squeeze

reach and squeeze

Reach you're almost done and squeeze breathe through the burn breathe through the pain

Hold it there reaching forward and then dropping that back knee releasing into your low lunge beautiful job

Now from here just intertwine the wrist and then see if you can bring the palms of your hands together

Just holding this low lunge posture front knee over your ankle

Allowing the hips to sink forwards you're getting that stretch through the hip flexor and then releasing the hands over to the mat

Pushing your way back to that back knee flex your foot inhale and then exhale releasing your body over top of that straight. Leg

Breathing deeply into that hamstring here

Think about pulling that front hip back and pushing the back hip forward

So if your right leg is in front you're pulling the right hip back

This way you're going to keep aligning your hips and getting the full benefit of this posture

Take one more deep breath in and then as you exhale come back to Center low lunge tuck your back toes

Lifting the back knee off the mat, and then taking a twist here

So your opposite hand stays on the ground then the other arm reaches up to the sky

Now from here, we're gonna release both hands on the mat

And then take that front leg and bring it back into a side plank position

Stack your feet on top of each other reach that arm to the sky

Breathing deeply here now

You can stay and just hold or if you're more advanced see if you can grab your big toes with your two fingers

And extend that leg into a full star

Now this is quite a challenging posture, so if you're not there yet just stay in your side plank

Breathing deeply engaging your core pulling the navel into the spine

Releasing the legs slowly with control come back to side flight and then high plane taking your chaturanga dandasana

inhale upward-facing dog hold and breathe and

Then exhale downward facing dog just taking a moment here opening yourself up

Sternum to the mat, and then slowly come down into your Child's Pose just take a second to breathe and

Then come back up to your all fours we're gonna reverse now and start with the other leg so the other leg extends

Come on up. Let's start the glute exercise you're gonna. Take that left leg all the way to the side

Exhale kick in to the opposite side kick tap kick

Tap so you want to think of tapping the floor on each side of your mat kick tap kick

Tap lots of power in the leg here, try to keep your knees straight, so all the work is happening from the glute muscle

breathe kick and

kick

last one and

Then come back to Center square the hips out flex your foot lower the leg and just high kick back for one

Kick it back for two

again feel that glute muscle doing all the work toning the back of the leg here for

Lift it up five

six

Seven eight

nine

Ten hold it there Pilates push-ups take you down for one and two

Work those triceps three bring it down and up for four

Five

Six you got this seven and

Eight awesome take that back leg all the way to the side now

you're gonna tap the floor and then just lift the leg up for one and

two

This is a very challenging exercise for the glute

But I promise you it will do wonders to toning that area of your body so do your best

and

last two and

Do one beautiful come back to Center bring that leg around?

square the hips of shoulders

Tuck your toes now lift, and hover that bottom knee other knee comes in and kick it back for one

two you got it and three breathing through it four knee to chest and up five and

six and seven

You're probably feeling that burn now you're almost there and a good hold it here feel that stretch

three like a dog breathing deeply

Bending that top knee and I was stacking the hips

We're gonna warm up. The hip now, but just rotating that top leg four one

keeping the knee bent here for two and

Three

And

for some extend deep breath in and then

Exhale big stuff with that front leg to the top of the mat

Find your Center in your focus and then reaching those arms up to the sky into your high lunge

Take a second to find your Center

We're going to go right into those arm exercises again squeeze the shoulder blades together as you bend the elbows and reach out for one

let's squeeze and

two

Bending those elbows squeeze and three remember you can always drop that back knee to the mat

if this gets too challenging on the legs

Now let's do one more inhale reach up

Bend your elbows we're gonna work the rotator cuffs now

You're gonna drop the palms down and up for one just point them down and up for two

Your shoulders and your elbows are staying along one line

Here just bring it down and up

point it down and up down

Up down up down

up

Down up down you're almost there. Just keep smiling through it

Pressing the palms down and up strengthening those rotator cuffs is going to help you with all your plank postures here

Good job

Extending the arms. We're gonna do our arm circle backwards now one two three four five six

seven eight nine keep going circle back

Keeping the core strong keepin your balance

Almost done two

One hold it there

Breathe reaching the arms up to the sky

And then slowly dropping the knee to the floor and let's release into your low lunge

You can intertwine those wrists and keep the palms of your hands together into a fancy arm, or just keep them up to the sky

Think about pushing the pelvis forward, so you're getting that nice stretch through the psoas

Beautiful inhale and then exhale releasing the hands down pushing your weight back to your back knee

Flexing your foot and releasing into our half split posture

Breathing deeply folding that chest over the leg

Keeping the flexion in your foot so you're getting that stretch through the calf muscle as well

Wonderful job you guys one more deep breath in through your nose

Exhale let it go keep those hips square

One more time deep breath in exhale

Let it go

Slowly, let's release come back into that low lunge

Reaching both arms up to the sky

Tucking your back toes here, and then you're going to lift your back knee off the mat

The opposite hand is going to come back to the mat as the other arm reaches up to the sky into your twist at high

lunge

Just breathing deeply here

Twisting from the bellybutton and then transitioning into our side plank

And again take it to your level here. You can stay in the side plank

You keep it a modified by bringing that bottom knee to the floor or to?

Make this more advanced grab your big toe and extend that top leg into a full star

And again, this is a challenging posture, so please modify to your own level here

Whichever version you take you're still engaging your core

Let go of your leg now slowly release come back into your high plank and then take your floo

upward facing dog opening up and then exhale releasing into your downward facing dog

Deep breath ii

Exhale let it go

Bending the knees and then taking a hop to the front of your mat and coming all the way down to the floor now

Let's roll down one vertebra at a time until you're on your back hugging your knees into your chest

and then gently rocking side to side to massage that spine and

Then taking one arm over your head rolling over to your fetal position and then coming up to your seated position on your mat

Let's come in to an easy pose

Crossing your feet in front of you

And taking a moment to take a big breath in reaching both arms up to the sky

And then exhale bring the hand star

Bowing down to your heart of thanking yourself for your incredible practice today

Thank yourself for challenging your body and strengthening and toning those muscles

You send you love and light from the beautiful sacred Valley of Peru

And I look forward to seeing you again

namaste

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What You Need to Know About Your Vagina According to Your Age - Duration: 7:02.

What You Need to Know About Your Vagina According to Your Age

As you get older, your body goes through a lot of changes, including your vagina.

The vagina is a canal made of soft tissues that youll see change as you go through the different stages of your life.

To maintain good vaginal health, its important to find out whats happening in each stage.

So if you want to know how the years will affect your vagina, read on.

Your vaginal health in your 20s

This is one of the best stages of life, for you as much as for your vagina; and this is mainly due to your sex hormones.

Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone production are at their highest.

Estrogen is the hormone in charge of making sure your vagina is always lubricated, elastic, and has a healthy level of acidity.

Similarly, with your sex drive as high as it is in your 20s, youll probably have a very active sex life.

This increases your risk of urinary tract infections, which are caused by bacteria moving from the vagina towards the urethra.

To lower this risk, its important to urinate as soon as you can after sex.

This will get the bacteria out of your urethra.

In this stage of life, your vagina will do its own cleaning.

It does this by producing a white or clear secretion that helps clear out bacteria.

Unless you are experiencing pain during sex, itching, irritation, or foul-smelling secretions, taking care of your vagina will consist of cleaning the outside daily with mild soap and water.

In this stage of life, you should see your gynecologist once a year for a checkup.

Your vaginal health in your 30s

This stage of life comes along with darkening of the labia minora due to hormonal changes happening in your body.

If youre pregnant, vaginal discharge may increase and be milky and have a mild smell.

This is all normal as long as its not green, yellowish, or has a bad odor.

After giving birth, your vagina may lose some elasticity due to the trauma of birth.

At first, it will probably be a bit more stretched out than usual, but it will eventually return to its normal shape.

Its a good idea to do  Kegel exercises to strengthen the pelvic area and get most of your vaginal tone back.

If youre taking oral contraceptives, you may see an increase in vaginal discharge or dryness.

These symptoms do tend to fix themselves over time, however.

Though, if they persist, its best to see your doctor and ask about contraceptives that wont negatively affect your vaginal health.

Your vaginal health in your 40s

Thanks to perimenopause, your vagina will go through some significant changes.

As estrogen levels fall, your vagina walls will become thinner and drier.

This is called vaginal atrophy.

This issue can cause symptoms such as:.

Burning, Reddening, Pain during sex, Vaginal discharge, Itching, Burning during urination, Shortening of the vaginal canal, Increased risk of STDs.

Having regular sex can be good for your vaginal health.

This is because blood flow to the vagina increases, keeping it elastic.

If you are dealing with dryness, you can use moisturizing vaginal creams, or estrogen creams to fight this problem.

If you prefer a more natural treatment, you can try applying a little bit of olive oil or coconut oil to keep your vagina hydrated.

Your vaginal health in your 50s and up

By this time of life, youre probably not menstruating any longer and your estrogen levels are low.

Your vulva may seem to have shrunk and you may experience vaginal atrophy.

The acidity of your vagina may be affected as well, and your risk of bacterial infections may go up.

In addition, your low estrogen can also affect your urinary tract, and atrophy can occur in your urethra as well.

This can lead to an overactive bladder and leaking.

In these cases, you can turn to oral or vaginal hormone therapy to help reduce the symptoms.

But this isnt an option for some women.

There are other remedies:.

Do vaginal exercises, Use vaginal dilators to improve elasticity, Follow a healthy diet, Maintain a healthy weight, Lower your caffeine intake, Dont smoke, Do pelvic floor muscle training exercises, Use vaginal lubricants, Use hydrating vaginal creams.

Another concern is vaginal prolapse, which happens when all or part of the vaginal canal falls in towards the vaginal opening.

This problem affects the bladder, rectum, and uterus.

To treat a prolapse, pelvic floor muscle training exercises are recommended, or the use vaginal support devices and, as a last resort, surgery.

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