Would you believe me if I told you that your current job has something for you?
That you can be happy and fulfilled there – no matter how you actually feel about
it right now?
I'm Joanie, and I felt… let down by employment for a long time.
What was it all for?
A paycheck?
So I could ask permission to use it on a little living – IF there was enough left over after
I paid my bills?
Was I working hard so I wouldn't disappoint my boss, and miss out on whatever reward he
might decide to give me?
What if I didn't want to move up?
What if I knew that wasn't even an option here?
What if I knew this job was a pit-stop while I waited for something better?
What was the point?
What was work… for?
I'd go through phases.
I'd put in tons of effort, working hard; going in early, staying late, getting close
to burn-out, watching my employer benefit, and not feeling appreciated.
Wondering what was really in it for me, because the overtime pay sure didn't seem like enough.
I'd get overwhelmed by discouragement, bitterness, and resentment, and decide, "you know what?
I CAN'T." So I'd roll into work late, slump through each day, and I figured out
how to do just enough to not get fired, which still felt like more than I had the energy
for.
I was just so disappointed.
I did finally end up at jobs I loved – in two completely different industries.
And after the Honeymoon phase of my probationary period ended, I alarmed myself by feeling…
disappointed.
Fortunately, at some point in the middle of both those jobs, I learned something that
changed everything about them for me.
My struggle with employment had been based on beliefs that I had about jobs in general.
And it turned out… my beliefs about jobs were based on myths.
I've heard these myths shared over, and over, and over.
Gosh, I shared them with people too, before I learned the truth about them.
We tell these myths to ourselves, we tell them to our friends and family, and people
tell them to us.
I think the vast majority of the time, we share these myths with people, to look out
for them.
To help them.
People share them with us, to look out for, and help us.
They've been shared so many times, they sound like facts.
But they aren't based on truth.
And….
They aren't helping.
So let's get into a few of them.
The three main myths about our jobs, that I think are most common, and kind of fuel
all the others.
Let's identify those and… get the truth.
MYTH #1: If you hate your job, you'll be miserable until you quit.
Your only option is to quit now.
This is such a common belief, but it doesn't come from a place of truth.
It comes from frustration, and despair, and fear.
It's not true.
And one of the biggest problems with this belief - that I see - is that, we can't
all just quit our job today.
We might need the money, or the experience, or to be there a certain amount of time to
qualify for something.
We might need to make sure we have something better lined up, and we might not have that
yet.
So what do you do in the meantime?
What do you do while you have to be at your current job?
This belief, that there is no way for you to be happy here, sets you up to not be happy.
It sets you up to be miserable while you're there, and that will affect everything.
That will hold you back.
What I would have you consider instead, is that if you hate your job, you can be happy
in it – truly happy, and fulfilled – until the day you can leave it for something better.
And the reason is – you can use it to help you get to that better thing – that better
job, or that business you want to start.
And even more than that – you can use this job to get the other better things you want
for your life.
So MYTH #1 is if you hate your job, you'll be miserable until you quit.
Your only option is to quit now.
And MYTH #1 is not true.
MYTH #2: You're in a dead-end job IF…. (and it follows with a list of things yours
might be lacking or not giving enough of: from pay, to management style, to benefits,
to opportunities for advancing), and it says if you don't have those things, there's
nothing there for you.
You're in a dead-end job.
This again doesn't come from truth; it comes from only being able to see what's lacking,
getting frustrated, and giving up.
And this isn't just a belief that a person can have about their own job, it's a belief
that OTHER people can have about that person's job, and then they often share that belief
with the person.
And there are huge problems with this myth.
First – again - we can't all quit our job today (for all the reasons I already gave
So if you can't quit today, how does this belief make you feel about your job?
Resentful?
Bitter?
Ashamed of yourself, for "settling" or "not being ready or able to get something
better"?
How would you show up at work if you felt those things?
Your job is NOT a dead-end, but you could MAKE IT ONE by believing it is.
Here's another problem with that myth: It can create this cycle where a person is constantly
going into a new job, making a checklist of all the things he/she doesn't like, getting
bitter and resentful about them, and then moving on to the next job….
Where the whole thing repeats.
And – our jobs are like spouses, or a home we buy, or a book we read, or a meal we eat:
there will most likely always be something we would change,
if we could.
If we were to jump from job to job, just because we're searching for perfection; for something
that fits our tastes exactly – we probably wouldn't be happy anywhere, because perfection
doesn't exist.
NOW – this does NOT mean that you have to stay forever (or for the next five years,
or the next five months, or the next five weeks) in a job you don't like.
This does not mean that when you have a great opportunity – you don't take it.
It means that the job you have now is not actually a dead-end.
There is an exit, and it leads to whatever you use this job to prepare for.
There IS something there for you.
Lots of things, actually.
And you need to know what they are, and how to take them.
So MYTH #2 was that you're in a dead-end job if you don't have certain things, or
have enough of certain things.
And MYTH #2 is not true.
MYTH #3 is that your experience at work depends on the company you're in.
So they better have a fantastic culture.
The people there better be really friendly, and really encouraging and inclusive.
Management better have a great system in place for recognizing and rewarding achievement;
they better express their appreciation often; they better meet with you regularly to give
you feedback and show you what's next.
Well – this one's not true either, and the biggest problem with it, is that when
you're in a place where any of these things are missing - it leads to feeling helpless.
If your experience at work is completely out of your control; if there's nothing you
can do to change it – HOW is it going to feel, when you don't get that feedback from
your boss that you've been waiting on?
When you don't get that raise, or promotion you were hoping for?
How is it going to feel when you aren't being shown appreciation, or recognized for
the achievements you've made?
How will it feel if the people you work with just… aren't very friendly?
If it's not the supportive group you were hoping for?
If the company doesn't have anything in place to help you grow and develop?
If there's no employee wellness plan, or employee recognition plan, or employee development
plan?
A person who believes the myth that their experience depends on their company, might
start to feel helpless.
And hopeless.
And then bitter.
And resentful.
And that person might also start to believe Myth #2, which is that this is a dead-end
job, and then start to believe Myth #1, that the only option is to quit and be miserable
until that day comes.
But here's what I would ask you to consider instead: Your experience at work depends entirely
on YOU, and anything great that your company throws in is a bonus.
And if your company's contribution seems to be a zero, you can get what you need out
of this job in spite of it.
And you can get what you need from it, during whatever time you're there (because again
– this isn't about forcing yourself to stay).
So, MYTH #3, your experience at work depends on your company, is also: not true.
Want to know what is true then?
You can use your job to get what you want.
You can use your job, to get what you want for your life, and when you start the process
of using it, everything about your experience at work, will change.
You can have real happiness and satisfaction in your current job – no matter what it
is, how you feel about it, and how long you plan to stay.
And the side-effect of doing this, is that it benefits everyone you work with, and for.
It benefits your company, your boss, your clients, and your coworkers.
It's all for you, and it benefits them too, so this process is a fantastic thing.
There must be disclaimers, so yes, here they are:
Your job must be legal, it must be moral, and it must be ethical.
Your work can't be breaking any laws, and it can't be hurting you, or anyone or anything
else.
And the other disclaimer is that: just knowing this stuff is not going to help you.
I mean – it might be hopeful.
It might feel nice, and help you start to see your job in a new light.
But knowledge by itself won't be power for you.
If you really want happiness and fulfillment in your current job; if you really want your
job to be something that propels you in the direction you want to go:
This takes deliberate, planned action.
You have to be willing to make changes.
It doesn't mean you're going to start showing up to work early and staying late,
and working nights and weekends, and burning yourself out.
As the saying goes, this isn't about working harder, it's about working smarter.
It's about making purposeful decisions and following through on them.
It means you're going to start doing specific things – some during your off-time, some
during work - and those things will have a specific purpose.
This takes away that feeling of being "stuck" in a job.
It makes staying (for whatever amount of time you decide) – it makes staying your strategy,
instead of a prison sentence.
You will come into work with your own secret purpose, and it will be so satisfying.
When I started doing this, so many people at work would wonder out loud how I could
be so cheerful all the time.
This will give you energy.
It will be your fuel.
When you leave this job, you'll start this process over in the next, and it will keep
taking you forward.
This isn't a corporate ladder; it's not a hamster wheel; it's not a racetrack to
nowhere that you get stuck on while you chase down whatever incentive your boss dangles
in front of you.
This is a staircase that you build.
You choose the direction, you choose the destination.
I'll help you with the steps.
You're going to take this process step-by-step, layering one on top of the other, and as you
do that, you will dredge your job dry of every opportunity and advantage that you can take
and use for yourself and the life you want.
And that leads us to what comes first.
Step 1 to using your job is:
Make a plan for it.
A map.
Make a very specific, and very detailed set of directions for yourself, so you won't
ever walk into work again without knowing exactly what it's for and where it's taking
you.
This one step alone, of making a plan for your current job and then following that plan
– will transform your experience at work.
It will make your work start to WORK FOR YOU.
Your job will start becoming something that drives you forward toward the achievement
of your personal goals.
If you'd like a step-by-step guide for making your plan for your job, I have a video course
that I've just made available.
It's six videos total, plus study guides, and it's self-paced, so you can go at your
own speed and convenience.
But I'm not just going to give you the information and leave you to figure it out on your own.
You'll have 30 days of unlimited email support, and I'll want you to take advantage of it.
Tell me about your goals, tell me about your job, ask me all your questions, and we'll
go over together how you can apply this to your specific situation, and we'll make
a plan for you together.
I'm selling this course at a reduced rate for the time being, because this course is
for STEP 1 of using your job, and there are 12 steps.
I want to release each course for each step as it becomes available, so since you have
to get this piece-by-piece for now – I'm reducing the rate.
So the total of this course for Step 1 to using your job is five hundred US dollars,
and that includes the 6 videos, the study guides, and my support through your process.
If you'd like to get this now, you can click the link I've put in the post or description,
depending on where you're watching this.
I hope this video made you at least question those myths we've all heard about jobs.
The truth will change your whole experience with work.
If you hate your job, you can be happy and fulfilled in it until the day you can leave
it for something better.
Your job is not a dead-end; it leads to whatever you use it to prepare for.
YOU determine your experience at work; you don't need to wait for or hope your company
gives you a good one.
You can use your job to get what you want.
Thank you!
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