>> KEVIN: Every single day, millions of people say things, like,
"Oh, I'm just not inspired today."
"If only I could focus on this, maybe I could do it."
"I lack motivation."
Well, we have some good news for you.
We have answers that will make you GET OFF YOUR ASS.
Stay tuned.
>> SIMONE: Yes.
[intro music]
>> SIMONE: Hello, heroes!
I'm Simone.
>> KEVIN: And, I'm Kevin.
>> SIMONE: And, welcome to…
>> SIMONE & KEVIN: The Hero Within!
>> SIMONE: Where we unearth the secrets to success, and the power of human potential.
Welcome to the show, ladies and gentlemen.
>> KEVIN: LET'S GOOooOOooOO!
WHOO!
>> SIMONE: [laughter]
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: Hell yeah!
>> KEVIN: Ready to get motivated?
Let's fucking go.
Today, we're going to break down one of the key barriers to success: lack of motivation.
>> SIMONE: [whispering] Woah.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
Profound stuff.
>> SIMONE: I can't wait.
>> KEVIN: I can't wait, either.
[whispering] Let's do this!
>> SIMONE: [whispering] Yes!
In a world filled with things to do, and places to be, we all wish we could use a little bit
more motivation to get things going.
Whether it's writing a novel, chasing your dreams, or, even, making a YouTube video…
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: …we all want the stars to align, to figure out how to get motivated for long-term
gain, and ultimate growth.
>> KEVIN: Now, the simple answer to motivation is holding yourself accountable, making a
firm decision, and how powerful your "why" is against oppositional forces (i.e. you,
and your parents, for instance.
But… the real answer is a bit more complicated than that.
>> SIMONE: Alright, heroes, now we're gonna get into why we can't get motivated.
>> KEVIN: Yeah, the juicy stuff!
>> SIMONE: Yes.
>> KEVIN: Let's do it.
>> SIMONE: So, the first reason is fear of failure.
Now, this is the most cited reason why people have a hard time getting motivated; they just
don't wanna fail.
I mean, I can definitely relate to that a lot.
I think everybody can.
However, this really depends on your past success, and failures.
So, with past success, and failures, the more time you succeed, the more confident you're
gonna be, and the more likely you're gonna do more things, or even the same thing that
you've been doing before.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: However, if you fail a lot of times at it, you're gonna, likely, shy away at
it.
And, this often permeates in other parts of your life.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: So, think about it this way: uh, a great example is Stephen King.
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: So, Stephen King is (one of the most) celebrated horror authors in the world
today.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: However, Stephen King lacked confidence in the beginning.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: He kept sending his work to a bunch of publishers, and he kept getting rejection
notice, after rejection notice.
And, finally, at a certain point, Stephen King was like, "Forget it.
I'm just not a good writer.
I'm never gonna be an author.
I'm done."
And, he quit.
However, thanks to his wonderful wife, that still believed in his writing…
>> KEVIN: Aww.
>> SIMONE: …she kept submitting stuff behind his back.
And, finally, a publisher said, "Yes."
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: And, all you need is one "yes".
>> KEVIN: True shit!
>> SIMONE: One.
That's all you need to be successful.
Another reason for fear of failure is, simply, embarrassment.
It feels bad to be rejected.
It feels bad to fail.
>> KEVIN: Oh, yeah.
>> SIMONE: And, more often times, we internalize that, that we're not good enough.
We're embarrassed.
We feel that everybody's looking at us.
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: And, saying how much of a loser we are.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: That is more of your internal self talking.
And, you gotta ignore that.
>> KEVIN: Yep.
>> SIMONE: Because everybody fails at life.
There's nobody that escapes that.
>> KEVIN: True.
>> SIMONE: And, you know what?
You gotta just keep going until you succeed.
And, the very last thing we're gonna talk about is future anxiety.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: So, the great thing about us being human is the fact that we can anticipate the
future.
>> KEVIN: Yep.
>> SIMONE: We can anticipate how wonderful, and amazing, our future's gonna be.
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: And, we can also anticipate the terrible things that are going to happen.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: Part of motivation is about keeping positive, and keeping yourself aware of these
thoughts that are happening.
And, acknowledging them, but not letting them get to you.
>> KEVIN: Yes.
>> SIMONE: Because, you don't know what's gonna happen in the future.
You may just accidentally succeed.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
[laughter]
>> SIMONE: Holy moly!
>> KEVIN: True stuff.
Holy moly!
>> SIMONE: And, if you have a history of failure, why not try to succeed instead… by, at least,
trying in the first place?
>> KEVIN: Real shit.
Okay!
The 2nd reason of why you can't get motivated is the fear of success.
Now, I know what you're thinking: "Why would I fear success?
I wanna succeed!
Everybody wants to succeed, right?"
True, but there's still fears behind that, one of them being is that being successful
can result in a change in your lifestyle, and your comfort zone; you have to get out
of your comfort zone.
And, you know, as humans, we wanna be comfortable.
We don't wanna shake things up, usually.
So, you gotta get over that if you are faced with success.
The 2nd reason why you would fear success is that you are, all of a sudden, thrust into
a leadership position; you're responsible for something, or somebodies.
And, now your anonymity is gone.
And, that goes for whether you're an actor, you're a CEO, or, you know, you're the
leader of the PTA.
Or, in my case, when I was in the military, I made it to the rank of E-5, which is Staff
Sergeant.
In other words, I was a middle manager, for my first time ever.
Before then, I was never in charge of anybody.
So, I was scared I was gonna mess up the person underneath me, and my own career, you know,
by proxy.
>> SIMONE: Mmm.
>> KEVIN: Fortunately, I think I did a pretty good job, according to my subordinate, and
everyone else, so…
But, yeah, you just gotta get over that.
It's like, yeah, things are gonna change; you're no longer the person you used to
be, in a sense.
But, with that can come a whole wealth of rewards.
So, just accept it.
Go with it.
Be successful.
>> SIMONE: Alright, heroes, now we're gonna talk about number 3: internal doubt.
>> KEVIN: [silly noise]
>> SIMONE: So, this is all about your inner dialogue.
Your inner dialogue is so important to maintain, and keep, when you're trying to stay motivated,
especially the most cited reason for not doing things is: "I don't deserve it."
"I am just a cog in the wheel; a brick in the wall.
Why am I special?
Those people out there, they are faster, they are better, they're stronger, they are richer;
of course they're successful."
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
[laughter]
>> SIMONE: And, that may be true!
However, normal, everyday-people that come from bad circumstances, good circumstances,
okay circumstances… succeed every day.
And, that's because they cracked the code.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: And, they believed that they deserve it.
They deserve everything that comes to them.
And, remember, like we said before, you only need one success.
>> KEVIN: Just one.
>> SIMONE: Out of the failure.
>> KEVIN: Yep.
>> SIMONE: To get somewhere in life.
>> KEVIN: Real shit.
>> SIMONE: So, the fact is that everybody deserves a chance.
Or, as they say, "Everybody deserves a chance to fly."
>> KEVIN: Oh, wow, that's so poetic.
>> SIMONE: I know!
>> KEVIN: Mmm.
>> SIMONE: I got that from Wicked.
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: It's my favorite song.
I'm sorry.
>> KEVIN: Never seen it, but, nice.
>> SIMONE: It's amazing.
You should, totally, go.
>> KEVIN: Maybe I will.
>> SIMONE: But, anyway…
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: So… [laughter]
So, everybody deserves a chance to fly.
Everybody deserves a chance to do something in life that they really enjoy.
So, another reason we're gonna talk about, with internal doubt, is, simply, self-sabotage.
>> KEVIN: Right, right.
>> SIMONE: So, with self-sabotage, everything has to do with internal dialogue.
"We don't deserve it."
We think it's really hard, and too challenging, for ourselves, because we failed so many times.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: So, now, we're going to sabotage ourselves.
And, if you're going to write in your novel, instead, you're going to clean out the garage.
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: What does that have to do with anything?
>> KEVIN [laughter]
>> SIMONE: You could clean out—you have to clean out the garage at some point, but
does it really have to be right now, when you're about to write?
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: It doesn't.
>> KEVIN: No.
>> SIMONE: When you're about to start your business, you spend more time researching,
and never actually get to it.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: You sabotage yourself.
The important thing is to make sure that you get out of your own way.
>> KEVIN: For sure.
>> SIMONE: Once you get out of your own way, and you just go, and do it, and you believe
you deserve it, things will eventually happen.
It may not happen right away, but it will happen in time.
You just gotta believe in yourself.
>> KEVIN: Yes.
Trust us on this.
It's a process, but it's a proven one.
>> SIMONE: Exactly.
>> KEVIN: Yo!
Reason number 4 you're afraid of success: the fear of the opinion of others.
Now, as human beings, you know, when it comes to our friends, families, and significant
others, we want their opinions of us to be favorable.
For instance, my parents fully support me, you know, living out here in California, going
for my dreams, and stuff.
And, that means a lot to me.
It goes a long way to have that support from my family.
And, as human beings, we're social pack animals.
This goes all the way back to antiquity.
You know, back when we had to scrounge together resources, and defend our communities, we
needed to be liked, evolutionary-speaking.
Because, without that, you would get banished from the tribe.
And, what did banishment from the tribe mean?
Death!
>> SIMONE: [gasp]
>> KEVIN: And, that's, obviously, not a good thing!
So, you know, we have to stick together, and it's good for us to all have favorable opinions
each other.
And, when that doesn't happen, when that gets in the way of success, then, it's downhill
from there.
>> SIMONE: Alright, heroes, now, we're gonna give you a few examples, and, also, what people
LOVE to say to take you off your game.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: And, the eye off the ball.
>> KEVIN: Ah.
>> SIMONE: Ah.
>> KEVIN: Indeed!
>> SIMONE: Now, let's start with losing weight.
This is a great one that people are constantly doing.
What are some things that people say, Kevin?
>> KEVIN: Now, obviously, I mean…
I don't have to worry about losing weight.
I'm a slim dude, with fast metabolism, and I work out.
But, I digress.
The things people would say are things like, "Oh, you… you know, you gotta do dieting",
and, you know, "You gotta exercise a lot.
You, probably, won't be able to do that, 'cause you're lazy"; just all kinds
of negative shit, basically.
>> SIMONE: Or, "Aww, you can't have the cake we're gonna have next Saturday?"
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
Try to guilt trip you, and shit.
>> SIMONE: "That really sucks."
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: Or, "Why don't you just have a little bit?
It's not gonna do any damage."
>> KEVIN: "Just one slice."
>> SIMONE: "One slice, you know?
And, you can go back on your diet."
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: And, they do that every day.
>> KEVIN: Yes.
>> SIMONE: "Just one!"
Just one little thing each time, right?
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: It's crazy how people love to, basically, almost sabotage you, instead of
support you, and say, "That's okay.
Here.
We'll try—we'll do it with you one day a week", or something like that.
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: Or, "We'll make sure you get the proper nutrition that you need.
>> KEVIN: Mm-hmm.
>> SIMONE: Or, "Let's go to the gym together."
Or, "Let's go bike riding together."
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: There's so many positive things that you could do besides, just sabotage each
other, but we love to do it.
>> KEVIN: It's almost, like, we get high off of it, you know?
>> SIMONE: Yeah.
And, I just--- I just think it's terrible.
>> KEVIN: It is.
>> SIMONE: You should, always, support people that wanna do something different in life.
>> KEVIN: Yes.
>> SIMONE: So, let's talk about number 2: starting a business.
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: Oh, man.
This is a great one.
Let's see… what… what things that we can talk about…
"Oh, it's really hard!
It costs a lot a money!"
It actually doesn't.
>> KEVIN: Mmm.
>> SIMONE: It depends on the business that you're starting.
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: Or, "It's gonna take a long time to build the business, and what if it
fails, and you owe all of this money?"
>> KEVIN: Yeah, it's, basically, just a bunch of what-ifs, you know, being tossed
around, and this is very applicable to us, obviously, because we started this YouTube
channel.
>> SIMONE: Mm-hmm.
>> KEVIN: And, you know, it's a risk we're willing to take.
>> SIMONE: Exactly.
>> KEVIN: You know?
>> SIMONE: And, my favorite number 1 is, like, "You're not good enough; smart enough,
whatever enough to do this."
>> KEVIN: Right.
>> SIMONE: And, you know what?
>> KEVIN: Mmm?
>> SIMONE: That may be true, slightly, in the beginning, but, that's what learning
is for.
>> KEVIN: Yeah, exactly.
>> SIMONE: Exactly.
>> KEVIN: Just like I said in, uh, the New Year's video, you can't win if you don't
play.
So, start playing.
>> SIMONE: And, let's talk about the last one…
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: Going for a creative career.
Oh, man.
>> KEVIN: Oh, man!
>> SIMONE: We… we are, definitely, in the know for this one.
>> KEVIN: Yes!
>> SIMONE: What's some good ones?
>> KEVIN: So, the whole voice acting thing, I mean, I've been told all the time, it's
like, "Eh, if you wanna do that, you know, you gotta have connections in the industry
to make it", and…
"You know, there's a lot of competition."
It's like, yeah, no shit!
I'm aware of that.
>> SIMONE: [laughter]
>> KEVIN: But, as I said before, it's something I'm passionate about, and I'm gonna keep
doing it, regardless.
And, also, it's good, too, to surround yourself with people who are doing the same thing you're
doing; who have the same mindset.
>> SIMONE: Mm-hmm.
>> KEVIN: You know, my friend here, Simone, she's a writer.
You know, producer.
All that kind of stuff.
I have a music producer friend.
I have a voice actress friend.
So, yeah, it's good to surround yourself with people who are like-minded so that you
can all those doubts; all those uncertainties.
And, just… go for it.
>> SIMONE: Exactly.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: Another great, uh, couple things is, um… you know, "Oh, do you know what
you're doing?"
Like, I don't… or…
Another good one is, "Why don't you have a safer career?"
>> KEVIN: Heh!
>> SIMONE: "A good, safe, government career?"
Huh?
HUH?
>> KEVIN: She can relate!
>> SIMONE: Yeah, exactly!
So…
>> KEVIN: [laughter]
>> SIMONE: You know, "Have a safer career", "Have a plan B".
Well, the thing here is that, with plan Bs, is sometimes, they get in the way of your
plan A.
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: So much to the point that you never get to plan A.
>> KEVIN: Yes.
>> SIMONE: So, you gotta be careful with plan Bs.
It's… it's definitely important to have some kind of backup, but it shouldn't take
away from your complete focus.
>> KEVIN: Cool.
So, now that we know how motivation DIES, it's your job, heroes, to outvote your mind
through an unshakable purpose.
You know what that means?
That means telling those voices in your head to shut the hell up.
That means evaluating whatever excuses you may have for not doing it, and just, simply,
going for it.
That's it.
>> SIMONE: Just do it.
>> KEVIN: Just do it!
>> SIMONE: Exactly.
>> KEVIN: You already know.
>> SIMONE: And, remember this, if you remember nothing else from this video:
>> KEVIN: Yeah.
>> SIMONE: Growth starts at the edge of your comfort zone.
>> KEVIN: There you go.
>> SIMONE: So, start growing, and get uncomfortable.
Well, heroes, that's all we have for today.
Thank you for watching part 1 of our mini-series on motivation.
>> KEVIN: And, be sure to stay tuned for part 2, where we tackle the issues we talked about
head-on, with a toolbox of hero-worthy solutions.
>> SIMONE: [whispering] Yes.
>> KEVIN: YES!
>> SIMONE: And, if you enjoy our content…
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>> SIMONE: And, don't forget to hit the notification bell so you know when the next
video's coming up.
>> KEVIN: Yessur!
>> SIMONE: And, until next time…
Continue to gain knowledge…
>> KEVIN: Take action…
>> SIMONE & KEVIN: And, be unstoppable!
>> SIMONE: [whispering] Yeah.
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