Coach Bus Driving (by Chop Games) - Trailer Gameplay Game (Android, iOS) HQ
For more infomation >> FBI - Who Are You?! - Duration: 4:17. 
For more infomation >> If you Quit, They Win - Duration: 2:05. 
For more infomation >> Lancme Advanced Gnifique Eye LightPearl - Duration: 3:50. 
Hi and welcome to TRiBE's Toolbox, where
you will find tips, tricks and stories by black women, for black women.
I'm Seyi and I'm the co-founder of TRiBE.
In this episode we are going to talk about Self-Care and I am going to talk about my
favourite pieces of advice from the TRiBE Self-Care Toolkit.
So, you've probably seen the term floating around but what is self care?
Self-care is the self-initiated maintenance of your overall health and well-being.
Basically, it's taking care of yourself.
Self-care is important for everybody but it's especially important for black women and girls
for a few reasons.
The first is that black women tend to put
everyone else before themselves it means that we can't be vulnerable, that we can't
ask for help.
For some people, another reason is the strong black women trope, that
a lot of black people in general buy into.
And again that means that, because we're having to be strong all of the time.
We can't, again, ask for help, we can't be vulnerable.
It means that we're always carrying a load on our backs that we can't put down.
The third reason is the notion that we have
to work twice as hard for half the reward.
And not only can that be problematic, that can have a strain on our self-care and our
wellbeing because it means that we're always working, that we never have an opportunity
to stop, we don't get to take breaks.
So, how do you know if you're neglecting
your self-care?
If you're not sure, take some quiet time for yourself and check in with yourself and
ask yourself some very simple questions but be as honest as you can:
How am I feeling today?
What do I look like?
Do I care?
What am I putting in my body?
How am I sleeping?
How is my social life?
How am I talking to myself?
Am I saying nice things?
Or am i saying things that are degrading?
Am I consciously aware of the things that I am saying and doing?
Why don't you pause the video now and write down your answers
to those questions?
So now that we've identified some areas that might need a little bit of work, here
are some small steps that you can take towards better self care.
The first thing you can do is start starting
and ending your day with gratitude.
Start saying out loud what you're grateful for.
Saying thank you out loud makes all the difference.
I used to take a piece of paper, a small piece of paper, everyday and write what I was thankful
for and pop it in a jar.
And at the end of the year, I'd empty that jar out and I would read all of the good
things in my life that I could be thankful for.
And that was a real boost to going into another year.
Try it and see if it works.
The second thing is to make some time for
yourself.
Set some time aside each week where you can have some quiet time and be alone with your
thoughts.
Thirdly, what are you watching?
What are you listening to?
Media, whether it's film, TV, music, social media, it all really has a big impact on us.
I know we all love a bit of Netflix but maybe take a break.
Go outside and explore and see what else speaks to you, see what else fulfils you, see what
else you enjoy.
Learn to say no without feeling guilty.
Chimamanda Adiche says: "No is a full sentence" and I agree.
And lastly, pay attention to who you surround
yourself with.
There's a saying that you become the average of the five people that you spend most of
your time with.
So maybe take some time and find your TRiBE.
So that's what I think but here's some advice from some of the other women in the
TRiBE Toolbox series.
Living your best life.
And doing things that serve you, doing things that make you happy but at the same time understanding
that there will be low periods and you need to understand how your body, your mind and
your soul works in order to balance and harmonise the scales.
In a society which continually tells us that we should overwork ourselves and exhaust ourselves,
making sure that you take care of yourself is a revolutionary act and that's particularly
important for black women because we're more likely to put others first, we're more
likely to be on the sharp end of work, or poverty, poor economic structures and laws.
So making sure that we're taking care of ourselves means that we can take care of the
people around us who matter the most to us as well.
Making sure that I'm doing the things so
that I can be the best.
Like, have I sorted everything else out?
Do I feel confident?
Do I feel prepared?
Do I not feel stressed?
Have I relaxed?
Am I doing everything so that, whenever the moment is, whether that be in my career or
with my friends or with my family, that I can be my best self.
For me, self-care is community care.
I don't think that it's possible to actually heal yourself without the support of your
community and without you kind of doing, each one, teach one and drawing strength from each
other and working collectively for the benefit of both ourselves and the community.
Protecting my energy. Being around people who love me and are in alignment with my higher self and generally
people around me who nourish me.
Being my authentic self at all times.
Whether that means wearing my hair a particular way, dressing a particular way or expressing
myself a particular way.
I've spent a lot of my years, caring about
what other people think about me, making other people happy, putting people before myself,
not being confident within myself… (ah, I feel like I'm going to get emotional).
Forgetting that, it doesn't matter what people say about me, it doesn't matter what
people say, I need to take control of my life, I need to care about me, I need to protect
my feelings, I need to protect me.
In this day and age, I think wellness and
self-care has become an industry where people are trying to sell you something.
So go here, go on this spa day, this expensive massage holiday and I think it's important
to realise that self-care doesn't have to cost you anything.
So simple things, like just sitting quietly by yourself, having a hot bath, reading a
book, writing in your journal are just as impactful as expensive spa days.
A bath.
Having a good old soak, having time to contemplate.
My mind is always racing, so having a really gentle space for me to allow my energy to
flow is the perfect form of self-care for me.
By saying no! (laughs) If I can't do something
I'm honest about it and I say no.
I don't feel guilt about not being able to make a dinner, to a birthday, if I need
to take time for myself, to rest, if I need to give myself a break, I say no and I feel
10-20x better for it each and every time.
I try to meditate even if its just for three
minutes in the morning, just to be in a calm space and when things are stressing me out
in the day, because I get quite anxious about things, that I can go back to that calm space
and see things like, everything is fleeting, trying not to get caught up or tangled in
the stress or the worry or the pressure of the moment.
One thing I do and I've always done is I
make sure that I go to sleep early and I wake up early.
So i always make sure that I get a minimum of six hours sleep and the way I'm able
to do that is by having a plan everyday of what I'm going to do, how many hours I'm
going to spend on it and just making sure that I follow through.
I love to laugh.
So I make sure that I find every single opportunity to laugh, through banter, through TV shows,
through anything, I will ben' at everything.
I mean, not everything, most things.
I try and pause.
We don't realise how pausing is so vital because quick shot reactions out of anger,
they can cause more damage than you think and there might be a lot of regret that comes
with that.
So my form of self-care that I'm really trying to work on because it's definitely
not perfect, is more pause.
Thanks for joining us for this episode of
TRiBEs Toolbox, make sure you like and subscribe.
Comment down below and tell us what you've learnt from this video and don't forget
to check out the other videos from TRiBE's Toolbox.
Đăng ký:
Đăng Nhận xét (Atom)
Không có nhận xét nào:
Đăng nhận xét