- Hello everyone.
Coach Tiffany here.
We are in the month of love.
And I like to reframe February
by looking at it from a lens of
how do I show myself love and respect,
how do I care for myself.
Because that really is the basis of all of my relationships,
how I take care of myself first
by making myself a priority.
And how do I interact with others
in a way that supports them caring for themselves.
So to me showing love is really
or loving someone or loving ourselves is really
about those actions that we take.
And I wanted to talk this month
primarily about the second principle
'cause we're in month two of honoring your hunger.
An essential, second principle of intuitive eating
honoring your hunger.
And to me this is one of the most
radical acts of self love
in our current culture
that we can take.
And it requires consistent action.
And it requires making ourselves a priority.
So what do I mean when I say honor our hunger?
Well our cultural conditioning and diet culture mentality
really tells us that we should avoid our hunger
put off our hunger, suppress our hunger right?
And to me that is really disempowering especially for women.
So we're told that we need to be smaller,
that we're not good enough if we're in a larger body right?
To make ourselves smaller.
We're told that you know we shouldn't eat so much.
We should eat a smaller amount
or that we shouldn't enjoy our food right?
We should eat healthy.
And that our hunger really isn't a valuable
tool or measure of what we need.
Somebody just hopped on.
Hi, oh Stephanie's on, hi.
So I'm talking about loving ourselves
through the radical act of honoring our hunger
and how the cultural conditioning and diet culture mentality
that we are subjected to
tells us to avoid our hunger right?
And to minimize our hunger, suppress our hunger
or at most not to use it as an important tool
but instead to just kind of
put it on the back burner right?
So how often do we tell ourselves like
I'll eat in a little bit I need to get this done first.
So we are constantly are making other things
a priority over our hunger.
And instead when we take the initiative
to show ourselves self care and love
by being in tune with our bodies,
recognizing our hunger and connecting with that hunger
and then honoring that need
and actually being well fed, well nourished
consistently throughout the day
we can start to build trust with our bodies.
And remind our bodies that
yes I will in fact take care of you, right?
So it truly is an act of self love.
And it's radical in the sense that we are constantly told to
ignore it or diminish it or suppress it.
So I am asking all of you to consider for a moment
what would it look like
to feel well fed and well nourished.
And really not have that hunger being a barrier
between you and your energy.
And a barrier between you
and being connected with your body.
So it's a different kind of way of framing it I think
than what we're used to hearing.
But I want you to know that your hunger is important
and it is a priority.
And that by putting yourself first
and making your hunger a priority
you are not doing anything wrong.
In fact you are doing the right thing
by listening to your body.
Thank you very much Stephanie.
I wonder if this is something that you relate to
and anyone else who hops on
maybe who's watching the replay later.
I recently was talking with a colleague
that I'm working with on a project about this very thing.
And she said that she recently read
in some sort of a feminist article
about how it's hard to be a woman leader
when you're starving right?
And how many women are spending all of this time
and this is something I've talked about in the past
you know struggling with food,
struggling with their bodies,
trying to hold off on their hunger
stave off our hunger suppress it right?
And really just fighting with it
instead of nourishing ourselves
so that we have the energy and the stamina that we need
to be leaders in the world.
Yeah you can relate to this topic.
Yeah it's interesting because as children a lot of times
we're told eat more eat more eat more.
One more bite.
Eat your veggies.
You know these things.
Clean your plate.
And then for a lot of women in particular
around puberty when we start to gain some weight
or sometimes as young adults in college
just kind of depends on how things go for us body wise
and the people that are in our lives.
But at some point we're told
whoa whoa put the brakes on right?
That your hunger is a bad thing.
So this month in the month of love
I'm talking all about honoring your hunger
which is the second principle of intuitive eating.
It is the second for a reason.
When we honor our hunger
again we can rebuild that trust with our body.
We can tell our bodies
yes I hear you I'm listening to you
and I'm going to address your needs.
And so it truly is an act of self care
and an act of love.
So you'll always carry healthy nuts or bars in your purse.
Yeah for those busy days.
Yeah.
So having food readily available is a huge part of this.
Making sure that you've got something
accessible at all times.
For me it's making sure I have
quality nutritious food in the fridge
and that I have snack foods right?
Play food that I can enjoy as well.
But making sure that I really have that food
that's gonna make me feel good available all the time.
And having snacks.
However there are days where maybe you forget your lunch
or you thought you had a bar in your purse
but you'd already eaten it.
Or you eat the bar and you're still starving right?
And so sometimes you have to just stop
and say okay I'm gonna put off doing
whatever I was gonna do next
in order to make myself and my hunger a priority.
And the great news is when we do that
then we have the fuel we need
to get through the rest of the day right?
And usually we can be more focused
and get back to the task at hand.
But it is hard to pause and take that time.
It's also hard to give ourselves
unconditional permission to eat.
So that's a big part of honoring your hunger
is giving yourself unconditional permission to eat.
Whatever that looks like for you.
So if you're somewhere you're in a meeting
all there is is bagels maybe just eat the bagel right?
Maybe that's what
unconditional permission to eat means to you.
Or for some of us it's much more about
honoring our care needs
and making ourselves a priority over our work
or sometimes even over a family commitment
or another commitment that we've made.
Sometimes we have to stop and make sure
that we've fed ourselves in that moment.
But a lot of times when we're not
making ourselves a priority it's a pattern or a habit.
So it's a matter of learning to
know your value and your worth
and that you deserve to take that time.
And putting in that time in advance right?
So that prep work so you have the food available.
Or investing in some sort of a meal service.
Or investing in foods that are maybe
a little more spendy but are ready to go.
So a lot of you know I have this love of kale.
And I use this as a joke because I eat like potato chips
but I also eat kale every day.
And so for me that's very much what
intuitive eating is about.
It makes my body feel really good.
And I understand that not everyone loves it.
Maybe for you it's something like broccoli
or blueberries or whatever it is right?
Maybe there's foods out there
that you really desire to feel good.
So for me I buy the like pre chopped kale at New Seasons.
It's like $7 dollars but it's this huge pack of kale.
So I have all the kale I need.
It's already chopped and ready to go
rather than buying the $2 dollar kale right?
Because it's more accessible for me that way.
So investing in ourselves
time or money or whatever that looks like.
Investing in making our hunger a priority
is a big part of honoring our hunger.
And again all of these things are radical acts of self care
because when we honor our hunger
every time we listen to a signal
that our bodies are giving us
every time we honor our needs and care for ourselves
we're kind of rejecting that cultural conditioning
that we aren't important right?
That we're not the biggest priority.
That other things deserve our attention first.
So the idea of making ourselves the priority
can be something that maybe we understand.
We can understand the concept.
But it might be something that we struggle or fail
to put habits in place that truly do honor ourselves.
So I hope that this little love message
has helped you to think a little bit differently
about it today.
And helped you to really honor your hunger.
I've just eaten lunch.
I'm really glad because otherwise
sometimes I get on these videos
and I just talk about like food and then I'm so hungry.
But I was recording some videos for a course
and I have a lot of things on my want to do list today.
And I was getting hungry
and starting to get a little unfocused
so I had to pause and really take that time for myself.
It's been really challenging for me to learn
to consistently make myself a priority.
And so I have to let you know too
like don't judge yourself about it.
Instead get curious.
Learn what's going on.
Why is it that you're maybe putting off your hunger.
What are the underlying beliefs that are preventing you
from really honoring your hunger
and caring for yourself in that way
and making sure that you are well fed and well nourished.
I'm going to be doing monthly coaching
group coaching sessions.
So I'd love to hear from you in the comments first
if you identified with these things
and where you struggle
if you already know your underlying beliefs
that are kind of getting in the way
of this type of self care.
Then I'd love to know if there is a day and time
that you would be most interested in coming on the free
it'll be kind of like a master class
or a group coaching call
for anyone who is part of my community.
And then lastly
if you want more information
about the way that I work with people or intuitive eating
my blog is a great resource
it's on my website, coachtiffanyrn.com/blog.
You can check out all the things I'm doing there.
We're in the deserving women group right now.
Feel free to invite friends
if you get a lot of value from this
or if you have friends who are kind of on a similar journey.
I'd love to have them in here as well.
So those are the ways that you can connect with me further.
I'll keep you posted about the free monthly Zoom call.
And in the meantime I want you to know
that you are valuable and worthy of love and respect
no matter what.
Alright hope you have a wonderful day, bye.
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